I wrote in my journal, “Everything is in perfect and right order” after processing my dream from the night before. I felt some anxiety about writing another book because it felt like “WORK” and that didn’t feel very good. I needed to change my thinking so it would feel good. I changed my thinking to, “My writing is flowing with peace, ease and grace. I love writing “our book” and waiting for it to unfold in the perfect and right timing. I have all the time I need and EVERYTHING is in perfect and right order.”
When I finished writing, I opened to the “Daily Word” and the title was, “My life is unfolding in perfect order.” It said, “I remember to be patient with the natural timeline of occurrences in my life. Looking back, I see how the right opportunity or person came along just at the right time. Turning within, I affirm with confidence: All is in divine order. I listen and follow my guidance on what my next right step is.”
As I was meditating, my friend, Mary, came into my consciousness. Over the last several years, God has given me divine messages for Mary. I don’t have any idea what they mean, but I follow my intuition and guidance and either call or email her the message. She ALWAYS responds that the message was “right on” and how she needed to hear Gods words at that moment.
I felt in my Spirit that God was giving me a message for Mary. I called and left the message on her answering machine. It was very simple, “EVERYTHING is in perfect and right order. Let go of control. Trust me, all is well.”
Later in the day, I received an email from Mary and here is what she wrote:
“Thank you so much for your message today. You always know when to call and what to say. God so works through you. Dave and I were out car shopping today. When they were working out the figures in the other room, I checked my messages while waiting. OMG. What great joy and comfort to receive your message for when they came back it did not work for us and we were dismayed. We so wanted that car. So I kept thinking of your message from God to trust all is perfect and well. Later that day, we found a car with more features for less money in the color we wanted. As always, God’s perfect timing. Thanks for being such a divine conduit and reflection of God’s love and oneness. Love knows no distance. Also, just yesterday, I was packing my altar and on it were all the messages you sent me over the years. So touching and can you believe it today you send me one just when I needed it again. Thank you so much.”
God worked overtime with me that day because I experienced another “perfect and right” timing incident right after calling Mary with the message. Last week, I shared about meeting with Sharon (Sacred Life publishing) and Margie from my yoga class. Margie hired Sharon “on the spot” because God had promised Margie He would bring the publisher to her. I felt excited and honored to be a part of the “divine orchestration” and watch how that unfolded right before my eyes.
Right before yoga class, I heard the small, still voice of God say, “I want you to bring Margie a present to congratulate and thank her for trusting me and writing the book.” I love to give gifts to my friends and have a “gift drawer” in my living room. Several months ago, I bought a beautiful card with a poem on it at a fair that Larry and I attended. I even found a frame and framed it. I had no idea who I would give it to, but trusted I would know when it was time.
As I picked up the card and read the poem, I knew in my spirit, that it was meant for Margie. I wrapped it and planned on giving it to her at the yoga class. When she read the poem and that the author was Marianne Williamson, she was stunned. She said, “Pat, you are not going to believe this. While I was just driving to class, Spirit was telling me to CALL Marianne Williamson and ask her to endorse my book.” We just smiled at one another, knowing that Spirit was involved. Here is the email I received from Margie later that day. “What a GIFT you gave me!!!! I have it right with me on my desk as a reminder of the Perfection of it all! Mahalo
I invited Larry to share a time that he heard the small, still voice of God within and listened.
’When you read Pat’s blogs you read how she listens and “hears” the small, still voice of God or the Universe speaking to her. It is because she BELIEVES that it is Spirit, God or the Universe. She is dedicated to discerning the voice within and following through.
I often think I’m listening, but I’m not hearing anything much of the time. I sometimes feel frustrated and think perhaps I’m listening the wrong way. I may think about doing something and think it’s a bit far out. For example: I say things to myself like “I can’t do that, what will people think of me, that’s crazy, where did that thought come from? Do you ever feel that way? Sometimes the thought or idea will simply not go away until I act on it. It’s been my experience that when I follow through, I always learn and grow, even when it seems crazy. Here is an example.
