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As women, we OVER-GIVE

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Sep
19

I thought my receiving “muscle” was strong so I was surprised when Larry asked me, “What do you want for your birthday?” I said, “I don’t know. I have everything I could possibly want and don’t need anything.”

He said, “How about I take you to dinner at Humuhumunukunukuapua’a at the Grand Waleia Hotel? It has just been named the best restaurant on Maui.” I had never been there before and I knew it was a very expensive restaurant. I didn’t respond right away and decided to pray about it because I felt uncomfortable. I didn’t want Larry spending that kind of money on dinner. When I prayed about it the next day, I said, “Spirit, I need guidance because spending that kind of money seems frivolous to me.”

“What is your message Holy Spirit?”

You have difficulty receiving something like this because you are accustomed to bargain shopping and feeling like you got a deal. I want you to open yourself up to receive because there is more to come. This is in preparation to receive more.  It is ok to say yes if this is what Larry wants to do for you and what you want to do for your birthday. He wants you to know how special you are and how much he loves you. 

“But Spirit, I would rather go out to dinner three times than spend it in one place.”

“That’s because you don’t believe there will be enough so you have to save it for a rainy day. That is an old belief that doesn’t serve you anymore. There is more than enough.  Allow him to give you this gift and be open to receive.” 

“I feel guilty God because I could give that money to someone who really needs it. What is that about?”

“It is an old belief that you don’t deserve to be treated in this special way. This no longer serves you and, in fact, blocks what I am doing in your life.  It is good for you to celebrate your birthday in a fine dining restaurant. There is more to come and you must be open to receive. Remember this is my money.” 

I understand there is no right or wrong way of doing what I want to do. If I want to go to 3 different restaurants and be thrifty instead of spending it all in one place, that is ok too. I am grateful Spirit brought to light the old beliefs about money (lack, not enough, not deserving) that no longer serve me. I am now open to RECEIVE only good and the riches of the kingdom, which is my birthright. I haven’t made up my mind yet what I want to do, but I know whatever it is, it will be a great birthday. The most important thing is to know that I am loved and cherished by my husband. 

In the book “One with God” the author, Margie Tyler writes, “Every day is an opportunity to RECEIVE something new. You are experiencing this expansion and are now willing to acknowledge that love exists in you and as you. OPENING ONESELF TO RECEIVE LOVE IS THE BIGGEST TASK IN LIFE. Once you’re open, the world expands exponentially and the love becomes all-inclusive. Everyone and everything is joined in that love.”

Do we deprive others of the joy of giving to us when we are unable to receive? When we are unable to receive, we block others from giving us love.

I believe that the more I love and appreciate myself, the more I can RECEIVE love from another. We are not CAPABLE of receiving love from another if we haven’t learned to love ourselves. Sure, I have experienced love from another when I didn’t love myself, but it was never enough. It wasn’t until I gave myself self-love that I was capable of RECEIVING the deep love I craved from another.  It all begins and ends with me as I awaken and come home to myself in my body, mind and spirit.

As women, we know how to give. We know how to over-give. But we have no idea how to RECEIVE. We have a serious crimp in our receiving hose.  In the past, when my ego was running the show, I unconsciously blocked love from coming in because of not feeling deserving or worthy. I believe that the more I open myself to RECEIVE love, the more I can give LOVE.

MY HEART OPENS TO ALLOW MY DEEPEST GOOD – Julia Cameron, author of Artists Way

“Acceptance, openness, allowing are the keys to manifestation. I do not need to will my good. I need to accept my good. I do not need to will my being loved. I need only accept my being loved. I open my heart to accept and allow the good which I desire. I am in God and God is in me. As I yearn for God, I yearn for my own true nature. As I ask God to fulfill me, I ask that I fulfill myself. There is no distance, no need to please or cajole, whimper or manipulate. It is the pleasure of the entire Universe to expand as it desires. My desires are the desires of the Universe. They are fulfilled by the Universe acting through me, toward me.”

 

 

Our new adventure as a married couple

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Jun
5

Over the years several people have commented to me that I need to do a sequel to “Simply a Woman of Faith.” My friend, Joseph, (who has known me since I moved to Maui and knew that the desire of my heart was to meet my soul mate), recently said to Larry and I, “You have to write a book together, your story is like a modern day fairy tale.”

Since our marriage, I have heard this from several others and am beginning to believe it is God’s will for us. Friends are sharing with me that our relationship is a model for them in what they want and they know is attainable because of what they witness in our love relationship.

Writing a blog every week is different from writing a book together. Of course, some of the material we have written about this past year and our relationship would go into the book. Writing a book takes commitment, time, money and energy. The easier part, if you will, is writing it. The hard part is getting it out there for people to read and that includes marketing and book tours and giving talks.

