I wasn’t expecting the CRASH when I returned home. I’m grateful that I remembered CONTRACTION often follows EXPANSION. It’s important to understand and honor our EXPANSION and CONTRACTION cycles as part of life and not to be afraid when CONTRACTION happens.
Anytime you push past the limit of what you are today; anytime you grow and expand; anytime you move further than is normal for you, you will experience CONTRACTION. The exchange of energy in cycles of expansion and contraction is happening constantly. It is part of how human beings work. It follows breathing cycles: Every time you inhale, you expand; every time you exhale, you contract.
As I shared in last week’s blog, when I returned home from my vacation with family, I felt EXPANDED, EMPOWERED, INTEGRATED, and LOVED. I was able to work through issues quickly by asking Spirit for help, not taking things personally, and giving myself the affirmations that I craved from others, as I did for so many years.
It seemed like out of nowhere, I CRASHED and spiraled into irrational FEARS after being home for only a couple of days. I didn’t understand it at first because it felt like something was wrong with me and a personal weakness. My heart felt heavy and afraid as I thought about some family and friends who were suffering and in pain.
As I prayed and journaled about my irrational fears, I asked Spirit for a message:
“RISE UP FROM THE ASHES. You are under attack from your ego. Your ego is dying and it’s not happy. Ego is threatened and doesn’t want you to celebrate and integrate so it’s attacking your mind with fear. Remember, all there is is love and all is well. Keep calling on me and TRUST the process. Keep choosing love. All that is real is LOVE. Fear is not real, but a ploy of the ego.”
The ego is the part of us that tries to control everything so that we feel safe. The ego makes us feel separate from each other and God. When we see others as different from ourselves, it creates an illusion of separation, creating a sense of lack and scarcity. It leads to competition rather than cooperation; it leads to judgment rather than acceptance; it leads to fear rather than love; it leads to hate rather than forgiveness.
Once I understood what was happening and how my ego was robbing me of my peace and well-being, I felt grounded and peaceful. back to myself and open for miracles.
The week before I left for vacation, I twisted and hurt my back when our dog, Kobi, was attacked by another dog. It was recommended that Pilates would help strengthen my core stomach muscles.
I felt a little overwhelmed as I explored Pilates studios in the area. I didn’t know whether to do group or private lessons, mat or the transformer machine. Money was definitely a factor as I would be doing it for a long time. I asked for guidance to be led to the right and perfect place.
I belonged to a gym before COVID hit. It’s been 2 ½ years since I stopped my membership. I decided to call and see if they offered Pilates classes and inquire about the cost of renewing my membership. They didn’t have a Pilates class scheduled at the moment but would be starting one soon. Membership costs $499.
I was thrilled as one of my children surprised me with a check for $500 right before I returned home. Of course, neither of us knew the cost of renewing my membership.
God’s timing was perfect, as always. We are always provided for when we trust and ask for guidance.
When my intention and focus are to LOVE and receive LOVE, go within for guidance, and keep my vibration high in gratitude and peace, miracles happen. I returned home yesterday from my 3-week family vacation and I have to say it was the BEST ever. I experienced love and kindness from my family and friends. I stayed with my daughter, Mary, and grandson, Herbie, on their farm in Rhode Island.
I felt freer and more loving than I have ever felt. I didn’t take things personally, laughed a lot, and gave myself the affirmations that I needed, instead of looking outside to be affirmed. There were a few opportunities to let go of old beliefs of not belonging that came to the surface. I was able to move through it quickly and release the false beliefs that had been present for 50 years.
Message from Spirit:
“My plan is unfolding perfectly. I am opening your eyes and heart to the truth that you are LOVE and LIGHT and all that you have overcome and accomplished in this lifetime. Being with the family of origin is a breeding ground for deeper healing and transformation. It may bring up old patterns and beliefs that still may be lurking in your subconscious that no longer serve you. Allow my healing energy to flow to you. Focus only on LOVE and all you truly desire will manifest at the perfect moment.”
A few months before the vacation, I picked the angel card of TRUST. I put it on my altar and prayed with it daily. Another theme for the vacation was to GO WITH THE FLOW and to ALLOW things to unfold in divine timing.
I like to plan things or perhaps I like to be in control. In the past, because I have a big family and friends I wanted to visit, I scheduled everything before I even got there. There is nothing wrong with planning and it worked in the past. It was different this year as I didn’t have the desire to plan before I arrived, but instead, I allowed myself to TRUST and go with the FLOW.
