We are in the beginning stages of the biggest collective AWAKENING ever seen in the history of mankind. This is what we have been waiting for! It’s a scary time for many because we are living in the unknown and we don’t know the future or how bad it will get. I have felt disoriented at times, as nothing is the same. What I do know is that we are all ONE and interconnected and interdependent more than ever before. I do know that Love is all there is.
I have to admit that I got “sucked in” to the swirling energy of fear all around me by reading everything about the Coronavirus a few weeks ago, which led to me feeling anxious and fearful. Then I judged myself and felt shame and guilt for having these feelings. I’m grateful it only lasted for a few days before I came back to LOVE. This is not how I wanted to react as a Woman of Faith in God. I had to look deeply at what my truth was and what was important to me. I am human and forgave myself for getting sucked into the energy of fear.
Here is the message I received from Spirit:
“I am bringing my people together through this world health crisis. I am waking them up. There is no need to be afraid because it is LOVE that is behind this. The world is out of balance with greed and power. You know the truth of who I am and who you are. Hold fast-don’t give in to fear. Yes, feel it and let it go as quickly as it came. Stay centered and rest in me and recalibrate as you need to. Pray for the world and know all is well as I am bringing love into hearts that don’t know me. This is my plan. Relax and pray for your brothers and sisters.”
We are all invited to trust in a Power greater than ourselves to keep us and our loved one’s protected and safe. There are many who are suffering now with loss of jobs, income and we are hearing of friends and family members already suffering with the Coronavirus. The ramifications are beyond my comprehension. We are self-quarantining as Larry and I are both at high risk and not taking any chances with our health.
Here are some things that I’m practicing so that I can be responsible for myself and keep myself centered and in peace. I don’t do it perfectly and am living one day at a time.
- I’m remembering the truth of who I am and that I’m connected to Source
- I’m sending love to my family, friends and to the world
- I’m listening to my body and what it needs when it needs it
- I’m resting when I’m tired and stressed
- I’m listening to my feelings; processing and validating them
- I’m eating healthy and going out in nature for walks
- I’m reaching out to friends and family through calls and texts
- I’m praying and meditating several times a day
- I’m listening to calming, peaceful music with a candle burning
- I’m going within and clearing any resentments from the past
- I’m trying not to judge others and what they are doing or not doing
- I’m trying not to take things personally
- I’m calling on the angels
- I’m feeling COMPASSION for people and what they are experiencing
- I’m trusting myself and what I need to do for myself
- I’m listening to my intuition and what my next inspired action will be
- I’m protecting myself by limiting what I read in the news and media
- I’m smiling at people on walks and sending love
- I’m trusting and surrendering to the unknown
- I’m reading inspirational books like “Love is All There Is”
- I’m laughing to lighten things up
- I’m tapping when I feel stressed (EFT Emotional Freedom Techniques)
- I’m taking more baths to relax my body
- I play zydeco music on my walks which makes me want to dance, and I do
- I have a stash of homemade sugar-free chocolate
I hope this list is helpful and you can add to your list of what you are doing to stay calm and peaceful. I am praying for you and ask that you pray for us. We are all in this together and need to support and love one another.
I AM CHOOSING LOVE
Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you. I send you love and light. May you feel love in your heart always as we are all connected and are ONE.
Larry and I have been hosting a bi-weekly “Love is All There Is” spiritual group in our home for the past two years. It is a powerful group as all the members have been on the spiritual path for many years and we share our experiences about how to love more deeply and let go of what no longer serves us.
In last week’s group, one of the members asked if we could share our individual spiritual practices with one another. It was great to hear what’s working for others. Meditation was on the top of the list, as well as journaling, affirmations and sending love out to the world.
Here are the affirmations that I pray with daily. Feel free to use any of them if it resonates with you.
- I have all the time I need to do whatever I want to do & when I want to.
- I RELAX and TRUST God’s perfect and Divine timing,
- Money comes to me easily and effortlessly.
