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RUN as fast as you can

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Oct
10

Pat

I had an amazing birthday week of RECEIVING love from family and friends; breakfast, lunch and dinners out. I received calls from friends, (as far as Bermuda) and received many cards and gifts. I opened my heart to receive love and indeed, I did. Larry and I went to dinner at Humuhumu restaurant and I felt like his queen when he put the beautiful flower lei over my head before we left. It was quite an experience that I will cherish and never forget.

If I couldn’t be on the ocean in a cruise ship for my birthday, I wanted to FLY over the ocean. Four years ago on my birthday, I went paragliding and wanted to do it again for my birthday this year. Paragliding 6,500 feet over the ocean was breathtaking and I felt free and like a bird flying in the sky. I was called a “student pilot” and the pilot sat behind me maneuvering the glider. After the pilot, Paul, strapped me all in, he gave me instructions on what to do. He said, “It is very important to RUN as fast as you can, don’t sit down or hold the bars until I tell you and we are up in the air.”  When we are ready to take off and the wind is just right, I’ll give you the ok.

I am grateful that two of the other instructors assisted and ran along the side of me to help me get off the ground when Paul gave us the ok. The only problem was that my feet wouldn’t touch the ground and I couldn’t RUN. I started to scream, “My feet don’t touch the ground.”  I was suspended in the air for a few seconds and had to sit. Before I knew it, we were flying over the side of the volcano and into the clouds over the ocean.

As I reflected on this experience afterwards, it felt like there were 2 angels on the side of me helping me get off the ground so I could fly.  Angels (although sometimes invisible) are always there to lift us up when we don’t think we can do it or when we are unable to do it like I was because my feet couldn’t touch the ground.

I not only wanted the paragliding to be a “fun” and empowering experience, but I also wanted it to be a spiritual one and to go higher and higher with God. While in prayer, I wrote out a list of things that I wanted to let go of that no longer served me and I wrote a list of what I wanted to receive. When I was ready to let it go, I put my arm out and released the paper into the air. It really felt liberating.

I also went parasailing a few days later with my friend, Margie, whose birthday was a day before mine. We truly were ONE with one another and ONE with God as we glided through the air into the clouds and sky. It was a magical, magnificent experience and I felt close to God and the angels. It was a perfect day as I experienced the peace and presence of God within.

I was literally “lifted up” above the earth so I could remember who I am and where I came from. I am LOVE and I am not separate from God. God and I are ONE and I am ONE with everyone and everything. This is my truth and knowing that there is only LOVE.

We are all being invited to awaken and “remember” who you are and that there is only love and that everything we need is within.  We no longer have to look outside of ourselves for external validation because we have enough self-love to give it to ourselves. At this time in our world, I believe we are being “shaken up to waken up.”

You don’t have to paraglide or parasail to fly higher with God. Let the angels help you. In order to fly higher, you must be willing to let go of what no longer serves you;  drama, complaining, worrying, fears, comparing, not enoughness, judgments, disappointments, ego, jealousy, expectations, unforgiveness and resentments.

God is all there is and it’s about letting go, surrendering and trusting God is in control and has a perfect plan for our lives, and when we ask for His help, He will lift us up above the battleground of this world to experience his loving peace and presence.

Larry

My sweet wife, Pat, loves to go on cruises and checks them out with hopes of going on another one.  She shared in a past blog that the travel agent, Dina, had called with a special deal that we said yes to. When we called back to book it, it was no longer the price we were quoted so we decided to wait for another special deal.

Last Friday, I received an excited phone call from Pat informing me that she had just heard from, Dina, the cruise consultant with the same great price cruise as the one from a few weeks ago. Pat was ready to book it and explained that the cruise was leaving on Saturday, October 7th and we would have to book immediately.

This left us with just a few days to adjust our schedules.  I would have had to adjust my commitments for those dates. I didn’t feel good about it and felt pushed and rushed. The thought of making these changes at this late date didn’t sit well with me as I don’t like making these decisions so quickly.

I reminded Pat that these specials come up all the time and perhaps we could wait for another one  when we would have a little more time to plan. I really didn’t want to disappoint Pat and it was difficult for me to explain my feelings. I wasn’t feeling positive or peaceful about it at all.

Pat was quiet and listened and then said, “I understand your perspective and don’t want to pressure or push you. I will call Dina and tell her we cannot go at this time.” A few minutes later Pat texted  me and said, “I am fine with not going and please don’t feel guilty.”  WOW.  I was very surprised and relieved! What an adult way to accept disappointment.  Pat was gracious about not going and didn’t push the issue.

The next morning when we processed what happened, Pat thanked me for speaking up and following my intuition. She realized that she also had commitments for the weekend that she would have had to cancel.

In past relationships, I would have suffered the consequences and felt guilty that I had let someone down that I loved and cared about. I think I would have been judged that I was being selfish and caring only about my feelings.

One of the wonderful pluses in my relationship with Pat is that we allow and encourage each other to honestly share our feelings, which enables us the freedom and space to make difficult decisions without repercussions. We trust each other that the decision made is for the good of the relationship. I feel very blessed.

