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Sometimes my life feels like a SOAP OPERA

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Dec
15

 

It’s hard to believe it is already the middle of December and we will be starting a new year in a few weeks. I don’t know about you, but time is going so fast and sometimes I can’t even remember what I did the day before. This time of the year can be stressful with all the added commitments and things that need to get done that we can lose our peace – if we allow it and let it. It is our choice. This season is about love and preparing our hearts to receive the Christ presence in a deeper way.

 

I remind myself what is important to me and that I am responsible for the peace and pace that I bring to my life. For me, it is about being aware and living consciously in every moment. It is about loving me and knowing what I need to do for myself. I am becoming more and more aware of where and who I spend my time with. For example, I am saying NO to others when they ask to get together or ask me to do something when it doesn’t feel right inside. It is not selfish, but self-care. There was a time in my life that I couldn’t do that because I felt guilty and responsible for others feelings and didn’t want to hurt them. I heard God say to me, “What about loving you and are you hurting yourself by saying yes?” My prayer for you is that you will go inside and live consciously in every moment. As we learn to truly love ourselves, we will know how to love others.

 

Sometimes my life feels like a “soap opera” with God. One of my readers told me how she looks forward to Wednesdays to receive my blog to see what miracles and adventures Pat had with God that week. God always “shows up” and so do I.

 

I spent quite a bit of time with my grandmother when I was growing up and loved it. I remember lying on the couch on Saturday nights (while she combed my hair) and watching “The Lawrence Welk Show.” She also watched the soap opera,“As the World Turns” every day at 1:00 p.m. and I sometimes watched that with her. All I can remember is the actress “Erica.” I am really dating myself and wonder how many of you remember these shows?

 

Stay tuned for this week’s soap opera with God. Here we go.

 

Last week one of the men at the dance community bought my book for his niece and said, “I think it will help her.” When I saw him this week at the dance, he came right up to me and said, “I read your book.” I said, “How did you like it?” He said, “I liked it.” “Hmmm, what did he like about it?” I wondered to myself. When I danced with him later in the evening, I was curious and couldn’t keep my mouth shut and said, “What did you get from my book?” He looked at me rather succinctly and said, “GOD.” That was it, no more, no less. Nobody has ever answered like that before. I chuckled to myself and thought “That was the best answer I could have ever received” because all there is, is GOD. He was right on target and a man of few words.

 

I shared several weeks ago how I hurt my back and all the good that had already come from it. I found a wonderful chiropractor to help me heal and I met his wife Dr. Kim, who is also a chiropractor and the author of, “The Power to Heal Yourself.” It was Dr. Kim who informed me that her patient invited her to a book signing and it was my book they were reading. The book club is this Sunday and I have been invited to join them.

 

I felt led to get to know Dr. Kim and asked her to go out for lunch. We have already been out twice and she is such a delight and woman of faith. In fact, we are planning to do a retreat together in April of next year. How much better can it get than this?

 

I was thrilled and honored when Dr. Kim wanted to buy 10 of my books as gifts for her friends and family. I brought the books with me when we met for lunch today. I was signing 3 of my books at the table while we waited for the food to come. It was a Korean-Chinese restaurant and the waitress and Dr. Kim spoke Korean. Of course, I couldn’t understand a word they were saying. The waitress asked Dr. Kim, “How come there are 3 books on the table?” Dr. Kim explained that I wrote the book and I was signing them for her friends and family. The waitress asked to look at one of the books. She looked through it quickly and said, “Can I buy one of the books?” Of course, I said yes and a couple of minutes later she was back with the money.

 

I love living and BEING in the flow. I am grateful for all the good and people who have showed up in my life. I never know what the day is going to bring, but my eyes and heart are open to miracles, adventure and whatever else “shows up.” I know that I attract everything into my life for my highest good and for my soul to grow. I also know that God has me covered!

 

Alan Cohen writes, “There are no accidents. Coincidences are just miracles to which God wishes to remain anonymous. Chance plays no part in God’s plan. Everything and everyone shows up in your life at the invitation of your thoughts and intentions. Cohen, Wisdom Heart, 2002Sometime

 

I want to wish you all peace and joy as you prepare your hearts this season for love.

 

 

There was a hole in my soul that was insatiable

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Dec
12

As the captain of the cheerleading squad in high school, I knew how to “cheer on” my team and I loved it. I also learned how to “cheer on” all of my friends. Many of my friends sought me out to talk to me about their problems because they knew I cared and would listen to them.  I seemed to naturally have the answers and counseled them (without formal training) with their problems.  To be honest, I liked how it felt to be “sought out” and have the answers for others. It was a boost to my self-esteem and made me feel good about myself.  But, if I had a problem, I felt ashamed and embarrassed to ask for help because that seemed to be a sign of weakness. So I learned to “pretend” that everything was fine.

