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The door was closed in our face

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Oct
10

I felt excited when I opened my email early in the morning that read, “Please call me asap.” It was from Dina, the travel agent from the Norwegian Cruise Line. I had spoken to her a few times over the past few months and she knew that we wanted to take another Hawaiian island cruise for our honeymoon. When we went on the cruise for my birthday last year, they gave a considerable discount to Hawaii residents. What we loved about the Hawaiian cruise is that we didn’t have to travel far to get on the ship.

Up until now, they hadn’t offered this discount. It was on that cruise that Larry decided (with the prompting from Spirit) to surprise me and ask me to marry him.

Just the day before receiving this email, I was talking with my friends, Kati and Sally, about the importance of living life to the fullest and not wasting precious time. I said, “I really want to go on another cruise.” There is just something about being on the ocean that feeds my soul. I hadn’t heard from Dina in quite some time.

I called Dina immediately when I read her email. She said, “Pat, are you interested in a 7 day Hawaiian cruise for $599 on October 7-14th? There are only 8 rooms left so you will have to act fast if you want it.” I could hardly get the words out of my mouth, I was so excited and said, “That sounds amazing, can you hold it until I talk to my husband?” She said, “Yes, but don’t take too long, this will go fast.”

I wanted to jump on it and after going within and discussing it with Larry, we were both on board with it. How perfect because we would celebrate my birthday and our honeymoon. I called Dina back within 15 minutes and much to my dismay, she said “The price has already gone up to $899 per person.” She tried everything to get the price back again, but couldn’t, even though she had put a hold on it.

When Larry and I discussed the new price, we decided to wait for another great deal.  Of course, I felt disappointed because I thought this was surely an answer to prayer and I was ready for our second cruise.  I immediately remembered the concept of “open and closed doors” that has been a vital part of  my spiritual journey for many years.  It has been my experience that guidance comes through open and closed doors.

It helps me to let go and surrender to “what is” when I trust that the door has been closed for a reason that only Spirit knows why and it is for my highest good. There have been many times that the door was closed because it wasn’t the right timing and opened at the perfect and right time. It was “in the hallway” that I learned to trust and let go.

I thought I had let it go because I didn’t think about it during the day. However, before I went to bed that night, I decided to go online and see if I could find the $599 deal again, but no luck. While I was on the website, I saw some other cruise deals that might work for us. My juices were flowing!

I called Dina in the morning to check out some other cruises that required traveling to San Francisco to get on the ship. She really felt bad about the new price and said, “I went home last night and looked again. Don’t worry Pat, I will keep looking.”  I laughed and said, “Dina, I am a woman of faith and if it is meant to be, it will be.”

Rather than “allowing” and letting things come to me, I could feel myself pushing, obsessing and trying to make things happen. As I am learning to honor the Love that I am, I don’t push, seek or strive, for these are the old ways of doing things.

The new way is about allowing and accepting “what is” and trusting that all is in divine order. It is about being in the flow without attachment to anything; just allowing things to unfold naturally. This is self-care and self-loving.

I have read that when I love myself, I keep my vibration high and from that, my consciousness expands and from my higher consciousness, my life shifts to peace, ease and grace and miracles happen.

I knew I wasn’t “letting go” because I had lost my peace. I asked Spirit, “Why is it so hard to let go?” Here is what was revealed to me:

  • I am not trusting Spirit that the closed door was for my higher good
  • I think I know what’s best for me
  • I want what I want – NOW
  • I’m impatient
  • I think I have to do it myself and control it
  • I have to make things happen, rather than” allowing” it to happen
  • I don’t want to be HERE right now, I want to be somewhere else

When I realized that I hadn’t let go and was obsessing about going on a cruise, I asked Spirit for help.  When I truly let go, I feel peaceful.  In this moment, I am peaceful because I am choosing to let go and trust in the divine plan for my life.

Although waiting is not my favorite thing to do, I surrender and trust that my Higher Power has a better plan and another door will open at the perfect and right time. I will wait patiently to see what it is.

How about you, is it hard to trust when the door is closed and you have to wait?