The door was closed in our face

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Oct
10

I felt excited when I opened my email early in the morning that read, “Please call me asap.” It was from Dina, the travel agent from the Norwegian Cruise Line. I had spoken to her a few times over the past few months and she knew that we wanted to take another Hawaiian island cruise for our honeymoon. When we went on the cruise for my birthday last year, they gave a considerable discount to Hawaii residents. What we loved about the Hawaiian cruise is that we didn’t have to travel far to get on the ship.

Up until now, they hadn’t offered this discount. It was on that cruise that Larry decided (with the prompting from Spirit) to surprise me and ask me to marry him.

Just the day before receiving this email, I was talking with my friends, Kati and Sally, about the importance of living life to the fullest and not wasting precious time. I said, “I really want to go on another cruise.” There is just something about being on the ocean that feeds my soul. I hadn’t heard from Dina in quite some time.

I called Dina immediately when I read her email. She said, “Pat, are you interested in a 7 day Hawaiian cruise for $599 on October 7-14th? There are only 8 rooms left so you will have to act fast if you want it.” I could hardly get the words out of my mouth, I was so excited and said, “That sounds amazing, can you hold it until I talk to my husband?” She said, “Yes, but don’t take too long, this will go fast.”

I wanted to jump on it and after going within and discussing it with Larry, we were both on board with it. How perfect because we would celebrate my birthday and our honeymoon. I called Dina back within 15 minutes and much to my dismay, she said “The price has already gone up to $899 per person.” She tried everything to get the price back again, but couldn’t, even though she had put a hold on it.

When Larry and I discussed the new price, we decided to wait for another great deal.  Of course, I felt disappointed because I thought this was surely an answer to prayer and I was ready for our second cruise.  I immediately remembered the concept of “open and closed doors” that has been a vital part of  my spiritual journey for many years.  It has been my experience that guidance comes through open and closed doors.

It helps me to let go and surrender to “what is” when I trust that the door has been closed for a reason that only Spirit knows why and it is for my highest good. There have been many times that the door was closed because it wasn’t the right timing and opened at the perfect and right time. It was “in the hallway” that I learned to trust and let go.

I thought I had let it go because I didn’t think about it during the day. However, before I went to bed that night, I decided to go online and see if I could find the $599 deal again, but no luck. While I was on the website, I saw some other cruise deals that might work for us. My juices were flowing!

I called Dina in the morning to check out some other cruises that required traveling to San Francisco to get on the ship. She really felt bad about the new price and said, “I went home last night and looked again. Don’t worry Pat, I will keep looking.”  I laughed and said, “Dina, I am a woman of faith and if it is meant to be, it will be.”

Rather than “allowing” and letting things come to me, I could feel myself pushing, obsessing and trying to make things happen. As I am learning to honor the Love that I am, I don’t push, seek or strive, for these are the old ways of doing things.

The new way is about allowing and accepting “what is” and trusting that all is in divine order. It is about being in the flow without attachment to anything; just allowing things to unfold naturally. This is self-care and self-loving.

I have read that when I love myself, I keep my vibration high and from that, my consciousness expands and from my higher consciousness, my life shifts to peace, ease and grace and miracles happen.

I knew I wasn’t “letting go” because I had lost my peace. I asked Spirit, “Why is it so hard to let go?” Here is what was revealed to me:

  • I am not trusting Spirit that the closed door was for my higher good
  • I think I know what’s best for me
  • I want what I want – NOW
  • I’m impatient
  • I think I have to do it myself and control it
  • I have to make things happen, rather than” allowing” it to happen
  • I don’t want to be HERE right now, I want to be somewhere else

When I realized that I hadn’t let go and was obsessing about going on a cruise, I asked Spirit for help.  When I truly let go, I feel peaceful.  In this moment, I am peaceful because I am choosing to let go and trust in the divine plan for my life.

Although waiting is not my favorite thing to do, I surrender and trust that my Higher Power has a better plan and another door will open at the perfect and right time. I will wait patiently to see what it is.

How about you, is it hard to trust when the door is closed and you have to wait?

 

 

 

 

 

I judged Larry and felt terrible

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Oct
3

My aerobics teacher, Trixi, looked at me in class and said, “Pat is amazing and so are all of you.”  What a nice reminder, but I thought to myself, “What would she say if she knew what I had just struggled with before coming to class?”

I wrote in my journal prior to class, “Can I or will I ever get to the point where I don’t judge others and  am not affected by their behaviors?” I am divine and human and have feelings and opinions so perhaps it’s unrealistic to think I will never judge another person’s behaviors. I do believe that the more conscious I become and the more I love myself, the less judgmental I will be of others.

It is my problem when another person’s behavior disturbs me, whether it’s what they do or don’t do, or what they say or don’t say. Who am I to judge another when I have no idea what the person is suffering or going through.  When someone is rude to me or acts inappropriately in my perspective, instead of shooting off my mouth and lashing out, I want my default to be to SEND THEM LOVE rather than judging them. I am not there yet, but it is where I am striving to be!