I had to ask myself, “Do I have the energy for it and do I really want to do this?” I like my life the way it is and doing what I want when I want to. I was definitely in resistance and didn’t want to do it. I met with my friend, Margie, author of “One With God” a few days before we were married and she said she had a message from the Holy Spirit and that we were to write a book together.

If Spirit was speaking to me and I thought He was, Larry had to be on board with writing a book together. I did not want to write alone and I would not nag Larry to do it. He had to also know that it was God’s will for his life and this was a joint effort.

One day last week I wrote in my journal, “I am willing to write a book together because I think it is your will, but I need a sign. I don’t know how or what will happen. All I know is that I am willing and open. I need you to work in Larry’s heart and let him know it is your will.”

After I wrote this, I asked Holy Spirit for a message: “Watch and wait and be patient. I will speak to Larry’s heart.” The very next day, while we were having coffee, I shared an email with Larry that I had received that morning. It was from a friend from Unity Church. She sent a video of a TV show she had interviewed me on 6 years ago when I visited Maui for 1 month. I had no idea why she would send it to me now.

Larry had not seen the interview, so we decided to watch it together. In the TV interview I share why it took me 6 years to write my book. I had all kinds of excuses like: I don’t believe in myself, nobody would read it, I don’t have the time or money, I don’t know how to market and on and on.

As we sat and watched it together, I realized I had the same excuses today about writing a book that I had when I wrote “Simply a Woman of Faith” 8 years ago. Larry had the same excuses as I had and we

looked at one another and wondered if this was a sign from Spirit.

After we finished watching the TV show, I said, “Why did she send it to me now?” I emailed my friend and asked her why she sent it to me today? She wrote back and said, “Jason and I were looking at past TV shows and your name came up so we started to talk about you. I felt STRONGLY and so did Jason that we were to send it to you today.”

I am grateful that they listened to their inner voice and sent it to us when they did. Of course, they had no idea that we were considering writing a book together and that I had asked for a sign the day before. God does answer prayer and gives us what we need when we ask.

What worked for me in the past to finish my book was to make a commitment and be accountable to someone each week that I would work on the book. I prayed and asked Spirit who I was to be accountable to. That night I met with my friend, Kerri, and I shared what was going on with the book. She shared she had a project that she was working on and also felt drawn to be accountable to someone. We did a hand shake and agreed to be accountable to one another. Every Sunday, we will email or text that we did what we said we would do.

It truly is one day at a time and I am trusting that we are being guided every step of the way. We will be provided for and people will show up to help us. God has a plan and all we have to do is be willing and say “yes” to that plan. More than anything, I want to be aligned with God’s will in my life. If that means writing another book together, I say SO IT IS and I trust it will flow with peace, ease and grace.

Is there an area in your life where you are being called to be accountable so you can be in alignment with God’s will for your life?

I couldn’t stop the tears

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Apr
29

Do your loved ones communicate with you after they have passed on? It may be through a butterfly or a cardinal or a favorite song. I stood in the middle of my favorite consignment shop, Rainbow Attic, yesterday and I couldn’t believe what I heard on the radio. I had kind of given up on hearing the song since it had been several years since I heard it.. I was in the back of the store just kind of browsing around when I stopped dead in my tracks.

The song, “Honey,” was playing loud and clear on the radio. As many of you know through reading my blogs and book, “Honey” is my mother’s name. It will be almost 50 years since she passed away on her 25th wedding anniversary. I was only 20 years old. A year later, I was sitting in the back of a car when I first heard the song “Honey” written by Bobby Goldboro. It is a beautiful song about him missing “Honey”after she died.

Paula, the owner’s mother happened to walk by and noticed me frozen in place with tears running down my cheeks. She stopped and asked, “Are you finding everything you need?” I could hardly talk, but I had to tell her the story of “Honey” and what the song meant to me. She said, “I am sorry.” I said, “Don’t be sorry, my mother is here with me now.”

Over the years my mother has “shown up” when I most needed her. Right before I went to the consignment store, I was shopping for some greeting cards. The woman greeted me and said, “Honey, how can I help you?” I smiled and said, “Thank you for calling me Honey-that is my mother’s name.” Of course, she looked at me kind of funny because she had no idea how significant it was for me.

As I prepare my body, mind and spirit to be married to my beloved Larry, I know my mother is around, loving and supporting me to release all that no longer serves me. Here is what happened last week.

My friend, Ruth, and her daughter, Kerri, bought me 2 beautiful bouquets of lillies for the night of my bridal shower. Ruth shared that the orchids were “calling her.” She was at the register in the supermarket with another kind of flowers and had to go back and buy the orchids.

I didn’t have the heart to tell her that I was “allergic” to certain kinds of lillies. At least I thought I was allergic because I couldn’t stand how they smelled. My son, Tim, sent me lillies last year for Mother’s Day and I couldn’t keep them in the house because of the smell. I felt so badly because he thought they were my favorite flowers.

Whenever I smelled these kinds of lillies, it brought back memories of when my mother died and I sat in the funeral parlor and passed out because of the strong smell from the flowers.