- I have more than enough money to do whatever I want to do.
- Everything flows to me with Peace, Ease and Grace (PEG).
- My body is strong, healthy, vibrant & I have lots of energy.
- I attract miracles and abundance into my life every day.
- I am important and more than ENOUGH.
- I am worthy to RECEIVE.
- I am LOVE and loved.
- I use my gifts for the good of all and feel fulfilled in the work I do.
- My purpose is to give and receive LOVE.
- I SHINE my light into the world.
- My intention is to be peaceful, to love and to serve.
- I ACCEPT and SURRENDER to Divine will and guidance.
These affirmations have changed over the years, according to what I intend to manifest. I know I wouldn’t be living on Maui with my beloved if I hadn’t believed and practiced my affirmations.
I would love to hear your spiritual practices and what has worked for you.
I’m celebrating today and invite you to walk down “memory lane” with me for the last eight years of living on Maui. I moved to Maui, across the ocean from Rhode Island, eight years ago this week. I knew in my heart that I was going to meet my soulmate, and I DID.
I started writing my blog ten years ago and have written 443 blogs. I can’t even believe that I had so much to share. I thank you for your support, love and writing to me when a blog has touched your heart. It has truly been my joy and kept me going “within” to share it all with you. It hasn’t always been easy, but I knew if I was experiencing something, there was someone out there who was also experiencing it and could benefit from it. Friends share that I inspire them and give them HOPE and that makes my heart sing.
It was my FAITH that has brought me home to myself, to the God within and to the magnificent life I am living today. My FAITH in God; a Power greater than myself has enabled me to overcome sexual abuse, parental addictions, loss of close family members at early ages, divorce and so much more.
Truly my FAITH is a gift from God and I love to share it with others. I don’t ever want to take it for granted. I’m sure that is why I was inspired to write my book, “Simply a Woman of Faith.” If I hadn’t written my book, I wouldn’t be living here with an amazing man who loves me and is a vessel of love to all he meets.
I continue to practice living in the moment, accepting what is, surrendering and trusting. I can do this because I know this Power is carrying me and has my back, if you will. I choose Love, instead of fear. I know Love is all there is.
So much has happened in the last eight years that I don’t even know where to begin. I have been guided, provided for and protected, as well as healed and transformed into the woman I am today. My heart is full of gratitude.
When I first landed on Maui, I lived with a couple in a condo overlooking the ocean. I paid $300 a month and lived there for 6 months. I was so thrilled to be living here that I didn’t mind having everything I owned in one bedroom. I learned how to BE and was able to let go of DOING. I loved taking walks on the beach, swimming, relaxing and enjoying the beauty all around me.
When my 6 months lease ended, I decided to move to another side of the island that was more convenient and neutral. I started to take walks with Larry and we became best friends for 2 years with no romantic involvement. We called each other every night and supported one another
I found an ohana to rent and paid $1200 a month. It was only 500 feet, but it was like heaven to have my own place. I didn’t have an ocean view like I had before, but that was ok. I lived there for 9 months until my landlord informed me that they wanted to do renovations and I had to move and find another place.
Right after I found out that I had to move, I invited Larry to a party that I was invited to. I had never been to this house before and fell in love with it as it had an amazing view of the ocean. As I looked out into the ocean, I turned to Larry and said, “This is where I want to live.” As fate would have it, I found out later that my friends were moving out. They recommended me to their landlord and she just happened to live in Rhode Island!
Although the rent was DOUBLED to $2500, after praying and meditating about it, I knew in my heart that it was God’s will. I didn’t have that kind of money, but I trusted God would provide and I was ALWAYS provided for. I stepped out in FAITH and every month, almost miraculously, I had the money to pay the rent.
I moved into the house alone and shortly after that, my eyes were opened and I KNEW Larry was my soulmate. A year later, he moved in with me and then surprised me at Christmas when he got down on his knees and said, “You are my queen and I am your king; would you like to make it legal?” We were married 2 ½ years ago and it has been the best years of our lives.