Years ago we had an elderly couple named, Evelyn and Phil who were our neighbors. We knew each other casually and would always say good morning to one another. I would help them with their yard work, whenever they needed help.
Evelyn was diagnosed with cancer and was in the hospital for a long time. I would see her husband Phil around and always inquire about how she was doing. Then one day I was instructed (small, still voice of God) to go to the hospital and tell her how much God loved her. My initial reaction was, “Not me, this is crazy, I can’t do that because I don’t even know her that well.” My family already thought I was crazy because of my beliefs. I knew if my wife ever found out I was going around telling people that God loved them, she would try to have me committed.
I didn’t act on this for a few days, hoping it would just go away. Of course, it didn’t and it became even more intense. I finally stepped out in faith and said, “O.K. God, if this is what you want me to do, I will do it.” I went to the hospital with the little pocket size new testament that I carried around in those days. When I arrived at the hospital, I felt afraid and was a wreck. I thought to myself, ”What if there are people in her room with her, what if she’s sleeping, what if she doesn’t even recognize me?”
When I got off the elevator and started to walk to her room, my hands were shaking so badly that I had to put them in my jacket pocket. My knees were also knocking and I thought everyone could hear them. I thought I was going to faint.
When I arrived at Evelyn’s room, I discovered she had a private room, was awake and alone. Thank you God! She remembered me and seemed genuinely happy to see me. We talked for a while and then I said, “Evelyn, the main reason I came to see you tonight is that GOD wanted me to tell you how much he loves you.” The tears started to flow down her cheeks and she said, “I really needed to hear that.” We visited a little while longer and I read her a few verses from my pocket new testament. When I was getting ready to leave she said, “Larry, will you please come back and see me again?”
I visited her quite often after that and she once said, “I am so grateful for your visits because you are the only one I can cry with and tell how I am really feeling. I always have to be happy and optimistic with my family.” Evelyn passed over to the other side to continue her journey a short time after that. I can still feel her presence as I write this story. My lesson from this experience is that when Spirit, Love (God) or the Universe speaks, whether it is often or just once in a while, I will try to listen.”
God has given each one of us the gift of intuition and wants to use us as His instruments. It is not always easy to listen to the small, still voice of God and do what we are asked to do. It takes PRACTICE and not being attached to the outcome. Like Larry, I have also experienced the fear of what others will think. It has been my experience that the more I TRUST my “inner voice” and step out in faith, the more confident I become and know it is God. Fear is useless, what is needed is trust.
As I finished my meditation this morning, the word TRUST popped into my consciousness. I think trusting myself is the greatest gift I have given myself. When you learn how to trust yourself, you will know how to live. I followed my heart, trusted myself and moved 5,000 miles away to live on Maui because I knew I was going to meet my soul mate there.
Ernest Holmes in his book, “Creative Ideas” writes, “Whatever I should know, I shall know. Whatever I should do, I shall do. Whatever belongs to me must come to me.”
Learning to trust myself has been a life-long process. I need to trust when to “go within” for my answers and when to go outside of myself for help or support. I need to know when to rest and when to DO and when to just BE. I have learned to “go within” to see how something feels. If it doesn’t feel 100% in alignment with God, I don’t do it. I wait until it feels right and I am guided to the next right thing. Sometimes it doesn’t even make sense and I don’t understand it, but I trust and wait.
In the trusting, comes the waiting and waiting requires patience. For example, when I moved to Maui, I was ready and willing and expected to use my gifts as an author, speaker and spiritual life coach. God had other plans and I am so grateful that I listened and surrendered “My Plan” as well as my will, my ego, my timing and my gifts. God’s Plan was for me to learn how to BE, to go deeper with God and experience God’s love like I had never experienced it before.
So for 6 months when I first arrived on Maui, I “waited on God” and didn’t DO anything, but follow my heart. I rested, prayed, played and listened to the small, still voice of God within. I also WAITED 15 years for Larry to “show up.” Here it is 3 ½ years later and I am writing another book with Larry and have just been invited to give a presentation at the Unity Church in Maui. I allow the mystery of life to unfold as I trust in God’s perfect timing.