Every year, my friend, Donna, and I go to our friends, B&B on the ocean for a couple of days. The night before we were to go, Donna called and said, “My friend, who I was with all weekend just tested positive for COVID.”
Although we were both disappointed that she couldn’t come, we accepted, trusted, and didn’t complain. We were practicing going with the FLOW. A couple of days later, Donna tested positive for COVID. I didn’t realize that going alone to the B&B was exactly what I needed. After the ordeal with Kobi the week before and hurting my back, my body needed to REST. I felt grateful that the door was closed at the last minute and that I was protected.
Later in the week, I planned on meeting another friend, Gail, for lunch. She called the night before and said, “I just tested positive for COVID.” Again, more protection at the perfect timing.
I drove my daughter’s car while I was there. I pulled into her driveway and we discovered that the fluid for the power steering was leaking and the power steering was gone. It would have been very difficult to drive without power steering. More protection!
I enjoy receiving guidance from my deck of angel cards. I received the card of ENCOURAGEMENT 5 times while I was there. Spirit was speaking and I was listening.
“Your love is invaluable to the earth and to those around you. Even though you may not always see the positive effects your love has on others, TRUST it does. Each time you offer love; a smile, a kind word, a loving gesture, you plant a seed of love, and love always generates more love. Trust and continue your loving work.”
While I was there, I listened to a podcast called “Aging Gracefully.” I really resonated with it and realize that at the age of 75 I am in the last chapter of my life. It could be 20 years or 20 minutes from now. It is also the BEST chapter of my life as I integrate all my life experiences and celebrate who I have become. Today, I am celebrating my growth and that love is all there is and all that is REAL.
How about you? Do you know that your love is invaluable to the earth and all those around you? Trust and continue your loving work.
I believe everything happens for a reason and is always for my highest good. I strive to take 100 % responsibility for whatever I attract into my life. It could be a challenge, an injury, a death, an accident, an illness, or any loss.
It may be difficult to “accept” when we are suffering and in pain or when our loved ones are in pain. Acceptance is often the last thing we want to do. Instead, we complain because we don’t know why something happened and our “ego mind” wants to figure it out and wants control.
I was given the opportunity to “accept” what happened to Kobi and me this week as if I had chosen it.
I was taking Kobi for an early morning walk in an empty parking lot just outside of the Shops of Wailea. I was casually strolling along connecting with the beautiful trees. flowers and birds. As I looked ahead, I saw a big black dog off leash charging towards us. I screamed to the owner to stop the dog, but it was too late.
Kobi is small, but not afraid of other dogs and wanted to protect me. It was a horrible scene as they fought with one another. I was screaming and trying to pull Kobi away from the dog but to no avail. Finally, the owner who was an elderly man grabbed his dog and pulled them apart. I was in shock, trembling, and frozen in place. With all the twisting and turning to get the dogs apart, I wrenched and twisted my back.
The man asked, “Are you ok?” I replied, “No, I’m not.” My whole body was trembling and I couldn’t move or walk. He asked, “How can I help you?” I responded, “Take your dog to your car.” He took the dog to his car and immediately returned to help me. I gave him my car keys so he could get my car which was parked on the opposite side of the parking lot. He apologized for his dog’s aggressive behavior. Unfortunately. I was so shocked that I didn’t think to get his name and phone number. There are leash laws, but most people don’t pay any attention to them.
Although Kobi was mauled, there was no blood and we didn’t have to take him to the vet. He limped for a couple of days and seemed to be in pain. We are so grateful he is fine now and back to taking walks with Larry and me.
I managed to drive home and almost collapsed when I came into the house, I was so shaken up. Driving home, I did EFT tapping on myself and prayed to God for help.
I was grateful that I didn’t fall and Kobi wasn’t seriously injured. I needed to stay in the energy of gratitude for my peace of mind. My family was angry and rightfully so, but I didn’t feel the anger about what happened until a few days later.
I believe in the power of prayer and happily pray for others. It was my turn now to be vulnerable and ask for prayers. I reached out to friends and put a post on Facebook about what happened. The love and prayers poured in from people I knew and didn’t know. I received texts, calls, and flowers from a neighbor, and a dear friend offered to pay for a therapeutic massage for me. Another friend did 4 Reconnective long-distance healings on me.
During prayer, I asked Spirit what I needed to learn and why I attracted this into my life. Message from Spirit:
“I invite you to be open to receiving love as there must be balance. You are getting back/receiving the love and kindness you so graciously give to others. You have opened your heart for more love. Don’t judge it or try to figure it out. Just trust, accept and receive my peace. It pleases me that you asked me for help and you reached out to others for prayers. Relax, all is well and you are aligned with me.”