Of course, I didn’t say anything to Ruth and brought them home after the shower. I was so out of it from all the love I received that I didn’t think about the lillies until the next morning. I put them in water in a beautiful vase and placed them on the table in front of me as I prayed.

Instead of being “repulsed” by the smell of the flowers and having to get them out of the house as quickly as I could, I started to cry because I felt this was how my mother was showing up for me. I allowed myself to feel her loving presence and love.

I was sobbing when my friends, Ruth and Kati, came for a visit a few minutes later. They didn’t know what happened when I answered the door with tears running down my cheeks. They hugged me and sat with me holding my hands as I told them the story of what had just happened with the lillies. They knew it was a sacred healing moment with my mother, “Honey.”

I kept the flowers for a week and enjoyed the smell every time I walked by. We always get what we need if we look for the signs and are open to receiving them. I feel so blessed and grateful for everything and everyone in my life.

Goddess Bridal Shower

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Apr
23

 “Pearls of Blessings” Special Bridal Shower honoring Pat Hastings.

Here is the invitation that was sent to my friends: “Please bring a prayer, poem, or blessing to share. Thank you for adding your Divine Presence to this joyous celebration.”

I was very excited and a bit nervous the morning of my bridal shower. My prayer was that I would be able to RECEIVE all the love that my sisters would shower on me. In the past, when my ego was running the show, I unconsciously blocked love from coming in because of not feeling deserving or worthy. I believe that the more I open myself to RECEIVE love, the more I can give LOVE.

I am pleased to share that my prayer was answered big time! Someone commented that I had a perpetual smile on my face and that I glowed. I felt like I was glowing from the inside out and my face hurt from smiling so much. My heart was happy to be in the presence of such beautiful loving Goddesses who so willingly poured out their love on me.

The energy of love in the room was electrifying, magical and powerful. The next day after the shower, I felt like I was in an “altered state.” My body was tingling with energy all day and I walked around in a daze, not being able to do much of anything. Larry commented to me, “I hope you won’t be driving today.” Talk about the POWER OF LOVE.

What I realize is that I had to be willing to expand my heart to be able to receive the outpouring of so much love. I think this is the way we are meant to live as we are all vessels of love and our reason for being here is to receive and give love to one another.

We laughed, prayed, cried, shared with one another and had a delicious meal together. We played a fun bride game that had us all in hysterics. I received beautiful cards, poems, well wishes and gifts that were so meaningful.

I sat in the middle of a semi-circle, surrounded by beautiful Goddesses and flowers, as each woman came up to me to read their blessing or card. I also received cards and written poems from friends in Rhode Island.

I handed each woman a pearl that Kat provided from her grandmothers pearls. This was very moving because Kat had taken the pearls apart so each woman could receive a pearl. The pearl was then returned to me so they could be restrung and I will wear them as a sign of this celebration of love. I found out later that my friend, Ruth, gave Kat money to pay to have the beads restrung.

The highlight of the night that brought us all to tears is when I opened the gift from my friend, Lesta, who is an amazing artist. She painted a picture of my grandson, Herbie. All of my friends knew the powerful story of Herbie’s adoption and it was like time stopped and we all felt the presence of God in that moment. The painting captured his essence and soul. I have never seen anything like it because Light emanated from the painting. Lesta shared with me the next day, “When I read your blog a few months ago about his adoption and saw his picture, I knew I had to paint him. It was like the paintbrush took over. He has the look of an old soul. I believe it was your faith and prayers that drew his bright soul into your family.”

I feel so blessed and grateful to have such beautiful loving women in my life. They truly were my sisters and mothers and God loved me through each one of them. One of my friends reminded me that the love I received is the love I give and that I created this beautiful circle of friends around me. Another friend commented, “I felt the presence of God in the room. Never have I attended such a loving celebration. I left in the embrace of sisterhood – nourished by the delicious food and beautiful blessings.”

 

Here is one of the poems that I received:

 

The Love Declarations – A Covenant

I am your partner in awakening from fear. From this moment on, at all times, under all conditions, I declare I am and I will be, for all beings, A Conscious Source of absolute Love; and I promise, I will serve only Love, in you, in me, and in All, no matter what, for the rest of my life.

Thank you Kat, Kati and Catherine for creating a most memorable and sacred celebration for my bridal shower. Thank you all the women who blessed me with your love and kindness. I will never be the same.

It felt like emotional surgery

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Mar
20

The one thing I am certain about on the spiritual path is that WE ARE NEVER DONE and there is always MORE. After several decades of doing inner work, forgiveness and transformation, I was surprised when Spirit brought to the light something that needed to be healed and released in me. It felt like emotional surgery that I believe was a “divine set up.”

My life was working well; I felt peaceful, I was getting married and I have a new grandchild. I share this experience with you so you will know that you are not alone and to show you how you can free yourself from any emotional blockages that you may have that are keeping you from living your life to the fullest.