As I think about this today, I ask myself some questions, “But what about me?  Who had the answers for my life? How did I give my power away?” I didn’t learn to “cheer myself on” but looked to others to define me, to tell me what to do, how to be and how to feel. I looked to others to tell me that I was good enough, smart enough and deserving of love. Sound familiar to anyone?

Unfortunately, I didn’t have the slightest idea about how to “cheer myself on” or love myself.  In looking back, I realize I was my worst enemy.  On the outside, I looked good and together, (whatever that looked like), but on the inside, I felt very different. I never felt “good enough” and compared myself to others. I beat up on myself constantly and was always pushing and striving to do more, to be more and to please others. That was my addiction.  I looked outside myself for love and validation. There was a hole in my soul that was insatiable and I thought others could fill it by being nice.

I didn’t know that I was “supposed” to love myself. Nobody ever taught me how to do that. I didn’t know about self-care and self-love. I thought it was selfish to think about myself and felt guilty if I dared to put my needs first. I had no idea what boundaries meant.  I was told I was “conceited” at an early age. I am sure that I didn’t know what that even meant, other than – don’t feel good about yourself, don’t talk about yourself or your gifts.”  So being a good little girl, that is exactly what I did.

Yikes, it is hard to believe how far I have come and how I have been transformed. The truth shall set you free and I have been set free.  I am so grateful to God and to all the people who have loved me and helped me along the way – to learn to love myself, honor, validate and celebrate who I am. Learning to love myself has been a life-long process and will continue until I leave this earth.

What I have learned on my spiritual journey is that there is nothing wrong with you or me, we are God’s perfect expression in this world and we are made in Gods’ image and likeness.  The process is about remembering who we are. That doesn’t mean that we don’t need to change because life is about change,  and we are constantly evolving and growing into the person God intended us to be.

Spiritual progress is like going through a detox.  Things have to come up in order to be released. Once we have asked to be healed, then our unhealed places are forced to the surface.  Our blocks to love are not suppressed or denied, but rather brought into our conscious awareness. Our fearful places have to be revealed before they can be healed. Our ego is merely our fears. We all have egos and that doesn’t make us bad people. Our egos are not where we are bad, but where we are wounded.

We are all afraid at some level that if people saw who we really are, they would recoil in horror. That is why we invent the mask, to hide our true selves. But the true self, the Christ within us, is that which is most beautiful. We must reveal ourselves at the deepest level in order to find how loveable we really are. When we dig deep enough into our real nature, we don’t find darkness. We find endless light. Isn’t that good news? I have come to a place where it is safe to be myself, knowing that my darkness will not be judged, but forgiven. I am healed and freed to move into the light of my true being.

This process of no longer being anesthetized by unconsciousness can be painful and we may be tempted to go backwards. It takes courage to endure the sharp pains of self-discovery rather than to choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that could last the rest of our lives. When we feel jealous, it is because of the need to hold on to whatever we’ve got. It is because we think another person’s good takes away from my own. The ego is a belief in finite resources, but love is infinite. When we are in touch with our negative feelings and are able to release them, we feel the love that is beneath the feelings.

My journey is your journey because we are all ONE. That cheerleader that once cheered for others is now cheering for herself and she is doing an awesome job. I have learned to be my own best friend and it feels so good. I have learned to love myself and give myself what I need because IT IS MY OWN LOVE THAT I WANT. How many of us have spent years looking outside of ourselves for love?

Today, I cherish, honor and celebrate me and my successes.  I strive to have my insides match my outsides. I have learned to be authentic and true to myself.  I ask for help when I need to and am learning to receive all the Universe wants to give me.

Like many of you, I learned that giving is more valuable than receiving. That is a belief that I have let go of because it is not true for me anymore.  It has been my personal experience and the experience of those I have coached over the years that receiving is what we need to learn. The Universe wants to give to us, but we often block our good because we feel undeserving. I invite you to ask yourself some important questions.

Do I want to experience abundance in all areas of my life?

Do I want to let go of beliefs (conscious and unconscious) that no longer are true for me?

Do I want to learn how I am blocking my good so I can receive all that God wants to give me?

Do I want to learn how to be my own cheerleader and love myself?

