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All there is is LOVE

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Nov
13

Have you ever experienced a “shift” in yourself and you have no idea how or why it happened? You may have struggled your whole life with something and then it seems like suddenly, the struggle is gone and you are FREE.

I know it must be God’s grace when that happens. What else could it be?

I have struggled all my life with my weight and being obsessed with getting on the scale, even though I was never really overweight.  As I look back over the years, it seems like I tried every kind of fad diet around. I always wanted to be thinner than I was. When I lost weight, I felt good about myself and when I gained weight, I didn’t feel good about myself. I constantly compared myself to others and how thin they were.

When I was about 12 years old, every week I accompanied my mother to the doctor and was prescribed diet pills. As sick as this sounds, it almost felt like a bonding experience. The sad part was that I was not overweight and have no idea why my mother thought I needed diet pills. That went on for several years and I remember driving to the doctor to get my own diet pills when I was 17 years old. It is truly a miracle and I am grateful that I never became addicted to the pills and stopped using them on my own.

So here it is 60 years later and I was still struggling with body image and getting on the scale. Even though I understood intellectually that it came from being prescribed diet pills at a young age, I couldn’t seem to move beyond it. It was like I needed to be a certain weight to feel loved and valued.

It didn’t matter that I now had a husband who loved my body just as it was. I prayed and meditated and affirmed that I loved my body just as it was. Despite this, every few days I found myself needing to get on the scale and it was always the same feelings. If I gained 2 or 3 pounds, I didn’t feel good about myself and if I lost 2-3 pounds, I felt good about myself. It felt like a vicious cycle that I just couldn’t break no matter what I did.

I didn’t want to be attached or obsessed with being the perfect weight, but didn’t know what to do about it other than pray and ask for help. I came to a place of acceptance (even though I didn’t like it) that this was something I would struggle with for the rest of my life.

I don’t know what happened or how it happened (other than God’s grace), but I no longer have the need to get on the scale and see how much I weigh. I now know that the number on the scale is just a number and has nothing to do with my self-worth or how lovable I am.

I can’t tell you how FREE I feel after all of these years of struggling and not feeling thin enough or good enough.   The only way I can describe my new attitude is that “IT DOESN’T MATTER ANYMORE.”  When you have struggled with something for almost all your life and made it so important and now it doesn’t matter, it is a tremendous relief.

I can see this attitude of “IT DOESN’T MATTER ANYMORE” seeping into other areas of my life. I am not taking things personally and am able to let things roll off my shoulders more easily. I am able to recognize my ego thoughts more quickly and see the truth. I love my new attitude! There is so much that doesn’t matter that I have made matter during my lifetime. I have given my power away and lost my peace by wanting to please everyone and wanting to be perfect.

As I reflected on this, I would like to share what DOES MATTER TO ME. My relationship with Spirit is number 1 and to know that I am in alignment with God’s will and am a vessel of love in all of my relationships every day is what matters.  I want to remember that I am Love and that Love is all there is.  I want to remember that I am ONE with God and there is no separation. I want to remember that I am always guided and protected when I trust and surrender.

Love wants us to be free, to love ourselves just as we are (with all our imperfections). I am grateful that I didn’t give up and kept trusting in the power of Love to heal me and free me.  Is there an area in your life that you need God’s grace to heal and free you?

 

 

 

 

RUN as fast as you can

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Oct
10

Pat

I had an amazing birthday week of RECEIVING love from family and friends; breakfast, lunch and dinners out. I received calls from friends, (as far as Bermuda) and received many cards and gifts. I opened my heart to receive love and indeed, I did. Larry and I went to dinner at Humuhumu restaurant and I felt like his queen when he put the beautiful flower lei over my head before we left. It was quite an experience that I will cherish and never forget.

If I couldn’t be on the ocean in a cruise ship for my birthday, I wanted to FLY over the ocean. Four years ago on my birthday, I went paragliding and wanted to do it again for my birthday this year. Paragliding 6,500 feet over the ocean was breathtaking and I felt free and like a bird flying in the sky. I was called a “student pilot” and the pilot sat behind me maneuvering the glider. After the pilot, Paul, strapped me all in, he gave me instructions on what to do. He said, “It is very important to RUN as fast as you can, don’t sit down or hold the bars until I tell you and we are up in the air.”  When we are ready to take off and the wind is just right, I’ll give you the ok.