When I judge others or my buttons are pushed, I may be projecting my feelings onto them, rather than looking at myself and what’s going on inside of me. I may be accusing another of the very things I have disowned or rejected in myself.  I have learned that when I “spot” something I don’t like in another person, I “got” it and it may very well be a call for SELF-LOVE.

Author Gay Hendricks, writes, “When I don’t or can’t acknowledge my feelings or accept something about myself, it is a sign that deep down, I don’t love myself. You will always find something to complain about, and the people in your life will always seem to be less than perfect, because you think you are less than perfect. Unless you can learn to love yourself, and accept yourself and your feelings, you will never be able to be fully loved by anyone else. 

Hendricks also writes, “Intimate relationships are like temperature gauges for self-love. When you are by yourself, you don’t encounter the typical triggers that would indicate a lack of self-love. But a relationship will stir up our deepest needs and fears. When you possess a full reservoir, you do not require your partner to “fill you up.” If your partner is having a bad day or you have a disagreement, you are able to give yourself the love your partner is unwilling or unable to share at that time.”

I could relate to what Hendricks wrote about relationships are like temperature gauges for self-love. Here is what happened this week:

I judged Larry when he woke up in the morning complaining of stomach cramps. I didn’t say it, but wanted to say, “It’s your own fault, look what you are putting into your body every day. You are eating too many sweets, that is why you have cramps and feel terrible.”

When I realized I was judging Larry, I really felt bad. I prayed and asked Spirit to show me the truth. I didn’t want to admit and acknowledge that I had recently been eating more sweets and instead of looking at what I was doing, I had projected my feelings onto him. Even though it doesn’t feel very good to admit this, I am grateful that Spirit brought this to the light so I can do something about it.

I may not like Larry’s diet, but the truth is what Larry does or doesn’t do, what he eats or doesn’t eat is none of my business. I cannot change anyone but myself.  I am being given an opportunity to love and accept myself. Here is the message from Holy Spirit:

“Don’t beat up on yourself. Learn from it. Love yourself and love your body.  Eat good food as a way of self-care. I will help you when you ask for my help.”

I did ask for help and am pleased to say that the last several days, I have had little cravings for sweets. I had been so busy concentrating on my daily exercise and water intake, that I wasn’t paying attention to what I was eating.

I received this message from a friend today from Science of Mind magazine. “There is an internal help system that I can choose to rely on. When I call out for help, it is my innermost guidance system. In that moment of sweet surrender, HELP stands for Hello Eternal Loving Presence.  

How about you? Is judging another’s behavior a problem for you?  Is judging yourself an indication that more self-love is needed?

As women, we OVER-GIVE

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Sep
19

I thought my receiving “muscle” was strong so I was surprised when Larry asked me, “What do you want for your birthday?” I said, “I don’t know. I have everything I could possibly want and don’t need anything.”

He said, “How about I take you to dinner at Humuhumunukunukuapua’a at the Grand Waleia Hotel? It has just been named the best restaurant on Maui.” I had never been there before and I knew it was a very expensive restaurant. I didn’t respond right away and decided to pray about it because I felt uncomfortable. I didn’t want Larry spending that kind of money on dinner. When I prayed about it the next day, I said, “Spirit, I need guidance because spending that kind of money seems frivolous to me.”

“What is your message Holy Spirit?”

You have difficulty receiving something like this because you are accustomed to bargain shopping and feeling like you got a deal. I want you to open yourself up to receive because there is more to come. This is in preparation to receive more.  It is ok to say yes if this is what Larry wants to do for you and what you want to do for your birthday. He wants you to know how special you are and how much he loves you. 

“But Spirit, I would rather go out to dinner three times than spend it in one place.”

“That’s because you don’t believe there will be enough so you have to save it for a rainy day. That is an old belief that doesn’t serve you anymore. There is more than enough.  Allow him to give you this gift and be open to receive.” 

“I feel guilty God because I could give that money to someone who really needs it. What is that about?”

“It is an old belief that you don’t deserve to be treated in this special way. This no longer serves you and, in fact, blocks what I am doing in your life.  It is good for you to celebrate your birthday in a fine dining restaurant. There is more to come and you must be open to receive. Remember this is my money.” 

I understand there is no right or wrong way of doing what I want to do. If I want to go to 3 different restaurants and be thrifty instead of spending it all in one place, that is ok too. I am grateful Spirit brought to light the old beliefs about money (lack, not enough, not deserving) that no longer serve me. I am now open to RECEIVE only good and the riches of the kingdom, which is my birthright. I haven’t made up my mind yet what I want to do, but I know whatever it is, it will be a great birthday. The most important thing is to know that I am loved and cherished by my husband. 

