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“Why it’s difficult to say NO and set boundaries

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Mar
27

 “I am guided by the wisdom of God in everything I THINK, SAY OR DO. I know how to plan my life and direct my path because God is doing this FOR ME by doing it THROUGH ME. There is no uncertainty or confusion. The divine Spirit always knows what to do and how to do it.” Creative Ideas, Ernest Holmes

Thank you all for writing and thanking me for my “list” of how I kept myself peaceful in last week’s blog. I have followed it and its working. I would like to add a few more things that I have practiced and learned this week. One of them is that I have the right to change my mind – and not feel guilty or apologetic. I am not responsible for another person’s reactions or feelings. I have to do what is right for me by going within and getting in touch with my feelings. My feelings are a gift from God and they will guide me to the next right thing for me to do or be.

I was sharing with my friend, Kati, what I learned about asking for what I wanted and being willing to accept a NO or a YES from the person I asked to do something for me. She immediately said, “Please share what you wrote to me when I said no to your request because it felt so good.” She sent me a text saying, “Apologies for not jumping in today loved one. Needed an unwind day for body, mind and spirit. I will be there with bells on toes for the yard sale. Thanks for understanding.” I knew that she felt badly that she couldn’t help me so here is what I wrote back to her. “Sweetheart, no apologies necessary. Saying YES to yourself is just as important, perhaps more important, than saying YES to me. I respect your NO.”

A NO uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a YES uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble.” Gandhi

There was a time in my life that I didn’t know how to say NO to others because I wanted to be loved and wanted to please others. I didn’t know how to ask for what I wanted – because I didn’t know what I wanted or what my feelings were. I was passive and expected others to read my mind and know what I wanted. And then I was resentful and angry when they didn’t do what I wanted them to do. I often said YES to a request when I really wanted to say NO because I was afraid of hurting other people’s feelings.

Over the years, I have learned and now teach others how to be assertive and the positive goals of saying no and to say no in a way that doesn’t destroy a relationship. By saying no to demands for your time and energy and inappropriate behaviors, you create the space to the YESES in your life that really matter. You cannot truly say YES until you can truly say NO and stand in your power. Saying NO is saying YES to yourself and protecting what is important to you.

Here are some reasons why it is hard to say NO, speak up, set boundaries and say YES to what really matters:

Fear of not being liked or loved.

Fear of retaliation – if I don’t do this for you, you won’t help me.

Easier to just go along and pretend nothing is wrong.

Don’t want to offend someone or hurt someone.

Don’t want someone to be angry with you.

Don’t want to rock the boat and stir things up – peace at any price (at the expense of your own needs).

You don’t know what you want– fear of facing self and the truth.

You are more comfortable with others making decisions.

You don’t trust yourself that it’s ok to have wants and needs.

You never learned the skills of how to say no.

You are afraid of standing up for yourself.

You are unconsciously attached to being the martyr or victim.

It is easier to stay in denial about a problem because then you won’t have to take responsibility for yourself and what you want.

You don’t want to feel guilty and look selfish.

You don’t deserve to say no. You tell yourself “I should be more loving, available…”

You imagine in advance their reaction, so you say nothing.

Things are good enough as they are and you feel a measure of security in the relationship.

You don’t deserve any better.

The security of the relationship is more important than your own personal fulfillment.

You may feel responsible or made to feel responsible for the failure or unhappiness of others.

Communication is essential to healthy relationships, whether that be with a partner, spouse, child, friend or employer. We need to know how to ask for what we want, how to receive, how to speak up, say no and set appropriate boundaries. Saying YES to ourselves is healthy and self-caring. We not only help ourselves, but we teach others, especially our children how to do this.

If you are struggling with any of the above, don’t know what you want, don’t know how to be assertive and ask for what you want and want help to say YES to what is important in your life, I can help you.

I am offering a complimentary 30-minute coaching session. Call me and we will discuss the special package I am offering this month. As a Spiritual Life Coach, I have assisted people deal with issues regarding addictions, grief, transitions, relationships and trauma.