I am grateful that two of the other instructors assisted and ran along the side of me to help me get off the ground when Paul gave us the ok. The only problem was that my feet wouldn’t touch the ground and I couldn’t RUN. I started to scream, “My feet don’t touch the ground.”  I was suspended in the air for a few seconds and had to sit. Before I knew it, we were flying over the side of the volcano and into the clouds over the ocean.

As I reflected on this experience afterwards, it felt like there were 2 angels on the side of me helping me get off the ground so I could fly.  Angels (although sometimes invisible) are always there to lift us up when we don’t think we can do it or when we are unable to do it like I was because my feet couldn’t touch the ground.

I not only wanted the paragliding to be a “fun” and empowering experience, but I also wanted it to be a spiritual one and to go higher and higher with God. While in prayer, I wrote out a list of things that I wanted to let go of that no longer served me and I wrote a list of what I wanted to receive. When I was ready to let it go, I put my arm out and released the paper into the air. It really felt liberating.

I also went parasailing a few days later with my friend, Margie, whose birthday was a day before mine. We truly were ONE with one another and ONE with God as we glided through the air into the clouds and sky. It was a magical, magnificent experience and I felt close to God and the angels. It was a perfect day as I experienced the peace and presence of God within.

I was literally “lifted up” above the earth so I could remember who I am and where I came from. I am LOVE and I am not separate from God. God and I are ONE and I am ONE with everyone and everything. This is my truth and knowing that there is only LOVE.

We are all being invited to awaken and “remember” who you are and that there is only love and that everything we need is within.  We no longer have to look outside of ourselves for external validation because we have enough self-love to give it to ourselves. At this time in our world, I believe we are being “shaken up to waken up.”

You don’t have to paraglide or parasail to fly higher with God. Let the angels help you. In order to fly higher, you must be willing to let go of what no longer serves you;  drama, complaining, worrying, fears, comparing, not enoughness, judgments, disappointments, ego, jealousy, expectations, unforgiveness and resentments.

God is all there is and it’s about letting go, surrendering and trusting God is in control and has a perfect plan for our lives, and when we ask for His help, He will lift us up above the battleground of this world to experience his loving peace and presence.

Larry

My sweet wife, Pat, loves to go on cruises and checks them out with hopes of going on another one.  She shared in a past blog that the travel agent, Dina, had called with a special deal that we said yes to. When we called back to book it, it was no longer the price we were quoted so we decided to wait for another special deal.

Last Friday, I received an excited phone call from Pat informing me that she had just heard from, Dina, the cruise consultant with the same great price cruise as the one from a few weeks ago. Pat was ready to book it and explained that the cruise was leaving on Saturday, October 7th and we would have to book immediately.

This left us with just a few days to adjust our schedules.  I would have had to adjust my commitments for those dates. I didn’t feel good about it and felt pushed and rushed. The thought of making these changes at this late date didn’t sit well with me as I don’t like making these decisions so quickly.

I reminded Pat that these specials come up all the time and perhaps we could wait for another one  when we would have a little more time to plan. I really didn’t want to disappoint Pat and it was difficult for me to explain my feelings. I wasn’t feeling positive or peaceful about it at all.

Pat was quiet and listened and then said, “I understand your perspective and don’t want to pressure or push you. I will call Dina and tell her we cannot go at this time.” A few minutes later Pat texted  me and said, “I am fine with not going and please don’t feel guilty.”  WOW.  I was very surprised and relieved! What an adult way to accept disappointment.  Pat was gracious about not going and didn’t push the issue.

The next morning when we processed what happened, Pat thanked me for speaking up and following my intuition. She realized that she also had commitments for the weekend that she would have had to cancel.

In past relationships, I would have suffered the consequences and felt guilty that I had let someone down that I loved and cared about. I think I would have been judged that I was being selfish and caring only about my feelings.

One of the wonderful pluses in my relationship with Pat is that we allow and encourage each other to honestly share our feelings, which enables us the freedom and space to make difficult decisions without repercussions. We trust each other that the decision made is for the good of the relationship. I feel very blessed.

I was so excited about giving

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Aug
29

About 4 months ago, my friend, Karen, was inspired to start “Miracle Monday” called the 111 Project on Facebook ( http://createheaven.com/), I called Karen immediately and told her that I wanted to be a part of it because I knew it was inspired by Spirit. It spoke to my heart, and I decided to pray about it to see how Spirit wanted me to be involved.