During that time of waiting, I was led to read a book called “Faith” by A.C. Ping. Here is a paragraph that spoke to my heart and helped me to rest and do NOTHING.
“One of the most frustrating times along the spiritual path occurs when NOTHING seems to be happening. Not only do we have lots of time to think, but at the same time people keep asking you “What’s happening?” On the surface nothing seems to be happening, but underneath a great shift is occurring. Instead of feeling frustrated, it may be that life is giving you a safe place to rest and gather your energy for the journey ahead. You may not be able to see which way to go, but if you sit patiently, have faith that life has meaning and wait until the mist clears, you may find that one day you wake up to a bright blue sky that reveals a clear path leading to an even more beautiful mountain than the one you just climbed. The temptation will be to run around in the mist searching for guidance. But this will wear you out and until you stop and rest, no further path will be revealed to you until you have the energy to attempt the next climb. Trust that although nothing seems to be happening on the surface, a whole lot is happening below the surface.”
During this “Waiting on God” process I learned to let go of my pushing and making things happen, which for me, was all about control. I learned the importance of “allowing” things to come to me if it was meant to be and practicing being in the “FLOW.”
Here is an example of being in the “FLOW” and trusting myself and God’s perfect timing. About a year ago, I met a woman at my weekly yoga class named, Margie. We only spoke for a few minutes but both felt like we wanted to get to know one another. And we KNEW it would happen at the perfect and right timing.
Last week Margie kept coming into my mind, so I called her and invited her for coffee after our yoga class. She was delighted and excited to meet with me. I didn’t know anything about Margie and was quite surprised when she said, “I have been writing a book for the past 3 years and it is ready to be published, but the publisher hasn’t shown up yet.” Of course, I told her about meeting Sharon the week before and her publishing company. Margie sat there with her mouth opened wide. She said, “The Holy Spirit has been telling me that He would bring the publisher to me.” We both had chills running down our arms. Sharon and I met with Margie for tea 4 days later and Margie hired Sharon to be her publisher. We all agreed it was a “Divine Encounter.” I asked myself, “Why hadn’t I met with Margie 6 months ago or 2 weeks ago?” It’s because it wasn’t God’s timing and I would not have had this information that she needed right NOW.
I invited Larry to share his thoughts and experiences with trust, patience and “waiting on God.”
Pat has been talking the talk and walking the walk for a very long time. She has developed a very strong trust in guidance from LOVE (GOD). She has learned and is learning to trust her spirit completely; she listens, discerns and then acts even if the acting doesn’t make sense to her at the time. Loving her and living with her, I get to witness her joyful journey. I am encouraged to look at my life and realize that I want to be open to the gift of TRUST also and allow my spirituality to develop through my TRUST in spirit.
One of the elements of trust is “Patience” and I have always needed work in that area. Part of my daily communication with LOVE is to ask for the gift of patience which I have been doing for quite some time. Sometimes I think I’m making progress and then I stumble and feel like I’m back to square one. I’m beginning to understand that patience is a gift from Spirit; all I need to do is ask, be open and receive, TRUST that I’ve been given the gift and practice using it.
Here are a couple of examples that occurred this week. I don’t have a set way to meditate or listen to the voice of LOVE. I usually receive inspirational thoughts during my daily walks or while driving in my car. Since I agreed to contribute to Pat’s blogs and in preparation for writing our book together, I bought a portable recorder to use during those times. Since I purchased the recorder I have heard NOTHING and not had any inspirational thoughts from Spirit. I said to myself, “O.K. God, I bought the recorder, let’s go, I’m ready.” I sensed in my Spirit that it was important that I change my thinking, so now I’m looking at this as a wonderful opportunity to practice “PATIENCE.” I am “TRUSTING” and “WAITING” that spirit will speak when it’s in my highest good. I trust that although NOTHING seems to be happening on the surface, a whole lot is happening below the surface.