Is it time for you to say YES to yourself and move forward in your life? If not now, when?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I woke up at 3 a.m. in a panic

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Mar
18

I woke up at 3 a.m. and thought about all that was on my plate at the same time and said out loud, “Holy SH…   It felt like the perfect storm was coming together at the same time. I got up and grabbed my journal to write it all down (instead of keeping it all in my head.) I felt better after I did this and eventually went back to sleep because I thought I had a plan.

I needed to pack and get ready to move out of my friend, Jodene’s,  home in two days so I could move in with my friends, Patrick and Nicole, for the next two weeks until my new home was ready to rent.  This meant deciding what I wanted to bring with me (food, clothing, important papers, etc.) and what I wanted to put in my friend, Barbara’s, second bedroom.

 My girlfriend, Joni, was getting married on Friday (two days from now) and I am her “wedding planner” which means I am in charge of the decorations and making sure everything runs smoothly for the wedding and the reception. I spent several hours last week designing nine flower arrangements for the tables at the reception, which I loved doing. This is my first real job in my new business “Beauty in Bloom Florals.”

My friend, Dr.Gina Kim, and I are planning to do a retreat together “FREE TO BE ME” on March 29th and we will be getting together next week to prepare for that.

I needed to get car insurance for my new car and it needed to be registered so a trip to the Department of Motor Vehicles was in order.  We know how stressful that can be.

My new home is already beautifully furnished so I will be having a yard sale to get rid of much of my stuff.  I have my boxes piled high in Barbara’s second bedroom, which meant I had to pull the boxes out and go through them to see what I wanted to sell and what I wanted to bring with me.

I wondered why I had so much on my plate at the same time and how I was going to handle it all. Of course, I had no idea I would be moving at this time and the wedding date was planned 6 months ago.

What was most important for me was to stay peaceful and I knew that was a choice. I reminded myself that moving was high on the list for stressors so I had to be vigilant with my thinking and I needed to stay close to God.

In prayer the next morning, I wrote out a list of what was important and what I wanted to do:

1.       Pray about everything and ask for guidance

2.       Choose to live in peace  by making it a priority

3.       Ask for help when I needed it

4.       Let go of things that weren’t important and I could put off until I was settled.

5.       Do the next right thing

6.       Focus on Love

7.       Stay in the present moment

8.       See the beauty all around me

9.       Rest and take naps

10.   Do one good thing for myself  and someone else each day

11.   Trust the process

12.   See the signs all around me that the Universe is always supporting me

13.   Simplify and have a plan

14.   Be open to receive from others

15.   Affirm that “I have all the time I need and it will flow with peace, ease and grace”

16.   Choose to be ok with “being in between” and not knowing how the future will unfold

17.   Be patient

As I shared in last week’s blog from the Daily Word, “I surrender to the wisdom of God within, even when I don’t know where that might lead. Like the skydiver who surrenders bravely to a free fall, as I trust God, I am assured my parachute will open. I know there may be a free fall – a period of uncertainty – but as I LET GO AND LET GOD, I LAND SAFELY IN NEW TERRITORY.”

During prayer one day, I was led to go back over my journal for the past month and reflect on my own inner growth and shift. I knew something major had shifted inside of me and I wanted to recognize it, embrace it and honor it.

On March 1, 2014 I wrote, “I am BESIDE MYSELF with excitement and joy for what is happening in my life and what I have co-created with God.  I then asked myself, “What did it mean to be BESIDE MYSELF?” It meant that God and I are ONE and that God is strapped in behind me, the parachute is the Spirit that will carry me higher and higher (just like the paragliding that I did a few weeks ago.)  It meant that I am my own counselor, cheerleader, advocate, Higher Power, friend, lover and I can be trusted, for the wisdom of God is within.

For much of my life, I looked outside of myself for my answers and I thought that everyone else knew what was best for me.  In reality, I gave my power away to every Tom, Dick and Harry that came along.  I am not beating up on myself, because I didn’t know any other way. I didn’t know how to trust myself because I wasn’t taught how to trust myself.

Today, I trust myself, go within for wisdom and I teach others how to do that.  For the first time in my life, I went INSIDE for my answers in regard to the decisions around renting my new home. It was a huge step in faith and a “knowing” that I was being led every step of the way. It was a QUANTUM leap of faith (double my rent) and the name of the house will be the HOUSE OF FAITH.” I plan on leading individual/ group retreats/vacation and workshops that will be dedicated to God’s healing and transformation.