Here is a brief description of the 111Project

“Have you been concerned and uncertain about what’s happening? When everything seems so chaotic, how many times have you asked, what can I do? Maybe the inspiration of this 111 Project will guide you to the answer. This 111 Project supports you in the opportunity to heal yourself, heal others, and create the change you are seeking. So, are you ready to take a big leap into greater love and share in miracles with others? This is an invitation to the 111 Project and to join many others in the intention to heal all, including you, from the suffering of separateness and to wake up together and remember that we are all one and the return to love is essential for our happiness and world peace.

Every time I read about what others were doing on Facebook with the 111 Project, I cringed because I wasn’t doing anything, even though I said I wanted to be a part of it. In all honesty, I had some fear about making a financial commitment every week for a year. Once I made the commitment to contribute a few weeks ago, I trusted Spirit would guide me as to where to send my contribution each week.

I trust in divine timing and after praying about it, I made the commitment to contribute $33 a week to a worthy cause for one year. This is my fourth week and I look forward to “Miracle Monday” and being guided where to contribute my money. It is a great experience to feel like I am doing something to heal the separation and heal myself from fear.  The first 3 weeks were easy. I sent it to You Caring (group empowering single woman who were homeless), No Child Hungry and Maui Food Bank.                 .

I would like to share what happened this week:

Spirit put it on my heart to go to the ladies room at McDonald’s, (where many of the homeless in our community spend time) and leave my contribution.  On the morning of “Miracle Monday”, I went to the bank to get 33 one dollar bills. I had a card all ready to put the money in when I realized I forgot the card at home.  I heard Spirit say, “The person that I want to receive this is not there today, so bring it back tomorrow.” I began to pray for the person who would receive my contribution and that they would be open to receiving God’s love.

The message that I wrote in the card said, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and rely not on your own understanding.” I also wrote, “God has your back and don’t give up.” On the outside of the envelope I wrote “PLEASE TAKE – FOR SOMEONE WHO NEEDS IT.”

When I arrived at the McDonald’s the next day, I bought an iced coffee and sat down at a table. I then went to the ladies room and taped the envelope to the mirror and left the bathroom. I just kept praying for the person who God wanted to bless. Over the course of 15 minutes, I watched 4 women go into the bathroom and had no idea who or if anyone would take the envelope. I looked at their faces as they left the bathroom, but saw no indication that they were the one who needed it.

When I finished my drink, I went back into the ladies room and the envelope was gone. I felt excited and said, “YEA” as my Spirit soared. I trusted that the woman who received the contribution knew she was not alone and loved by God.

I was detached from the outcome and didn’t have to know who the woman was who received it. All I knew was that I was guided to Mc Donald’s at the perfect and right time. When we give, we have no idea how our actions will benefit another human being.

I remember thirty-five years ago when I received a card in the mail with a $10 bill in it. I stepped out in faith and bought a blouse that was $10 when I heard the small, still voice of God say, “Buy it and I will provide.” Immediately after hearing the voice, I returned home and found the card and a $10 bill in my mailbox. To this day, I have no idea where the money came from. I still tell the story whenever I can and get the same reaction every time. God is good!

Please consider checking out the 111 Project on Facebook and join in healing the separation and knowing we are all ONE. Thank you Karen for saying yes to Spirit and birthing the 111 Project into the Universe.

It broke my heart and I was miserable

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Aug
19

No matter what is going on around me and no matter how many people I love are suffering, I believe it is my responsibility to keep my love vibration/energy high. I am responsible for my own peace, joy and happiness. I do this by practicing gratitude, surrendering to “what is” and trusting in God’s love and plan for my life and the life of my loved ones.

Michael Singer writes in his book “The Untethered Soul” about the path of Unconditional Happiness.

“We have one choice in life and that is: Do I want to be happy or do I not want to be happy? Once you have made that choice, your path through life becomes really clear. This is truly a spiritual path, and it is as direct and sure a path to Awakening as possibly could exist. When everything is going well, it is easy to be happy. But the moment something difficult happens, it’s not so easy. Things are going to happen. The real question is whether you want to be happy regardless of what happens. 

The purpose of your life is to enjoy and learn from your experiences. You were not put on earth to suffer. You are not helping anyone by being miserable. You gain nothing by being bothered by life’s events. It doesn’t change the world; you just suffer. Events don’t determine whether or not you are going to be happy. You determine whether or not you are going to be happy. If you can live this way, your heart will be so open and your Spirit will be so free, that you will soar up to the heavens.” 