 

 

 

 

 

God open and closes doors

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Mar
4

For the past 40 years of my spirtitual journey, I have practiced the concept of “open and closed doors.” When I don’t know if something is God’s will or my will, I pray, “God open or close the door.” It hurts when the door is slammed in my face and I am left wandering in the hallway until the next door opens, especially when it takes a long time for the next door to open. Over the years, I have learned to trust that when a door is closed, there is always something better and more aligned for my highest good.

“Closed doors are a valid part of GUIDANCE. When God closes a door, it’s because there is a better plan. If He closes one door, He’ll open another, according to His timing, not mine. I keep moving in faith, even in the face of closed doors.” Basham 1975

Alan Cohen in his book, “The Grace Factor” discusses grace and GUIDANCE. He writes “Never underestimate the power of grace to find you where you are and take your hand. No situation is so dark, dismal, or disgusting that grace cannot enter and move you to a higher ground. When you stepped outside the gate of the Kingdom, a homing device was implanted in your heart. That device has functioned perfectly, constantly feeding you information about where to turn, when, and how. The fact that you have chosen not to listen to its message has not daunted it from broadcasting impeccable guidance. YOU KNOW ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW WHEN YOU NEED IT.”

Here are a couple of examples in my life of closed doors that turned out for my highest good:

1. A year after my divorce, I met a man and we were engaged to be married. We were together for 2 years. As I look back on it today, I realize that we would not have made it together. God closed the door and I remained single for 15 years before I met Larry. If God hadn’t closed the door, I would not be where I am today. It was the desire of my heart to meet my soulmate and I “waited” in the hallway for 15 years. At times, I felt angry and didn’t understand why it took so long. I tried banging on the door because of my impatience and lack of trust. That didn’t work! I learned many lessons in the hallway about trust, surrender and God’s perfect timing. For me, it is always about TRUST and I am learning to trust that when I am ready, the door will open at the perfect and right timing.

 2. During my divorce, I prayed and asked God for guidance whether to sell my house or remortgage it because I couldn’t afford the monthly payment. When I finally made the decision to re-mortgage my house, the peace came. My ex-husband needed to sign the papers because we weren’t divorced yet, which he agreed to do. On the day of the closing, he decided he wasn’t going to sign the papers and there was nothing I could do about it. A week later, to my surprise, I received a letter from the mortgage company informing me that the interest rate had gone down (on its own) because it was an adjustable mortgage. The payment was the same as if I had re-mortgaged. God closed the door through my ex-husband’s last minute refusal to save me money.

I don’t know about you but, as a parent, it is difficult to watch your child suffer when a door is closed, especially if it is something they really wanted. Recently, one of my children applied for his dream job and it looked very promising. When he told me that he didn’t get it, my heart hurt and I felt sad and disappointed for him.

It was important for me to allow him his feelings and process. It was not the time to talk about closed doors and the door closed for his highest good. I needed to be there for him and be compassionate, loving and supportive. I had to wait until he was ready to talk about it without pushing and prying. It is easy to do a spiritual bypass which means to deny your feelings and push them down. I didn’t want that to happen to him.

When I am living in faith, I trust that a Higher Power or the Universe knows what is best for me (and my family and friends) because I don’t know what lies ahead. I am sure we have all had experiences when a door has been closed and it’s only afterward that we understand why.

Are you in the “hallway” now in some area of your life? Learning to wait with grace takes trust, surrendering to “what is” and patience. When we trust that our Higher Power has the perfect plan and timing for us, we will have peace that passes all understanding. I love the statement “God has my back.” Do you agree?

The Door Opens Wide

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Sep
28

Lord, I don’t know where to start. My heart is rejoicing and I am filled with gratitude for the doors that have opened easily and effortlessly, just like you promised.

I want to start by thanking you all for your prayers and support. Many of you have emailed me to share your own faith journeys and to tell me how these weekly blogs are inspiring you to live your dreams. I love getting your emails and connecting with you.