I participated in the 10 day World Summit for EFT tapping.

Emotional Freedom Techniques is tapping on “meridian points” on the body, derived from acupuncture. It can release “energy blockages” that cause “negative emotions.” EFT is a

universal healing tool that can provide impressive results for physical, emotional, and performance issues. The premise includes the understanding that the more unresolved emotional issues you can clear, the more peace and emotional freedom you will have in your life. EFT can be an ongoing process that we use to clear out the old traumas, and welcome any new challenges with a healthy, productive attitude.”

The “divine set up” happened as I listened to the EFT talk with Carol Tuttle and participated in a tapping session called, “Whose energy is it?” We are made up of energy and can be affected by others’ energies without even knowing it. It can happen with a co-worker, spouse, or a friend. It can happen while we are listening to the news or radio and all of a sudden, we are feeling discouraged or depressed and don’t know why. It could be that you picked up someone’s energy and it is not yours.

The day after I did the tapping session, I attended a beautiful “love circle” and house blessing with my 6 soul sisters. The love energy and vibration was incredibly high and everyone felt it. I think being in that beautiful love energy brought to the surface the “energy blockage” from past trauma that needed to be processed and released.

For as long as I can remember, I have struggled with comparing myself and feeling jealous when I didn’t get the attention I craved and wanted when I was a part of a woman’s group. Instead of denying, minimizing or running from my feelings, I allowed myself to go into them and embrace them. For two days, I allowed myself “solitude” and quiet time to cry, feel and write what was coming up to be processed and released. I prayed and asked my friends for help, which was humbling and vulnerable. I don’t like emotional pain, but I know that if I don’t allow myself to feel my feelings, the energy will stay stuck in my body and I will get sick. As children most of us weren’t encouraged to feel our feelings and were even criticized for being too sensitive.

I chose to be vulnerable and as honest as I could be when I shared my struggle with a friend the next day. My heart was pounding, and I felt embarrassed, stupid and like a teenager. Deep shame seemed to envelop me, as tears rolled down my cheeks. I asked myself, “Where was this shame coming from?” I have learned that when something is very strong in the present, it is often about unresolved, blocked emotional pain from the past. You may not recognize that you are feeling shame. Shame is when you feel awful about yourself because you did or said something and you can’t stop beating up on yourself for days.

I thought about the tapping session that I experienced and asked myself, “Whose energy is it?” It was like a light bulb went off and I finally got it. It became clear to me that I have carried deep shame from my mother probably all of my life. My mother was an alcoholic and because of her illness my emotional needs weren’t met. She often ignored me and disappeared for days at a time. I didn’t know if she was dead or alive and I was terrified. I watched her try to kill herself by taking pills when she was drunk. What Spirit revealed to me was that I carried deep shame inside of me because I wanted and needed my mother’s attention and love. Of course, as a little girl, I wanted her attention and love and didn’t want to be ignored. I was still looking for that love from my mother all these years later and being in a group with other women triggered me.

With this new insight of why I struggled all my life with wanting attention and love from other women and not feeling like I would ever get it, I was able to love and be compassionate with myself. I was able to release and transform the shame by acknowledging it and feeling it. The truth will set us free. The EFT exercise released the energy blockage of shame that I carried all my life and blocked me from receiving the love that I so needed from my mother, myself and the women in my life.

Is there an area in your life where you have “energy blockages” and have carried shame or any other negative emotion that needs to be transformed and released? I encourage you to ask yourself, “Whose energy is it?”

I am living in HEAVEN

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Feb
23

I looked forward to attending the newly formed gathering of inter- generational women to share our journeys and support one another. At the last minute, I was unable to attend. I thought about the discussion questions we were asked to think about and how I would answer them. “What is your passion and purpose? What do you need to do to realize your dreams? What can you give to others?”

If you have been on the spiritual path for any length of time, you have probably thought about what your passion and purpose is. You still may not know what your passion and purpose is. As I prayed about what my passion and purpose is, I immediately flashed back to a vivid dream that I had years ago when I was paralyzed with fear (7 years) while I was writing my book. When I finally identified that it was fear that kept me stuck from living my dreams, I was able to move forward and finish my book. If I had not come out of denial and worked through my fear, I would not be living on Maui and getting married to a wonderful man. Here is the dream:

“I was climbing up a long staircase that led to heaven. As I arrived at the top of the staircase, I saw a star in the sky and reached out for it. I then became the STAR. A star shines in the dark night to light up the sky. A star led the wise men to the stable where Jesus was born.

After processing this dream many years ago, I realized that my purpose and passion was born and it is “I am a STAR that shines brightly to lead others to the God within.” This truly is my joy and passion.