It is my belief that everything happens for a reason and that I attract everything into my life for my highest good. Especially when I don’t understand what’s going on and it may not look like it’s for my highest good, my faith journey teaches me to trust in the power and energy of Love to guide and protect me.

It is not always easy to be grateful and trust as I look around the world and see what’s going on. Fear and worry can take over, if I allow it. I know people are stressed and there is a lot of suffering going on. Two of my close girlfriends are battling cancer and another friend just experienced a tragic loss in her family.

A very good friend of mine, Linda, recently fell and hit her head. She was in intensive care and had surgery on spine and has pins in her neck. She is in excruciating pain and has a very long rehab. recovery ahead of her.

As you can imagine, my heart was broken when I heard about it. I couldn’t understand how this could be for her highest good and I was very sad and miserable.  All I could do was pray and connect with her heart and send her love (which is the very best thing I could do). Linda is a woman of faith and will not give up. She is determined to heal and trust God. I see Linda healed and whole and I am expecting a miracle for her. Please join me and pray for Linda’s complete recovery.

I have had the privilege of walking Linda’s journey with her as her Spiritual Coach for eight years. Linda is the author of “Voices of the Heart” and is in the process of producing a movie about her life. She KNOWS in her heart that this is God’s plan despite the ups and downs of producing a movie. She not only talks the talk, but walks the walk. It is her passion to inspire and change lives through her message to be grateful and live life to the fullest.

I am not helping myself or Linda by staying miserable and worrying about her. Of course, I have compassion and love and will continue to pray and send her love and trust in God’s mercy.

I remember Michael Singer’s words. “You were not put on earth to suffer. You are not helping anyone by being miserable. You gain nothing by being bothered by life’s events. It doesn’t change the world; you just suffer.”

“You cannot get sick enough to help sick people get better. You cannot get poor enough to help poor people thrive. It is only in your THRIVING that you have anything to offer anyone. If you want to be of an ADVANTAGE to others, be as tapped in, turned in, turned on as you can possibly be.”  Abraham 

How about you? Is there someone in your life who you are worried about? Have you made the choice to be HAPPY no matter what the circumstances are around you or do you cave in when things happen in your outside world that upset you? The spiritual life is not for the faint of heart. Living in gratitude, accepting “what is”, and trusting the energy and light of Love are spiritual tools that will keep your energy/vibration high. It is there that we will be the light for others and be vessels of love.

 

Oprah on Maui

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Jul
5

To think I live on Maui where Oprah Winfrey lives is beyond my comprehension. She lives up the mountain in beautiful Haku on a sprawling ranch and organic farm. I have walked on her street and could see her home from a distance. Although I have been living on Maui for 5 ½ years now, I haven’t seen her until yesterday. I was one of the 5,000 people that were blessed to hear her speak at the MACC (Maui Arts & Cultural Center) and it was very exciting as it has always been my dream to see her for as long as I can remember.

Yesterday, she made her first public appearance since moving to Maui in 2002. She shared her philosophy for healthy living and living your best life. She began her talk with humor and said, “I am not sure how to give health and well-being tips to people who already live in the best place in the world. What do I look like trying to tell you all who had the sense enough to move here, live here, raise your families how to live your best life? I could take a few lessons from you.” Of course, the audience went crazy and cheered her on.

She shared that one of her practices that has been vital to her well-being is learning to express gratitude. Every day she journals at least 5 things she is grateful for. She said, “I know so many people who are in that race to have more, be more, do more and they are never content. Live in the space of contentment for where you are, especially if, it really isn’t where you want to be right now.

She shared the importance of knowing what your intention is in everything you do. She admits to having the “Disease to Please” at one time in her life. She learned that the outcome to everything you do is determined by the energy of your motivation and intention. The key for living your best life is to align your personality with what your soul came here to do to in service to something bigger than yourself.

What a thrill to be in Oprah’s presence and energy. She was so authentic and real. I could see myself

sitting with her and having a cup of tea and feeling very comfortable. There was a whole section of VIP seats right in front of the stage that were empty when we arrived. About an hour before Oprah came on the stage, they opened the seats up to the public and my friends, Kati and Juane, scurried to our new VIP seats directly in front of Oprah.

When Spirit put it on our hearts that Larry and I were to write a book together, he said to me out of the clear blue, “I have something to tell you.” I said, “What is that?” He said, “Oprah is going to read our book and promote it.” Truly, I had forgotten that was my dream when I wrote “Simply a Woman of Faith.” I certainly am getting closer living on Maui where she lives for that to happen.

