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Life is always working out for me

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Nov
8

Life has a way of getting our attention, doesn’t it? One day we are flying high or riding the wave and everything is going smoothly and the next day, we are struggling with a loss or something we can’t control. And then the next day, we are good to go again and aligned with Spirit. This week I’ve had a few days of feeling deep sadness and loss.

I like to practice going with the flow and accepting “what is.” It’s not easy to go with the flow when there is change in our life and we aren’t happy about it.

When I’m in pain and struggling, it’s a choice and a decision to trust Spirit and the process and to know that everything is happening for my highest good. I read something recently suggesting we embrace and trust our suffering and what is breaking down until you have a breakthrough.

Change is inevitable and sometimes painful and sometimes exhilarating. We are always changing and the people we love are always changing. I have learned that all I can change is myself. It’s not my job or responsibility to fix or try to change anyone else. It is my belief that everyone is doing the best they can, including myself.

I will not do a spiritual bypass anymore and pretend that I’m fine when I’m not. I did that for many years putting on a happy face when inside I was dying and often didn’t even know it. I didn’t trust myself or others enough to be honest and real.  Deep down, I was afraid that they wouldn’t love me if I shared what I was experiencing.

I must be vulnerable and honest and ask for help when I need it when I’m struggling. I may or may not get what I want, but at least I have asked and oftentimes. I get exactly what I need.

It often takes time to move through the grief process when there is a “perceived” loss or a real loss and something has changed that we’re not happy with. For example, your spouse leaves you and your heart hurts, or you lose a loved one, or you lose your job. The list could go on and one and whether it’s a big loss or a small one it doesn’t matter when you hurt inside.

I know that acceptance is always the answer; but in order to get there I must allow myself time to go through the grief process which may include feelings of sadness, disappointment, anger or depression.  I have learned that feelings are not right or wrong and to give myself permission to feel whatever I’m feeling.

I must allow myself to feel whatever I’m feeling for as long as I need to and not push myself to go faster. It may take a day or a month or a year to work through something. During the grief process, it is important to love and be compassionate with myself, knowing that everything I need is inside of me.

Are you able to love yourself and give yourself what you need when things around you have changed and you are feeling sad or depressed?

I encourage you to trust yourself, Spirit and the process and to know you are loved and that whatever is happening is for your highest good and that you are loved.

Life Will Always Be Working Out for Me. . .

I like understanding that things are always evolving, and while there are many things that could be better where I am, it is not really a problem because “where I am” is constantly changing to something better. I like knowing that as I look for the best things around me where I am, those things become more prevalent in my experience.

It is fun to know that things are always working out for me, and as I watch for the evidence of that . . . I see more evidence of that every day.  Abraham

 

 

 

 

 

I am riding the wave

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Nov
8

As we sat sipping our tea and sharing our lives with one another, My friend looked at me and said, “Pat you are riding the wave.” That really resonated deep within me. I have never surfed, but have watched the surfers here on Maui and it looks exhilarating and fun. Being on top of the wave and flying through the water and air appears to be both scary and adventurous. I know beginner surfers have been injured when the wave hits and they go under. It looks so easy, but it takes many years of commitment and practice.

This made me reflect on my own life and deciding to become a Certified Sacred Sexual Educator. I feel like I am riding the wave and it is fun, adventurous and exhilarating. For me, riding the wave is being aligned with Spirit and allowing things to flow to me with peace, ease and grace. Although it is not effortless, it almost feels like it because ideas and people “show up” to show me the next step for my journey.

For example, although people have known me for the last 10 years as “Simply a Woman of Faith” and I will always be Simply a Woman of Faith, I wanted to reinvent myself and get business cards and a website for my new business. I prayed and asked Spirit to lead me to someone who could help me with a new website.

The next day I was sharing with my daughter, Mary, about wanting to create a new website.  She said, “Mom, I can do it for you, it’s easy.” The next thing I knew while we were still on the phone, she was creating a new website through Word- press, which I am familiar with and we will work on it together. We went to GoDaddy and found a name for my new business. It will be “Sacredawakeningandhealing.com”  I am so excited and will let you know when it is done.