I rested for almost a week as I was in a lot of back pain and could hardly get out of bed. I meditated, prayed, visualized, and kept choosing love. I know I have the power within (God) to heal myself; that is what I planned on doing.
This happened last Monday and the following Monday I was scheduled to fly to Rhode Island for my family reunion for 3 weeks. I really needed God’s healing if I was going to take the long plane ride. I saw improvement every day as I trusted that I was being healed.
By the time you receive this, I will be in Rhode Island and enjoying my family. God is good and God is faithful. I will not be writing another blog until I return to Maui. Thank you all for your prayers and love. Love is all there is and we are all connected.
We had never spoken before, other than smiling and saying hello as we passed one another on the beach walk. A couple of days ago, she stopped me and said, “Did you move? Someone told me that Pat with the hat had moved. I smiled and said, “No, I’m still here.”
She looked me in the eyes and said, “What miracle are you praying for?” I was stunned and didn’t answer her. I am a believer in miracles, but I wasn’t expecting the question from someone I didn’t know. I wasn’t about to share with a stranger that I was struggling and had just prayed to God for help.
Author and teacher Marianne Williamson says, “A miracle is a shift in perception from fear to love.” I needed to change my thinking, for sure.
What is hidden is coming to the light in our individual lives and collectively. This is not to shame or judge us but to help us grow and EVOLVE to be the best person we can be. Spirit wants us to be free and live authentic and peaceful lives.
I kept thinking about the question and asked myself, “How can something that happened over 50 years ago still be running the show after all these years of healing and transformation? For years, the “not good enough” egoic voice played havoc with me. Until I became aware that it was the ego, I was plagued with fear, guilt, judgement, and shame. Here is what came up this week:
When I was newly married my father and step-mom would visit from New York. The first thing he said after saying hello was, “Did you gain weight or did you lose weight?” A few minutes later, I would go into the bathroom and look in the mirror and criticize myself. I internalized this and thought I had to be the perfect weight to be deserving of love.
My journey of transformation has been learning to love myself in body, mind and spirit. Instead of looking outside of myself for affirmation and self-worth, I have learned to give it to myself.
Although I have been loving my body by exercising and eating healthy, Spirit brought to the light that the reason I was struggling and suffering was that I was still obsessed with my weight, looking good, and wanting to be perfect.
Between the cultural conditioning of being a woman and having to have the perfect weight in order to feel loved and my father’s disapproval of my body, I NEVER felt good enough and judged and criticized myself, especially my belly. I’m not alone and know many women who criticize and hate some parts of their bodies. I was recently with a friend who has a beautiful figure and she said, “I criticize my body daily as not being good enough and I get on the scale daily.”
As I was preparing to write this, Spirit brought to mind something I had totally forgotten about. When I was about 12-14 years old, I went to a doctor with my mother every week for a few years to get diet pills. I WAS NOT OVERWEIGHT. I’m grateful I didn’t become addicted to the pills. No wonder I have had body issues for so many years with both parents giving me these distorted messages.
My body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and I am made in the image and likeness of God. Spirit brought this to the light to free me of my obsession of being the perfect size and weight to deserve love.
I AM DONE with not feeling good enough and need a MIRACLE. My thinking has to change if I am to have peace and know the truth that I am not my body. I AM Love and Light. My body is a space suit I have on while I am in form.
What miracle are you praying for? Do you think you have to be the perfect weight and size to deserve love? Do you love your body? If not now, WHEN? It’s time to reclaim our power and love the body God has given us.
My faith and trust in God/Source are very important to me and have always been. I am a half-full glass kind of gal, rather than a half-empty glass kind of gal. I have “trained my mind” to see the positive and “expect” the best in all things. What we “expect” we get. It’s our choice to “expect” negative or positive outcomes.
I asked myself, “How and where did my spiritual journey start?” Spirit brought to mind a book that I read 55 years ago called, “Enthusiasm Makes the Difference” by Norman Vincent Peale. Have any of you ever read this book?
Years ago, after reading the book, I met a man at a bar in New York City and couldn’t stop talking about it. Although I can’t remember today what was in the book, I remember being on fire and excited to share what I was learning about enthusiasm with anyone who would listen.
For the past few weeks, I have been thinking about the book and went to the library to see if they had a copy. They didn’t have it and had to order it from a neighboring island.
The book was published in 1967. I was 20 years old when I found it, or shall I say it found me because it changed my life. I had no idea that it was the first metaphysical book that I had ever read. Here are a few metaphysical teachers and authors you may recognize: Aristotle, Newton, Plato, Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer, Alan Cohen, and Neville Goddard. You may wonder what is metaphysics.