If you have answered yes to these questions and you want to change and learn how to love yourself more fully, I invite all of my “East Coast Goddesses” to the retreat on January 4, 2014 called “Falling in love with the Goddess Within.” There are a few seats left, so if you are interested, please email ASAP.

“You can have it all. The Universe is capable of answering your every prayer. To receive your blessings, you must be willing to invest in them. Your most powerful investment is yourself. You have access to infinite resources, and many gifts are being laid at your doorstep. Bring your dreams to life by being true to them.” Alan Cohen, Wisdom of the Heart, 2002

“Who are the ENERGY VAMPIRES” in your life?”

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Dec
2

I wrote in my journal this morning while in prayer, “It feels like my faith went out the window.” I asked myself, “What happened that I am feeling like this?” And, more importantly, “What do I need to do or feel to come back into my truth and get my balance and peace back?”

I realized that if this happened to me (seemingly out of the blue) who wrote a book, “Simply a Woman of Faith” it may happen to you at some time or another. I knew I had to share it in my blog to let you know that you are not alone and how I moved through it.

I prayed and asked the Holy Spirit to show me the truth. I allowed myself to write down whatever was on my mind that was bothering me and was surprised what came up. I have read that “What I think about, I bring about.” I knew I needed to change my thinking and fast.

I began writing everything that I was grateful for and there was a lot to be grateful for. I wrote some favorite affirmations down that I would like to share with you.

I’m exactly where I need and want to be.

My life is unfolding according to a Divine plan.

Doors are opening at the right and perfect time NOW.

All the love, money, friends, soul mate, abundance is flowing into my life at the perfect and right time.

All is well and I am safe.

Only good comes to me NOW.

Fear is useless, what is needed is trust.

I am the creator of my life.

I attract only peace and good into my life.

What and who I am seeking is seeking me.

I stand tall in my own Power.

I trust in the Divine plan for my life.

Everything is unfolding in peace, ease and grace.

I follow my heart in each moment of my life.

I am the beloved daughter of the Father.

God is my source.

This helped a great deal and I felt better when I finished my prayer and meditation. The truth shall set me free. I didn’t need to figure it all out and why it felt like my “faith went out the window.” I just needed to BE with me and love me just as I am. I am reminded that l am filled with infinite potential and “nothing is impossible” with faith. I unleash this potential when I believe in myself and trust in the divine within.

My daughter, Mary, called in the middle of writing my blog and I shared with her what had happened the night before and how I was feeling. I love how I get what I need when I need it. My daughter is a wise woman and she hit the nail on the head for me. She said, “Mom, you are sensitive, just like me, and I am very careful to not allow others’ energies to get me off my center. She talked about the “energy vampires” in her own life and what she does to protect herself. What she said resonated with me and I knew she was right and what I needed to do to protect my energy. When we finished talking, I laughed and said, “How much do I owe you?” I spent the rest of the day loving me and letting go.

When I went to bed that night, I couldn’t stop thanking God for the beautiful day I had. My faith was back (not that it had really gone away) and stronger than ever. Isn’t it amazing how quickly we can shift ourselves when we want to and have the tools to allow it to happen. My friends, Kati and Marise, came over for dinner and we laughed, played, sang, danced and encouraged one another to live our best lives. I am so blessed and my heart sings. How could it get any more magnificent than this?

Here is a poem about letting go that I came across recently that I just love.

SHE LET GO – Rev. Safire Rose

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of fear.

She let go of the judgments.

She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.

She let go of the committee of indecision within her.

She let go of all of the “right” reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go. She didn’t search the scriptures. She just let go.

She let go of all the memories that held her back.

She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.

She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.

She didn’t promise to let go. She didn’t journal about it.

She didn’t write the projected date in her day-timer.

She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.

She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.

She didn’t analyze she should let go.

She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.

She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.

She didn’t call the prayer line. She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.

No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations.

No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing.

Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

There was no effort. There was no struggle.

It wasn’t good or it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be.

A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.

 

“I laughed & said “This feels like a drug deal”

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Dec
2

In gratitude for all of you who read my weekly inspirational blogs, I want to wish you a Happy Thanksgiving. It is truly my delight and pleasure to share how God “shows up” in my life each week and all the lessons and blessings I receive. I continue to learn and practice the importance of being willing to ask and receive.  Is there an area in your life that you have been refusing or unwilling to receive?  We can receive everything if we choose it and allow it to “show up” with peace, ease and grace or as the saying goes, being at the right place at the right time. The Universe desires to give us everything we need.