As I prayed about it today, this is what Holy Spirit said: “Say YES to BE the light and love that I call you to BE today. The world is awakening to the truth that we are all ONE and not separate from God. You never left, God never left you. You are not alone. It is only a dream. You know the truth and will share it with those I send to you. Do not be afraid of your light for it is my light shining through you. There is much darkness in the world that is now coming into the light. Although it looks like things in the world are deteriorating and people are very anxious and confused, it is my plan being played out. There is no need to be afraid because this has been planned by me and is the beginning of a great awakening.”

I have seen first- hand the darkness in people this week and it has been sickening. It is hard to believe the lies, deceit, control, greed and lack of love that I have witnessed in others. Without knowing the light and love of God within, we are doomed to living in the prison of hell which leads to suicide and addictions. The pain and suffering is too much for people to bear.

Heaven is not a place; it is a state of mind. We either live in hell or live in heaven. The choice is ours. We are invited to live heaven on earth. Without the light of God within, there is darkness and despair. We who are awakened and awakening are called to be that light and use our gifts in the service of God. We need one another more than ever to walk this journey.

Are you ready to say YES to God to be instruments of light in the world? Are you ready to believe in yourself and let go of not feeling good enough or smart enough? Are you ready to live your purpose and passion? You have been given gifts to bring to the world and now is the time to say YES and to believe in yourself. The world needs your light.

I have a plaque on my desk that reads:

“SHINE”

“You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on the stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your father in heaven.” Matthew 5 14-16

If you don’t know what your passion or purpose is, I can help you find it. If you living in darkness and want help in your awakening, I can help you. If not now, when? Don’t let fear rob you of living your life and your dreams You are the light of the world and the world needs your gifts NOW.

Here is a poem I received from my friend, Kati, right before I was about to send this out. We are all called to BE THE LIGHT and let our light shine.

Yet ultimately we are alone, making our way home by the candle of the heart. Many times our light will go out. But another light, one held by a stranger or a friend, a book or a song, a blackbird or a wildflower, comes close enough so we can see our path by its light. And in time we realize that the light we have borrowed was always our own” Joan Borysenko

We set the date to be married

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Feb
15

When Larry asked me to marry him 8 weeks ago, he quietly whispered to me, “We don’t have to do it right away.” Doesn’t he know who he is dealing with? After waiting for him to pop the question for almost 3 years of our relationship, I was ready and willing and didn’t want to wait. I have to admit waiting is not my strongest asset! We don’t like stress in our lives and we made an intention that everything would flow with peace, ease and grace. And it has so far! Everything is almost done and it is only February.

I am very happy to say that we are getting married on May 13, 2017. I wanted to be married in May because the month of May has been a very powerful spiritual month for me for many years. May is the month of Mary, the divine feminine. I didn’t know it at the time but May 13th is the 100th anniversary of Our Lady of Fatima’s appearance to the children and it is also Mother’s Day weekend.

We are getting married in a beautiful little Hawaiian church called Keawala’a Congregational Church. It was founded in 1832 and it overlooks the ocean. The pink and white Pulmeria trees that surround the church will be in full bloom to grace the beginning of our life as a married couple. We met with the minister for 2 ½ hours and shared many personal things about our lives and story of how we met. It will be interesting what he shares on the day of our wedding. I have a feeling we may get a few chuckles from the congregation.

When I shared with my daughter, Mary, how excited I was about getting married on Mother’s Day weekend, she said, “I want to come and I will bring Herbie if I can get a cheap flight, we will come.” She immediately opened her computer and, of course, found a great price for the both of them. She booked the flight right then. Can you imagine my joy that my daughter will be walking me down the aisle (tears in my eyes now) and, Herbie, my grandson will be the ring bearer. God is good.

Larry and I are going to Rhode Island to celebrate our marriage with our family and friends on the East Coast in July. It is an expensive and long trip for our families to come here so we will go there. My son, Tim, will officiate a special service at Mary and Glen’s farm as we renew our vows with our family and friends. Mary wants to have a square dance band because she knows how much we love to dance.

Since I don’t have any family members here to help with the wedding plans, my girlfriends have stepped up to the plate and offered all kinds of support and help. Believe me, I am taking them up on their offers. My plan is to make the flower arrangements for the reception to be held at the Dunes Golf Course after the ceremony. Several of my friends are creative and offered to help with the flowers both making them and delivering them on the day of the wedding.

I was surprised when my girlfriend, Kat, asked me, “Would you like a bridal shower? It’s been 50 years since my first marriage so I hadn’t even thought about a shower. At first I said, “No, I don’t want a shower.” She told me her idea and then said, “Think about it, you are getting married… in love…for the rest of your life here on earth. Your journey, your womanhood has brought you to this place in time. It might be an extraordinary sacred ceremony to surround yourself with loving Goddess love and energy. The women you love know much about love, perhaps it would bless you to let us encircle you with wisdom, prayer and love as you prepare to enter into and publicly declare your marriage with your beloved Larry. We could each bring you a pearl (symbol of the Maui sea) of prayer – each prayer linked and knotted to the next leaving your enriched with an exquisite strand of spiritual pearls. Of course, after that explanation I happily said, “Yes, I would love to have a celebration like this.”