Metaphysics is a science. Science is to have knowledge of the unseen “secret” laws of the universe. Once you understand the laws of the universe, you will be more empowered to create the reality you want. You will learn that you can heal yourself in many ways through the power of truly becoming ONE with God. Oneness is the remembrance that you can never be separated from God. You cannot be separated from another human, nature, or anything that you can think of. Because everything is ONE and it all exists in the mind. You remember your true spiritual and eternal form and that everything is YOU.
I really enjoyed reading “Enthusiasm Makes the difference” againand learning about mental and spiritual treatment. Here are a few excerpts from the book:
· Deliberately ACT AS IF you are calm, confident, and peaceful.
· Lump & Drop – Empty your mind at the end of the day of all unpleasant experiences to prevent unhealthy thoughts from lodging in consciousness overnight.
· Start the day by telling yourself all the GOOD news you can think of. I have a healthy body, a job, a family, a bright future, abundance, and prosperity.
· Don’t depreciate life by thinking about all the things that are wrong.
· Sell yourself on yourself by believing in yourself, your talents, and gifts.
· Listen to what you say to yourself that is negative and say the opposite.
· Put your life in God’s hands, knowing you are divinely guided & protected.
As I think about my spiritual journey that started 55 years ago, I am astonished at how far I have come. My attitude is gratitude for the lessons and opportunities I have been given to grow and EVOLVE. After years of inner work and healing, I have come home to myself and “awakened” to the truth of who I am.
Sometimes it was hard and difficult, but I always got to the other side with the grace of God and my willingness to TRUST & surrender to the Spirit. Today, I am no longer seeking, pushing, searching outside of myself for answers as I am contented and experience a peace that passes all understanding.
Here is the truth of who I am and what I PRACTICE daily:
· Love is my sole purpose. I am LOVE and loved. My religion is LOVE.
· I have learned to go within for my answers for everything.
· I am less defensive, reactive, and don’t take things personally.
· I detach from the outcome knowing all is planned in the mind of God.
· I ACCEPT WHAT IS as if I have chosen it.
· I am less judgmental of myself and others.
· I am aware of the egoic thought system and how it has robbed me.
· I am more patient with myself & others knowing we are all doing our best and we are all ONE.
It truly is a joy to serve and inspire others to know the truth of who they are and live their highest and best life. We are meant to live in joy. It is our birthright.
Pat Hastings-Burns & Larry Burns: A Spiritual Match Made in Heaven (Hawai’i)
“Love all you see, including yourself,” said a wise kahuna many years ago, an extraordinary statement empowered by its simple beauty. Unbeknownst to them at the time, it was learning this all-encompassing kind of love that eventually led Pat and Larry to Maui and to each other.
Larry says the journey of his spirituality introduced him to a concept he calls love consciousness. “It’s knowing, accepting, and trusting that love is the most powerful energy known to humankind—stronger than fear, hatred, or suffering. Love is much stronger than any weapons that man has ever developed. Love is available to everyone as a gift, just like the sun that shines and the rain that falls. Love is the answer to all difficulties. When we choose love over fear, the world becomes the heaven on Earth it is meant to be.”
Many different and even surprising milestones led Larry to his future wife “I love horses, they were an important part of my life when I was younger,” he shares. “I was born and raised in Hartford, Connecticut with 2 brothers and a sister. I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up,” he chuckles, “as I’ve had quite a few job experiences! I was a U.S. Marine recruit, a policeman, and a mailman. I owned a snack distributor business and a catering business for 16 years and designed and managed an industrial cafeteria for 15 years. I often say, “If I find myself in the kitchen when I die… I’ll know I went to hell,” he jokes. “It was not something I enjoyed and it was not a labor of love. If that’s what it took to get me to Maui, then it was well worth it,” he adds.
An upbringing in an alcoholic household in Long Island, New York, filled Pat with fear, doubt, and low self-esteem, but therapy in her 40s helped her confront and transcend much of her pain. Most importantly, she learned to love herself, and her experiences led her to publish her highly successful book in 2007, Simply a Woman of Faith: How to Live in Spiritual Power and Transform Your Life. “Throughout my life, people kept telling me, ‘Wow, you should write a book—you have such powerful faith stories!” she remembers. “So I knew that one day I would write a book about how unwavering faith can get you through the most difficult life situations.”