If I want to continue to ride the wave and not crash and get tossed around and get injured, I need to FOCUS. To be honest, this is not my strongest point. Whenever I leave the house, Larry’s parting words are “Pat, remember to FOCUS.” We laugh because he knows me well and how I dance through life sometimes and don’t take the time to think about things before I jump in head first.

Not only do I need to FOCUS, but I need to pay attention to how I’m taking care of myself in body, mind and spirit. I must be balanced in all areas of my life: eating healthy, exercise, resting, time alone and time with Larry and friends and family.

My number one priority is my relationship with self and Spirit. I take the time each day to go within to pray and meditate. I ask for help and guidance with EVERYTHING. I listen and follow through when I hear the small, still voice of God. I TRUST that I am always being guided and if I am doing something that is not for my highest good, I will be redirected.  It is just like when the GPS on your phone says recalculate when you are going in the wrong direction. I have my personal GPS guiding me.

Many years ago, I made a commitment to do God’s will and follow wherever I was being led. I am living in the mystery and don’t know what’s ahead and that is a good thing  I take one day at a time and choose to live in the present moment because that is really all there is.

I could not have imagined 10 years ago when I retired from the VA that I would be living on Maui, married to my soulmate and now starting a new career at age 72. Oh happy day. I want to continue practicing riding the wave and trusting God with this adventure called my LIFE.

 

Divine Appointment

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Nov
8

I would like to share a powerful email I received from my friend, Kerri, in response to my blog about meeting the woman on the plane last week. She shares about what happened when she listened to her intuition, trusted and didn’t worry about the money.

“I always enjoy your blogs, but this week’s blog really touched my heart. I could hear my mom’s words to me, “God speaks through his people,” as you described the encounter with the woman on the plane. How could that be anything other than a “Divine Appointment?” You were her angel, and I know she got off that plane feeling different than when she boarded.

I’d like to share my “Divine Appointment” from this past weekend in LA.  I was scheduled to fly back to Maui early on Sunday morning, but by early Saturday afternoon, a few things were clear:

  • I still hadn’t had a chance to meet with the LA team about my Maui-based business and discussing the legalities around using the Harmonyum trademarks.
  • My teacher still hadn’t lectured yet, and 2 of the 4 training days were over.

He always lectures one- or two-nights during trainings, but it’s never

announced when due to his busy schedule.

  • I brought products to sell and as of early Saturday, I had only sold 4 items.

My rack was still full of ponchos, scarves, and t-shirts.

  • A friend offered to give me a Harmonyum session, but it didn’t look like I

would be able to return the favor because of her schedule. I was also

disappointed upon my arrival in LA to find out she wasn’t lecturing during

the training, because she’s brilliant.

As I sat in the lounge at the yoga studio, my intuition was telling me to change my flight back to Maui and go home on Monday. I decided to receive a Harmonyum session to listen and ask for guidance about what to do.

After the session, my friend said, “I will be giving a lecture, but not until noon on Sunday.” That made it clear and I called the airline to change my flight back.  Along with $125 for changing the flight, I found out that I didn’t have enough miles to make the change, but the lady on the phone said, “I can gift 1,000 miles once a day, and I will gift it to you.” There was 1 seat left back to Maui on Monday morning. I then found out that I didn’t owe any extra money for renting the car an extra day because what I had paid covered an entire week. Sweet!!

Right after that, I ran into the three people I needed to meet with about the business/website name, and they asked if I could meet with them on Sunday (what are the chances they’d all be in the lounge at the same time? They work on different teams and are always coming and going).  Right after that, my friend changed her plans for the afternoon, so I was able to offer her a Harmonyum

I am on FIRE

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Nov
8

As I sit on the plane waiting for it to take off, my heart is full of gratitude and awe. I am returning to Maui from Oakland, California after assisting Amrita Grace at the Awakening and Healing Sacred Sexuality weekend.