In the book “One with God” the author, Margie Tyler writes, “Every day is an opportunity to RECEIVE something new. You are experiencing this expansion and are now willing to acknowledge that love exists in you and as you. OPENING ONESELF TO RECEIVE LOVE IS THE BIGGEST TASK IN LIFE. Once you’re open, the world expands exponentially and the love becomes all-inclusive. Everyone and everything is joined in that love.”

Do we deprive others of the joy of giving to us when we are unable to receive? When we are unable to receive, we block others from giving us love.

I believe that the more I love and appreciate myself, the more I can RECEIVE love from another. We are not CAPABLE of receiving love from another if we haven’t learned to love ourselves. Sure, I have experienced love from another when I didn’t love myself, but it was never enough. It wasn’t until I gave myself self-love that I was capable of RECEIVING the deep love I craved from another.  It all begins and ends with me as I awaken and come home to myself in my body, mind and spirit.

As women, we know how to give. We know how to over-give. But we have no idea how to RECEIVE. We have a serious crimp in our receiving hose.  In the past, when my ego was running the show, I unconsciously blocked love from coming in because of not feeling deserving or worthy. I believe that the more I open myself to RECEIVE love, the more I can give LOVE.

MY HEART OPENS TO ALLOW MY DEEPEST GOOD – Julia Cameron, author of Artists Way

“Acceptance, openness, allowing are the keys to manifestation. I do not need to will my good. I need to accept my good. I do not need to will my being loved. I need only accept my being loved. I open my heart to accept and allow the good which I desire. I am in God and God is in me. As I yearn for God, I yearn for my own true nature. As I ask God to fulfill me, I ask that I fulfill myself. There is no distance, no need to please or cajole, whimper or manipulate. It is the pleasure of the entire Universe to expand as it desires. My desires are the desires of the Universe. They are fulfilled by the Universe acting through me, toward me.”

 

 

I heard the crash and came running in

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Sep
8

What I appreciate about my relationship with Larry is how we both take responsibility for our behavior and actions. We have a lot in common and are both pretty easy going and have learned to go with the flow. We respect and support each other’s needs and what is important to each of us.

Larry and I love being retired. He does what he wants to do during the day and I do what I want to do and we come together at night to relax and share about the day.  We take day trips and go out to breakfast and lunch often. We dance, pray, play and are writing our book together.  He likes to stay home more than I do and I like to play with the girls. I like my quiet time and have my “Pat” days when I want to. In other words, we give each other FREEDOM to do what is important to each of us. It works for us as we are creating a “conscious” love relationship and are enjoying the “fruits of our labor” with Spirit. We are remembering that we are all ONE and connected and there is only LOVE.

But we do have a major difference that we are working on as we want to be respectful of one another. We know that neither one of us is right or wrong, just different perspectives. I like “stuff” which he thinks is “clutter.” I have candles and flowers and pretty things around. He has been great with giving me the freedom to decorate the way I want to because it didn’t seem to matter to him. Larry is more of a “minimalist” and prefers not to have things around, especially in the kitchen. Perhaps because he was in the catering business for so many years, he likes things the way he likes them and I try to be sensitive to that.

When I moved into our current home 3 ½ years ago, it was fully furnished and I had my own stuff that I had accumulated. When Larry moved in 2 ½ years ago, he brought his stuff. There is little storage room in our home and things got stuffed into the kitchen cabinets. I managed to organize it so everything was in its place, or so I thought it was organized and in its place!

It all came to a head when I heard the “crash” of glass in the kitchen. I came running in from outside to see what happened. There was glass all over the floor and counters. Larry was very upset and yelled, “I am so f………frustrated with this clutter.” I had never seen him so angry and it scared me. He is usually very calm.

Instead of staying there and helping him clean up the glass which I would have done in the past to make everything ok, I immediately went back outside to calm myself down. I am grateful that I had the presence of mind to keep my mouth shut and not argue. I sat outside praying and feeling my feelings.

When I came in from outside an hour later, I went into the room to discuss what happened. Larry said, “I have a letter to write on my computer and left the room.” I assumed he wasn’t ready to talk about what happened. I went to the other bedroom and read and prayed.

What upset me, other than the fact that he was so angry, is that I didn’t have any idea that he felt so frustrated and strongly about the “clutter” as he called it.  I wasn’t willing to take responsibility for something I didn’t know about. He had a responsibility to “lovingly” share with me things that were bothering him. An hour later, he came into the room and kind of apologized, but minimized what happened and said, “I don’t want to make a big deal out of this.”

It was a big deal because I had never seen him like that and he scared the S…. out of me. I also wondered if there were other things that bothered him that he wasn’t talking about.

The next morning when we talked about it, Larry said, “I didn’t realize how much the kitchen cabinets bothered me until the glass shattered all over the place. I don’t want to complain about everything, so I usually just ignore things.” I was quiet and listened to him as he shared his perspective.

He admitted that he was lazy and could have done something about the cabinets if he didn’t like them or he could have talked to me about them before he exploded. I admitted that I was also lazy and instead of taking things out that we weren’t using, I kept finding space for them. He agreed to pay attention to when something is bothering him and to let me know and not ignore it. I agreed to not put anything in the closet unless I take something out.