She wrote the book over several years, finishing it at the same time she retired from her 20-year career as a Licensed Addiction Psychotherapist in Rhode Island. In 2011, her book created a connection that would change her life forever. “After one of my weekly presentations, a woman thanked me for my talk and said she lived on Maui, to which I replied, ‘It’s always been my dream to visit Maui.’ She then offered me the opportunity to stay with her for as long as I wanted and use her car—an offer I couldn’t pass up! In 2012, I stayed with her for a month and fell in love with the island. I felt the spirit of Maui calling me to live there,” she says blissfully.
After much deliberation and prayer, Pat decided to rent her Rhode Island condo so she could move to Maui. “As you can imagine, my family was concerned and thought I was nuts,” she laughs. “At age 62, I left my family, friends, community, and business to follow my heart and move 5,000 miles away. What’s more, I knew I was going to meet my soulmate there. I didn’t know how or when, but I knew in my heart that he was there waiting for me.”
Larry and Pat met at a senior center ballroom dance and discovered they were both from the East Coast and loved to dance. “We became fast friends and spent many days together. We shared our spiritual values and what was deeply important to us.” They were inseparable, Pat recalls. “We talked every night and I called him ‘Mr. Magnificent’,” she laughs. “My daughter knew I wanted to find my soulmate and asked, ‘What’s wrong with Larry? You spend so much time together.’” Pat admits that in the beginning of their friendship, she couldn’t see or feel a romantic future with Larry, but after 2 years of being best friends, her feelings for him deepened and she was terrified to tell him.
“The truth is that love was right there before me, but I didn’t see it until I was ready and allowed my heart to open to receive love,” she admits. “We were both ready to be together. In the beginning, Larry had no desire to remarry. Two years later, at Christmas, he surprised me and asked me to marry him at a party at our house with our friends. He got on his knees and said, “You are my Queen and I am your King, would you like to marry me?” The couple celebrated their 5th anniversary this May.
Pat was married for 30 years before getting a divorce in 1998. She was single for 15 years before meeting Larry. During that time of being alone, she learned how to love, appreciate, trust and forgive herself. She became her own best friend. It is her passion and joy to encourage women to love themselves and never give up on finding true love. Contrary to popular belief, she smiles and says, “There are “good men” out there no matter how old you are. I was 65 and Larry was 72 when we met.”
Larry deeply enjoys practicing being in the moment and not allowing anything in the past or future to spoil it. He says that when he focuses on the present moment, life becomes more vibrant and richer as nature pulsates with renewed vigor. “The ocean is more beautiful and the flowers are more vibrant and breathtaking. Sunrises and sunsets are more spectacular, and I am filled with gratitude for being able to live in this magnificent paradise that is Maui Island,” he says dreamily.
“But one of my favorite things to do is to share time with my wife,” he adds with a gentle smile. “Her nickname is ‘Sparkle’. I love her vibrant personality, smile, wisdom, and sense of humor. People lovingly call her Pat with the hat because she always wears a purple hat with a flower on her walks. We thoroughly enjoy each other’s company, whether it be watching the sunset on our lanai, taking a walk together, going to a restaurant, or watching a movie. Pat and I share and discuss our spiritual journey often, and respect and encourage each other’s growth.”
Their combined love and wisdom naturally sought an outlet, and in 2020, Pat and Larry co-authored It’s Never Too Late for Love: Manifesting Your Heart’s Desire. In their inspiring book, they share their experiences as a couple along the path of awakening and striving every day to practice living a conscious partnership. Elements of this include “not beingjoined at the hip, but at the heart; welcoming triggers and wounds from the past that need to be healed and released; actively looking for what’s right rather than trying to fix what’s wrong.
He smiles and says, “We strive to be role models for other couples and to share what a conscious partnership looks and feels like by sending love out to the world and keeping our vibration high in Love and gratitude. As we look for opportunities to be vessels of Love, we are finding a life full of gratitude, peace, and joy.”
Larry’s sons Lawrence (56) and Gerard (55), his twin granddaughters (19), and grandson (23), all live on the East Coast. Pat has 4 children (ranging in ages from 44 to 51), 6 grandchildren (ranging in ages from 4 to 30), and a younger brother in New Jersey. A year ago, Pat and Larry added a brown-and-black Dachshund/Rat Terrier mix named Kobe to their Maui family.
“I have never been healthier, happier, joyful, contented, and more at home in my own skin than I am today. I’m so grateful that I had the courage and faith to follow my heart,” Pat says, beaming. “‘Mother Maui’ is magical, mystical, and beautiful; not only with her flowers, mountains, and oceans, but with a presence of spirit and love that pulsates through our being.”