Let me know if you would like to come to beautiful Maui and do a guided/individualized retreat with me.  How awesome would that be waking up every morning and seeing the ocean?  How much better could it get that this?

My “Maui Cruiser” makes a screeching noise

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Mar
11

I love how God works in my life, especially when I look back and see how I am being guided.  When I moved to Maui, I bought a “Maui Cruiser.” I am grateful for my green 1997 Toyota because it allowed me to get around town and where I wanted to go.  Although I was grateful for the car, it never felt quite right because it looked old and dilapidated. For example, I couldn’t get the passenger seat window to open because the motor broke. A few weeks ago, I was driving home at night and my window wouldn’t go up. It appeared that the motor was broken and I had to cover it at night with a green garbage bag so the rain wouldn’t get in.  It certainly didn’t feel like the “abundance” attitude that I felt inside of me.

I thought about selling the car rather than paying $250 to get the window fixed. I went back and forth and then decided I had too much on my plate with moving and not knowing where I was going to live. I decided to get the window fixed and wait until I moved to look for a new “used” car to buy.

About a week ago, I was driving with my friend, Jodene, and all of a sudden there was a very loud screeching noise when I turned the wheel. It was very disturbing because it seemed like the power steering was on the way out.  I knew that would be expensive to fix and I certainly didn’t want to put any more money in my “Maui Cruiser” that appeared to be dying.  I mentioned it to another friend that day and she suggested that I check with my mechanic, Andy, (whom I trusted) to see if I could trade my car in for a newer model.

I called Andy to tell him about the “screeching” noise and the problem I was having with the steering. He told me to bring the car in the next day and he would check it out. The next morning when I got in my car to bring it to Andy’s garage, the car was completely fine and no screeching. Just like when you go to your doctor and get there and the symptoms are gone.

Andy wasn’t sure what the problem was because the screeching noise was now gone. I asked him, “Andy, are you interested in buying my car or trading it in for something you have on your lot?” He said, “Yes, I will give you $1200 right now.” He just happened to be working in his garage on a 2002 Honda Civic that looked pretty nice. He then offered me $1500 to trade in my car, which seemed like a real deal. It was the fastest deal I have ever made. I picked up the car today and it definitely feels like I am moving up in the world.

Today is the anniversary of my grandmother’s death 35 years ago. I was very close to my grandmother and she nicknamed me her angel. I prayed in the morning and asked that I would feel her presence. When I got in my new car, I was led to check to see if there was anything in the CD player. I opened it, and sure enough, there was a CD in it. The first song was ANGEL and the second song was WITH YOU.  I felt such gratitude as I felt my grandmother’s presence and love as I drove away in my new car.  As I looked at the other titles, I realized that this CD was not a spiritual CD. In fact, one of the other songs was YOU DON’T HAVE TO LET GO.  I sure do need to let go because my life is about “Letting Go and Letting God.” The license plate is MHW 118. I love to play with letters and I wanted to name the car. What came to mind was MAGNIFICENT HIGHER-POWERED WOMAN. I was talking to my friend, Kari, that night about the name and she came up with MAUI’S HOT WOMAN. Hmmm……. What do you like?

When I went to bed that night and pulled down the covers, I found a beautiful angel with LOVE written on it. Jodene had put it under my pillow. Another touch of love from heaven.

I have another funny story about my “old car.” I came out one morning and found a dollar bill folded up under the windshield wiper. Jodene and I just looked at one other wondering who put it there. Was someone feeling bad for me with my “Maui Cruiser and wanted to help out?  Or was this manna from heaven? I liked manna from heaven better.  A few days later, my neighbor passed by and said, “Did you find the dollar bill that I put under your windshield? I found it right outside your car door.” I am going to put that dollar in a place where I can SEE IT to remind me of manna from heaven that God is pouring out on me.  

An update on my living situation: I am staying with my friend, Jodene, until March 14th and then going to another friend’s house until the end of the month. I will be moving into my new home on April 1. I found out today that my new street name which is Laniolu means HEAVENLY COMFORT.