It is my belief that Spirit uses everything for our highest good. Since the “crash” there is a fire under my butt to clean out other closets that have things stuffed into them.  It really feels lighter.

Larry

We had an opportunity to address a situation that we both had different perspectives on.  Pat loves paintings and pictures and there isn’t much room on our walls for any more pictures or paintings.  She also loves likes rocks, crystals, statues, and flowers.  She receives great satisfaction and peace from having all these things around.  She loves to go out Saturday mornings to garage sales to find treasures.  I am fine with that and encourage her to go and have fun.

This week, I realized I wasn’t fine with it after the bowl crashed on the counter.  We have little storage space and trying to fit two households into the cabinets is pretty difficult to do.  Our kitchen cabinets are packed jam full of plates, bowl, cups, and glasses.

I had just gotten up from a late nap and was still kind of groggy. When I opened a kitchen cabinet door and reached for a bowl, a dish fell out and crashed into a million pieces on the counter. I was shocked and frightened.  My comfort level went from a calm level of zero to an alarmed level of 1000.  I yelled “I can’t stand all this  #!# *! clutter anymore.” I was angry and didn’t like being startled like that. I proceeded to clean up the mess and started to calm down.  I knew I needed to be alone for awhile. Pat had never seen me this angry so it was upsetting and scary for her.

As I took time to think about what happened, I realized that I wasn’t upset with Pat, but I was upset with myself.  I take care of placing all the cups, glasses, plates back into the cabinets because the cabinets are high and it’s easier for me to reach than it is for Pat. I have been living under these circumstances for more than 2 1/2 years and wondered why I didn’t do something about it up until now?  The truth is it wasn’t important enough and I was just too lazy to do or say anything about it.

Pat encouraged me to speak up when things bother me, rather than let them build up and then explode. I really didn’t know it was bothering me until the crash. I work at being flexible and not complaining. I agreed to do that rather than seeing it as complaining.

The next morning we discussed what happened and what we could do to resolve it. I had the idea to buy some big plastic bins and put the things we are not using into them. We spent the morning going through the cabinets and cleaning them out.  Sometimes I’m not the “brightest bulb in the package” because I never even thought of doing this until now. The lesson learned is to pay attention if something is bothering me, rather than ignore it and do something before I blow my cool. I’ll do better the next time. Pat agreed to not put anything new in the kitchen cabinet unless she takes something out.

In the past, I would have really beaten up on myself. I didn’t do that and was able to take responsibility for my actions and move on.

I was so excited about giving

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Aug
29

About 4 months ago, my friend, Karen, was inspired to start “Miracle Monday” called the 111 Project on Facebook ( http://createheaven.com/), I called Karen immediately and told her that I wanted to be a part of it because I knew it was inspired by Spirit. It spoke to my heart, and I decided to pray about it to see how Spirit wanted me to be involved.

Here is a brief description of the 111Project

“Have you been concerned and uncertain about what’s happening? When everything seems so chaotic, how many times have you asked, what can I do? Maybe the inspiration of this 111 Project will guide you to the answer. This 111 Project supports you in the opportunity to heal yourself, heal others, and create the change you are seeking. So, are you ready to take a big leap into greater love and share in miracles with others? This is an invitation to the 111 Project and to join many others in the intention to heal all, including you, from the suffering of separateness and to wake up together and remember that we are all one and the return to love is essential for our happiness and world peace.

Every time I read about what others were doing on Facebook with the 111 Project, I cringed because I wasn’t doing anything, even though I said I wanted to be a part of it. In all honesty, I had some fear about making a financial commitment every week for a year. Once I made the commitment to contribute a few weeks ago, I trusted Spirit would guide me as to where to send my contribution each week.

I trust in divine timing and after praying about it, I made the commitment to contribute $33 a week to a worthy cause for one year. This is my fourth week and I look forward to “Miracle Monday” and being guided where to contribute my money. It is a great experience to feel like I am doing something to heal the separation and heal myself from fear.  The first 3 weeks were easy. I sent it to You Caring (group empowering single woman who were homeless), No Child Hungry and Maui Food Bank.                 .

I would like to share what happened this week:

Spirit put it on my heart to go to the ladies room at McDonald’s, (where many of the homeless in our community spend time) and leave my contribution.  On the morning of “Miracle Monday”, I went to the bank to get 33 one dollar bills. I had a card all ready to put the money in when I realized I forgot the card at home.  I heard Spirit say, “The person that I want to receive this is not there today, so bring it back tomorrow.” I began to pray for the person who would receive my contribution and that they would be open to receiving God’s love.

The message that I wrote in the card said, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and rely not on your own understanding.” I also wrote, “God has your back and don’t give up.” On the outside of the envelope I wrote “PLEASE TAKE – FOR SOMEONE WHO NEEDS IT.”