I had lots of friends helping me with each step of my move to Maui and I am so grateful because I know I couldn’t have made this move alone. I trusted that God would have people waiting for me to help me transition when I got to the other side (Maui.) Sounds like I’m getting ready for death, huh? Well, it is kind of a death. Death to the old life so the new could come. I had to let go of old beliefs of lack and limitation, fear, my business, my stuff, my home, family and friends. I knew I was bravely stepping into the unknown and holding on to God with every fiber of my being.

My new friend, Joseph, in Maui recently said to me, “You are a “gutsy” lady. Have you always been like that, Pat?” I was surprised because no one had ever said that to me and I had to stop and think. I never thought of myself as a “gutsy” lady but I guess I am because I moved to Maui alone and left everything that was important to me.

I have certainly grown over the years and have done things that I didn’t think I could do. I got a divorce after 30 years of marriage, I went back to college to get my Masters degree in my 50’s, I went to Bermuda all by myself and of course, I wrote my book, Simply a Woman of Faith. But, I can honestly say that I have NEVER done anything like what I just did by moving to Maui. So, yes I will step into and embrace that I am a “gutsy” lady.

I shared in my last blog that the door was closed for the ohana I fell in love with that I thought had my name on it. An ohana is like an in-law apartment attached to a home. God had other plans and I am so grateful for that. I also shared there would be more to the story to tell. When Joseph and Marlowe (owners of the ohana) called to tell me they offered the ohana to the other person, what I didn’t tell you is that they invited me to stay in their 4 bedroom home for 3 weeks until I found a place to rent. I was totally blown away by their kindness and generosity because they only met me once.

They shared with me afterward that in 25 years of being together, they never invited anyone to stay in their home that they didn’t know well. We all knew that Spirit had brought us together to become good friends. I sent them an email and said, “You are the angels that God sent to me to help me in my transition to Maui.” I have already been to their home for dinner and they offered to let me store my stuff until my new ohana is ready. 

I spent last Friday and Saturday looking at apartments and ohanas to rent. I felt very discouraged and exhausted because nothing compared to Joseph and Marlowe’s ohana. Before going to bed on Saturday night, I prayed, meditated, surrendered and thanked God for bringing me the right and perfect place to live, which has been my daily prayer and mantra for months before moving here.

I woke up the next morning feeling rested and renewed. I had an appointment to see another ohana on Sunday morning. I felt excited because the price was right, it was in the area that I wanted to live in and the pictures looked really nice on craigslist.

My heart skipped a beat when I walked into the beautiful ohana that was beautifully furnished, bright, open and nestled at the top of Maui Meadows. There was a “Star Deck” that overlooked the ocean and Mt. Haleakala. The half acre property had a sustainable urban farm which included 24 mature fruit trees, vegetable and herb gardens.

I asked myself, “Am I dreaming or was this for real? Was this the door God was opening?” Celia (the owner and I) sat on the patio next to the ohana and I told her all about myself and my journey of faith. She smiled and said, “My husband and I are also on a journey of faith, just like you are.” I said, “I have been praying for the right and perfect place to live when I came to Maui.” She smiled again and said, “We also asked God for the right person to rent the ohana. We looked at each other and both knew it was a match made in heaven.

After I filled out the application, she said, “I will get back to you as soon as possible as I still have several showings today.” We hugged each other and I felt totally peaceful. I trusted God would open the door if this was the right door to open. I learned my lesson last week and there was NO MORE BANGING.

Two hours later she called and said, “Pat, we feel you are the right person to rent the ohana and we would like to offer it to you.” Of course, I said, “Thank you, thank you, I would love to rent it and when can I sign the lease?”

I then remembered the card my friend Mary gave me before I left for Maui. It read, GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT. God closed the door on the first ohana because there was something better for me that I couldn’t see.

I signed the lease for my new ohana and felt exhilarated, free and happy. I have been in Maui for 3 weeks and so much has happened. Friends to help me with my transition, a car and now a beautiful new home to move into.

Yes, there is a Master Plan that I have co-created with God. I have followed my heart calling, believed and trusted God for signs along the way. I have hired my “Higher Power” to work for me and He/She is doing a fabulous job. Have you hired your “Higher Power” to run your life? If not now, when?

