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I have all the TIME in the world

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Feb
5

As I sat with my friend, Barbara, leisurely sipping my Earl Grey Lavender tea in the coffee shop, I turned to her and said, “It feels so good to not have to PUSH.”  It felt like we had all the time in the world and we were enjoying every minute of it. I felt relaxed, in the moment, present, trusting and peaceful. I smiled and said to her, “I am a RECOVERING PUSHER.” Not a pusher of drugs, thank God. This is not the only area I am recovering from as I am a recovering Catholic, rushaholic, controlaholic, perfectionist and people pleaser. Can you relate?

Many years ago, one of my friends commented, “You push yourself a lot.”  It was so natural to push and I couldn’t stop myself, nor did I want to. It almost felt like a badge of honor and I felt proud of how I pushed. I realize today that I had to push myself to DO better, BE better, Be the BEST, perform and achieve.

Just thinking about this behavior now makes me feel exhausted. I didn’t know any better and I was afraid not to push. I wondered what would happen if I didn’t? Would everything fall apart and I wouldn’t get what I wanted and deserved? There was a hole inside of me that I was trying to fill from the outside.

Spirit is revealing to me that at the core of my pushing for so many years and all my addictions was FEAR-fear that I wasn’t good enough! No matter what I did, it was never good enough. This was a learned behavior to escape the pain, low self-esteem, no self-love and shame inside of me.

The opposite of pushing is relaxation. It’s no surprise that I have several signs around my home with RELAX on them. I need the reminder to relax, be present, enjoy and have fun. Since I have been a “pusher” for so many years, I will probably be tempted or inclined to push myself from time to time in an unhealthy way.

The good news is that it doesn’t feel good to push anymore because it creates stress in my life.  When I become aware that I am pushing or rushing, I bring myself back to the present moment and breathe. It always works.

I was out of balance and lived much of my life from the masculine within which is about doing, pushing, goal oriented, comparing, perfection, and achieving. The divine feminine within is about receiving. nurturing, surrendering, going with the flow and trusting.

I’ve experienced so much growth and transformation in myself since I completed the Divine Feminine Mystery School in July. I can honestly say that for the first time in my life, I know what it feels like to be balanced within and to acknowledge my gifts that I bring to the world.  It has taken me so many years to believe in myself and heal and release the trauma that I carried deep within my body. I am so grateful for the journey I have taken and my willingness to dive deep and not let fear rob me, as it did for so many years.

I have been given the opportunity to dive deep into the Divine Feminine and my power as a woman. I have embraced my feminine essence and will continue to embark on the path of self-healing, sexual awakening and transformation.

I am here to embody and serve the Divine Feminine in the world and to continue to balance the relationship between the male and female within myself. We need both our masculine and feminine to bring to the world.

Angels show up at the airport

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Feb
5

I graduated from The Sacred Feminine Mystery School this week and am so proud of myself for following my heart and soul’s calling to facilitate workshops for women’s healing sexual wounding and releasing trauma from their bodies. I am a Certified Spiritual Sexual Educator and Licensed teacher of Sacred Awakening and Healing. This body of work has transformed my life and I am grateful and honored to bring this sacred healing to women. I have come into a new freedom, strength, balance and confidence in myself and am letting my light shine.

I love how angels show up in “airports” when I need them the most. Here is what happened as I traveled home from North Carolina this week.  It was quite an adventure of surrendering and trust. Here is what happened.

I arrived at the airport at 4:00 am for a 5:30 flight out of Ashville, NC to Charlotte, NC. The flight was cancelled for 1 hour due to problems with the airplane. This meant that I wouldn’t make it to my next scheduled flight to Phoenix. Arizona.

My flight was rerouted and instead of going to Arizona, I was now going to Texas and my flight would be 8 hours long. When I arrived in Charlotte, I didn’t have much time to get to the boarding gate so I ran through the airport (baggage behind me) and arrived at the gate when all of the passengers were already on the plane.  I felt like I was going to pass out and almost collapsed when I finally found my seat.

