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I was wrongly accused

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Nov
15

I am sure most of us have been “wrongly” accused of something at one time or another in our lives. It can be very painful and traumatic and may take a long time to heal. Some of you may still be struggling with something in your past that you are holding onto. Of course, it is only natural to want to defend ourselves and prove our innocence. It has been my experience that Spirit allows things to happen to show me how I have grown (or not grown) in how I handle situations where I have been accused of wrong doing.

For example: I attended a water aerobics class this week and the teacher who I had just met invited me to her pool party on Saturday. A few days later, she saw a friend of mine and told her how upset and angry she was with me for something someone told her I did.

Of course, my friend was shocked and said, “That doesn’t sound like Pat.” When my friend called and shared with me what happened, I felt embarrassed because of the things she accused me of doing. I was shocked and felt terrible. I immediately called the teacher to explain what happened. She didn’t answer her phone so I left a message and apologized for the misunderstanding and asked her to please forgive me.

What I know about myself is that I would never intentionally hurt another person. We all have different perspectives and experiences in life so, unfortunately, we do hurt others and may never even know it.

Instead of beating up on myself or doubting myself, after my friend called me, I released it and didn’t let it ruin my day. I called the teacher and took responsibility for what actually happened. I was a little anxious about seeing her when I attended the next aerobics class. When I prayed about it, I heard Spirit reassure and say “You didn’t do anything wrong and I want you to walk into the class with your head held high. Know that I place everything and everyone and every encounter in your life for a reason. You are learning to trust that more deeply.”

I approached the teacher before the class started and asked if she received my phone call. She said, “Yes, and I wrote you a response 2 days ago, but haven’t sent it.” She was still angry at me and couldn’t understand my actions. I tried to explain my side of what happened, but she didn’t want to hear it. I found out later that she accused me of doing something that was second hand.

I needed to let it go and send her love. I am not responsible and cannot control what other people think of me or say about me. All I am responsible for is me, my actions and keeping my side of the street clean. I can hold onto resentments and ruminate about what happened to me until the cows come home. What good does that do? It only hurts me and robs me of my peace. Whenever the situation popped up in my mind during the day, I released judgment and sent her light and love.

Spirit showed me how I had grown because I didn’t take it personally and I moved through it quickly.

This situation brought to mind what happened to me in my career over 10 years ago when I was wrongly accused of something I didn’t do. It devastated me and took every ounce of energy and prayer to move through it. Someone I trusted had gone behind my back to the boss and said things about me that weren’t true and almost cost me my job. I am so grateful for the friends in the department who loved and supported me through this. In the end, I was vindicated and the truth came to the light, which it always does. But during that time, I learned some valuable lessons about life.

Instead of being bitter and resentful when I walked by her office every day, I learned about forgiveness. I quietly prayed, “I release judgment and send light and love.” It was the only way I could remain peaceful and remain at the job until I was ready to retire.

We can become BITTER or BETTER by what life brings us. I chose to become better. I wasn’t going to allow someone else’s behavior to determine my behavior. It wasn’t easy, but peace was more important to me than being right.

How about you? Is there someone in your life that has hurt or betrayed you and you have been unable to let go and forgive? If not now, when? Forgiveness is a choice and it is for you, not the other person. You are not condoning the act, but forgiving the person for what they did. Take yourself out of the prison of resentment and free yourself to live the best life you can live. Remember, we are not promised tomorrow. All we have is today.

Larry

Aloha friends, thought some of you may be wondering why I haven’t been contributing to the blog the last couple of weeks.  Truth is, I haven’t had anything to write about.  I seem to be in a place right now where it’s better for me to listen instead of writing.  I was reading in Alan Cohens book entitled “Enough Already- The Power of Radical Contentment” today and Alan shares a story about an annual retreat in Assisi, Italy.  The retreat is basically silent, the rule is:  “Speak only if what you have to say is more powerful than the silence.”  He also shares about the benefit of being silent and listening. We all go through times in our lives when it is better to listen and not speak so much.  It seems like this is where I am right now so I will keep listening and write again when I feel whatever I have to say seems more important than my silence. 

I attracted my soul mate into my life

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May
14

 

“For I know the plans I have in mind for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you. Plans to give you a hope and a future. Jeremiah 29-11. For years, this has been my favorite scripture and I have trusted and believed it would come true.

Have you ever waited and prayed for something that seemed like it took years for it to happen? You may even still be waiting. You watched your friend’s prayers being answered while you waited patiently (and sometimes impatiently) for yours to come true. You prayed and prayed, surrendered it to God, did a vision board and still nothing happened? But you didn’t GIVE UP on God’s promise and your dream because in your heart of hearts, you KNEW that someday it would happen. It is my belief that God puts the desires of our heart in our hearts to be fulfilled in God’s perfect timing. What is the desire of your heart?