Little did I know that “showing up” and saying YES to that request to speak at United Church in May of 2010, would open doors for me to live my dream life in Maui. I said YES to Ellen (who I had just met after my talk) when she invited me to stay with her in Maui for 2 weeks at Thanksgiving. I just kept saying YES and stepping out in faith (despite my fears) each step of the way. Of course, I couldn’t see the whole picture ahead of me and, thank God, I couldn’t see it because it would have seemed impossible – even for a woman of faith. 

I love how the universe works and brings things full circle.  I received a phone call from my friend Ruth this week informing me that she will be arriving in Maui for a couple of months the beginning of January. Ruth is the woman who invited me to speak at her church in 2010. I said, “If it wasn’t for you inviting me to speak at the church, I may not be living in Maui.”

As we discussed her plans, we realized we were both arriving in Maui on the same day and at the same time. I am going to Rhode Island for the holidays and returning on January 6th.  My friend will pick me up at the airport and, of course, we will give Ruth a ride to her hotel. I am looking forward to showing her around Maui and who knows she might fall in love with the place and move here too. She will be attending my retreat on January 4in Rhode Island.   

Here is an example of what “showed up” for me when I asked and was willing to receive. When I hurt my back a few weeks ago, my friend, Kati, let me borrow her yoga ball and it worked beautifully. I used it in the morning and at night and I know it helped my back to heal more quickly. I returned it to Kati last Thursday as she needed to use it herself.  I prayed and asked God to provide another one for me when I went “yard sailing” on Saturday.  At the first yard sale that I went to, a woman said, “I have one but I cannot sell it until December when I move.”  Thank you very much, but I need it now.

On Sunday, when I was returning from church, I spotted a yard sale very close to my home. I perused the yard sale quickly, but didn’t see a yoga ball, so I asked the two women that were sitting together, “I am looking for a yoga ball, would you happen to have one?”  “Yes, I have one, but I didn’t bring it with me responded one of the women.” “Where do you live,” I asked. “I live in North Kihei, but I would be happy to bring it here tomorrow.”

I proceeded to tell her that I hurt my back and how the yoga ball had helped me. She said, “You can have it for free. It is brand new and sitting in my closet.” I was more than willing to pay for it and thanked her for her generosity.  I gave her my number and she said, “I will call you and bring it to you tomorrow.”  Sure enough, she called on Monday and we agreed to meet where the yard sale was held. I got there first and parked my car.  A few minutes later, she pulled up behind me and I got out of the car with my book, “Simply a Woman of Faith” in hand. I burst out laughing and said, “This feels like a drug deal” as we exchanged the yoga ball for my book.  She looked at my book, smiled and said, “I could sure use some faith.” I needed the yoga ball and she needed my book. I may never see her again and have no idea how my book will inspire her faith.

A couple of weeks ago, something else “showed up” in my life that is allowing me to live in the flow and in alignment with Spirit in an even greater way. It is called “Access Consciousness.”  I took the training with a couple of friends and am now an “Access Consciousness” practitioner. It has been very powerful and I feel a great shift within myself. I am moving more quickly through things because I don’t have to figure everything out. It has opened me up to limitless possibilities with the question, “How much better can it get than this?”

As I am “recognizing” myself and my inner beauty on a deeper level as a child of the Divine, others are recognizing my inner beauty also. As they recognize my beauty, they are recognizing their own beauty because we are mirrors for one another. Not only do I feel the changes within myself, people (some of whom I don’t know) have noticed and commented about how radiant and beautiful I look.  A friend wrote me an email and said, “You are brightening Maui as you allow yourself to express your full-bloom.” On Saturday I found a beautiful angel at a yard sale called “BEAUTY.” She now sits on my altar for me to remember who I am.

“Access Consciousness” allows you to erase what is creating limitations in your life without having to know how this works, or believe in it. This kind of energy healing provides you with ways to become totally aware and to begin to function as the conscious being that you truly are. Consciousness & Oneness includes everything and judges nothing. It’s the ability to be present in your life in every moment without judgment of you or anyone else. It’s the ability to receive everything, to judge nothing, and to allow the entire Universe to be what it is. If you have no judgment of anything, then you get to look at everything for what it is, not for what you want it to be, not for what it ought to be, but just for what it is. From this space you can transform and change all things and create everything you desire in life – greater than what you currently have and more than what you can imagine.

When we are in the flow or in alignment with Spirit, things “show up” and happen with peace, ease and grace. They happen naturally and without effort. My prayer for you is that you will know your inner beauty and magnificence, that you will know you are loved, and that you trust God in everything. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want and expect that you will receive it in the perfect and right time.

 

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