Do you need more faith in your life? Ask God for this gift. Believe it will be given to you for as we ask, we shall receive.
Have you ever dreamed about writing a book? Have others said to you, “You should write a book?” Many people said that to me and my response was always, “Maybe someday- when I retire.” My dream of writing a book almost died inside of me. I’m so grateful God didn’t give up on me as my book was published in 2007 and people are still reading it and I’m still reaping the fruits of it.
What keeps you from writing your book? For me it was FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real). It took me 7 years to write, “Simply A Woman of Faith” because I was filled with fear and didn’t believe in myself.
Every time I went on a retreat, I would hear the small, still voice of God say, “I want you to finish the book.” I would write for a while and then stop because I thought I was wasting my time and no one would read it. At one point, I stopped writing for a whole year and said to God, “I’m not doing it, you have chosen the wrong person” I was done, but God wasn’t done with me!
There were so many miracles of how God provided for me while writing the book. My son, Tim, said to me, “Mom, you have to change your yard sale mentality when it comes to looking for a coach and editor. Several people within a short time recommended Lisa Tener. I called her and felt an immediate heart connection with her.
The money “showed up” as Spirit promised to hire Lisa. I mysteriously found $2300 in my bank account and I had no idea how it got there. I received an award of $500 at work in my pay check, that I was not suppose to receive.
I created an “Intention Book” with all of my intentions and dreams and prayed with it daily.
- To complete and publish my book by 2007 DONE
- Be an Inspirational speaker and win a speech contest DONE
- To meet my soulmate and get married DONE
I am amazed as to where I am today because I said YES to God and kept “showing up.” With the grace of God, I have had many wonderful, fulfilling experiences and still do because I faced my fear and was transformed into the woman I am today.
Here are some highlights of the last 13 years of writing and publishing my book.
- I led a women’s retreat in Bermuda for, with all expenses paid.
- I led a personal retreat for 6 women on a cruise ship to Bermuda.
- I was selected to be a speaker on the Holistic Norwegian cruise line in 2012.
- I had a radio show called “Finding the God of your own understanding.”
- I led workshops and retreats for women.
- I moved to Maui and lived on the ocean for $300 a month for 6 months.
- I currently live in a million- dollar home overlooking the ocean.
- I was on staff as a spiritual coach in the Sacred Feminine Mystery School.
- I met my soulmate, Larry, and we were married almost 3 years ago.
These are the affirmations that I wrote 10 years ago about meeting my soulmate.
- I love spending time with my soulmate and enjoying our delicious, passionate, playful and romantic relationship
- I am enjoying the sacred, holy space that my soulmate and I have created in our home together.
- I am totally fulfilled and excited about my divine relationship with my soulmate, who is spiritual, healthy, and in love with the adventure of life and out journey together.
- I am overflowing with joy and happiness that my soulmate and I have found each other, are happily married and adore and love one another.
I continue to “show up” and say YES. I don’t know what’s next and that’s fine with me. I live in the moment and trust divine timing and order.
I received an email from, Lisa Tener, my book coach and friend, with a podcast of a radio show she was interviewed on with another book coach, Patrick Snow, from Maui. It was called “Leadership at All Levels” and the host was Gail Alofsin,
Lisa wrote, “Gail mentioned you early in the show that I was channeling Pat Hastings. I shared the title of your book, “Simply a Women of Faith” and that I was also your book coach. Gail mentioned you again later in the interview. It was almost as if you were there with us, as they shared connection among the 3 of us and also as an inspiration for some of the points we made.
After I listened to the show I thought, “I’ll contact Gail and ask if I could be a guest on her radio show when I come to Rhode Island in July, but then quickly got busy and forgot about it. Gail is a friend of mine and a professor at the University of Rhode Island. I was a guest speaker in her communication and marketing classes.