During this tumultuous time, Pat strives to cultivate a calm, inner state no matter what’s happening in the world by remembering to come home to herself and to know we are all a spark of the Divine. Her motto is to live life to the fullest because we are not promised tomorrow. She believes that life just keeps getting better and better and the best is yet to come.
In closing, Pat smiles and shares, “Many people are trying to find their purpose in life. I have found my purpose and that is to “show up” every day to BE a light in this world and to keep my vibration high in love, peace, and gratitude. Happiness is an inside job! The world is awakening to the truth that we are all ONE and not separate from Source/God/Universe.”
Larry’s parting words are similarly uplifting. “It is my belief that Love is all there is, it is all around us, within and without, and available to us right now. Each person has within them their own great love story. Whether single or married, rich or poor, when you look at life through loving eyes, you are happy and have the only real wealth there is, and that is LOVE.”
Are you waiting for something to happen in your life? Perhaps your heart’s desire that hasn’t manifested yet, your soulmate, a new job, a home, clarity on which direction to go, a medical diagnosis, abundance, or peace in your heart.
For much of my life, I felt impatient and hated waiting. As I have matured and deepened my faith through my life experiences, I now trust the Divine timing in my life. It is a deep KNOWING that everything works out for my highest good and it’s all perfect. God is never late or early, but right on time.
I have learned not to PUSH or try to make things happen the way I think they should look or want them to look. It’s about being detached from the outcome. I live my life trusting diving timing and allowing miracles, opportunities, and synchronicities to come to me. As I walk in faith and trust things just “show up”.
I believe WAITING is an integral part of the spiritual journey and our growth. Trusting God’s plan takes patience, courage, and faith. For many years, I have lived with the concept of “open and closed doors.” I call it being in the hallway and it isn’t always easy. One door has closed and the other door hasn’t opened yet. Do you bang on the door, give up on your dreams because it’s taking so long, or feel frustrated and angry?
Some call being in the hallway the “messy middle.” You may feel afraid, lost, angry, frustrated, abandoned, unanchored, uncomfortable, and confused. It is in the hallway or the “messy middle” that we learn to trust and depend on Source. Our faith muscles are strengthened. Sometimes, when the next door is opened, we see why we had to wait. There were many incidences in my life where I had to wait until I was ready for the next step.
I waited 15 years for my soulmate to “show up.” I wasn’t always a happy camper, to put it mildly. I complained and asked Spirit, “What’s wrong with me?” I’m doing everything I know to do to attract him and it just isn’t happening.
I’m so grateful that I didn’t give up on my dream while in the hallway or the “messy middle.” I finally stopped banging on the door and feeling like a victim as I let go and let God. If you have been reading my blog, you know my story of meeting Larry and celebrating 5 years of being married.
Right before meeting Larry, I had an angel reading and she said, “There are 2 men coming into your life and you will choose one of them.” That is exactly what happened. They were both named Larry and I chose the right Larry! Thank heavens.
Our book, “It’s Never Too Late for Love” was published almost 2 years ago. It was a huge accomplishment writing a book together and having it published, especially since neither one of us wanted to write a book.
After the book was published and our friends and family supported us, we made the decision to leave it in God’s hands to get it “out there.” We didn’t have the energy, time, or money to do a big marketing plan.
About a year ago, we were nominated to have our “love story” featured in a local magazine on Maui. We were peaceful and detached from the outcome. We waited quite a while to hear that our story was going to be published.
We received the magazine this week and were delighted with it. The message of love is powerful and inspiring. What a joy to see our picture on the cover of the magazine.
We are both detached from the outcome. We only want God’s will and to inspire others to never give up on their dreams, no matter how old they are. I want to serve in a bigger way and I’m trusting God’s perfect divine timing. I “show up” and shine my light wherever I go. As I shine my light, it gives permission for others to shine their light.
Wouldn’t it be just like Spirit to get the magazine in Oprah’s hands as she lives on Maui too? If it’s God’s plan it will happen, nothing can stop it. I surrender to Source, SMILE, and WAIT.
I know what it feels like to be surrendered and what it feels like to not be surrendered. It’s a choice to be surrendered (love) or to live in fear (ego). I know I’m surrendered when there is a deep peace in my heart, no matter what’s going on outside of me. It’s when I’ve let go of the illusion of control, trusting God has my back and I don’t have to know what’s coming next. I’m in the FLOW and allowing life and my faith to lead and guide me. I believe that life happens FOR us, not TO us and everything happens for a reason. We will always have BIG things to surrender and small, everyday experiences that disturb our peace.