The only way I can describe what I am feeling is that I am on FIRE to share this sacred, holy work with all women.  This work is powerful and profound as well as gentle and safe. I have EXPANDED and gone deeper than I ever thought possible. I am healing trauma and deep wounding in my body from this life time and past generations.

What a great opportunity to assist Amrita and learn how to lead a weekend workshop. Learning to teach this work is one of the best decisions I have made. When I complete my training, I will be able to teach this practice all over the world. How good it that and in divine timing.

Being on the “other side” as an assistant, I watched the women on the weekend transform before my very eyes. The women faced their fears and embraced the Goddess and power within. It was extraordinary and beautiful to be a part of.

As part of my six- month training to become a Certified Spiritual Sexual Educator, I will be leading a workshop along with 2 of my classmates on Maui on January 5-6. The weekend is starting to fill up and we are so excited.

On the plane ride to Oakland for the workshop, I experienced a DIVINE set-up or what I call a GodIncidence. I sat next to a young woman that when we started talking, we didn’t stop for 4 hours.

She is a videographer and just finished shooting a spiritual retreat at Lumeria Retreat Center here on Maui. She lives in Mexico and Is a yoga teacher and retreat leader herself. The door opened for me to share about the Awakening and Healing sacred sexuality weekend when she asked, “What are you going to California for?”

After I shared my journey of healing from sexual abuse, she shared she was drugged and raped by a co-worker recently and hadn’t talked about it or had any therapy for it. I validated her. listened to her story and encouraged her to seek treatment. I invited her to attend the workshop here on Maui in January. She seemed excited about attending it and will let me know if it will work for her. She also said, “Perhaps you can come to Mexico to teach about sacred sexuality.”

I was led to share with her that I was an Alcohol and Drug therapist for 20 years. That opened another door that was extremely meaningful.  She shared her family dynamics as her mother is an active alcoholic. She also shared how she always attracts men who have addiction problems and didn’t understand why.

I shared my story of growing up with an alcoholic mother and what I did to heal. I told her about 12 step programs and how they helped me understand the disease and recover. She was so receptive and said, “I will definitely check out meetings when I return home.”

Holy moly, I could not have chosen a better woman to sit next to so I could share my gifts and wisdom.  As the plane was about to land and we exchanged emails and phone numbers, she looked at me and said, “When I was walking up the aisle to find my seat, I prayed and asked God to let me sit next to someone who would have a message for me.”

I know more than ever that I am always guided and provided for when I listen and follow my heart.  I “show up” and trust there is a divine plan and God’s timing is always perfect.

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Awakening to your Sacred Sexuality

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Oct
23

                             An invitation to come to Maui and be healed and transformed

                                        AWAKENING TO YOUR SACRED SEXUALITY 

  • RECONNECT with your body, embrace your full feminine potential
  • HEAL trauma that keeps you small and inhibited
  • AWAKEN and nourish your powerful life force energy
  • IGNITE your Divine Power in a uniquely feminine way
  • RECLAIM your Passion, Power, Pleasure and Creativity
  • EXPERIENCE more self-love, joy, expansion and vitality in your life
  • SPEAK your truth with confidence, peace, ease and grace

 

This workshop is a great way to get introduced to sacred sexual awakening and healing (AH) in a safe, clear impeccable step-by-step process. The AH practice is a self-healing modality for clearing trauma, shame and blocks to pleasure and enjoyment. We hold trauma, emotional and energetic imprints in our bodies that can be released with this unique, transformational healing. 

 

Facilitators: Pat Hastings-Burns, Antisk Atma, Barbara Lezynski

Date:   January 5 & 6, 2019

Time:  9 am to 5 pm

Place:  Waleia Healing Center, Maui HI

Price:  $250 early bird special

                                           Photo of Wailea Healing Center - Kihei, HI, United States. Our new floor is looking great

 

 

To Sign Up Contact: Pat Hastings-Burns 401-862-8859

I am on FIRE and in awe!