I listen to a meditation on my phone that I downloaded from Dr. Joe Dispenza before I go to bed every night. When I started the meditation, Gail’s radio show with Lisa and Patrick popped up. I thought, “How the heck did that happen?” That email and podcast were sent to me over 3 weeks ago and still in my inbox.
I couldn’t get Gail’s radio show to stop playing and had to shut my phone off. I then listened to my meditation and fell asleep. When I woke up in the morning, I remembered the experience with the radio show. It felt like Spirit was trying to get my attention and I sent Gail an email asking if I could be a guest on her show.
Gail responded and said, “I would LOVE to have you on the July show. Spirit always leads and guides when I listen to my intuition and follow through.
I then remembered what happened after my presentation in Gail’s communication class 12 years ago. Gail sent me 80 typed letters from her students about what they learned from my presentation. I WAS BLOWN AWAY! I couldn’t stop crying and had to read only a few at a time. It touched my heart so deeply that I kept them and brought them to Maui with me. What a gift it was to read them again. I AM STILL BLOWN AWAY by their loving comments. Here are some high lights:
“I was skeptical at first, but immediately after you began speaking, I became hooked.” Zack
“I was captivated by all of your stories. The “Blouse story” is one that completely blew my mind and had me on the edge of the seat. I was awe struck.” David
“You had an amazing upbeat vibe, which spread throughout the room like wildfire and to say it was contagious would be an understatement.” Jason
“As soon as you walked into the room, you could feel your vibrant personality. Your stories were jaw dropping and were incredibly moving.” Madison
“Your talk was incredibly moving and engaging. It literally gave me the chills when you shared how you received money in the mailbox.” Brittany
“Your stories left me with goose bumps. I’ve never been able to hear first hand stories about a woman who has so much faith and inner spirituality.” Whitney
“I connected with your overall positive energy and it created an inner change in me.” Laura
“You speak with such passion and spread enthusiasm and motivation. Your stories were both shocking and very inspirational.” Michelle
“I can honestly say your book is unlike anything I have ever read. It has opened my eyes to a new way of thinking and I know my life has been changed for the better.” Chelsey
This is truly a gift that I received all these letters that I will treasure in my heart forever. I had no idea how my story was going to touch and change lives. If I ever doubt myself or the presence of Spirit in my life, I will remember what these students said. The world needs us to continue to shine our lights. We never know how we are going to touch people’s lives, do we?
I met with my friend for lunch this week and we jumped right into conversation. She said, Pat, “I’m almost embarrassed to share how quickly I am manifesting in my life. My daughter and her family want to visit Maui for a 2- week vacation and we figured it would cost about 6 or 7 thousand dollars. We said, let’s put it out to the Universe and see what happens. Within a day, I received an email from my sister stating we had just sold something from the estate. To my delight, the amount of money I received will cover the cost of the vacation and more.”
I said, “I know what you mean, it’s happening to me too.” When we are aligned with Spirit and our hearts are open, miracles happen and we manifest, sometimes instantaneously.
Just that morning as I was listening to a podcast with Dr. Joe Dispenza, I picked an affirmation card that read, “Dare to be in love with life.” As I put the card down, I heard Dr. Joe say, “I dare you to be in love with life.” Yes, that is my intention- to be in love with life and to live my life to the fullest.
Shortly after that, I decided to bake some muffins and needed to chop the walnuts for the recipe. I have a great little chopper that I store on the bottom shelf of the cabinet. While I was getting it out and moving things around, I noticed that I had another chopper way in the back of the cabinet that I didn’t even know was there. I thought, “Good to know in case I need it someday.”
I chopped up the first batch of walnuts and the chopper worked just fine. When I tried to chop the second batch of walnuts, the chopper was DEAD. I have no idea what happened to it and I had to throw it away. I was so grateful that Spirit had showed me that I had another one to use. Source knows what we need, even before we need it.