I checked with the stewardess about my next flight and how much time I had. She looked at me and said, “You don’t have much time because you have to go to another terminal, it will be very close and you might not make it. When we are ready to land, I will bring you up to an empty seat in the front so you can get off the plane quickly.” I felt so grateful because I knew she was my ANGEL in disguise.

I kept praying, surrendering, trusting. accepting and “remembering” what happened on my flight home from Costa Rica a few months ago when doors were opened and I felt like I had wings flying through the airport. I sure hoped Spirit would do that again.

The stewardess kept her word and guided me to the front of the plane right before we were about to land. I texted my daughter, Mary, and asked for prayers that I would make it to the next gate on time. She wrote back, “WINGS” and I responded, “ANGELS.”

I got off the plane quickly and ready to do another run for my money through the airport. As I walked out the door right in front of me was a man sitting with an airport shuttle. I must have looked confused and a bit dazed because he looked at me and said, “Would you like a ride?” OMG would I like a ride as I jumped on the shuttle with my baggage.

He then said, “May I look at your ticket to make sure the gate hasn’t changed.” I rummaged through my purse and handed it to him.  He said, “They are boarding NOW and off we went beeping his horn, asking people to get out of the way as we raced through the airport. I sat there with tears running down my cheeks because I knew God had sent me an ANGEL with WINGS to get me to where I needed to go.

He took me as far as the shuttle would go, carried my suitcase up the escalator and then directed me to my next gate. I looked at him and said, “How did you know I needed a ride?” He just smiled as I thanked him for being my ANGEL.  As he pulled away, I noticed the shuttle was for handicapped persons. I guess this is one of the perks of being older and having some grey hair and looking dazed.

Again, when I arrived at the gate, all of the passengers were already boarded and I was one of the last persons to board the plane. I would never have made it to the gate on time if it wasn’t for my ANGEL.

What I know is that  God’s timing is PERFECT and God answers prayers.

 

 

 

I graduate and will be a Licensed Certified Sacred Sexual Educator

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Jan
10

I had no idea 9 months ago how I would be healed and transformed when I said YES to my soul and inner knowing to attend a Sacred Sexual Healing retreat with Amrita Grace and Caroline Muir on Maui.

After the retreat, I listened to my soul again and signed up for the 6-month certification program to become a teacher of this work.  I am so grateful and will try to put in words my experience of giving and receiving sacred sessions.

I can’t believe how fast the time has gone as I will graduate next week and will become a Licensed Certified Sacred Sexual Educator. This gives me the ability to teach this powerful sacred sexual healing all over the world as it is profound, transformational, holy and cutting edge. Every woman would benefit from it, whether sexually abused or not, as we all carry trauma that can get stuck in our bodies.

I am living in the mystery and have followed inner guidance and my heart, not knowing where it would take me, but trusting the process. I stepped out in faith and faced my deepest fears. As I look back on my journey the last 7 years of living on Maui and meeting my soulmate, I would not be where I am if I hadn’t taken the leap and followed my heart.

As part of the certification process, we had to do a practicum and facilitate an Awakening and Healing weekend, which took place this past weekend. What an amazing and powerful experience each woman had. The tears rolled down my cheeks as I witnessed women healing themselves, setting themselves free and releasing deep trauma from their childhood.  I felt humbled, honored and privileged to be a priestess in this capacity.

One of the women shared with me after the weekend, “I feel like I’ve stepped into a new energy vortex and it feels like divine feminine energy. I am realizing that I don’t have to make decisions and figure things out by myself. All I have to do is listen and get my assignment what to do next.”

If I ever had any doubts about being a teacher of this sacred work, they are gone after this weekend and seeing what the women experienced in the sacred, safe container we created.