When my son, Tim, heard that I was going to see Oprah, he wrote and said, “Mom, throw your book on the stage for her. I did have my book with me in my purse but no way was I going to throw the book on the stage. I didn’t want that much attention and didn’t want to be thrown out

The next day, I started to think about how I could meet her or get her address to send her a note introducing myself to her and sharing our “love story.” Spirit stopped me in my tracks! I realized that was the old paradigm of making things happen and trying to push my way around.

Today, I practice trusting, allowing and surrendering that if we are meant to meet Oprah, it will happen organically and naturally. When I surrender and “show up” for life, miracles happen all the time. I am always in awe of how the Universe has everything planned for my highest good.

Of course, I will visualize Larry and me meeting Oprah and giving her our new book when it is completed. When I told, Lisa Tener, the editor of “Simply a Woman of Faith”, that I had seen Oprah and that Larry and I were writing a book together she wrote back and said, “I am envisioning you getting to know Oprah personally. I can see it!! This is exciting that you are writing a book together. Is it about love?” I wrote back and said, “Yes, it is about Conscious Loving and the sequel to “Simply a Woman of Faith.”

My daughter, Mary, and my grandson, Herbie, are coming to stay with us for 6 weeks in February. Mary plans on volunteering on organic farms and offering her 6 weeks Herbal program that has been very successful in Rhode Island. Wouldn’t that be something if she had the opportunity to work on Oprah’s organic farm! Like her mother, Mary is a woman of faith.

Miracles happen all the time when we believe. I have a picture of Oprah on my refrigerator. Will you please visualize with me that if this is God’s will for us, it will happen with peace, ease and grace. Thank you.

Listening to the small, still voice of God within

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Jun
15

My friend, Diane, and I went to lunch yesterday to discuss my book, “Simply a Woman of Faith.” I had given her my book a year ago and she promised to read it, even though she said she wasn’t a reader. We agreed to get together when she finished it to discuss the book and answer any questions she had.

After catching up with one another over lunch, we began to talk about the book. She asked, “Pat, I want to know how you know it’s the voice of God speaking to you and not just your own voice or the ego or your higher self.”

People often ask me this question and I answered, “I don’t always know for sure, but I have learned to trust Spirit and the voice of God within. Every time I listen and do what I am hearing from the big things to the smallest of things, it confirms that it was the voice of God when I experience the results. It takes practice and the more I practice, the more I trust the voice within, which is God. I practice listening and going within all day long whether it be asking for guidance or what to do next.

Diane asked me, “Pat, what is the highlight of the book for you.” I answered, “This happened over 20 years ago and I will never forget it. It was when I heard Spirit tell me to walk up to a woman on the beach in Newport, R.I. and tell her that God loved her. I trembled inside and felt really scared to walk up to her, even though earlier that day, I had asked God to lead me to someone who really needed to feel His love. After I told her that God loved her, she put her hands in her face and sobbed for a long time. Of course, I didn’t know it at the time but right before I walked over to her, she was contemplating suicide and really needed to hear that she was loved and not alone.” Diane and I had a lovely lunch discussing the importance of listening and stepping out in faith.

When I took my walk this morning on the beach, I thought about my conversation with Diane the day before. It had been a long time since I had such a dramatic message like I had that day and I wanted to be open to be a vessel of love and be God’s instrument.

I asked Spirit to lead me to someone to give them a message. I sensed it would be a woman walking on the beach alone. I went within to listen to Spirit and this is what I heard, “I will lead you and you will know in your heart who she is when you see her. She has been asking for guidance concerning a project or something new in her life and she’s not sure it is my will. Tell her to step out in faith, that it is my will that she has been asking guidance for.”

I asked Spirit to lead me as each woman walked toward me on the beach. I asked, “Is she the one I am to give this message to?” I kept hearing, “No, no, no.” I was beginning to wonder if I had really heard the voice of God in the first place. I was kind of relieved because I didn’t want to look foolish and go up to someone and have them think I was crazy.

I then spotted her from a distance as she walked toward me. We had smiled at one another when we past each other earlier on the walk. I heard the small, still voice of God say, “She is the one.” Before I had time to chicken out, she was in front of me. I stopped and introduced myself to her, which is common in Maui because everyone is friendly and pleasant. We chatted for a few minutes and she told me she was also from New York. After some small talk, I blurted out the message that I had received for her. She appeared touched and put her hand on her heart and said, “I pray all day and I hold this in my heart and will meditate about it today when I go home. Thank you so much.”