As I was filling out the lease agreement on my computer, Jodene walked by and noticed the name on the right side of the computer.  She said, “Oh my God, I think I know that person.” I answered, “What, are you kidding me?” She quickly looked in her “Maui file” and sure enough she had the name and phone number of my new landlord who lives is Rhode Island.

Jodene explained that she met my new landlord last year while sitting at Tommy Bahamas for happy hour. My landlord was only here for a few days to rent her home to my friends. Jodene immediately called her and told her that she not only knew me, but I was staying with her.  What are the chances of this happening?  Another synchronicity, God wink or God-Incident, that I refer to in my book, “Simply a Woman of Faith.”       

Daily Word – I bravely surrender to God’s will in my life

“Bravery can mean acting boldly and fearlessly, but it can also mean trusting God’s will in my life even when I don’t know where that might lead. Like the skydiver who surrenders bravely to a free fall, as I trust in God, I am assured my parachute will open. If I feel inner resistance, I am not discouraged. I meditate on the truth of God’s love and have faith. Releasing my concern, I remember all the times I resisted a situation that later yielded good results. I audaciously surrender to the wisdom of God within. I know there may be a free-fall – a period of uncertainty – but as I let go and let God, I land safely in new territory.”

 

Manna from Heaven pours down

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Mar
10

 

I love how God works in my life, especially when I look back and see how I am being guided. When I moved to Maui, I bought a “Maui Cruiser.” I am grateful for my green 1997 Toyota because it allowed me to get around town and where I wanted to go. Although I was grateful for the car, it never felt quite right because it looked old and dilapidated. For example, I couldn’t get the passenger seat window to open because the motor broke. A few weeks ago, I was driving home at night and my window wouldn’t go up. It appeared that the motor was broken and I had to cover it at night with a green garbage bag so the rain wouldn’t get in. It certainly didn’t feel like the “abundance” attitude that I felt inside of me.

 

I thought about selling the car rather than paying $250 to get the window fixed. I went back and forth and then decided I had too much on my plate with moving and not knowing where I was going to live. I decided to get the window fixed and wait until I moved to look for a new “used” car to buy.

 

 

About a week ago, I was driving with my friend, Jodene, and all of a sudden there was a very loud screeching noise when I turned the wheel. It was very disturbing because it seemed like the power steering was on the way out. I knew that would be expensive to fix and I certainly didn’t want to put any more money in my “Maui Cruiser” that appeared to be dying. I mentioned it to another friend that day and she suggested that I check with my mechanic, Andy, (whom I trusted) to see if I could trade my car in for a newer model.

 

I called Andy to tell him about the “screeching” noise and the problem I was having with the steering. He told me to bring the car in the next day and he would check it out. The next morning when I got in my car to bring it to Andy’s garage, the car was completely fine and no screeching. Just like when you go to your doctor and get there and the symptoms are gone.

 

Andy wasn’t sure what the problem was because the screeching noise was now gone. I asked him, “Andy, are you interested in buying my car or trading it in for something you have on your lot?” He said, “Yes, I will give you $1200 right now.” He just happened to be working in his garage on a 2002 Honda Civic that looked pretty nice. He then offered me $1500 to trade in my car, which seemed like a real deal. It was the fastest deal I have ever made. I picked up the car today and it definitely feels like I am moving up in the world.

 

Today is the anniversary of my grandmother’s death 35 years ago. I was very close to my grandmother and she nicknamed me her angel. I prayed in the morning and asked that I would feel her presence. When I got in my new car, I was led to check to see if there was anything in the CD player. I opened it, and sure enough, there was a CD in it. The first song was ANGEL and the second song was WITH YOU. I felt such gratitude as I felt my grandmother’s presence and love as I drove away in my new car. As I looked at the other titles, I realized that this CD was not a spiritual CD. In fact, one of the other songs was YOU DON’T HAVE TO LET GO. I sure do need to let go because my life is about “Letting Go and Letting God.” The license plate is MHW 118. I love to play with letters and I wanted to name the car. What came to mind was MAGNIFICENT HIGHER-POWERED WOMAN. I was talking to my friend, Kati, that night about the name and she came up with MIGHTY HOT WOMAN. Hmmm……. What do you like?