About thirty years ago, I had a poster that read, I AM A WOMAN GIVING BIRTH TO MYSELF. I didn’t really understand what it meant until now. I have given birth to myself. Giving birth to anything (a child, a new project, a dream, an idea) can be painful and difficult because we have to face our fears and what’s inside of us that no longer serves us.  I am grateful that I had the courage and willingness to release my “stuff” before the weekend.

I am pleasantly surprised as I reflect on the last 9 months and what I’ve learned about myself and how I’ve changed. We really do teach what we need to learn. I knew that facilitating the weekend would be powerful, but I had no idea how much growth and deep healing I would experience by attending the Sacred Feminine Mystery School and completing this practicum.

I have stepped into my power and it feels so good. I feel solid, strong, grounded, balanced, loving, assertive, and know the truth of who I am, maybe for the first time in my life. I will continue to say yes to my sacred soul’s calling as it is my destiny and purpose. I will continue to trust that I am being guided every step of the way.

If I can assist you on your faith walk and help you find your sacred calling and purpose or help you release blocks or trauma, please let me know. I will be coming to Rhode Island to visit my family in the beginning of July and would like to offer a Sacred Sexual Awaking and Healing workshop. If this is calling you, please let me know.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I was being shaken up to waken up

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Jan
10

Happy New Year. My prayer for you is that 2019 be the best year ever and that you experience miracles and abundance in all areas of your life. May you go from pleasure to pleasure and enjoy your life to the fullest. We are not promised tomorrow so let’s make the best out of each day by appreciating what we have and being grateful.

What I know about the spiritual life is that there is always more and we will never have arrived. We are invited to go deeper to heal and release baggage and beliefs that no longer serve us, but in fact, hurt us.  It’s like peeling the onion and peeling an onion can make us cry.

We can either go kicking and screaming and resist “what is” happening in our lives or we can go with the flow in peace, ease and grace. Sometimes it’s easy to go with the flow and accept “what is” and other times it’s really difficult.

We may resist until we can’t stand the pain anymore and have to let go and surrender. I wish it was easier and not so painful. I’m grateful that I did some letting go and surrendering this past week. I want to be the best me I can be so I am willing to do the inner work of releasing and healing.

In order to release our subconscious beliefs, we must know what they are. They may be running our lives and we don’t even know it because they are so deep. We must allow them to come to the surface to be healed and released.

Do you remember the Christmas snowball that we used to shake up as kids? While in meditation this week, the Christmas snow ball came to mind and it felt like I was being shaken up. I was being shaken up to awaken. The snow on the bottom was coming to the top and it wasn’t pretty. When I’m triggered with something in the present, it is often about something in my past (a false belief) that is calling for attention, love and healing. It is not the time to beat up on myself for being triggered, but a call for self-love and compassion.

When I’m resentful, judgmental or blaming someone for what they did or didn’t do to make me happy, I’m not taking responsibility for my stuff or my “shit.” I was triggered and my shit was coming up and it was time to look at me and change my false beliefs. Spirit was showing me that what I thought was important and that I had to have to make me happy was false.

I am responsible for my own happiness and it doesn’t serve me to look outside for others to give me what I already have inside of me. The truth is that I have all the love I need inside of me. Looking to others for validation is futile and doesn’t serve me. Of course, we all want to give and feel loved by our friends and family. The problem comes when we expect others to love us in a certain way and when they don’t, we don’t feel loved.

I am grateful for my courage and willingness to use the tools I have been given to release beliefs that no longer serve me; meditation, journaling, prayer, self-love, Emotional Freedom Technique.

I had a major breakthrough and have set myself free of behaviors that have robbed me for years of knowing the truth of who I am. I am a woman giving birth to myself. I am love and I am loved and so are YOU.