When I arrived at the McDonald’s the next day, I bought an iced coffee and sat down at a table. I then went to the ladies room and taped the envelope to the mirror and left the bathroom. I just kept praying for the person who God wanted to bless. Over the course of 15 minutes, I watched 4 women go into the bathroom and had no idea who or if anyone would take the envelope. I looked at their faces as they left the bathroom, but saw no indication that they were the one who needed it.

When I finished my drink, I went back into the ladies room and the envelope was gone. I felt excited and said, “YEA” as my Spirit soared. I trusted that the woman who received the contribution knew she was not alone and loved by God.

I was detached from the outcome and didn’t have to know who the woman was who received it. All I knew was that I was guided to Mc Donald’s at the perfect and right time. When we give, we have no idea how our actions will benefit another human being.

I remember thirty-five years ago when I received a card in the mail with a $10 bill in it. I stepped out in faith and bought a blouse that was $10 when I heard the small, still voice of God say, “Buy it and I will provide.” Immediately after hearing the voice, I returned home and found the card and a $10 bill in my mailbox. To this day, I have no idea where the money came from. I still tell the story whenever I can and get the same reaction every time. God is good!

Please consider checking out the 111 Project on Facebook and join in healing the separation and knowing we are all ONE. Thank you Karen for saying yes to Spirit and birthing the 111 Project into the Universe.

It broke my heart and I was miserable

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Aug
19

No matter what is going on around me and no matter how many people I love are suffering, I believe it is my responsibility to keep my love vibration/energy high. I am responsible for my own peace, joy and happiness. I do this by practicing gratitude, surrendering to “what is” and trusting in God’s love and plan for my life and the life of my loved ones.

Michael Singer writes in his book “The Untethered Soul” about the path of Unconditional Happiness.

“We have one choice in life and that is: Do I want to be happy or do I not want to be happy? Once you have made that choice, your path through life becomes really clear. This is truly a spiritual path, and it is as direct and sure a path to Awakening as possibly could exist. When everything is going well, it is easy to be happy. But the moment something difficult happens, it’s not so easy. Things are going to happen. The real question is whether you want to be happy regardless of what happens. 

The purpose of your life is to enjoy and learn from your experiences. You were not put on earth to suffer. You are not helping anyone by being miserable. You gain nothing by being bothered by life’s events. It doesn’t change the world; you just suffer. Events don’t determine whether or not you are going to be happy. You determine whether or not you are going to be happy. If you can live this way, your heart will be so open and your Spirit will be so free, that you will soar up to the heavens.” 

It is my belief that everything happens for a reason and that I attract everything into my life for my highest good. Especially when I don’t understand what’s going on and it may not look like it’s for my highest good, my faith journey teaches me to trust in the power and energy of Love to guide and protect me.

It is not always easy to be grateful and trust as I look around the world and see what’s going on. Fear and worry can take over, if I allow it. I know people are stressed and there is a lot of suffering going on. Two of my close girlfriends are battling cancer and another friend just experienced a tragic loss in her family.

A very good friend of mine, Linda, recently fell and hit her head. She was in intensive care and had surgery on spine and has pins in her neck. She is in excruciating pain and has a very long rehab. recovery ahead of her.

As you can imagine, my heart was broken when I heard about it. I couldn’t understand how this could be for her highest good and I was very sad and miserable.  All I could do was pray and connect with her heart and send her love (which is the very best thing I could do). Linda is a woman of faith and will not give up. She is determined to heal and trust God. I see Linda healed and whole and I am expecting a miracle for her. Please join me and pray for Linda’s complete recovery.

I have had the privilege of walking Linda’s journey with her as her Spiritual Coach for eight years. Linda is the author of “Voices of the Heart” and is in the process of producing a movie about her life. She KNOWS in her heart that this is God’s plan despite the ups and downs of producing a movie. She not only talks the talk, but walks the walk. It is her passion to inspire and change lives through her message to be grateful and live life to the fullest.

I am not helping myself or Linda by staying miserable and worrying about her. Of course, I have compassion and love and will continue to pray and send her love and trust in God’s mercy.

I remember Michael Singer’s words. “You were not put on earth to suffer. You are not helping anyone by being miserable. You gain nothing by being bothered by life’s events. It doesn’t change the world; you just suffer.”

“You cannot get sick enough to help sick people get better. You cannot get poor enough to help poor people thrive. It is only in your THRIVING that you have anything to offer anyone. If you want to be of an ADVANTAGE to others, be as tapped in, turned in, turned on as you can possibly be.”  Abraham 

How about you? Is there someone in your life who you are worried about? Have you made the choice to be HAPPY no matter what the circumstances are around you or do you cave in when things happen in your outside world that upset you? The spiritual life is not for the faint of heart. Living in gratitude, accepting “what is”, and trusting the energy and light of Love are spiritual tools that will keep your energy/vibration high. It is there that we will be the light for others and be vessels of love.

 

Our 2nd RI wedding

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Jul
10

By the time you receive this, we will be flying over the ocean to Rhode Island for our 2nd wedding/reception with our family and friends. My son, Tim, who has performed weddings in the past will be the officiate and renew our wedding vows of 2 months!!! Larry’s response was “I want to make sure it takes.” Here is a blessing for our wedding.