Here’s what my life looks and feels like when I am surrendered:
*Peaceful,*Trusting, *Letting go, *Grace-filled, *Love, *Calm, *Living in the present moment, *Owning my personal power, *Courageous, *Connected to Source, *Resting and relaxing, *Knowing everything I need is inside of me, *In alignment with universal consciousness, *Detached from the outcome, *Allowing things to come to me, *In touch with feelings, *Accepting “what is”, *Vibrating in love and gratitude, *Asking Spirit for help, Living from the heart, *Everything planned in the mind of God, *Balanced and in harmony, *Feeling safe and protected, *Effortless, *Open to miracles and possibilities, *Knowing and living my purpose.
Here’s how it looks and feels when I’m not surrendered:
*Obsessing, *Worrying, *Living in the past or future, *Analyzing, *What ifs, *Fixing, *Anxiety, *Planning, *Pushing, *Comparing, *Negativity, *Analyzing, *Ego- driven, *Overwhelmed, *Taking things personally, *Paralyzed with fear, *Controlling, *Powerless, *Judging and blaming others, *Not taking responsibility for self.
I had the opportunity this week to practice surrendering and letting go of something that was disturbing me. I was triggered and allowed whatever needed to come up. I welcome triggers and am not threatened anymore because I know it’s an indication that I need more healing and transformation.
What I SEE in others is in me. What I don’t like in others, is in me. What I admire in others is in me. I wouldn’t SEE it if it wasn’t in me. In other words, if I SPOT it, I GOT it. The “other” is me as we are all ONE. When I blame, shame, or judge another, I’m judging myself.
A few weeks ago, I was with a friend and felt an “emptiness” and felt ignored after our time together. She monopolized the conversation and I didn’t feel heard or seen.
I allowed myself to feel all of my feelings. I felt disappointed, angry, and sad. As I journaled and went within, I became aware that being ignored was familiar to me. My mother was an alcoholic and not available emotionally.
Because I didn’t receive the attention and love I needed from my mother, I went “outside” for validation. I became a people pleaser so desperately wanting YOU to love and tell me I was deserving and worthy of love. Of course, that never filled nor sustained me. I was voted most popular in my senior year of high school in a class of 800. That takes a lot of energy to be liked and validated.
As I went deeper in prayer and self-reflection, I asked myself some questions:
· What is my soul trying to reveal to me about what needs healing?
· Where have I monopolized conversations and wanted to be the center of attention?
· Where have I ignored myself?
It was a call to action to give myself the love, compassion, and forgiveness for the times I’ve ignored myself and for the times I’ve monopolized conversations so I would get the attention I craved.
I became aware that it wasn’t about my friend and what she did or didn’t do, but about what was still inside of me that needed transforming and healing. As I surrendered to the truth of who I am, as LOVE, and doing this deep inner work, I felt peaceful and aligned with Spirit. I had SURRENDERED.
We get what we need at the right and perfect time when we are open and READY to receive it.
Larry and I were disturbed when Kobi suddenly started to display behaviors that we didn’t like and were concerned about. Kobi is 12 years old and we re-homed him over a year ago.
About a month ago, he started growling and snapping at me (and sometimes Larry) when we went to pet him. He also startled easily and would jump when running in the yard or jump off the couch for no apparent reason. It was like he was being spooked and had no control over it.
I felt anxious and afraid because I thought he might bite me. I stayed away from him, gave him his space, and didn’t pet him for a week. That was really hard as I love to hold and pet him. We were concerned he might snap and bite someone who came to the house. We didn’t know if he was in pain when we touched him or if it was a neurological issue. We were led to start him on CBD oil for animals.
We were at our wit ends when I shared with a friend about what was going on with Kobi. She said, “I just watched a podcast about animal communication last night that was really good. I will send you the link.”
I watched it the next day and found it quite fascinating and eye-opening. That same day, I shared with another friend what was going on with Kobi. She said, “I just signed up for a FREE 3-part animal communication course starting this week.” Animalthoughts.com
WE GET WHAT WE NEED WHEN WE NEED IT AND ARE READY TO RECEIVE IT!
Larry and I listened to the FREE animal communication course and are learning a great deal. I don’t understand it all, but am open to learning so I can communicate with Kobi and what he needs.
Animal communicators are trained to tune in and connect energetically (telepathically) so they can hear the animal’s thoughts and converse with them and they can share their concerns and their innermost thoughts and feelings. Research suggests that animals do experience emotions like joy, anger, and grief. They also feel pain and experience stress.