 

When I went to bed that night and pulled down the covers, I found a beautiful angel with LOVE written on it. Jodene had put it under my pillow. Another touch of love from heaven.

 

I have another funny story about my “old car.” I came out one morning and found a dollar bill folded up under the windshield wiper. Jodene and I just looked at one another wondering who put it there. Was someone feeling bad for me with my “Maui Cruiser and wanted to help out? Or was this manna from heaven? I liked manna from heaven better. A few days later, my neighbor passed by and said, “Did you find the dollar bill that I put under your windshield? I found it right outside your car door.” I am going to put that dollar in a place where I can SEE IT to remind me of manna from heaven that God is pouring out on me.

 

An update on my living situation: I am staying with my friend, Jodene, until March 14th and then going to another friend’s house until the end of the month. I will be moving into my new home on April 1. I found out today that my new street name which is Laniolu means HEAVENLY COMFORT.

 

As I was filling out the lease agreement on my computer, Jodene walked by and noticed the name on the right side of the computer. She said, “Oh my God, I think I know that person.” I answered, “What, are you kidding me?” She quickly looked in her “Maui file” and sure enough she had the name and phone number of my new landlord who lives is Rhode Island.

 

Jodene explained that she met my new landlord last year while sitting at Tommy Bahamas for happy hour. My landlord was only here for a few days to rent her home to my friends. Jodene immediately called her and told her that she not only knew me, but I was staying with her. What are the chances of this happening? Another synchronicity, God wink or God-Incident, that I refer to in my book, “Simply a Woman of Faith.”

 

 

Daily Word – I bravely surrender to God’s will in my life

 

“Bravery can mean acting boldly and fearlessly, but it can also mean trusting God’s will in my life even when I don’t know where that might lead. Like the skydiver who surrenders bravely to a free fall, as I trust in God, I am assured my parachute will open. If I feel inner resistance, I am not discouraged. I meditate on the truth of God’s love and have faith. Releasing my concern, I remember all the times I resisted a situation that later yielded good results. I audaciously surrender to the wisdom of God within. I know there may be a free-fall – a period of uncertainty – but as I let go and let God, I land safely in new territory.”

 

I am going higher and higher with God

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Mar
3

 

Last February I took a trip to the Lavender Farm in Maui with 2 girlfriends and spotted a small sign as we drove in that said, “Paragliding.” I immediately said, “Oh that sounds like so much fun, I want to do that.” I wrote down the number to call to get more information. I mentioned it to my friend, Larry, that night about how much fun it would be and that I would love to do it. My birthday was in October and he surprised me with a Paragliding gift certificate. I used my Paragliding certificate today and I am now a student/affiliate of the U.S. Hanging Gliding and Paragliding Association. How impressive is that?

I could hardly wait to get home and write about the experience because I had the time of my life. It had to be the perfect weather conditions to fly and it was perfect; the sky was blue, the wind was blowing just right, the instructor, Dexter, was from New York (where I was born) and my girlfriends were so excited and cheering me on and, of course, taking all kinds of pictures.

When we arrived at the Lavender Farm at 10:30 a.m. I looked up into the sky and spotted someone paragliding. With my mouth wide open, I said, “OMG, that’s what I’m going to be doing?” We all burst out laughing and my friends asked, “You mean, you didn’t know?” I am embarrassed to say that I hadn’t seen how high I would be traveling in the sky. This was probably a good thing because I may have chickened out. There was no turning back and off we went to find my instructor, Dexter.

Just standing on the mountain before we took off, the view was breathtaking as we were up 4,000 ft. and we could see all of Maui. Before my flight, I had to sign all kinds of papers and Dexter assured me that he had been doing this for 25 years and had never had an accident. This made me feel much better!

We were ready to take off as I put my helmet on and got strapped into my gear. I forgot to tell you that Dexter was flying with me and strapped in right behind me. I stood there with my hands open wide and prayed. There was a big parachute behind us that would open as we ran down the hill together. He said, “Just do everything I tell you to do and you will be just fine.” I smiled and said, “Ok.”