 

 

 

My greatest growth is to TRUST

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Jan
10

The season of Christmas is about love, light, sharing, giving and being with loved ones. When I listen to Christmas songs on the radio, they say it’s the happiest time of the year. Well, it may be for some, but not for everyone. You may be grieving the loss of a loved one, have a serious illness, be far away from family, recently divorced or lost your job. What a set-up to think something is wrong with us if we’re not feeling happy in the season. I often hear people say after Christmas, “I’m so glad it’s over.”

Spiritually, I believe the season invites us to go within and be still so that we can open our hearts to more love and light. Unfortunately, that is not what happens for many of us. Instead of being still and going within, we get busier with shopping, parties, cooking, eating and drinking. We are exhausted by the time Christmas gets here and we just want it to be over. Has this been your experience or were you able to give yourself some quiet time and go within?

Like many folks, I enjoy the lights and parties and being with loved ones. This Christmas I was “forced” to be still and go within due to a nagging cold that had a life of its own. I didn’t want to give my germs to anyone nor did I want to pick up any germs so we cancelled parties and dinners.

To be honest, I really enjoyed the quiet with the lights and candles and listening to Christmas music. Instead of feeling like I was missing something, I felt grateful for the time with Larry, myself and Spirit.  I participated in an on-line program called, “13 days to Activate Your Inner Light Through Radical Self-care which I really enjoyed because it gave me the opportunity to practice loving myself even deeper.

I had the opportunity and time to reflect on this past year and all its ups and downs and the lessons learned. During the solstice, I was able to release what no longer served me and through the powerful energies present ask for what I wanted to attract into my life.

I asked Larry, “What do you think your greatest growth was for this past year?”  When he asked me the same question, I knew right away what the answer was. It was TRUST. My trust in God is deeper than it has ever been. I know and trust that everything is in perfect and divine order. I know and trust that whatever I am experiencing is for my highest good and it is perfect.

It seems like as my trust in God has deepened, so has my trust in myself in many ways.  I know when to say yes and when to say no, without feeling guilty. I know when to step out in faith and when to be quiet. I know how to love myself and give myself what I need.

I am learning that love is all there is and to choose love instead of fear. I am learning to see everything as an opportunity, rather than a problem or challenge. I am grateful for this year and look forward to even more blessings in the coming year.

Larry

As Pat shared, many of us are looking back at the year, reviewing how we have grown or changed. I think I have made progress in some areas and none in others.  I’ve grown in patience and living in the moment.

I grew up believing that the man of the household had the responsibility to make sure everyone was happy or at least content when a problem arose. I thought it was my job to fix it or offer a solution. I realize that my perspectives about relationships came from this belief and my behaviors reflected this.

Pat has helped me understand that when she shares something that is troubling her, she is not expecting me to fix it.  She needs to share it and wants me to just listen. After I have listened, I will ask her if there is anything, she would like me to do to support her.

The area I’ve grown most in is allowing Pat to share her feelings without offering a solution. When I’m able to do this, it really feels good for me because I don’t have the pressure to make it right or solve the problem. It’s no longer my responsibility and it’s a great weight off my shoulder. I wish I had known this a long time ago.

I’m learning that I can still love her, be there for her without trying to fix what’s bothering her. She is an intelligent person who can engage in all of the opportunities presented to her.  She can accept these opportunities and handle them herself.

I let go and let go

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Jan
10

I looked at my friends, Kerry and Sharon, and said, “How long shall we wait until we close up shop?” Kerry and Sharon came to support me and set up when I presented my introductory talk “Awakening to your Sacred Sexuality” at the Wailea Healing Center. The presentation was scheduled to start at 7:00 p.m. and there wasn’t a woman in sight.

Clearly, we were disappointed, but trying to accept “what is.” My weekend workshop is scheduled for January 5th & 6th and I was hoping we would get some more women to sign up for it

We were happy and surprised when two women walked in at 7:05. I welcomed them and engaged them in conversation. They were from California and were on vacation. They wouldn’t be coming to our workshop, but while searching for a yoga class on the Wailea Healing Center’s website, the women spotted our workshop and knew they were meant to come to hear the talk, as they both worked with women and were very interested in the subject.