As we continued to chat with one another, I asked her what she did for work and she said, “I am a personal trainer/wellness coach in several gyms on Maui and am working with the county to develop free programs for seniors. Now I was interested! She told me about a new program that she is starting in August where my yoga classes are held every Monday. I gave her my card and she promised to call me with the information about the new program.

It is my belief that nothing happens by mistake and we are always being led. When we learn to trust the voice within, doors open and miracles happen. God is good.

My distress over my wedding dress

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Jun
5

This may appear like a trivial blog, but I think it has some deep significance in living my life to the fullest and not being attached to “anything.” If I want to live in peace, there are some things I must practice daily. Have you ever had a piece of clothing that you absolutely loved and felt terrific and beautiful wearing it? I am sure all of us had this experience at one time or another. It may have wonderful memories attached to it and you hate to part with it, even when it doesn’t fit you anymore.

Well, I felt this way about my wedding dress. I couldn’t wait to wear it on our wedding day. It was the first dress I tried on and I fell in love with it. I loved everything about it, especially the way it flowed when I twirled around and danced with Larry at our reception. When I put my flowered haku and lei on I felt like a Goddess and like I was royalty.

Larry and I are planning a trip to Rhode Island in July to celebrate our marriage with family and friends. I am looking forward to my son, Tim, performing a special wedding ceremony for us. We are looking forward to this special time with everyone. Of course, we both planned on wearing our wedding garments.

A few days after the wedding, I looked at my dress hanging in the closet and noticed some stains on the front of the dress. They weren’t real obvious but I could certainly see them and didn’t want to wear the dress with stains on it. I decided to wash the dress and tried everything from Spray and Wash, Mr. Muscle and even googled tough stains and used baking soda for 3 hours, but to no avail.

Here is what happened: I was given a beautiful Jade lei by some friends at our wedding. I didn’t know that the oil from the lei would stain my beautiful white dress. I was bummed out, to say the least, and had a difficult time letting it go. I felt sad and disappointed that I wouldn’t be able to wear the dress that I loved so much again to our wedding reception in Rhodes Island. I took it to the cleaners today and trying to be positive that the stains can be removed and that I can wear it to the celebration in Rhode Island. If not, I trust there is a better plan and will wait to see what Spirit provides.

It seemed ridiculous that I had a hard time letting it go and shifting my perception when there were serious things going on in the world that were much more significant than a stained dress. I asked Holy Spirit what its message was:.

“It is just a dress. Do not be attached to it or to ANYTHING because it is all fleeting and not real. Love is all that is real. It is only your outer garment. What is inside is what is important and that is what is real and lasting. You must ask me for help to shift this and accept “what is.” Can I not provide something more beautiful for you that you will equally enjoy when you trust me?”

After I prayed and asked for help to let it go, I felt better inside. I am trusting that God will provide and something even better will show up if the dry cleaners are unable to remove the stains. Perhaps I was just to wear this dress for our sacred ceremony as a reminder of God’s perfect pure love. I have beautiful pictures and memories that will last in my heart forever.

It is my belief that EVERYTHING is planned in the mind of God and everything is in perfect and divine order, especially when I am disappointed and don’t understand why things happen the way they

do. For me, it is always about trusting more deeply that all is well and being handled by God.

So whether it is something big like the loss of a loved one, or a job or something small like a stained dress, we need God’s help to get us through whatever we are going through.

Love is always there to comfort and guide us and we are never alone. All we have to do is ask for what we need. What is most important to me is peace in my heart. When I cannot accept “what is,” I lose my peace.

We always have a CHOICE . We can trust God and surrender or stay stuck in the muck wanting our own way and being miserable. What are you choosing today?

Details of our wedding day

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May
26

I ask Spirit to guide me to share what is most important as I sit before this blank page to prepare to write about “Our wedding” and my daughter, Mary; and grandson, Herbie, celebrating with us.

I wrote in my last blog that if I were to stay PEACEFUL & PRESENT for our wedding, there were some things that I would need to practice: accepting “what is”, going with the flow, trusting that everything that happened would be for my highest good, and being grateful and surrendering to whatever “showed up.” I was determined to not let anything rob me of my peace. I am happy to say that I remained peaceful and present the whole time, despite the many opportunities Spirit provided for us.