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Oct
17

As I sit on the plane waiting for it to take off, my heart is full of gratitude and awe. I am returning to Maui from Oakland, California after assisting Amrita Grace at the Awakening and Healing Sacred Sexuality weekend.

The only way I can describe what I am feeling is that I am on FIRE to share this sacred, holy work with all women.  This work is powerful and profound as well as gentle and safe. I have EXPANDED and gone deeper than I ever thought possible. I am healing trauma and deep wounding in my body from this life time and past generations.

What a great opportunity to assist Amrita and learn how to lead a weekend workshop. Learning to teach this work is one of the best decisions I have made. When I complete my training, I will be able to teach this practice all over the world. How good it that and in divine timing.

Being on the “other side” as an assistant, I watched the women on the weekend transform before my very eyes. The women faced their fears and embraced the Goddess and power within. It was extraordinary and beautiful to be a part of.

As part of my six- month training to become a Certified Spiritual Sexual Educator, I will be leading a workshop along with 2 of my classmates on Maui on January 5-6. The weekend is starting to fill up and we are so excited.

On the plane ride to Oakland for the workshop, I experienced a DIVINE set-up or what I call a GodIncidence. I sat next to a young woman that when we started talking, we didn’t stop for 4 hours.

She is a videographer and just finished shooting a spiritual retreat at Lumeria Retreat Center here on Maui. She lives in Mexico and Is a yoga teacher and retreat leader herself. The door opened for me to share about the Awakening and Healing sacred sexuality weekend when she asked, “What are you going to California for?”

After I shared my journey of healing from sexual abuse, she shared she was drugged and raped by a co-worker recently and hadn’t talked about it or had any therapy for it. I validated her. listened to her story and encouraged her to seek treatment. I invited her to attend the workshop here on Maui in January. She seemed excited about attending it and will let me know if it will work for her. She also said, “Perhaps you can come to Mexico to teach about sacred sexuality.”

I was led to share with her that I was an Alcohol and Drug therapist for 20 years. That opened another door that was extremely meaningful.  She shared her family dynamics as her mother is an active alcoholic. She also shared how she always attracts men who have addiction problems and didn’t understand why.

I shared my story of growing up with an alcoholic mother and what I did to heal. I told her about 12 step programs and how they helped me understand the disease and recover. She was so receptive and said, “I will definitely check out meetings when I return home.”

Holy moly, I could not have chosen a better woman to sit next to so I could share my gifts and wisdom.  As the plane was about to land and we exchanged emails and phone numbers, she looked at me and said, “When I was walking up the aisle to find my seat, I prayed and asked God to let me sit next to someone who would have a message for me.”

I know more than ever that I am always guided and provided for when I listen and follow my heart.  I “show up” and trust there is a divine plan and God’s timing is always perfect.

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God’s divine timing is perfect

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Oct
4

It’s unbelievable how in one week’s time we can go from the bottom of the pit to the mountain top.  Thank you God!

I shared in last week’s blog what a difficult time I was having when my condo fell through for the third time. Even though I struggled with disappointment and fear, I knew deep down that it would sell at the perfect time and to the right and perfect person. My prayer was, “Your will God, not mine be done.”

Today, I am in deep gratitude and my heart rejoices as I received a full price offer on my condo yesterday and it will probably close in 30 days (sooner than the last buyer).  Here is what happened:

A couple of weeks ago, I asked for prayers that my condo would sell from my Face book friends. Many people responded and said they would pray. I received an offer from a woman within a few days.

In the meantime, I received a text from my friend, Cathy, who worked at the VA with me before moving to Maui. She saw it on face book and responded. I called Cathy “my angel” because she spent many hours helping me with computer stuff when I was writing Simply A Woman of Faith. I could not have done it without her assistance.

Cathy wrote, “I have a friend, George, who is looking for a place to buy, is yours still available?” We had just signed the agreement the day before so I had to tell her that I had another offer.