If you are inspired to send a prayer to me for our marriage, I would be delighted to receive it and will not read it until the shower when I read the others. My address is 621 Laniolu Pl. Kihei. Hi 96753. The shower is April 7th.

Here is the song Larry and I chose to dance to for our first dance as a married couple:

When You Tell Me That You Love Me – Albert Hammond/John Bettis sung by Uluewhi Guerrero

I want to call the stars down from the sky. I want to live a day that never dies. I want to change the world only for you. All the impossible, I want to do. I want to hold you close under the sun. I want to kiss your smile and feel the pain. I know what’s beautiful, looking at you. In a world of lies, you are the truth.

Chorus: And my love, every time you touch me I become a hero. I will make you safe, no matter where you are. And bring you everything you ask for, nothing is above me. I am shining like a candle in the dark when you tell me that you love me.

I want to make you see just what I was, show you the loneliness and what it does You walked into my life to stop my tears. Everything is easy now, I have you near. In a world without you, I will always hunger. All I need is your love to make me stronger.

I don’t think either one of us will make it through in one piece. But it will be beautiful as we waltz around the floor together.

I said YES to Spirit

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Feb
6

I lost myself in DOING and I found myself in BEING. I will share with you my journey and experience of finding myself the last 5 years after I moved to Maui.

I retired from my profession of 20 years as an Alcohol and Drug therapist 8 years ago after my book, “Simply a Woman of Faith” was published. I then started my own coaching and speaking business. When I moved to Maui 5 years ago, it was my plan to continue my spiritual life coaching practice as well as be an inspirational speaker. We know the quote, “We make plans and God laughs.”

It had only been a few weeks after I arrived on Maui, when I heard Spirit say, “I don’t want you to do anything, I want you to learn HOW TO BE. At first I thought I was hearing things and didn’t like this message. I thought I knew how to BE and wanted to continue using my gifts and doing what I loved to do.

By the grace of God, I listened and let go of my coaching practice and speaking engagements. It didn’t take me long to adjust to this new way of life. I learned to stop pushing and trying to make things happen. I stopped the rushing and busyness that was in the fiber of my being. I relaxed and learned to listen in a deeper way to the small, still voice of God within. My faith and trust in God deepened as I watched the miracles happen. I learned how to live in the moment and be spontaneous. I continued to practice self-love and appreciation.

Many of you have been reading my blogs for years. I am so grateful for your love and support. I have shared my struggles as well as my joys. You know how I attracted a beautiful home overlooking the ocean and how I stepped out in faith trusting God to provide the money for my rent which had doubled. I attracted my soul mate and am now getting married. All of this was a part of God’s plan, for sure.

The past couple of months I have had a “stirring within” to start doing spiritual coaching again. I have prayed about it and believe it is Spirit saying, “It’s time for you Pat to use your gifts again. There are people out there who need you and they will come to you.”

So I am stepping out in faith again and trusting Spirit is leading the way. If you have been reading my blogs, you already know who I am and what I do. I strive to be as authentic as I can and share my process as honestly as I can.

If you feel a “quickening” in your heart and would like a deeper walk with Spirit, I would be happy to assist you on your journey as your spiritual coach.

Do you want to hear the voice of Spirit more clearly?

Do you want more love, faith, joy or peace in your life?

Do you want to remove limiting beliefs that no longer serve you?

Do you want to discover the YOU that has been buried for many years?

Do you want to connect with your authentic self and live from that sacred space?

Do you want to let go of the past and learn to live in the present moment?

Do you want a healthy relationship with your partner?

Do you want to discover and live your passion?

Do you want more fun and play in your life?

Here is a testimony from Linda Pestana who recently started back coaching with me.

If you are looking for a compassionate and caring guide to help you move in a new direction in your life with tenderness and love….look no further. Pat Hastings tops my list of woman who brings the best out in you. Pat was my spiritual coach for 2 years while she lived in Rhode Island. When she moved to Maui, I felt distance would separate us. I missed her wisdom, empowerment, depth and most of all her love of Spirit. Pat has a gift of listening and tapping into the gift of the moment.  She hears your soul and allows you to tap into those places that need healing. I’m back with Pat for spiritual coaching calling her from a distance. It works and my life continues to be blessed.