The first thing he said was, “We have to wait for the right wind to come so we can take off. It will come. When it comes, I will tell you to run as fast as you can down the hill.” I looked down at my Croc shoes and hoped and prayed they would stay on. They did and he was right. The wind came as the parachute opened and we lifted up into the air. What an exhilarating feeling to just put my arms up and float in the sky and go higher and higher. For many years, I have prayed to go higher and higher with God.

As the wind carried us higher and higher into the sky, I felt so connected to God and the Universe. I was amazed at how relaxed and at peace I was. I didn’t feel any fear and was completely in the moment. I didn’t want it to end and could have stayed up there for hours. I said to Dexter, “This is really a spiritual experience.” He said, “Yes, many people have that experience.”

 

There are many lessons that I learned from this experience. First, I had to trust my instructor, Dexter, that he knew what he was doing and I would be safe. I had to listen carefully to his instructions and do what he said. I had to wait and be patient until the right and perfect wind came to lift us off. I had to let go of control and give the control to someone who knew what they were doing. I had to be willing to take a risk and experience something I had never experienced before. I had to let go of fear and all the “what ifs” that could happen. I had to be willing to go higher with God.

I asked myself, “What are the lessons I am learning between this experience and the message for me in my life today?” There were many and I have a sense that they will continue to reveal themselves.

*Learning to TRUST God, myself and someone else

*Learning to LISTEN to all instructions and follow them

*Learning to LET GO of control and ENJOY the ride

*Learning to take a RISK

*Learning to go HIGHER

*Learning to TRY SOMETHING NEW that I haven’t experienced before

*Learning to let the Universe CARRY me higher and higher

*Learning to WAIT and be patient for the right and perfect timing

*Learning to have COURAGE to do things that I am afraid of

*Learning to ALLOW the Spirit to carry me

*Learning that God has my back and we are ONE

As I relaxed, lifted my arms to the heavens, let go, sang praises to God, and trusted that I was safe, the view from the top of the mountain was absolutely breathtaking and amazing.

I was still “flying high” from the day and wanted to just relax as I ate my dinner. I rarely watch the TV, but decided to put it on to just veg. out. This is what came on the screen when I turned it on.

“If you only had a few minutes left to live, have you lived your dream and have you come to earth to do what you wanted to do?” They kept repeating this in the background:

REMEMBER YOUR DREAMS, I SEE YOU, COME RIDE THE SKY

*There’s something more – just beyond your reach *We forgot our true greatness and magnificence

*Return to nature *Dream BIG *Give the Universe goose bumps at the way you live your life

*This is your moment, your time *Come play, be willing and carefree *Be the guru of your own heart

*Don’t look for shortcuts to God *I am another YOU *Do you know how truly blessed you are

*Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, the God who conceived me in love

*Do something so magnificent that the Universe bursts into applause *Prayer is celestial conversation between me and love and union with Divine Essence *When I know myself, I know God *Love is surrendering to the ONE

A couple of days after my paragliding, I was cleaning my bathroom and packing boxes to move, I heard a song on the radio that brought me to tears and confirmed my experience and that I am loved and safe.

“I will lift you up over the mountain and over the valleys. I will carry you on the wings of the angels. There is nothing that will keep you from my love. My heart surrounds you on the wings of the angels, you will rise high above everything and I will make everything right.”

I want to give the Universe goose bumps at the way I live my life. How about you? If you only had a few minutes left to live, have you lived your dream and have you come to earth to do what you wanted to do?

 

 

I have to leave my home in 8 days

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Mar
3

 

Thank you God for the opportunity to practice everything I teach. It is easy to live in gratitude when things are going “my way” or the way I think they should go. It is not so easy to be grateful when plans are changed mid-stream. That is where the rubber hits the road, if you will. For many years, I have been living my life trusting God to open and close doors when I don’t know what’s ahead of me. It has always worked, even though at the time, I don’t understand why the door is closed.

 

This morning I received an email from my landlord telling me that he was sorry but plans had changed regarding leaving my boxes and belongings in the bedroom, while construction was going on in the house. Of course, my initial reaction was disappointment because it meant that I would have to get a storage unit and move twice until I find my new home-or it finds me. I made a decision to trust God and immediately became grateful for “what is” and the closed door in my face.