A week later, the women backed out and the condo was back on the market again. I remembered Cathy’s friend, George, and contacted her immediately. She said, “George is still interested.” I gave her my real estate agent’s number for him to call.

George and I started texting and I asked him “What are you looking for?” He said, “Someplace close to the VA, small and ready to move in.” It sounded perfect for him as it was only a few blocks away from the VA and it was ready to move in to.

George came to look at the condo the next day and fell in love with it. I shared with George that Cathy was “my angel” when I worked at the VA. He wrote back and said, “Cathy is my angel too.”

After he put his offer in and I accepted it, he texted me and said, “THANK YOU PAT. We are very happy. We invite you to stop by when you come back to Rhode Island. “

My real estate agent, Bethany, later informed me that George and his girlfriend were expecting a baby and she was 7 months pregnant and ready to nest. That brought tears to my eyes because I knew that they were the perfect family to buy my condo that is filled with love and peace.

I continue to learn through this experience of closed doors and waiting on God. I had to be patient, have faith, let go and trust that God’s timing is perfect. It is clear that the closed doors had nothing to do with me and what I’m doing or not doing. In other words, I wasn’t doing anything wrong.

I had to wait for George to SHOW UP.  I believe that everything is planned in the mind of God and I am always being guided. If I hadn’t asked for prayers on Face book, Cathy wouldn’t have known I was selling the condo.

Thank God we cannot see the whole picture and what Spirit is doing in the background. It is always for our highest good and guaranteed that the right door will open at the right divine time.

I was devastated with the news

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Oct
4

I shared a few weeks ago that the sale of my condo in Rhode Island fell through 4 days before settlement. Of course, I was disappointed and shocked, but I accepted “what is” and put the condo back on the market.

In last week’s blog I shared I had another offer on the condo. It was not what I had expected (several thousand dollars less), but I was grateful I had an offer. We signed the agreement and the inspection was set for this week. I felt peaceful and envisioned everything moving with peace, ease and grace.

I received a call from my real estate agent the morning of the inspection and I could tell in her voice that she didn’t have good news. She said, “Pat, I’m sorry to tell you this but the woman backed out of sale and cancelled the inspection.  We will have to start all over and put the house back on the market.” I was in SHOCK and felt very weary.

I got off the phone and cried in Larry’s arms because I felt so disappointed and devastated. I couldn’t believe what was happening because it was the third offer that fell through and the condo has been empty since July.

It felt like I was hit by a truck and I spent the day going within and loving myself;  two- hour nap, journaling my feelings, praying, crying, forgiving, remembering, hot bath, breathing and letting go of expectations and what I wanted.

I needed to allow myself to BE and feel my feelings and not do a spiritual bypass, even though it felt awful. I know my feelings are messages from my soul and I needed to pay attention.  Fear quickly came to the surface as I “future tripped” on what could happen if I didn’t sell my condo. I wondered if I was doing something wrong?” Has that ever happened to you when something doesn’t turn out the way you envisioned or wanted?

I asked Spirit for a message because I didn’t understand what was going on. Here is what I received.

“This is not your fault. You haven’t done anything wrong. You cannot see the whole picture in this moment. Accept what is and TRUST. Let go of your expectations and what you want. Most of all, love yourself and don’t beat up on yourself. You are not alone. I am providing for you. You need to relax and rest in me. Feel your feelings and then let them go.” 

When I woke up the next morning, I felt hopeful, peaceful, renewed and like something had shifted deep inside of me. Spirit guided me to read a book that I bought forty- three years ago when I was going through a difficult time and needed God’s guidance.  It’s called “How God Guides us” by Don Basham.

My spiritual life has been based on the wisdom from this small book that cost $1.00.  God guides us through open and closed doors. When I’m not sure what direction to go, my prayer is always “God open the door if it is for my highest good and close the door if it is not.” It has always worked, but it is not always easy when the door is closed in your face, especially when it is closed 3 times as it has been with my condo.  Basham writes:

* Closed doors are a vital part of guidance. Don’t be afraid of closed doors. 