Aloha

 

 

“I banged on the door but it wouldn’t open”

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Sep
20

I banged on the door, but it wouldn’t open! Let me explain: I looked at an apartment this week and fell in love with it and its owners. I thought it was perfect for me; in the right area, price range, safe,and surrounded with beautiful flowers and views. I was so excited and even thought about how I wanted to decorate it. I went to Cosco’s and bought the essentials to move in and filled the back seat of my car with everything I needed. My plan was to move in at the end of the week.  I was on a roll and knew this was surely God’s plan for my life.

The owners called and said they had many applications for the apartment and it was between me and another person. I didn’t want to take no for an answer so I gave them all the reasons they should offer it to me. In other words, I wasn’t trusting God to open the door, if it was His will. Instead, I thought God needed my help. Wrong! I was shocked when they called the next morning to tell me they were signing the lease with the other applicant. I felt disappointed, angry and sad because I truly believed the apartment had my name on it. I realized how easy it is for us to jump the gun when we want our way. I spent that day quietly in prayer and allowed myself to feel all of my feelings and process what had just happened. I knew I needed to accept “what is.”

I lost my peace when I banged on the door and allowed fear to creep in and make my mind race. This is not how I choose to live my life so I knew I needed to get back in alignment with God’s will for my life. I needed to RELAX and let God be God. After all, I did hire my Higher Power to run my life! I emailed the owners and thanked them for their honesty and wished them the best with their new tenants. We all agreed that we felt a strong connection with one another and that we wanted to be friends. A couple of days ago, they invited me for a glass of wine and to watch the sunset together. I know this will be another story that I will share as it unfolds.

I have lived my life with God opening and closing doors, so I asked myself why wasn’t I trusting God to open the door if this was the perfect and right place for me to live? As I reflected on my thoughts and behavior, I realized I was coming from a place of fear. I thought, “I better take this one, I won’t find a better place to live.”  It became clear to me that my “inner rusher” was active and running the show again! Not good! Instead of judging and beating up on myself, I chose to embrace and love that part of me that still needed God’s healing. I asked God to transform my fear into faith.

How often have you settled for less than what you really wanted because you were afraid nothing better would come along?  I am embarrassed to say that it was only the second apartment that I looked at and I was ready to sign the lease. I know through years of
experience that when one door closes, a better one opens in God’s time, not my time. So I have the opportunity to practice the art of waiting. I am looking forward to what God has planned for me because I know it will be wonderful.

What helped me to process and move through my disappointment and the closed door so quickly was to remember what happened to me many years ago when the door was closed in my face at the last minute. I decided to refinance my home before my divorce was finalized. The day of the refinancing, my ex-husband called and said, “I decided not to sign the papers.”  “You have to be kidding me, I said. I won’t be able to refinance without your signature”, I screamed at him. Then I called the bank to tell them what happened and ask if I could refinance without his signature.  They said, “Sorry, but you have to have his signature to refinance.” I couldn’t understand how I had gotten that far to have the door shut like that.

Exactly one week later, I received a letter from the bank stating that the mortgage rate had gone down on it’s own because I had an adjustable mortgage. Not only did I save the closing costs but also the amount was the same as if I had refinanced! God is good and sees what’s ahead of me that often I cannot see. I have learned from experience that sometimes, God closes the door for my good and I have to wait for the right door to open and then other times, the first door opens easily and effortlessly. I like it much better when that happens.

When I attended church on Sunday, I met a couple who had also just recently moved to Maui. They shared their experience of finding their apartment, (which they love), which they are now living in. In our conversation, Steve said to me, “I use to be a car mechanic and know a lot about cars, so call me if you need help buying a car.” Since I had heard a lot about “Maui Cruisers” and was warned to be careful, I didn’t waste any time. I called Steve the next morning to ask him about a few cars that looked promising on Craigslist. We went down the list together and he gave me his expert opinion on each car that was for sale. He recommended the 1996 Toyota as a good car so I called the owner and asked if I could come and look at it. I called Steve back and he just happened to be in the area and offered to come with me. What a blessing!