Larry and I love to go to one of our favorite restaurants on Maui for lunch, called the Kula Bistro. We go there every 3-4 months and always get the same thing. The Chicken Parmesan is to die for. Larry always pays the bill. I decided to surprise him and so when the bill came, I said, “It’s my treat.” The bill came to $50 with the tip. Of course, he appreciated and was grateful for my generosity.
I received an email from my son, Tim, that night saying he saw a post on Facebook that there was unclaimed property money in Rhode Island. He checked it out and several of my family members were on the list. I was awarded $50. That was exactly what I paid for the lunch. I have an affirmation that I say daily, “Money comes to me easily and effortlessly.” If I can attract $50, why not $50,000 or $500,000. I affirm that I am open and worthy to receive what is mine for my highest good.
Saturday is my play day to go “Yard sailing” and visit my favorite consignment shop, The Rainbow Attic. It’s so much fun to meet new people and see how I am provided for when I pray and ask for what I need. My prayer is always ONLY WHAT I NEED before I get out of the car to go shopping.
Believe it or not, it gets chilly in the winter months before the sun comes up on Maui. I wanted to find a small space heater for the bedroom to take the chill out of the room when I get up.
I stopped at The Rainbow Attic and didn’t see a space heater as I walked around the shop. I thought about asking the clerk if they had one, but decided not to. A couple of minutes later, I turned around and looked down and lo and behold there was a space heater right in front of me. We plugged it in and it worked perfectly.
Thank you, God, for how you provide for me when I trust in you and believe. I know that I am always being taken care of in every area of my life and so are you.
I love Maui and am so grateful for the opportunity to live in paradise. If you have ever visited Maui or live here, you will agree that it is a spiritual place. You can feel the love and peace all around you, especially when you walk down the beach and greet one another with “aloha.”
Of course, it’s not perfect and it has its problems, just like any other place. There are many people who are conscious and living in the light and there are people who are not conscious yet. Unfortunately, I encountered a person who was not conscious this week.
I love to go to yard sales on Saturday and often find some treasures and meet some friendly folks. I picked up the colorful gem stones in a plastic baggie and asked, “How much are these?” The man said, “Oh these are very special. My dearest friend, who recently died gave them to me. They were her mothers and she was very famous. I cannot sell them, but you can have a few.”
I picked out a rose quartz and turquoise stone. I was thrilled and thanked him for his kindness. I put them in my change purse and paid him for what I bought. When I went to the car wash after the yard sale, I discovered my change purse wasn’t in my pocketbook.
I remember setting it down on the table when I paid the man at the yard sale. I immediately returned to the yard sale, hoping it would still be there. It wasn’t there and the man hadn’t seen it. We both felt really bad that someone had picked it up and taken it with the money in it.
There was a woman standing close by and listening to the story of the gemstones. I have a feeling she is the one who took my change purse. I said, “What goes around, comes around” and left. Of course, I felt disappointed, violated and sad. This incident gave me the opportunity to CHOOSE LOVE and send the woman love, because she clearly needs it.
I was able to move through this rather quickly because of my intentions for the new year. Spirit guided me in meditation at the end of the year as to what I needed to practice more in my life.
It was GAT – GRATITUDE, ACCEPTANCE & TRUST. If I practiced this in every situation that came into my life, I would experience MIRACLES AND ABUNDANCE.
I made a collage of this and put it on my altar to reflect on and practice every day.
In the incident with the stolen change purse, this is how I moved through it.
- I felt my feelings of disappointment, violation and sadness.
- I felt GRATEFUL that I didn’t have my license and credit cards in the purse.
- I ACCEPTED “what is.” I left my purse on the table and someone helped themselves to it.
- I TRUSTED God that I was given the opportunity to CHOOSE & SEND LOVE.
It’s not easy to forgive when we have been violated in big ways or small ways and it takes time. I choose to keep my HEART OPEN and let go of any energy that is not aligned with Spirit. I choose to walk in the light of love and continue to let my light shine.