Spiritual coaching is very important to me as it keeps me focused and calls me to return to the God within. I remember how it is to come home to my own inner voice. Pat has taught me to be gentle with myself. She will hold you tenderly and call you to be that beautiful woman or man that you are.” Linda Pestana, Grief Facilitator and Author of “Voices of the Heart”

I will only work with 5 clients, so if Spirit is knocking at the door of your heart, please email or call me now. I can be reached at 401-862-8859. I look forward to hearing from you and assisting you on your spiritual journey. If you know of anyone who might benefit from spiritual coaching, I would appreciate it if you would forward this to them. Mahalo

I spoke up to my doctor

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Feb
1

Once upon a time there was a little girl who really looked good on the outside but inside felt quite differently. On the inside, she wanted to please and impress others because she didn’t love herself. She felt insecure, inadequate and not good enough. She didn’t speak up or hardly ever said no to others when they needed her. She looked outside for her answers and thought others knew what was best for her. She was afraid of authority figures.Today that little girl has grown up and that little girl is a woman who just turned 70 years’ young. That woman is me. I am happy to say I am healing from codependent behaviors and continue to “GROW UP and SPEAK UP.”

Spirit allowed an opportunity this week to show me my growth. I was amazed at what happened and thought to myself, “Where did she come from? I can’t believe that came out of my mouth.” I spoke up to my doctor, which at one time in my life, I would never have done. This is not about what the doctor did or didn’t do and there is no blame. It is about recognizing how I have grown and changed.

Here is what happened: I was summoned for jury duty. I checked to see about parking the afternoon before I was scheduled. I couldn’t understand it and asked Larry to read it. I was aghast when he came out and said, “Pat, this is in Honolulu.” We live in Maui and the only way to get there would be by plane. The summons read if you don’t show up you could receive a fine of $1000 or be put in jail. I called immediately but the office was closed because of Martin Luther King Day. My only saving grace was that I was instructed to call after 5:00 p.m.the day before and see if the date was rescheduled.

In the meantime, I prayed and asked for help and guidance. The idea came to me to contact my holistic doctor and ask for a letter to be excused because of my ongoing back issues. He agreed to write the letter for the date the summons was originally scheduled.

Because the jury date was rescheduled when I called, I needed to call the doctor and ask for a note for the new date. When I went to his office to pick up the note, I could sense he was not happy about having to write another letter.

He said, “I am charging you $25 for writing the letter because it caused me so much aggravation with the phone calls and emails. I sent him one email and called once.

I immediately and calmly said, “Oh is that how you decide what fee to charge your patients because of how much aggravation it causes you?” I am sure he was surprised that I spoke up and became defensive and went on about how much he charges an hour, etc.

When he left the office I asked his secretary, “Does he always speak to patients like that?” She was apologetic and said, “He was in the hospital for 4 days and has not recovered fully. He has had a hard day and is exhausted.” My heart softened with compassion and love. As I was leaving the office, he came out and I said, “I send you love.”

I had to return to his office the next day to pick up some supplements. When he saw me he said, “Thank you for your patience yesterday and thanks for the love and prayers.”

Some of you may be thinking, “Why would you go back to him when he spoke to you like that?” My ego would like to rant and rave, feel indignant, hold a grudge and not go back.

I have choices. I can love or judge and live in fear. Today I am choosing to love and since he has been a good doctor and was willing to write the letter in the first place, I am in gratitude because I don’t have to go to jury duty!

That little girl has grown up and has learned to SPEAK UP and not feel guilty. I felt really proud of myself for the woman I have become.

Larry

Pat and I are learning that being in a loving committed relationship at times can be challenging.  We’ve learned in some ways that we are very much alike and in some ways we are very different. We can experience the same situation and walk away from it with entirely different perspectives of what we saw, heard or experienced.

Our saving grace is that we are committed to talking about everything.  I think our communication skills are top notch.  I’m sure you have all been in relationships before and have learned how important communication is. Sometimes it’s very difficult for one or the other in the relationship to support open communication.  

I know as a male I have been in a place in the past where all I wanted to know is “What do you want or need, just let me know and I’ll try to obtain it for you, I don’t need to waste time talking about it.”  Not to surprising those relationships didn’t last.  

I’ve always thought that I was a fairly generous person. I don’t mind spending money doing some things and going places.  My main criteria for spending money is that I receive “VALUE” for it. This is one area where good communication comes in.  Pat and I sometimes have different perspectives on what constitutes VALUE and we need to negotiate so we both feel respected and loved.

For example, Pat wanted to do the Hawaii Cruise, from her perspective it was a terrific idea and had a lot of VALUE. I balked at the idea because I had done the cruise 12 years ago and didn’t see any VALUE in taking it again.  While talking about it over time I was able to see it from a different perspective.  I started to look at it as a”STAYCATION” and from that perspective it had value for me.  (A STAYCATION is something we Mauians do just for something different and it’s usually staying at one of the Resorts on island for a few days.)

When Pat shared her experience with her doctor my reaction was WOW I would never have said that to him.  From my perspective, the fact that he wrote the letter would have had such VALUE to me he could have said anything he wanted too and I could have cared less. Different perspectives that’s all. I’m proud that Pat had the courage to speak up when she felt it was necessary. We encourage each other to always be true to ourselves.