* When God closes a door, it’s because His/Her plan involves something else.

   If a door is closed, another door will open.  

* The door of His/Her choice will open further down the line. 

* Faith grows between that time when you think God has to answer and that time  

  when he finally does.

I wrote a book called Simply a Woman of Faith and have been on the faith journey for many years. My faith muscles are growing stronger and stronger every day. I only want to be aligned with God’s will and I trust I am being guided through open and closed doors.

We are all invited to make a commitment to TRUST Spirit, God, Love and the Universe even more deeply and to remember everything is already planned in the mind of God and we are always being guided to our highest and best good.

Basham writes in his book, “Living by faith is like living in the midst of a miracle on the edge of a disaster. IF God doesn’t come through, you go UNDER.”

Come to Maui and retreat

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Oct
4

Do you listen to the small, still voice of God within or do you ignore the messages that you receive every day? I wouldn’t be living on Maui if I hadn’t listened, followed my heart and trusted I was being led.

When we are paying attention, messages come in many ways; through our dreams, books, other people, prayer, synchronicities, journaling, meditation or just an intuitive knowing what to do next in your life.

I recently had a dream that I was pregnant. I work with my dreams and asked Spirit, “What new life (project, idea) is being birthed in me?” I had no idea what it was and just waited for something to show up. And it did! Here is what happened:

I met Melina in July at the Sacred Feminine Mystery School we were both attending. I loved her energy and we spent time getting to know one another. She shared how much she loved “Mother Maui” as she had been there many times before.  She was thrilled when I invited her to stay with us in our home.  She accepted the offer and has been with us all week. Because of her experience, I have given BIRTH to this new DIVINE IDEA.

Larry and I are opening our hearts and home and will be offering our “GUEST SUITE” for a personal retreat to nurture your soul and spirit while you are on Maui.

Have you always dreamed about visiting Maui to experience its glorious sunsets, white sand beaches and beautiful flowers?  Is Spirit calling you to come away to renew and restore your soul and spirit? There will always be excuses of why you can’t do something for yourself. I invite you to ask yourself, “If not now, when?”

“We invite you to experience the peaceful environment and enjoy our lovely spacious home, with a beautiful panoramic view of the Pacific! You will enjoy our private GUEST SUITE with your own bathroom.  This bedroom is filled with natural light and has a stunning ocean view with a sliding patio door that leads directly out to the lanai. You can enjoy the common area which includes kitchen, dining room and living room. Washer and dryer and parking are included.  Sip your morning coffee/tea while admiring the ocean view and open yourself to the peace and tranquility around you 

If you desire, we will share helpful hints about special places to visit for renewal, and time to simply unwind and flow into your own internal rhythm. We will provide you with helpful details to help ease your retreat planning, such as affordable places to rent a car, and where to pick up your food on your 1/2-hour drive from the airport to our home.

We prefer to host only female guests who are traveling solo, and on a weekly basis.  This respite is a sacred time for you to share with yourself. Our deepest desire is that our home will offer you peace and love and what you seek in renewal, and more. Let each day of your stay be one guided by your heart as it directs you to the many pleasures that Maui has to offer”.

If your heart is pounding and you feel excited about the prospect of a personal woman’s retreat on Maui, please email me or call 401-862-8859. We would love to talk and discuss all of the possibilities with you!

I am so honored to be the first woman to accept the loving invitation of a personal retreat on Maui.  Pat and Larry have a beautiful and spacious, love filled, home.  My one-week stay has been truly splendid and nurturing. I was greeted so lovingly by both of them, shown around the house, and sunk shortly thereafter into a comfortable bed where I slipped into a welcoming sleep after many hours of travel.  It was dark when I arrived, so it wasn’t until morning that I was able to see that just down the hill from where their home is situated, the ocean makes her presence known by a long expanse of blue in three directions.  There is a sweet melody of birdsong that soothes, the fragrance of Plumeria that bloom in the garden, and the house is peaceful and filled with fresh, pure air and sunlight.   