I was excited and grateful that Steve was with me to ask the right questions. I liked how the car looked on the outside and the inside was clean.  Steve drove the car and said, “If I was buying a car for my wife, I would definitely buy this one.” What is interesting is that one minute after Steve and I met the owner of the car in the parking lot, another woman pulled up and wanted to buy it. Since we were the first ones there, we had first choice. I drove away with a new car that day.  And the best part is that I was able to park my new car at Steve’s home until I find my new apartment.

Later on in the week, as I drifted down the ocean, surrendering and letting go, I heard God say, “Stay in the energy of gratitude especially when there is transition in your life. The transition can be a physical one, leaving a relationship or job, starting a relationship or job or simply moving from one state of consciousness to another. It’s all the same and an attitude of gratitude will carry you through.” I am practicing daily being grateful for what I want before it happens. Whenever fear or doubt rears its ugly head, I just think about everything I am grateful for and that brings me back to my peaceful place where I want to live.

As I walked home from my swim in the ocean today, I noticed 2 small girls giggling and playing at the edge of the water. They were laughing and running in and out of the waves. I stopped to say hello and asked them where they were from. They said, California and then one of them said, “Being here in Maui is a dream come true. I smiled and said, “Yes, it is a dream come true for me too.”  We gave each other the high five sign, and I smiled and walked on.

What is your dream? Don’t ever give up on your dreams. Dream big and believe God will help you fulfill your dreams as He has mine. Don’t settle for less and trust that God has placed the dream in your heart. When it is the right time, the right door will open, and until then, wait with gratitude for what’s coming.

Daily Word September 29

I seize the bold vision to manifest the life of my dreams

To visualize the life I desire, I may create a vision board to capture my intentions in words and pictures. Or I might write in a journal about my aspirations, outlining in detail all that is possible. Doubts may creep in, causing me to question the validity of my ambitions. If so, I look beyond any perceived limitations. If I am concerned about my age, resources of timing, I courageously affirm: My dreams are God-inspired. I seize the bold vision to manifest the life of my dreams. I am bolstered by this affirmation as I align with the vibration of a higher vision. I open to unseen possibilities and joyously witness the unfoldment of my dreams.


Maui opened it’s arms to me

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Sep
20

My dear friend Joanne and I walked through my condo last Tuesday night and I said goodbye and blessed my beloved home for the new owner (who is coming).  I had been saying goodbye and releasing my home slowly for the last 2 months so the final goodbye was fairly easy.


Then Joanne and her partner Linda invited me to their home for a delicious dinner and a glass of wine. We laughed as we remembered funny stories over the years that we had experienced. It was the perfect farewell dinner for my flight the next morning to Maui.

Joanne drove me to the bus in the morning at 7 AM, and as we hugged goodbye, we told each other how much we loved one another. I was feeling peaceful when a question popped into my mind that immediately caused some stress.  I said to myself, “What am I going to do with myself when I get to Maui?”  Since I don’t know what the “Master Plan”is yet it seemed like a logical concern. I have lots of skills and gifts, but I don’t know yet how God will be using me to do His work.

Almost immediately after asking the question, I looked out the window of the bus as a big truck passed by and I started receiving messages from God. The name on the truck was PRAY trucking company. I almost laughed out loud and said, “Okay God, you want me to PRAY, I can do that just fine, but I think I would like to PRAY and PLAY!”  I think God liked that too because God wants my happiness and for me to live in joy.  What better way is there for me to live in joy than to play? If it is not fun, I don’t want to do it.

Shortly after the PRAY truck, I noticed a sign on a billboard that read “HIRE POWER.”  Yes, I have HIRED my Higher Power to run my life. I am not in charge anymore because I have handed over all of my affairs to my Higher Power to manage my life.  I strive to live in this space on a daily basis and I wish I could say that I always do, but I don’t. I sometimes forget and think I am in charge and try to make things happen.  Can you imagine that?