Another opportunity I had to practice patience was while we were shopping in a large department store that had a branch bank in it. We were leaving and Pat recognized a teller she knew and wanted to say hi to her. She was busy with another customer and Pat had to wait in line to talk to her. I could feel myself becoming impatient and irritated, and in fact, motioned to Pat when she turned around to look at me that we had things to do. Then I immediately thought to myself, “Perhaps Spirit is using Pat to be a vessel of LOVE towards this teller and why should I be impatient and possibly interrupt this from happening.” I was able to completely change my thinking and relax. I spent the remainder of the time that I waited for Pat sending LOVE Energy to all of the customers in the store. How good it is when we can TRUST the gift of PATIENCE and LOVE.
I feel so blessed that Larry and I are on the same page and practice patience with ourselves and one another. We are learning to respect each other’s journey and wait for Spirit to lead and guide. We know that all good things come to those who wait and God’s timing is perfect. All we have to do is “show up” and say YES.
Has this ever happened to you? Things are going pretty good in your relationship and you don’t want to “rock the boat” and say something that might upset your loved one. You may believe that it is safer to just say nothing. Perhaps it has been your pattern to ignore, deny, minimize or rationalize what you’re feeling or experiencing just to keep the peace and not “rock the boat.”
I lived my life with those unhealthy patterns for many years because I didn’t know any better. I wasn’t taught how to communicate effectively, especially being assertive and asking for what I wanted. When my ex-husband sensed something was bothering me, he would ask, “Is something wrong?” I would automatically say, “No, nothing is wrong.” We both played the same game saying nothing was wrong, instead of being honest and open. I would continue to feel hurt, sulk or cry until we got to the bottom of things. Often, it would be days or weeks before I was aware of what I was feeling. I was good at pushing my feelings down by staying busy or eating or whatever else I did to avoid my feelings.
I remember a time when I was married and we were having company. I was running around the house like a chicken without a head and my ex-husband was sitting on the couch reading the newspaper. I was vacuuming the rug when he asked, “Is something wrong?” I blew up and said, “Can’t you see I need help?” He said, “All you needed to do was ask me to vacuum and I would have been happy to do it.” He was right. I expected him to read my mind, which is another unhealthy pattern that we fell into.
As I got stronger and learned how to communicate assertively and effectively, I started to speak up and ask for what I wanted as well as what I didn’t want in our relationship. In fact, I have heard you teach what you need to learn. For many years, I taught weekly interpersonal skills groups when I worked at the VA hospital. Speaking up didn’t always work and my ex-husband didn’t like it. Changing patterns in a relationship takes a lot of work and both parties have to be willing to change or it doesn’t work. It takes courage and trust in yourself to speak up and perhaps upset the apple cart. It’s risky business because the relationship may not last. In fact, it didn’t last and my marriage of 30 years ended 17 years ago.
Larry and I have great communication skills. We invite each other to be honest and open. We take the time to listen to each other and take responsibility for our actions, and often end up laughing at ourselves. Because our relationship is healthy and open, it is easy for me to bring up something that may be bothering me. I no longer, deny, minimize, ignore or rationalize what I am feeling or experiencing.
For the past week, I have had the “opportunity” to practice and speak up to Larry about a few things that upset me. They weren’t big things, but nonetheless, I chose to share them with him because I didn’t want things to build up inside of me and then come out sideways a month later. As I shared earlier, in the past, it might have taken me days or weeks to get in touch with my feelings and realize I was upset about something. For the most part, today I am aware almost immediately of what I’m feeling and share if it is appropriate and for the good of our relationship.
I realized my “history” of “speaking up” did rock the boat and ended our 30 – year marriage. Even though I will not return to unhealthy patterns of communication and behaviors, I felt vulnerable and fearful of what might happen with Larry and me because I spoke up and asked clearly for what I wanted and shared what I didn’t want. Deep down, I sensed this wasn’t about my relationship with Larry, but past relationships and what happened.
I prayed and asked God for help. Here is what I heard Spirit say: “As you speak up and share your truth, you are modeling healthy communication and this is good, Pat. Don’t be afraid, trust me, trust yourself and trust your relationship.”