Many of you already know my story because I have shared in past blogs the desires of my heart. The desire of my heart was to meet my soul mate. I knew deep within that was the reason I followed my heart to Maui. I thought it would happen quickly since I had already been waiting for over a decade.

Maui is an island that couples in love come to so it wasn’t easy watching couples walk hand in hand on the beach every day. I learned to bless them and send them love, trusting my day would come in the perfect and right time.

My day has come and I would like to shout it from the mountain tops. I am so grateful that I waited and trusted in God’s perfect plan and timing. Here is my story:

I met Larry 2 ½ years ago at a dance when I first moved to Maui. It was the first dance that I attended and didn’t know a soul. I liked how Larry looked and danced so I asked him to dance. Being a gal from the east coast, I knew I had to ask the guys to dance if I wanted to dance. I found out that he was from Connecticut so there was some connection, but that was it. When I moved here permanently in Sept. 2012, we started to take walks together and share spiritual truths. Over the 2 years, we became best friends, talked on the phone daily and said, “I love you” to one another. We learned to trust and depend on one another’s love.

All of my friends and children kept asking me, “What is it with Larry?” because all I talked about was spending time with Larry. His friends asked him the same question. We would both just say, “We are just friends.” I didn’t feel any romantic feelings for him and that was fine for both of us because we didn’t want to risk losing the relationship we had.

When I moved a few months ago, Larry was there for me every step of the way supporting and loving me. There was nothing he wouldn’t do for me. I truly don’t know how it happened, other than the anointing of the Holy Spirit, but I noticed some “stirrings” for Larry deep within my soul and I suspected something had shifted in regards to my relationship with Larry.

I was shocked and beside myself, for sure. I didn’t want to tell him because I had made it very clear to him that I wasn’t interested in a romantic relationship and I was scared how this would affect our current friendship.

As I stood in front of the mirror brushing my teeth one morning, I heard God say, “You need to tell him your feelings.” I argued, “I don’t want to tell him my feelings” God said, “You need to tell him your feelings.” I said, “Ok, I will tell him.” I knew God would win out eventually so I gave in and agreed to tell him. We went out to dinner that night and I just couldn’t get it out of my mouth so I didn’t tell him. As I walked to the bathroom, I looked up and noticed a BIG sign on the wall that said, “TRUTH.” I thought, “Yikes, my God is everywhere and I better pay attention.”

The next day, I called Larry and asked him to come over because I was feeling overwhelmed. Of course, he said, “Yes, I will come over.” As he sat across from me on the chair, he said, “So, what you are overwhelmed about?” Here was the moment of truth and I didn’t want to blow it. I took a big gulp and said, “I have a bomb to drop.” He looked at me and said, “Ok, what is it?” I blurted out, “I’m having feelings for you.”

The rest is history. My soul mate has been here for 2 ½ years RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME but neither one of us recognized it. The Holy Spirit opened my mind and heart at the perfect and right timing. Did we both need to do more “inner work” and let go of old beliefs in order for this to happen and for us to be READY for this sacred relationship? I don’t know. All I know is that we are a perfect match and he is all that I prayed for and more. He loves me like I’ve never been loved before and I love him like I’ve never loved before. It truly feels like a match made in heaven.

We love to play, talk, pray, laugh, dance and enjoy the present moment. We bring God into everything and want to be “vessels of love” in this world for the rest of our lives together. We believe God has a plan for us as a couple, but we don’t know what that is yet and that is ok with me. Larry is joining me in RI when I come back in August. I am excited for him to meet my children and for them to meet the man God has brought into my life to love me.

My heart intention for writing this is to inspire YOU to know that God has a plan for your life and that God answers prayers and can be trusted to grant YOU the desires of your heart. Don’t ever give up because Love is waiting for you.

MY LIFE UNFOLDS IN DIVINE ORDER – Daily Word

”In an effort to achieve my goals quickly, I may push and hurry. Perhaps I’m trying to harvest my crop of dreams and intentions before they’ve had the chance to mature. Just as seeds need nourishment and time, divine ideas yield positive results when they unfold in their natural time and order. I align with divine order by putting God first in my thoughts and actions. I affirm: I am immersed in the natural flow of life. Attuned to Spirit, I am open to guidance. I listen, observe, and receive nuances, nudges and intuition. I wait or act as guided, trusting that divine order is unfolding. I reap the awards when I align myself with God and have faith in divine timing. “

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