When this happens, I lose my peace because I am not aligned with God’s will for my life, which is peace and love, so this is a lesson to be learned over and over again. We are always being called to go deeper with God and to trust that no matter what things look on the outside, we are never alone and that there is a divine plan.

The messages continued to “show up” and they got better and better before I even got on the plane.  The next thing I saw was a billboard that was advertising a phone and it said, “Do Whatever You Want.” I really liked that and promised myself to keep that in mind and in my heart. Doing whatever I want means that I need to know what I want! In coaching clients over the years, I’ve noticed that one of the main problems people have is that they don’t know what they want. How can the Universe give them what they want if they didn’t know what that is? Do you know what you want? Do you struggle with not feeling good enough or deserving of what you want and more good in your life? I know what that is like because I was there for a long time too. It is only by committing to a daily spiritual practice of prayer and meditation that I was able to change those negative messages and move forward. Today I know that I am ONE with God and deserve all good things.

When I sat for my morning prayer the day after I arrived back in Hawaii, I knew that Mother Maui was welcoming me with wide, open arms. It was a gorgeous day with sunny skies and a warm breeze to keep me cool. This is truly a magical place and I felt so blessed to be in the energy of love. I almost cried when I saw the rainbow coming out from the ocean. I knew that it was meant for me to assure me I was right where I needed and wanted to be.

I wanted to move to Maui and with the grace of God and cooperating with Spirit, I am living here. I went to the pool for water aerobics the other day and met a woman who was visiting Maui from Idaho. She asked me, “Where do you live?” I started to say, “I live in Rhode Island”……. but then quickly remembered that I live in Maui!  It was the first time I said it out loud and I started to jump up and down and dance. I thought OMG I live in Maui.

Just a few hours later as I was thinking about finding an apartment to rent here and I thought, “OMG, what did I do?”  Isn’t it amazing how we can be living in bliss one minute and then in stress the next minute? I know it is normal to vacillate when there are big changes happening
in our lives, so I quickly asked God to help me remember that I was following my heart and God’s plan for my life.

I admit there are a lot of “unknowns” in my life right now and I liken it to being in the HALLWAY of my life. One door has closed and the other one hasn’t opened yet. I don’t know what my life is going to look like; where I will live, the car I will buy, the work I will be doing and the people who will be in it. I have been there many times over the years with jobs, moves and relationships, and it is truly a place where my faith is nurtured and strengthened if I allow it.

Being in the hallway can be very stressful because I don’t know when and how the door in front of me will open. Today I can make the choice to live in peace trusting God is in control. I don’t have to live in stress banging on the door and demanding that it be opened according to my plan. It almost sounds ridiculous, but that is what we do sometimes. I have learned to trust that eventually the right door will open.

To stay in this place of peace while I am in the Hallway, I will use all the tools that I know that have worked for me over the last 35 years. I remind myself of all the times that God has prepared the way for me and then I trust that God is working things out for my good. Most importantly, I will stay connected to God by staying in the moment, being grateful and enjoying the adventurous journey I am on.

Meanwhile, I am living in paradise and have a beautiful place to live on the ocean (for free) for the next few weeks, as I wait and trust God for the perfect and right apartment to find me. I no longer have to push, work hard, and drive myself crazy in the process.  That was the old way of doing things and it just doesn’t work for me anymore. I have hired a HIGHER POWER to handle the details. So it is “Hands off Pat!” I “show up” and do my part and let God do the rest.

An affirmation that I have used for years is this: Everything I need is streaming toward me; I open my hands and receive. All the abundance, money, peace, love, happiness, relationships are mine now. I just need to believe.

Creative Ideas – Ernest Holmes  pg.135

“I believe that the Spirit within me, which is God, makes perfect and peaceful the way before me. In this faith and knowledge, I discover a great peace of mind, a deep sense of belonging, a complete realization that God is right where I am. I put my whole trust in God and feel an intimate relationship  with the presence and power which controls everything. The Spirit gently guides me, wisely counsels me. I know that the love which envelops everything flows through me to everyone, and with it goes confidence, a sense of joy and of peace, as well a buoyant enthusiasm and zest for life.”

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