BLESSING OF THE HANDS

Please face each other and take each other’s hands so that you may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend, strong and full of love for you. They are holding yours today as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.

These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as you you continue your future together.

These are the hands that will passionately love and cherish you through the years and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you when you fear or grief fills your mind.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will give your strength when you need it, support and encouragement to pursue your dreams, and comfort you in difficult times.

Most importantly, always remember that these are God’s hands loving you.

And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness and love with just a touch.   

I am very excited to see my children, grandchildren, cousins and old friends and colleagues who will be joining us to celebrate our love. Larry’s brother and sister-in-law and 2 sons and his grandson will be with us too. The wedding/reception is at my daughter, Mary’s, farm. She is putting up a tent and lights and, of course, there will be dancing. Our children have never met so we are looking forward to them meeting one another.

We are also having our annual family reunion the next day, which is always a lot of fun. My son, Jimmy, and daughter-in-law, Lara, are expecting their second baby so we will be welcoming him into our family. Lara is due on July 20th and we are hoping our new grandson will make his entrance into the world early so we can meet him when we are there.

I feel so blessed to have such wonderful friends and a family that is so loving and supportive. My son, Brian’s, significant other, Traci, has offered to make quite a bit of the food (she is a great cook) which is a huge help. Brian is picking up the plates, glasses and tablecloths that we rented for the day. Brian said, “Mom, don’t worry about anything, I will take care of it.” Friends are bringing appetizers and salads. Oh happy day!!!! Another wedding and reception. How much better does it get than this?

Traveling to Rhode Island with jet lag and being “on the go” for 2 weeks visiting friends and family can be challenging when you are used to a rather quiet life on Maui (and naps when we need them). Larry and I decided to make a list of how we envision the trip and what we will be practicing.

  • We will leave our “complain brain” at home
  • We will live in the moment – not the past or the future
  • We will accept whatever happens as being for our highest good
  • We will see everything as an opportunity, rather than a problem
  • We will stay open to the energy and light of love
  • We will practice an attitude of gratitude
  • We will not allow fear to come near and if it does, we will kick fear in the rear

I will not be writing for the next 2 weeks and I look forward to sharing with you our adventure in Rhode Island when we return. I trust that everything will flow with peace, ease and grace.

 

Oprah on Maui

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Jul
5

To think I live on Maui where Oprah Winfrey lives is beyond my comprehension. She lives up the mountain in beautiful Haku on a sprawling ranch and organic farm. I have walked on her street and could see her home from a distance. Although I have been living on Maui for 5 ½ years now, I haven’t seen her until yesterday. I was one of the 5,000 people that were blessed to hear her speak at the MACC (Maui Arts & Cultural Center) and it was very exciting as it has always been my dream to see her for as long as I can remember.

Yesterday, she made her first public appearance since moving to Maui in 2002. She shared her philosophy for healthy living and living your best life. She began her talk with humor and said, “I am not sure how to give health and well-being tips to people who already live in the best place in the world. What do I look like trying to tell you all who had the sense enough to move here, live here, raise your families how to live your best life? I could take a few lessons from you.” Of course, the audience went crazy and cheered her on.

She shared that one of her practices that has been vital to her well-being is learning to express gratitude. Every day she journals at least 5 things she is grateful for. She said, “I know so many people who are in that race to have more, be more, do more and they are never content. Live in the space of contentment for where you are, especially if, it really isn’t where you want to be right now.

She shared the importance of knowing what your intention is in everything you do. She admits to having the “Disease to Please” at one time in her life. She learned that the outcome to everything you do is determined by the energy of your motivation and intention. The key for living your best life is to align your personality with what your soul came here to do to in service to something bigger than yourself.

What a thrill to be in Oprah’s presence and energy. She was so authentic and real. I could see myself

sitting with her and having a cup of tea and feeling very comfortable. There was a whole section of VIP seats right in front of the stage that were empty when we arrived. About an hour before Oprah came on the stage, they opened the seats up to the public and my friends, Kati and Juane, scurried to our new VIP seats directly in front of Oprah.

When Spirit put it on our hearts that Larry and I were to write a book together, he said to me out of the clear blue, “I have something to tell you.” I said, “What is that?” He said, “Oprah is going to read our book and promote it.” Truly, I had forgotten that was my dream when I wrote “Simply a Woman of Faith.” I certainly am getting closer living on Maui where she lives for that to happen.

When my son, Tim, heard that I was going to see Oprah, he wrote and said, “Mom, throw your book on the stage for her. I did have my book with me in my purse but no way was I going to throw the book on the stage. I didn’t want that much attention and didn’t want to be thrown out

The next day, I started to think about how I could meet her or get her address to send her a note introducing myself to her and sharing our “love story.” Spirit stopped me in my tracks! I realized that was the old paradigm of making things happen and trying to push my way around.