As I started to give my presentation (that I also gave a few weeks ago at the Unity Church) with my index cards and flip chart, I put the cards down and started to just share from my heart and never used the flip chart. I shared my experience with this powerful healing and how I was led into it. I had no idea where I was in my talk or if I would forget something important, but I didn’t. I had surrendered and trusted I was being led.  When I let go, Spirit took over.

I invited the women to share their experience with sexual healing and asked them what they knew about it. Both the aunt and her niece, were so willing and open to share their stories. They had many questions because both had been sexually abused and they were from alcoholic homes.

The aunt has been sober for 7 years and works with women in sobriety. She shared that many women have memories of being sexually abused when they get sober. The niece works with women veterans and we suspect there is a high incidence of abuse in women veterans

Wow, what an intimate and beautiful sharing we had for 90 minutes. We could not have gone as deep as we did if there were more women attending. Spirit knows best and I am learning to trust that everything is perfect and there is no right or wrong about anything. It’s all good.

I offered them a sacred healing session in my home before they returned home to California. I received an email from the niece the next day asking me if she could have a session with me.  We have a session scheduled this week. Here is her email.

Aloha beautiful Pat!

I am doing so wonderful and am still dancing in the bliss of the other evening and so grateful for spirit aligning our journeys with one another.

I would love to talk more about the possibility of offering a weekend gathering or workshop in California and will let spirit lead and see what comes into fruition!

I am completely surrendered and trusting that the women who are meant to attend our workshop will be there and they will find it as I did. I get out of the way and let Spirit lead. I don’t think it gets any better than that. Do you? I would love to hear your story of allowing Spirit to lead you and what happened.

Surrender means to:

* Not OBSESS

* Not WORRY

* Not BE AFRAID

* Not PUSH TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN

* Not be ANGRY WHEN IT DOESN’T GO MY WAY

* Not try to FIGURE IT ALL OUT

* Not question GOD’S TIMING OR PLAN

Surrender means to:

* I TRUST

* I ALLOW

* I LET GO

* I CHOOSE LOVE

* I RELAX

* I LISTEN

* I ACCEPT WHAT IS

* I PRACTICE GRATITUDE

* I LIVE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

* i LET GO OF OUTCOME

When I let go and get out of the way, Spirit guides me to the next right action. Are you surrendered and trusting or are you trying to control the outcome?

 

 

 

 

 

I crashed

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Jan
10

A few weeks ago. I shared that I was “riding the wave” and flying through the water and air. It felt both scary and adventurous. I know surfers have been injured when the wave hits and they go under. It takes commitment and practice to ride the waves.

This week the wave hit me and I went under! If you have ever been hit by a wave you know what happens. It’s scary when you get tossed around, lose your breath and don’t know what’s happening. You may have bruises or broken bones when and if you finally make it out of the water.

After I returned from the powerful retreat in Costa Rica and was so high, I CRASHED. I felt extreme exhaustion and had no motivation for anything. I felt depleted, empty and like I had lost my MOJO. I even questioned if I was cut out for this work because it took so much out of me.

Although I understood intellectually that this is to be expected after a long trip away and releasing so much energy, not only from this lifetime. but from past lifetimes, I felt fearful that what I was experiencing wouldn’t pass. A friend shared that I had expanded so much that it was natural to then contract.

It was difficult because I couldn’t be around people who were joyful and celebrating the holidays. I canceled parties with friends and just rested to replenish and restore myself. For so many years, I pushed myself to do things without even checking in with my body to see if it was the right thing for me to do. It was more important to please others than to take care of my needs. I didn’t want to be judged and wanted to be liked, so I pushed myself.

Holidays can be very difficult for people if they have lost a loved one or are estranged from family and don’t feel joyful. Sometimes, it’s good to push yourself to join in and get out of the house and sometimes it’s good to take care of yourself and be quiet. Self-love and self-care are extremely important as well as trusting yourself and asking Spirit what to do next.