But before I share these opportunities, I would like to say that everything was in DIVINE PERFECTION. The night before our wedding, our friends, Kat and Robert, did a photo shoot of us on the ocean at Secret Beach. Secret Beach is the most popular place for weddings in Maui.

The next morning we were married in our home by Rev. Kimo, a Hawaiian minister. Our home was transformed into a beautiful sanctuary with colorful red and yellow Hawaiian flowers and pink rose petals strewn across the floor. My daughter, Mary, walked me up the aisle to greet my beloved, Larry waiting for me on our lanai with the rest of our friends. It was a gorgeous setting as our lanai overlooks the ocean and the pink and white Plumeria trees are all in bloom. I truly felt like I was royalty with my beautiful lei and haku (headpiece) and the most grateful and happiest woman alive.

Larry wore a white Hawaiian shirt and white pants and looked like a knight in shining armor. He looked so handsome that he took my breath away. I waited for this sacred moment for so long and it was now here. When the service began, I looked out into the faces of our friends smiling and tears rolling down their cheeks and I knew Spirit was present and with us. Mary surprised me by taking a video and all my children and grandchildren were were able to be present and watched the whole service. What a special gift that was knowing they were celebrating with us.

The reception was truly a “Love Fest.” After thanking all of our friends for all of their help, Larry said grace before the meal and said “Our purpose is to love, laugh and let our lights shine.” We had a delicious meal, drank wine, danced and had a great time.

When I walked into the reception and saw the decorations and flowers on the tables, I was in awe of how beautiful they looked. I really wanted the flower arrangements to be spectacular and was willing to pay the best price for the 50 pink and white roses I ordered. I picked up the flowers two days before the wedding and planned on making 8 table arrangements, my bridal bouquet, maid of honor’s bouquet and the centerpiece for the head table in the next 2 days.

I was shocked when I opened the boxes of roses when I got home. Many of the roses were damaged and turning brown and squished together. This could have been a nightmare and I surely could have lost my peace. Instead, I accepted “what is” and worked with what I had. I immediately called the florist to report the condition of the roses. Of course, they apologized and offered me a refund for the roses, which I gladly accepted. So, in the end, it all worked out and the flowers were beautiful. I had ordered exactly what I needed.

I went to my maid of honor’s house, Kati, to dress before the wedding. It was 5 minutes to 10 and the ceremony started at 10:00 am. We were about to leave her house to come to the ceremony when my phone rang. It was Larry and he said, “The minister needs the marriage license, do you have it?” I said, “No, I don’t have it.” I stayed calm and said, “look in your files, it must be there.” Within a few minutes he came back on the phone and reported, “I found it.” OMG can you imagine what a disaster that could have been because the minister would not have been able to marry us without it. There were 45 guests all sitting and waiting for me to arrive and the ceremony to start. Sorry folks wedding is canceled because we lost the paper.

There were other small things that happened during the day that I was able to dismiss and not lose my peace over. It was like nothing mattered and I focused on what was important. It was truly a sacred, magical wedding day for us that we will never forget.

It was like a double header. The next day was Mother’s Day and Mary and Herbie made me breakfast. We spent the day together at the beach and had a blast in the pool. Larry and I (and all my girlfriends) fell in love with that little guy. He is an amazing soul full of light and love. We are so blessed to have him in our family.

Today is our 1 week anniversary of our marriage and we are still integrating the powerful energy of love that was present. Many people have shared that our marriage is like a fairy tale come true. I am in awe of God’s grace and faithfulness. I am grateful for all the love, support and help we received to make our wedding the best day of my life. .

3 more days until we are married

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May
15

It’s hard to believe that when you receive this blog, it will be 3 days before our marriage and I will be Mrs. Lawrence Patrick Burns. Don’t you love how it sounds! To say the excitement and joy is mounting would be an understatement. With the grace of God, and the help of friends, I am having fun and remaining peaceful.veryone wants to be a part of our “Sacred LOVE Celebration” and have offered help with whatever we need. It has been amazing what my friends are doing for me and I am so grateful. It is indeed humbling to receive such love and kindness. Spirit has shown me that the love I am receiving is the love that I have given to others.

Believe me, I am calling in the troops and sent detailed lists to our friends in what I need them to do the day before our wedding and the day of our wedding; from putting up the canopy’s on the lanai, transforming our home with beautiful flowers for the ceremony, delivering flowers and decorating the restaurant after our ceremony, driving Larry and I to the reception, parking cars and directing traffic at our home and serving drinks and cookies after our ceremony.