Today, I practice trusting, allowing and surrendering that if we are meant to meet Oprah, it will happen organically and naturally. When I surrender and “show up” for life, miracles happen all the time. I am always in awe of how the Universe has everything planned for my highest good.

Of course, I will visualize Larry and me meeting Oprah and giving her our new book when it is completed. When I told, Lisa Tener, the editor of “Simply a Woman of Faith”, that I had seen Oprah and that Larry and I were writing a book together she wrote back and said, “I am envisioning you getting to know Oprah personally. I can see it!! This is exciting that you are writing a book together. Is it about love?” I wrote back and said, “Yes, it is about Conscious Loving and the sequel to “Simply a Woman of Faith.”

My daughter, Mary, and my grandson, Herbie, are coming to stay with us for 6 weeks in February. Mary plans on volunteering on organic farms and offering her 6 weeks Herbal program that has been very successful in Rhode Island. Wouldn’t that be something if she had the opportunity to work on Oprah’s organic farm! Like her mother, Mary is a woman of faith.

Miracles happen all the time when we believe. I have a picture of Oprah on my refrigerator. Will you please visualize with me that if this is God’s will for us, it will happen with peace, ease and grace. Thank you.

I crashed after the wedding

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Jun
23

I have to admit I am a recovering “RUSHAHOLIC, BUSYAHOLIC AND DOAHOLIC.” I have to be honest and admit I had a RELAPSE. I felt irritable, restless, tired and nothing seemed to satisfy me. I had lost my peace and didn’t know how, why or what to do about it, at first.

These are old behaviors that no longer serve me or make me feel good about myself. For much of my life, when I was doing, achieving, pleasing others and trying to make things happen in my life, I felt a sense of control and power. Today, I know these behaviors will make me sick. When I had a to-do list and crossed things off, I felt worthy of love. I enjoyed being busy because I felt like I was valuable when I was achieving and accomplishing so much. Have you ever felt like this?

Some of the signs of a DOAHOLIC are that you fill your calendar with things to do and tasks to complete. Your “free time” must be used effectively or you feel guilty or selfish. You are unable to RELAX and do nothing. With any addiction, it is because we try to avoid our feelings rather than go within and deal with them. I stayed busy because I didn’t want to feel the pain inside of me such as unworthiness, inadequacy, fear, shame and not being good enough.

I know today that these behaviors are ego-generated and fear based and not the truth of who I am or what God wants for me in my life. You may not be a DOAHOLIC, BUSYAHOLIC OR RUSHAHOLIC. You may suffer from being a FOODAHOLIC, WORKAHOLIC, ALCOHOLIC, GAMBLAHOLIC, or SHOPAHOLIC. The list is endless.

Unfortunately, this “pattern of energy” of always having to do more, look good and be more left me exhausted and unfulfilled because I never felt like I was doing enough. Can you relate?

My life is different today. Instead of pushing, achieving and making things happen, I am learning to allow and surrender to the Love within me to guide me. I am practicing “living in the moment” and letting go of worry and fear. I know that Love is all there is and everything else is just a dream. Today I proclaim to be a “PEACEAHOLIC.”

Peace is very important to me and my daily prayer and intention is to be peaceful, to love and to serve. I don’t like it when I lose my peace and I am restless or irritable, especially with Larry. I want to fix it and change it and I have a difficult time “accepting what is.”

As I said, I had a relapse to old behaviors of BUSYNESS AND DOING. I prayed and asked God for help. Here is what happened this week:

I felt tired, restless and irritable and couldn’t figure out why. I felt some guilt and shame because I thought I SHOULD be blissful and happy because we were just married and my dream had come true. At first, I felt embarrassed and didn’t want to admit it or talk about it.

I decided to Google “after wedding crash.” Sure enough, there were many articles to read and this was very REAL After the high and excitement of the wedding, all of the energy put out with planning, decision making and the attention I received, of course, there would be a crash and a feeling of “Now what.” I missed the DOING and excitement of the high! It felt just like the addict who puts the needle in his arm to get a high. I then realized I was in withdrawal.

The first step for me was asking for help from Spirit. The second step was admitting that I had relapsed to old behaviors and that I had these feelings. The third step was to be honest and share them with Larry. Of course, Larry was so loving, understanding and compassionate. He encouraged me to rest and relax and not do anything to push myself. I listened and spent the day resting, relaxing and loving myself. It is amazing how quickly I moved through it and am back to the truth of who I am as a Divine being. I am valuable and lovable and don’t need to prove myself or achieve anything to be loved.

It is easy to relapse to old behaviors or addictions, whether it be to food, doing, alcohol or shopping. The important thing is to not beat up on ourselves and stay there. We need to be loving, compassionate and forgiving toward ourselves.

I had lost my peace and recognized something was off and I didn’t feel in my center. I want balance and peace in my life. Because I am vigilant and “go within” for my answers in daily prayer and meditation, this only lasted for a couple of days. I am grateful to Spirit for the love in my life and the vessel of love I am being called to be in the world.

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