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The Power of Radical forgiveness

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A few months ago my friend Sandra, who was in the middle of a painful divorce asked me to teach her how to pray. A few weeks later, she invited me to go on vacation and stay with her at her time share in Datona Beach, Florida- all expenses paid. Since it was the week before going to Hawaii for a month, I didn’t see how I could swing it. But as I prayed about it, the peace came and I knew it was God’s plan for the both of us. I felt excited to share my prayer life with her and how to connect more deeply with the Divine within. In return for her generosity, I offered her an intensive retreat and spiritual coaching sessions with me. 

Before we even started the vacation, God was at work in Sandra’s life and preparing her to uncover some beliefs that were blocking her from the love and peace she was seeking. Something happened that brought up a lot of anger and she felt like a victim. Sandra slept at my house the night before the flight and before going to bed, she found a book to read from my book shelf. Several years ago, this book literally found me and transformed my life from the inside out. It’s called Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping. Radical Forgiveness goes beyond the forgiveness I was taught growing up. What I learned from the book is that we attract everything into our lives for our highest good and to see the perfection in all that is happening in our lives. When we blame or judge someone who has hurt us, we live in victim land.

 Each morning Sandra and I prayed together and she learned step by step how to pray and release resentments and anger from her past. Sandra was like a sponge, open and willing to receive all that God wanted to give her. She was shedding the old for new life to come. Sandra told me she never felt so cared for and loved. 

We had an amazing vacation together. Not only did we pray, but we played, swam, shopped, walked, hugged, cried and laughed together. God was present and provided for all of our needs. Not only did Sandra make a commitment to a daily prayer life to connect more deeply with the Divine, but she is now looking for a spiritual community to enhance her new found spirituality. 

Sandra’s last divorce settlement meeting was 3 days after our intensive retreat. She said, “I prayed each day and filled my thoughts with love and light. I made it through the meeting with peace, ease and grace as Pat and I had visualized. When it was over, with a very shaky voice, I said to my now ex- husband -thank you for what you were able to share in our marriage and I wish you well. An entity of forgiveness entered my body and filled the whole room. After I spoke, his attorney put her hands in the prayer position over her heart and bowed from the waist to me with the acknowledgment of, “I see the light in you.” Only she and I knew what her gesture meant. My ex. and my lawyer just stared with open mouths. 

I feel so blessed watching Sandra’s transformation right before my eyes. As a Spiritual Life Coach, I am humbled and grateful to walk this journey with women. Do you want to learn how to pray and have a deeper connection with the Divine? I can help you. I am excited to share that the “Travel Coach” has been born. I will go away with you for a day, weekend or a week and help you transform your life and connect more deeply with the Divine.

Letting Go and Letting Others Help

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I’ll admit it, I’ve always been a “glass half full” person, but this summer was a test for me!

At the end of June I tripped, sailed through the air, and landed badly. I ended up in the ER with two broken arms, three cuts on my hand/wrist needing stitches, and a cut on my head. I had two useless arms and hands. Apparently my husband saw this more clearly than I did in the beginning because he snuck out to call an adult daughter to ask “but how is she going to go to the bathroom????”

Everyone says it was a tragedy; single women especially project themselves into that scenario and show fear on their faces. I understand where they all are coming from – I felt scared the first few days, totally unable to care for myself.

But for five days, my husband never left my side. He fed, showered and dressed me, and yes, helped me in the bathroom. My eldest daughter, who is an occupational therapist, was out of work with a hurt back so we convalesced together while she taught us the tricks of her trade to help me feel some independence. My youngest daughter arrived with a juicer and big can of protein powder. She made me a large assortment of fruit-based and vegetable-based protein shakes, that I could hold between my casted hands, and filled my refrigerator and freezer. My middle daughter helped organize my home to make it more accessible for me and reduce my stress.

Friends helped take care of my dog and two cats, brought casseroles that my husband could heat up for dinner, visited and phoned to help my days go by faster, even delivered a big bag of Spiritual Cinema films. My instructor allowed me to take my class via speaker phone so I felt included, and Visiting Nurse Services sent nurses, a PT, an OT, and CNAs to help with showers and dressing.

Because of all this, I refer to this summer as my Six Weeks of Inconvenience. I understand from the doctors that I was fortunate not to have lost consciousness nor have a concussion; I also had a cut on my wrist that just missed a vein. I am very fortunate to have a loving family and caring friends. God reminded me that I am truly blessed. I have learned great humility being fed, cleaned and showered. I have learned patience letting go and allowing others to do things on their own timetable and using their methods. And I have really worked my gratitude muscles!

Eileen Santos

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