I want to wish you all a Happy New Year. I don’t know about you, but I’m grateful 2019 is over with all of the powerful energies and solar/lunar eclipses coming onto the planet. Many people are experiencing sleep disturbances, physical pain and feeling out of sorts emotionally. I look forward to 2020 and the many blessings and miracles it will bring.
The last two months have been very intense for me and I feel EMPTIED; like I have been on a “Excavation Expedition.” To excavate means to dig up or out, remove, hollow out, unearth, to uncover something, to reach inside.
I was willing, with the grace of God, to dig deep inside of me to release/clear what was hidden and no longer served me, but in fact caused me suffering and pain. It started with a 10-day colonics treatment in November where I released toxins and waste. This treatment was a deeply spiritual experience as I let go of what was still lurking in the dark recesses of my body and mind. I was surprised as memories that still had an emotional charge came to the light to be transformed and transmuted.
During the last 2 months, I have let go of “emotional attachments” to friends and family members, self-induced suffering created by beliefs that weren’t true, control, anger, grief, sadness and resentments.
Holidays can be stressful for many people and it often brings up my “stuff.” Christmas day was difficult because I live 5,000 miles away from my children and grandchildren. I missed them and felt sad.
For the past 8 years since I’ve lived on Maui, my family and I do Facetime on Christmas day. It’s a way to connect and for us to celebrate as a family. So, of course, it was my expectation that they would call and we would Facetime.
I felt excited and “waited” for their call all day. When my oldest son called to wish me a Merry Christmas on his way home from the family gathering, I realized there would be no Facetime call.
It felt like a wave hit me and I went under fast. I asked, “What happened to our Facetime?” I don’t even remember what he said.
I got off the phone in tears and prayed to God for help. Why was I in such deep emotional pain? I knew my reaction was way over the top and I needed to dig deep to uncover the root of the pain.
It was a “DIVINE SET-UP.” The belief that surfaced since they hadn’t called me was “I’m not important to them and maybe they don’t love me.”
As I meditated, Spirit brought to mind a memory when I was very young. I was sitting on the couch looking out the window “waiting” for my mother to come home. My mother left for days and I didn’t know if she was dead or alive. The “light went off” and I knew where this belief that I didn’t feel important came from. The truth set me free and there was a sense of relief, release and healing.
Many of our beliefs are unconscious and formed in childhood. If I don’t uncover these false beliefs, I will feel like a victim and blame others for my unhappiness. Happiness is an inside job.
The truth is I am very important and loved by my children. Ironically, after the DIVINE SET-UP, they each called separately to wish me a Merry Christmas. God is good.
For years, I looked outside of myself for others to make me feel important and loved. No more! Today, I will continue to give myself love, self-care, approval and appreciation. I am open and ready to experience more miracles and abundance in my life.
“My abundance and your emptiness are a perfect match. I want you to be filled with My very Being, permeated through and through with Peace.”
I’m sure you’ve heard that healing is like peeling an onion. Healing goes deeper and deeper, and it can be messy and challenging when things are trying to come up to the light to be healed and transformed.
Have you ever said to yourself, “I have already dealt with that issue, why is it coming up again and why now?” I have been on the spiritual path for over 4 decades and have done lots of healing and clearing and “stuff” still comes up for me.
Instead of beating up on myself and asking WHY is this happening, I have compassion for myself and have learned to allow myself to go into the pain and go deeper. I am not saying it is easy, because it’s not. I allow myself to feel my feelings for to feel is to heal, no matter how many times I have done it before.
I am willing to dig deep and get to the root of what’s coming up because I want to be free and live the life God intended me to live. It is usually triggered by something in my present that I have allowed to trigger me. It’s never the “other person” to blame. It’s about me and what still needs to be healed. If it was healed, I wouldn’t feel pain and be triggered by another person’s actions or inactions.