Perhaps we can all be more willing to listen to what our loved ones have to say, allow them the flexibility to experience life differently than the way we do and value another’s perspective.

Eckhart Tolle offers: If I had lived her past and suffered her pain, and was at the same level of consciousness, I would be thinking and acting exactly the same way that she is.

For those who read our offerings I hope you can find something of “VALUE” in it.


What men think of CHANGE

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Jan
21

There were several lessons or opportunities that I could have written about this week, but it would have probably been only a sentence or two, not a whole blog. Spirit is faithful and has never let me down over the last 9 years that I have been writing the blogs. I prayed and asked to be led to share what would be for the highest good for all.

This is what I received when I opened my email this morning. “Appreciation is the magic formula you’ve been seeking.” —Abraham

It is my belief that the more I appreciate myself, the more I appreciate other people in my life. I not only appreciate other people but I am learning to appreciate everything in my life. I have an “Appreciation Practice” that I practice every night before I fall off to sleep.

Instead of a nightly review of the day in my mind about where I need to change or grow or what I don’t like about myself, I think about all that I appreciate about MYSELF that day. Sometimes the list is short and other times it is quite long. Nothing is too small and it really feels good when I am done thinking of things I appreciate about myself. Often during the day, if I am tempted to say or do something that is not aligned with Spirit, I will think about the appreciation practice at night and it helps me to do the right thing.

Having a daily practice like this motivates me the next day to do the same things and more. Often during my prayer and meditation, someone will come to mind that Spirit wants me to reach out to. I send a quick text reminding them that they are loved. Larry has seen me on my phone during prayer and says, “Pat is calling God.”

To give you an example of what this look likes, I will share some of the things I appreciate about myself. Of course, this is an accumulation of things I appreciate and every day is different. These are simple things and not great things. Of course, your list will be different if you choose to do this.

  • I appreciate that I did my weights this morning
  • I appreciate that I ate healthy and stayed away from sugar
  • I appreciate that I kept my mouth shut when I really wanted to speak my mind
  • I appreciate that I was kind to the cashier at the supermarket
  • I appreciate that I called my friend to say hello and send love
  • I appreciate that I didn’t judge someone that I wanted to
  • I appreciate that I had a “Pat Day” and played and had fun
  • I appreciate that I processed my anger and was able to let it go
  • I imprecate that I said no because I didn’t want to do something
  • I appreciate that I prayed and meditated
  • I appreciate that I set boundaries and spoke up
  • I appreciate that I let go of control
  • I appreciate the choices I made that brought me peace
  • I appreciate how I take care of my body, mind and Spirit
  • I appreciate how I am asking Spirit for guidance in everything
  • I appreciate how I love my family and friends
  • I appreciate my creativity
  • I appreciate how I trust God to provide for all of my needs
  • I appreciate how I am able to receive all that is given to me
  • I appreciate that I kept my word
  • I appreciate that I listened to Spirit for guidance and followed through
  • I appreciate how I chose LOVE instead of FEAR

I encourage you to try this practice and let me know how it works. I guarantee you that miracles will happen. Maryann Williamson ays, “A miracle is a change in thinking.” Rather than focusing on what’s missing or lacking in your life, your focus is on what’s working and what is good. When we do this, we attract more good into our lives.

Larry

I know that some people are wondering why I changed my mind about marriage after being so against marrying again.  I don’t know if I can really explain the“shift” in me that led to my wanting to marry Pat. I know that if Pat had nagged or pushed me to marry her, I would probably not have experienced the “shift” that occurred. Sometimes when the energy of love is present, things happen and we can’t explain why or how.

I began thinking again of how different males and females think and how different our perspectives are. I am a lot more conservative than Pat and she is much more flexible and creative than I am. I’m not as open to change as much as she is.  I think it may be a male thing. When I’m in a good place and life is going along perfectly, I don’t want to change it. I just want to take time to enjoy it.  Pat likes to make choices that would expand our awareness and that sometimes means making changes.

If I hadn’t decided to take a chance and commit to a serious relationship, we wouldn’t be where we are now, living together and engaged to be married. It was a big decision for me to move in together because I was happy living alone in my own place. 

I wasn’t all that keen on taking a cruise to Australia almost two years ago and that turned out great.

If I hadn’t changed my mind and gone on the Hawaii cruise, (I really didn’t want to do at first),

I don’t know if I would have experienced the “shift” in me that started me thinking that perhaps marriage could be in our future. 

When Pat suggests that we do something out of the ordinary that will stretch me my default seems to be NO THANK YOU!  She has learned to plant the seed, back off and let me think about it.  Sometimes after I think about the suggestion for awhile, I come around.

I’m thinking that the energy of LOVE is always calling us to a greater consciousness, encouraging us to grow by recognizing our fears and deleting them from our lives.  From my experience, sometimes that can be very uncomfortable. What’s important to me is that I continue my journey and not allow fear to determine which direction to go.


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