My week has been filled with sacred time with Maui Mama! With daily dips in the ocean, and sunshine streaming through my mind, my eyes have filled with light as they have a deep affinity with the healing blue of ocean and sky.  Every day has been a wonderful honopono adventure where I have been guided by Spirit.  I have cherished every minute of it! Before my arrival, Pat shared all I should know to plan my trip.  She was present at the beginning and end of my day to hear of my adventures, or not, as I was invited to do whatever I wanted.   

I leave this evening on a red eye flight, not wanting my retreat to ever end, yet full from the love of this home and Maui, ready to bring my reconnection of heart and soul home with me.  I cannot express my gratitude to my kind hosts, Pat and Larry, for sharing their guest suite with me. The opportunity to come home to myself on this lovely isle is truly graced with the spirit of Aloha!   

With my deepest gratitude, I will be back! 

Melina

September 2018

 

What to do when you are triggered

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Oct
4

I’m sure we’ve all been triggered at one time or another. For me, a trigger is when something happens in the present (an emotion, reaction, belief) that stems from something in my past that still needs healing. I can tell that it’s from the past because my reactions and feelings may be over the top and not rational. I will often feel shame and embarrassment for my reactions and feelings. Can you relate?

I may think that the past is over and I’ve let go of the past.  I ask myself, “Why is it still coming up and why does it still bother me? It may be comparing myself to another, jealousy, not feeling good enough or feeling unworthy. If it’s coming into the light, it’s because there is more healing needed. Healing is like an onion, one layer at a time. I must be willing to trust it’s coming up to be healed.

I became aware this week of how I’ve minimized some of my childhood experiences because I didn’t want to feel the depth of my pain. My mother, because of her own pain and alcoholism often ignored me and didn’t give me the attention I needed and craved. Consequently, I looked outside for attention and felt devastated when I didn’t get it. Talk about always giving my power away.  If I think I’m being ignored or forgotten in the present (real or unreal), it’s probably coming from past wounding that needs healing.

We can also minimize what’s happening in our present circumstances in our relationships or jobs because we don’t want to feel and face the truth.  If we feel our feelings and face the truth, we will have to do something about it. Sometimes, it’s easier to stay in denial and minimize what’s going on.

We all have coping skills and behaviors to avoid feeling our feelings. Some people drink, eat, stay busy, shop, gamble, minimize, work, people please and on and on.  What do you do to avoid your feelings?

To HEAL is to FEEL. When we don’t allow ourselves to feel all of our feelings, they go underground and we get sick and get stuck. Feelings are not right or wrong, they just are. When I allow myself to process all of my feelings, even when they don’t make sense, they move through me and I can let go of them and be healed. When I am triggered or feel an “ouch” it’s a call to love myself UNCONDITIONALLY.

Here is my declaration of SELF LOVE and what I do and don’t do when I’m triggered.

  • I WILL not shame or blame myself
  • I WILL NOT judge myself
  • I WILL NOT beat up on myself
  • I WILL NOT blame someone else for my trigger
  • I WILL NOT be a victim

 

  • I WILL love myself unconditionally
  • I WILL feel all of my feelings
  • I WILL trust in Divine healing
  • I WILL trust myself
  • I WILL bring my triggers to the light and share them with someone I trust
  • I WILL ask Spirit to heal me
  • I WILL be compassionate with myself so I can offer compassion to another
  • I WILL forgive myself if I need to
  • I WILL see everything that happens as a DIVINE SET-UP for my healing
  • I WILL be grateful for what I have, rather than what I don’t have
  • I WILL affirm that everything I need is within

The spiritual journey is about remembering the truth of who I am. I am ONE with God and everyone else. When I know that I am LOVE and love is all there is, I will experience peace and freedom. I am a work in progress and so are you.

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