I chose to BE STILL and quiet until whatever needed to pass through me passed through. And it did! I needed God to fill me up again. I prayed, meditated, let go, surrendered, slept, asked for help and TRUSTED that everything was happening for a reason. I remembered my message from the retreat and that my experience was my experience and it was perfect. 

What made this transition easier was how Larry supported and loved me through this experience. Instead of trying to push me to do things because it may make me feel better or not to disappoint my friends, he supported my decision to be still and quiet completely. He encouraged me to stay home and rest. I so appreciated his wisdom and respect for my knowing what I needed to do for myself. I also appreciated my friends who supported and loved me through their texts and calls.

Being on the other side of this and having my MOJO and enthusiasm back, I have learned a few lessons about trust and waiting. Whatever is happening is for my highest good and it will pass. What goes up must come down. What expands must contract.

What I learned from this is that I must protect myself energetically since everything is energy before doing this powerful healing energy work. I picked up someone else’s energy and it needed to be cleared. After I did this clearing, it was almost instantly that the heaviness and exhaustion lifted and I was back to myself again.

I will ground myself and ask the angels to go before me and put a white light or bubble around me for protection in the future.

I am very excited to be giving the talk tonight Awakening to Your Sacred Sexuality at the Wailea Healing Center. Barbara, Antisk and I will be giving the workshop January 5-6. I know it will be a powerful and healing workshop for the women attending as it was for me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I was interviewed on Gutsy Women radio

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Jan
10

I love how the Universe conspires to bring people together at the right and perfect time and in the perfect way. Some call it synchronicity because It almost feels like magic when it happens. When we are aligned with Spirit, we will find that this is happening more and more in our lives.

It has been a busy week for me and I have loved every minute of it. I was just about to leave my house to give my first presentation for the Awakening to Your Sacred Sexuality retreat on January 5-6 when the phone rang. I don’t usually answer it when it is a number I don’t recognize because of all the marketing calls I receive.

I decided to answer it and I am glad that I did. It was from a woman who wanted information about the workshop I was giving that night. She said, “I just saw your workshop online and I am very interested. I know I need to go deeper in healing my sexuality. I asked the Universe to guide me to the right place and this seems like exactly what I need.”  We talked a few minutes about this healing practice and we both had the chills. She said, “I will be there tonight.”  She came and loved it. She called the next day and said, “I feel validated by what I learned and want to make an individual appointment for a session with you this week”.

The workshop was fabulous and the women who attended were open and willing to share their beliefs and struggles about their own sexuality. I felt relaxed, prepared and on fire to share my experience of transformation and healing.

The next day I was interviewed on a radio show called “Gutsy Women.” I loved it as it brought back memories of when I had my own inspirational radio show years ago. I am getting more and more comfortable sharing this beautiful sacred energy healing with the world.

That same day I received another phone call from a 28 year- old woman named Melanie who had just seen the workshop advertised on the Wailea Healing Center’s website. I shared that the Awakening and Healing practice is about clearing trauma whether it be physical, emotional, spiritual or sexual abuse from our bodies that can be from this lifetime or past lifetimes.

Melanie followed her heart and had recently moved to Maui by herself. She has been working on her sexuality as memories came up of childhood sexual abuse. She knew she needed deeper healing and was ready to release the trauma. After we discussed the value of attending the weekend, she signed up immediately and sent me her deposit.

Here is a testimony to show the power of this sacred sexuality healing.