I am choosing love instead of fear. Today love means being honest, open, willing, authentic, trusting, worthy and deserving. Fear means holding back, denying, pretending, running away, pushing away, minimizing, pleasing another at the expense of myself and not rocking the boat.
I invited Larry to share his thoughts, feelings and history about communication in a relationship.
I believe that communication is crucial in any relationship, especially with your partner. Like Pat, I didn’t have the skills to communicate in my first marriage, but I have had a lot of years to practice and learn. If my ex-wife confronted me with something that was bothering her, I would automatically get “defensive” because it made me feel “wrong” and I didn’t like that. I didn’t understand that it was her perspective and it didn’t automatically make me wrong.
Today, I am open to listen when something is bothering Pat and I don’t have to defend myself. We are able to work things out so both of our needs are met. When Pat has a problem I try to be present to her with patience and kindness even though I may be seeing things from an entirely different prospective and may not agree with her. It’s not always easy but we both feel it’s worth it.
I am so fortunate that Pat has the great communication skills that she has. She seems to be able to get right to the point of a situation without being “accusatory” or insensitive and that’s great. That doesn’t necessarily make it easy for me because most times, the result is that I have to look at myself and my actions to discern what is going on that I may need to change.
Pat is teaching me how to communicate more effectively and ask for what I want, which is something I didn’t do real well. Looking back, I realize I didn’t ask for what I wanted because I didn’t know what I wanted. I was focused on my family and pleasing them and making them happy. I also didn’t feel deserving to ask even if I did know what I wanted. The beginning of my journey to find out who I was and what I wanted started many years ago when I lost everything: my home, family and business.
It is in a man’s DNA to “protect” his woman. I had a tendency to want to “help” whether it was wanted, appreciated or needed. I am learning to ask Pat if she wants my help and let her make the decision. Pat feels respected knowing she can do something on her own if she wants to, and it also takes the pressure off me to always feel like I have to help her.
I believe Pat feels a sense of love, security and protection, but I am not taking care of her, she is an intelligent woman who makes her own decisions, knows what she likes and dislikes and makes her choices accordingly. We are a couple who love and care for one another, love spending time together and doing things together and we each have our own lives and interests apart. We are joined at the heart not at the hip.
I am trying to live my life as a “vessel of love” and to do that I’ve had to make a lot of changes. I’m still learning to turn to the energy and light of love within when I need guidance and not allow fear and ego to influence me. Love has never failed me and never will. There is nothing stronger than the energy of love.
Several people recently have said to me, “When are you going to write the sequel to your next book?” I smile and say, “I don’t know, but I will know when it is time.” Deep down, I really didn’t want to write another book because I didn’t want it to interfere with the life Larry and I have created for ourselves. But, I also wanted to do God’s will and be guided and led if that was what I was meant to do.
God has used my dear friend, Joanne, to speak to me many times over the years. I dropped out of college in my junior year for 1 year because I was afraid of writing a 20 page paper. I have no idea what she said to encourage me, but whatever she said, I knew it was God and I returned to school the next semester. I graduated a year later and then went on to finish a Master’s degree. I am so grateful that I listened because I wouldn’t be living my dream today.
Joanne was unable to attend my presentation, “The Power of Self-Love to Manifest Your Dreams” in Rhode Island due to health challenges. A couple of days before the talk we spent the day together and I presented my talk to her. She was very quiet as she listened intently. When I finished, she looked at me and said, “Wow, this is the outline for your next book, Pat. I knew everything that happened to you but I couldn’t wait for you to tell me what happened next.” I sat there with tears in my eyes because I sensed God was speaking to me. I closed my eyes and heard God say, “HEAR WHAT SHE HAS TO SAY, PAT.” I hadn’t shared with Joanne what people have been saying to me about writing a sequel to my book. I said to myself, “OK God, show me the way. I ask you to bring it to me.”
Larry and I have been praying about the possibility of writing a book together about our story and the power of Love Energy in our lives. I shared with Larry what Joanne said to me and we agreed to continue to pray for guidance. Since I write my blog every week, Larry agreed to begin writing some blogs with me and see how that felt for us.