I have struggled with jealousy and comparing myself with other women for many years. I hated it! When I felt jealous, I learned to invite the jealousy in for a cup of tea and love that part of me that was wounded and still needed healing. Thankfully, I have healed and shifted it and don’t struggle with jealousy like I did when I was younger.
I woke up one morning this week in tears and didn’t know what was going on or what was coming up. I knew I was being triggered by a friend’s actions. I always pray and ask Spirit for help. Spirit revealed the origin of my pain that still needed more healing.
When I was about 12 years old, my mother locked herself in the bathroom and was trying to kill herself by taking pills. I banged on the door and screamed for her to stop and come out. I don’t remember what happened after that, but she didn’t kill herself.
There are 3 unspoken rules in a dysfunctional family and they are:
- Don’t talk
- Don’t feel
- Don’t trust
Of course, we never talked about this “episode” and life went on as normal. My mother suffered with alcoholism so there was always some kind of drama going on. This was our normal.
My mother died 8 years later when I was 20 years old. It was very traumatic as my parents were celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary on January 1 in the church they were married in. When the ceremony was over, they turned around and she collapsed on the alter. The fire department came and by the time they got her to the hospital, she was dead.
It doesn’t matter WHY this was coming up now 53 years later. Perhaps it’s the holidays and the anniversary of her death on January 1. What matters is that I was willing to go even deeper and feel my feelings so I could let them go, heal and be free.
Over the years, I have learned to reparent myself and give myself what I needed; love, compassion, patience, forgiveness and kindness. You can either become BITTER or BETTER and I chose to become BETTER. I share my story with you not for you to feel sorry for me or say “Poor Pat.” I share it to encourage you that no matter what has happened in your life or what trauma you have experienced; you can heal if you are willing to go deep and heal. You can set yourself FREE, as I have.
I don’t regret my past as it has made me the woman I am today; a woman who stands tall in her own truth, a woman who lives in gratitude and loves and appreciates life. I am living my dreams and can help you do the same.
It is my belief that I attract everything into my life for my highest good. I love it when I attract miracles and it all flows with peace, ease and grace. It is not easy when I attract challenges or opportunities that I don’t like and would rather not have in my life. It may be difficult to understand the “lessons” I need to learn or to discover some truths about myself.
It is “lessons” that I’ve attracted into my life so my soul can grow. My soul knows what it needs for me to reach my highest potential and what it needs to release behaviors and beliefs that no longer serve me.
This has been a challenging week of “lessons” and practicing healthy behaviors. Here is what I practiced:
- I spoke up and asked for what I wanted
- I set boundaries
- I forgave
- I detached from the outcome
- I let go of control
- I felt all of my feelings including anger and sadness
- I was honest and spoke my truth
- I didn’t fix or try to rescue another
I would like to share what detachment means to me and my experience of detaching with love from the outcome.
Detaching with love means that I stop depending upon what others do, say or feel to determine my own well-being or to make my decisions. What other people do or don’t do is none of my business.
Detachment is not caring less; it’s caring more for my own serenity. Detachment brings freedom and attachment brings suffering.
How do I know when I need to detach and let go?
- When my mind is like a blender and I can’t shut it off.
- When I’m frustrated and angry at the behavior of a loved one.
- When I can’t control another’s behavior
- When I don’t feel heard and it appears my words fall on deaf ears.
- When I think I’m right about a situation and the other person is wrong.
I need to practice detachment for my own peace of mind. It is a loving gift I give to myself and others. It is the freedom to own what is mine and to allow others to own what is theirs. I can detach and still be compassionate. I need to detach so I don’t take everything personally because I can’t control others reactions or behaviors. Detachment is not isolation or a wall. It’s about letting go of obsessing about another’s behavior and trusting what is happening is for our highest good.
Do you need to detach from someone you love or a situation that you are obsessing about? Give yourself the gift of detachment for your own sanity and the sanity of your loved one.
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Simply A Woman of Faith
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Simply A Woman of Faith
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