“I have never experienced anything like this in my 69 years young. The Awakening and Healing sessions with Pat have been powerful, transformational, healing, sacred, profound and gentle all in the same time.  Although I trusted Pat, I felt uncomfortable and scared the first session. I wasn’t able to feel much of anything including Pat’s touch in parts of my body that were numb due to sexual abuse starting at the age of 3 to 12. I wanted to release all that I had repressed for so many years and I was willing to do whatever I needed to do to remove blockages that robbed me all of my life of my sexuality and pleasure. Each session has been different and I have gone deeper into the pain that I repressed for so many years. I felt heat and divine energy moving up my chakras and flowing through Pat’s healing touch. It felt like electricity moving through my whole body.  When I went home after one of the sessions, my whole body felt like it was on fire inside and outside and it lasted for four hours. After four sacred sessions with Pat, I feel new life coming into my body and I am feeling joy, happiness, and new sensations in my body like I have never felt before. Thank you, Pat, for you have truly found your life purpose and are making a profound difference in the world. I felt a deep connection, presence and love with you.” Sharon Lund

I received this email from a woman this week.

“I think most women need sexual healing, including those who haven’t been sexually abused. I have met so many dishonest guys that I am insecure and non-trusting in relationships. I have met many women who were in a relationship like marriage and were cheated on and now have major trust issues. I have been told that because my mother was sexually abused by her stepfather, that energy is still in me.”

Women are standing in their feminine power and speaking up about their abuse and trauma. It is time for awakening and healing. I feel so blessed for my own healing and now teaching women about the Awakening and Healing.

 

I don’t want you to do anything, I want you to learn how to BE

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Jan
10

I was playing on Google last week and decided to type in Pat Hastings to see what came up. The first thing that came up was a TV show that I was a guest on called Daring to Dream with Suzie Spivey. I hadn’t seen the interview in many years. What a joy it was to watch it again and see what was happening in my life back then. I was amazed how confident I was and how the words just flowed out of me.

http://www.belmontmedia.org/watch/daring-dream-pat-hastings

It’s hard to believe that I retired from the VA hospital as an Alcohol and Drug therapist in Rhode Island and published my book, Simply a Woman of Faith ten years ago.

After I retired, at the age of 62, I became a Certified Spiritual Life Coach and started a new business as a radio talk show host, an inspirational speaker, a workshop and retreat leader and loved what I was doing.

I followed my heart and moved to Maui seven years ago in January and expected to continue on the same path and doing what I loved. Spirit had other PLANS for me. Isn’t that often the way. You think you are doing one thing and in mid- stream the PLAN changes.  I can hear Spirit saying, “Recalculate, recalculate.” We make plans and God laughs.

I had only been living on Maui for a couple of weeks when I heard Spirit say, “I don’t want you to DO anything, I want you to learn how to BE.” I thought I knew how to BE. I was wrong. I knew how to DO very well, but BEING was something I needed to learn. BEING is about allowing, surrendering and accepting what is. It is the feminine way. I had been a DOER all my life and was out of balance and didn’t know it.

I was used to hearing the small, still voice of God, so I paid attention. I gave it all up; the coaching, speaking and giving retreats. My friend and I facilitated one or two workshops, but that was it. When I landed on Maui, I lived with friends on the ocean and paid $300 a month for rent so I didn’t have to make money to live.

I love being retired, being married to Larry, having fun, going to the pool and beach, going for walks, writing my weekly inspirational blog and doing whatever I wanted.  I know my purpose in life is to love and to remember who I am. It is also to share my journey and be an inspiration to others. Spirit gave me an affirmation many years ago when I was paralyzed with fear and ready to give it all up. In my dream, I was climbing a ladder leading up to the sky. When I reached the top and put my hand out to touch the star, I became the star.  Here is the affirmation I received. “I am a star that shines brightly to lead others to the God within.”

I’m not sure what it is about 7 years, but it took me 7 years to write my book. My book almost died inside of me because I didn’t believe in myself and was filled with fear.  Can you relate? It truly was the grace of God that I was able to move through the fear and publish my book. I am so grateful that I didn’t give up because I wouldn’t be living the life I am living and married to my soulmate.