Dogs communicate through body language—baring their teeth, wagging their tail, panting, looking into your eyes with an intensity that can only mean “PLEASE. I NEED TO PEE!!!!!!!!!!!!”—and respond to subtle human cues in a way that can make it seem like they’re reading your mind.
In the first course with the animal communicator, she guided us through a meditation and showed us how to listen to our pets and hear what they needed.
When I connected energetically with Kobi he said “I’m angry and hurt because you stopped taking me for my walks in the afternoon. It’s important to spend time with you.” He was right, I had stopped taking him for walks about a month ago because it was hot in the afternoon and I just didn’t feel like going out. Animals are very sensitive and can pick up on our energy.
My son had some great suggestions to gain back trust with Kobi that were helpful. Between implementing his suggestions, praying and sending love to Kobi, the CBD oil, and the FREE animal communication classes, things are improving here. He hasn’t growled or snapped at me or Larry for over a week now.
I’m back to taking Kobi for walks and spending special time together. For the past week, Kobi has been back to his loving self, kissing me and allowing me to pet him and sit with him. God is good!
I’m so grateful that I was guided to learn about animal communication and will continue to learn and grow. We are always learning and growing in this Earth school.
I was at peace and had forgiven my father for sexually abusing me when I was a young girl when he passed away 25 years ago. It took me 3 years to forgive him. When I went into therapy to deal with suppressed memories of the abuse, I had no idea how long it would take.
After the first session with the therapist, I said, “I am ready to forgive him, I know he was drunk.” She looked at me and said, “You are not ready to forgive. It’s important you allow yourself to go through the grief process and feel all of your feelings.”
I didn’t want to feel sadness, anger, and depression. I wanted to forgive and get it over with. I knew that forgiveness was for me, not the other person. If I wanted to be free and peaceful, forgiveness was my answer.
I’m so grateful I listened to my therapist and allowed myself to go through the grief process. I couldn’t rush it or make it go any faster. I had to FEEL it all and it wasn’t pretty.
I remember exactly where I was when I heard Spirit say, “It’s time to forgive your dad.” I was really scared to call him after not having any contact with him for 3 years. With the grace of God and my willingness to forgive, I made the phone call and then visited him in Florida. Although I had forgiven him and felt peace in my heart after he died, I didn’t feel his presence or connection to him. I felt detached from him, until NOW.
A friend recommended a book that has shifted my perspective and made a profound shift in my consciousness. It is not for the faint of heart. It’s called, “Your Soul’s Plan: Discovering the real meaning of the life you planned before you were born” by Robert Schwartz.
Schwartz writes, “Love is the primary theme of pre-birth planning. Each soul is motivated by a desire to give and receive love, even in those instances when a soul has agreed to play a “negative” role to stimulate another soul’s growth. We are not being punished by God and we are not victims when we experience tragedy, sickness, trauma, or addictions. So many people blame God when tragic things occur, to us or to those we care about. It is empowering to know that OUR OWN SOULS decide on our major “happenings” that will help us grow and elevate our souls.”
I knew deep in my heart that before I came into form (the premise of this book) that God and I had agreed on what challenges and experiences I would encounter for my soul to grow and EXPAND. Challenges are for the purpose of soul advancement, sometimes individually and sometimes collectively.
This book has opened me up to a deeper understanding of the life challenges I’ve experienced and what I needed to learn (and still learning) on this life journey. We have free will and can say no to the pre-birth planning while in form.
As I am “awakening” and going within, I am remembering the truth that I ASKED & AGREED for these life experiences before I came into form. Knowing this, I am free to choose a different response; rather than being a victim and feeling anger, hatred, and blame, I am saying thank you. I had a choice to become bitter and resentful or to recognize that the experience, though painful, was a magnificent opportunity for me to experience self-love, self-care, self-responsibility, and self-appreciation.
· My father expressed love for me by providing the experience I ASKED for. Thank you for caring enough about me to play a role that was difficult for you.
· Thank you for keeping your promise and honoring our pre-birth contract.
· I am choosing GRATITUDE to all those who most challenged me and helped my soul to grow and expand.
Rather than judging another’s journey because it looks different from mine or what I would do, I am invited to honor and respect the path of those I love.
Whenever we judge, it separates us from those we judge. Separation creates fear and prevents us from awakening to a truth we knew before we were born; that we are all ONE and that we are all a spark of the Divine. To judge is to separate ourselves from our divinity; to release judgment is to remember it.
Author Byron Katie writes, “Everything happens for you, not to you” because we choose everything that happens for us–it is all part of our life’s plan. Realizing and accepting this can bring understanding and great peace.”
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