Here is what showed up today and how God is guiding us. Several months ago, I received a message on Facebook from a woman named Sharon, that I had not met before. She was moving to Maui and asked about a spiritual community. When she arrived, she called me and we planned to meet at Unity Church that Sunday. I had to leave the service early so we just got to say hello to one another.
She called me afterward, but we couldn’t get together since Larry was moving in and we were very busy. I ran into her at the theatre right before my trip to Rhode Island and she said, “Pat, I would really like to get together with you.” I said, “I will call you when I return home from Rhode Island.” When I returned to Maui, she kept coming into my mind and I knew I needed to call her and get together. When Larry asked me who I was having tea with that day, I told him the story of Facebook and that I didn’t really know Sharon, but that I knew we were meant to get together. As I was leaving the house to meet Sharon, I heard Spirit say, “Go back and get your book,” which I did.
Sharon and I didn’t waste any time getting to know one another when we met. We shared our lives and how our faith and trust in God brought us to Maui. She is the author of “Sacred Living, Sacred Dying – A Guide to Embodying Life and Death” and has had 2 near death experiences, which were very inspirational. She also owns a publishing company called “Sacred Life Publishers.”
I sat there quietly at first when she told me she owned a publishing company. I wondered if this could be a “Divine Encounter” and had God brought Sharon into my life to help me move forward with another book?
I shared that Larry and I were praying about writing a book together and what had happened with my friend, Joanne a few weeks ago. She smiled and grabbed my hand as my eyes filled up. She said, “I will help you Pat with whatever you need.” I said, “Thank you, I had no idea you had a publishingcompany.” And she said, “I had no idea you were an author and wrote a book.”
I was excited to share this news with Larry about Sharon’s publication company and wondered what his reaction would be. Would he see this as a sign from God that we were meant to write a book together? Just that morning, he had agreed to write something for my blog.
Here it is:
“Pat and I share and discuss our spiritual journey all the time, we respect and encourage each others growth and value each others opinion. We have been praying about writing a book together and were waiting for signs that it was God’s will.
Writing a book together and even writing in her blog each week is definitely a stretch for me and I am completely out of my comfort zone. It’s really difficult for me to share my spiritual journey and private thoughts in public. I have learned, however, that Spirit will give us gentle nudges to get our attention to do something and if that doesn’t work then we may just get banged on the head. I think I’m feeling gentle nudges and I better listen.
For as long as I can remember I’ve had dreams filled with being chased, being in very stressful situations and generally very unhappy circumstances. Pat and I have been doing the Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson to release trapped emotions regarding my dreams and I have definitely experienced a shift.
The day after Pat met with Sharon, I had a dream that was very meaningful and I believe could be a sign from God that we are meant to write a book together. In my dream, Pat and I had a baby and I was trying to find a place to lay it down. The baby started to become cranky and unhappy. I remember thinking “You are not going to be a cranky baby and the baby instantly became happy and peaceful.” I believe, perhaps the “BABY” could be representing the book that we are considering and could be a nudge in that direction.
During my walk and meditation that day, I thought, “I want to accept every gift, every occasion in my life as something positive even if it frightens me or is asking me to stretch and leave my comfort zone. I will be open to all possibilities and see every gift as an opportunity.”
So, stay tuned, I believe the sequel to “Simply a Woman of Faith” has been birthed. WHEN YOU LEAP, YOU REAP and God gives you wings to fly. And while you are leaping into the unknown and the mystery, Spirit takes over and all of your needs are provided for. I know it is time for the next book and I say YES!
I breathe in God’s love, I breathe out fear and control. I surrender to the moment, and God’s will in my life. I say YES to the mystery and adventure we are stepping into of writing a book together. Help us know you will show us the HOW, WHERE, and WHEN in the perfect and right timing. I trust you will bring us the people to help and guide us and that it will flow with peace, ease and grace. All we have to do is “show up” and do the next right thing. Thank you God because with God all things are possible.
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