I know our wedding day will flow with peace, ease and grace and it will be sacred and beautiful. I am so excited that my daughter, Mary, and her son, Herbie, will be coming for our wedding. Mary sent us a video of Herbie dancing with her in the kitchen. This is his first time on an airplane and he’s telling all the kids in his class that he’s coming to Maui. My friends can’t wait to meet this little “Angel.”

Mary and Herbie are arriving on Thursday afternoon and leaving on Tuesday morning. Mary is celebrating her first “Mother’s Day” as a new mother and celebrating with her own mother who lives 5000 miles away. I have a feeling this is going to be my very BEST Mother’s Day ever. Mary and Herbie will make me breakfast and then we will go to the ocean and play.

I’ve received many spiritual gifts this week to prepare my heart and soul for our sacred union. For most of the week, I felt the need to go within and be quiet. My son, Tim, gifted me with an intuitive reading from a healer from the UK. It was a very powerful session as she cleared karma from several past lives and contracts and vows that I made. My friend, Mary, who is a powerful healer gifted Larry and I with long distance healing. As a wedding gift, my massage therapist gave me a wonderful massage. All I can say is “thank you” and I am ready for the next adventure to unfold in my life.

I know all of you who faithfully read our blogs will be with us in spirit for our sacred union. Here are some pictures that I want to share with you in hopes you will feel the joy and love that we are creating to prepare for our wedding.

I had to WAIT until I was ready

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May
5

I have been religiously counting the weeks before our wedding on May 13th. After I got over the initial shock that I had somehow “LOST” a week and had only 2 more weeks left for our upcoming wedding, instead of 3, I made a decision (after I freaked out) that what was most important to me was that I be peaceful and be present to the moment.

As I have shared in past blogs, I am very organized and had everything “under control” because I wanted to enjoy the weeks before our wedding. I wanted to be relaxed and enjoy our sacred ceremony and reception. I am making all of the flower arrangements and my bouquet because I want to, but it takes a lot of work and time. There is a lot of planning that needs to be done in the last few days and I need to be on my game and not be stressed out. Thank God, I have wonderful friends who have offered to help. I couldn’t do it without them.

If I want to remain peaceful and present there are a few things that I must remember and PRACTICE or I will be a crazy lady! I know how I can get and so does Larry! I don’t have to do everything perfectly, but I will do my BEST and that will be ENOUGH.

  • I will choose love and peace instead of fear and worry, knowing all is already planned in the mind of God.
  • I will accept “what is” and go with the flow if something doesn’t go the way I planned it.
  • I will let go of control and TRUST everything is happening for my highest good.
  • I will ask for help and receive it graciously.
  • I will allow Spirit to lead the way and turn my will over on a daily basis.
  • I will RELAX, have fun and enjoy each moment.
  • I will let go of my perfectionism and attachments.
  • I will not worry about what others think of me as it is none of my business.
  • I will be grateful and SURRENDER to whatever shows up.
  • I will not push or force myself to do anything that doesn’t feel right.
  • I will take time to pray, meditate and rest when I need to.
  • I will listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit, ask for guidance and follow-through.

I will remember what is important: God and I are ONE. All the “trappings” (flowers, decorations, dress are NOTHING). All that is real is LOVE and the present moment. Everything else is a dream and an illusion.

Many years ago while I was waiting for my soul mate to “show up”, I asked God, “What is wrong with me? Why haven’t I met my soul mate yet?”

Shortly after that I received an email from a friend. This is part of what it said:

But God said: not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and content with being loved by me alone. I love you my child and until you discover that only in me is your satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable of the PERFECT RELATIONSHIP that I have planned for you. You will never be united with another until you are united with me, exclusive of any other longings or desires. I want you to stop wishing, planning and allow me to give you the most thrilling plan existing, one that you cannot imagine. I want you to have the BEST. Please allow me to bring it to you. You just keep watching, learning and listening to the things I tell you. YOU MUST WAIT. Do not be anxious or worried. You must keep looking within to me or you will miss what I want to show you. And then you will be READY.

I WILL SURPRISE YOU WITH A LOVE THAT IS FAR MORE WONDERFUL THAN YOU COULD EVER DREAM OF.

God is faithful and my dream has come true. Thank you for making me READY! Waiting for 15 years for Larry has not been easy, but it has been worth the wait. Truly, I have been surprised with a LOVE that is far more wonderful than I could have ever imagined. My heart is full of gratitude for all Spirit has done in my life and it continues to get better and better.

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