 

As I sat to meditate, I heard the small still voice of God say, “I am using you as my instrument to teach others what you do as a woman of faith, so they can do the same thing.” I then remembered an email I received from my friend, Linda, in response to last week’s blog. “Pat, this was your best blog ever.  You know, what you’re going through is to teach others, and you’re doing an incredible job!  I’ll bet you’ll get a raise after this assignment.” It is a humbling experience being God’s instrument and sharing the highs and the lows of building my faith muscles. But I would have it no other way and I am grateful that God has chosen me for this assignment!

I looked at a place to rent last week. There were many things I liked about it, especially the lanai with an ocean view. I loved the landlord and I could afford the rent. The problem was that it was very small and didn’t have a stove. I thought, “Well, I can always get a small oven and make it work.” The other problem was that it didn’t have a sink in the bathroom and I would have to use the kitchen sink to wash up. I was willing to make it work if that was God’s will for me. I prayed and asked God to close the door if that wasn’t my right and perfect place. I felt relieved when the door was closed because a bathroom without a sink and a mirror just wouldn’t work for this girl! Anyone that knows me knows I love my mirror!

 

I shared last week that I felt stressed and fearful because I didn’t know where I was going to move to. Today, I am happy to say that I feel “surrendered” and peaceful. I didn’t realize that I hadn’t surrendered until I actually surrendered and the peace returned. I wanted it “my way” and was struggling and fighting the reality of what was going on-not having a place to move right into when my lease was up.

 

I asked myself, “What does it mean to surrender?” It means that I stop fighting inside and say, “Okay God, you get in the driver’s seat and drive the car. I don’t know the way and what is ahead, but you do. You take over and I will stay in the passenger’s seat. I can relax and enjoy the scenery when I am in the driver’s seat- how much better can it get than that?. I am excited about the adventure before me and know God is preparing something wonderful for me. Could a delay be just a way God is showing me a better way? It really is about saying YES to whatever is showing up in my life.

That day, I received a quote from Abraham that spoke to my heart. “Say yes to whatever it is. Because if you say yes to it and then you get in the middle of it, and you say, “Uh oh, this isn’t really turning out the way I wanted it to,” then out of that is born another desire. And as you say yes to that, then it turns out. And you say, “Well, it’s still not quite right.” So you have another desire… Until eventually you get it exactly right. You cannot get it wrong. No creation is ever complete. Just do it.”

My friend, Louise, wrote, “It is incredible the blessings that have been attracted to you and how they came. Amazing when your flight was delayed several days, what unfolded. Thank you for sharing all the bright light. Now, as God, Spirit, Infinite Universe prepares for your move, a beauty is unfolding as vibrant as the energy you radiant. I am picturing lots of color that you love so much. Sparkling colors that are also very Earth oriented, as Maui so gracefully displays, are guiding you. Count me in on your Team!”

Thank you, Louise, for reminding me about what happened when my flight was cancelled in January and the miracle that happened. Often when things don’t go the way we expect them to go, there is a reason for the delay. I don’t know yet why I have to wait for the right and perfect home to “show up” and that is okay. I trust that I will know when I need to know. And it will be better than I could ever have imagined.

I have to be out of my ohana in 8 days. Friends have helped me pack boxes and get ready to move. I am moving in with my dear friend, Jodene, for 2 weeks and my friends, Patrick and Nicole, called and offered their home for me to stay in after that. My friend, Ali, wrote, “Count me in as one of your angels and team members. Thank you for taking care of yourself and sharing who you are with us.  If it’s God’s plan for you to move out before you have a final rental, Bob and I would be delighted to have you sleep on our couch/live with us for free for up to two weeks.  After all, it would be like having an angel moving in with us.”

Thank you for your prayers, encouragement, emails and offers to stay at your home while I am waiting for my right and perfect home to “show up.” My heart is full of gratitude for the love I am experiencing from all of you.

Have suitcase, will travel! I have my “giant” suitcase packed and will just wheel it right in to your home. What an adventure and so much fun to be walking in faith and getting out of the driver’s seat.

 

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