At the age of 72 and living on Maui for 7 years, the PLAN has changed again. I am trusting that I have learned how to BE and I am now more balanced. I am following my heart and have said YES to Spirit. I am currently enrolled in the Sacred Mystery School to become a Certified Sacred Sexual Educator.

I am on fire and passionate about facilitating and teaching this profound, yet gentle Awakening and Healing AH process to clear trauma from the body. It is pure, sacred and holy and I feel honored to be on my soul’s path.

Although excited and passionate, I am SCARED and all my insecurities are coming to the surface. I am giving a talk this week and will be interviewed on the Gutsy Women Radio show. I am stepping out in faith and trusting as I don’t feel like I have the right words to explain this powerful, profound healing process yet. I am “showing up” and asking Spirit to speak through me and give me the right words.

I am remembering how I have always been given what I need. I am letting go of outcomes and trusting that the women who will benefit from this sacred healing will find me just as I miraculously found Caroline and Amrita.

I know God’s PLAN is good. I stand in my POWER and say YES. I will continue to love my life, face my fears, have fun and BE the best me I can be. I am in the mystery and don’t know what’s in store in this new adventure. All I know is that in this moment, EVERYTHING IS GOOD and in perfect and divine order.

 

Life is always working out for me

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Nov
8

Life has a way of getting our attention, doesn’t it? One day we are flying high or riding the wave and everything is going smoothly and the next day, we are struggling with a loss or something we can’t control. And then the next day, we are good to go again and aligned with Spirit. This week I’ve had a few days of feeling deep sadness and loss.

I like to practice going with the flow and accepting “what is.” It’s not easy to go with the flow when there is change in our life and we aren’t happy about it.

When I’m in pain and struggling, it’s a choice and a decision to trust Spirit and the process and to know that everything is happening for my highest good. I read something recently suggesting we embrace and trust our suffering and what is breaking down until you have a breakthrough.

Change is inevitable and sometimes painful and sometimes exhilarating. We are always changing and the people we love are always changing. I have learned that all I can change is myself. It’s not my job or responsibility to fix or try to change anyone else. It is my belief that everyone is doing the best they can, including myself.

I will not do a spiritual bypass anymore and pretend that I’m fine when I’m not. I did that for many years putting on a happy face when inside I was dying and often didn’t even know it. I didn’t trust myself or others enough to be honest and real.  Deep down, I was afraid that they wouldn’t love me if I shared what I was experiencing.

I must be vulnerable and honest and ask for help when I need it when I’m struggling. I may or may not get what I want, but at least I have asked and oftentimes. I get exactly what I need.

It often takes time to move through the grief process when there is a “perceived” loss or a real loss and something has changed that we’re not happy with. For example, your spouse leaves you and your heart hurts, or you lose a loved one, or you lose your job. The list could go on and one and whether it’s a big loss or a small one it doesn’t matter when you hurt inside.

I know that acceptance is always the answer; but in order to get there I must allow myself time to go through the grief process which may include feelings of sadness, disappointment, anger or depression.  I have learned that feelings are not right or wrong and to give myself permission to feel whatever I’m feeling.

I must allow myself to feel whatever I’m feeling for as long as I need to and not push myself to go faster. It may take a day or a month or a year to work through something. During the grief process, it is important to love and be compassionate with myself, knowing that everything I need is inside of me.

Are you able to love yourself and give yourself what you need when things around you have changed and you are feeling sad or depressed?

I encourage you to trust yourself, Spirit and the process and to know you are loved and that whatever is happening is for your highest good and that you are loved.

Life Will Always Be Working Out for Me. . .

I like understanding that things are always evolving, and while there are many things that could be better where I am, it is not really a problem because “where I am” is constantly changing to something better. I like knowing that as I look for the best things around me where I am, those things become more prevalent in my experience.

It is fun to know that things are always working out for me, and as I watch for the evidence of that . . . I see more evidence of that every day.  Abraham

 

 

 

 

 

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