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I am always guided to my highest good

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I love how I am ALWAYS guided to the right and best decision for my life and for my highest good. Guidance comes in different ways when we are “awake” and “conscious” and living in the moment. When we ask Spirit to guide us, we are guided in major decisions for our life as well as everyday ordinary decisions. When we are rushing around and busy, we may not hear the guidance from within.

Over the years, I have learned to listen to the still, small voice within, even when I don’t understand it and it doesn’t make sense. It may take awhile, but eventually I get the message.

Guidance may come from our intuition when something just doesn’t feel right or from meditation, a song, a dream, something we read, talking to someone, or overhearing a conversation that enlightens us. The list goes on and on and I’m sure we all have stories of how we received guidance.  Do you take time to listen to inner guidance or do you ignore it and then wonder why things aren’t going well?

I had a couple of things happen this week where I knew I was being guided. I felt exhausted after Larry’s birthday party last week and started to get a sore throat. I wanted to nip it in the bud and rested and took lots of vitamin C. A couple of days later, I came down with a “bug” with stomach cramps, gas and the runs. I was not a happy camper.

I happened to read a post on Facebook from a friend who had throat symptoms like I had. I sent her a message and then read some of the comments she received. Some people suggested she take vitamin C.  Others shared about the dangers of taking too much vitamin C. I had never heard of taking too much vitamin C.

I was stunned when I googled it and realized I didn’t have a stomach “bug” after all. The suggested dosage for vitamin C is 2000 mg daily and I was taking 7000 mg. I immediately stopped taking it and my stomach “bug” went away. I would not have known this and probably still be experiencing a stomach “bug.” Guidance comes in all different places, even from Facebook.

I am scheduled for cataract surgery in 2 days. Larry had it done a few months ago and I knew it wasn’t a big deal.  Although I have health insurance, I still had to pay a significant amount of money, like $4,000 for both eyes. The surgery would correct my long- distance vision, but I would have to wear glasses for close up like reading. If I wanted to have long distance and close up corrected, it would cost another $2000. I opted for the $4000 and would settle for readers until I received a phone call from my friend, Carole, in Rhode Island today.

It was great catching up with her because we hadn’t spoken in months. I shared about my cataract surgery and she said, “I had it done several years ago and I’m so grateful I opted to get both long distance and close up done, even though it cost more money. My sister is sorry she didn’t get it done because she has readers all over the house.”

I got off the phone and asked Spirit for guidance. Because of the money, I hadn’t even considered having it both done. I was settling because I was afraid to spend the money. I have always been provided for and know I always will be. I tell Larry, “God is my banker.”

I’m grateful that the belief of “not enough” was brought to the light so I could change it. I don’t need to settle because there is always enough. I’m grateful for the guidance and the phone call 2 days before the surgery.   God is good.




Larry celebrated his 80th birthday

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Larry celebrated his 80th birthday with 35 friends and family at our home on Sunday. What a beautiful day of love and joy. The love just FLOWED. When asked by a friend, “What have you learned that is most important and what wisdom do you want to share with us?” Larry smiled and simply said, “ALL THERE IS IS LOVE.”

My prayer for Larry was that his heart be open to receive the love that others wanted to shower on him for his birthday. It is not always easy to receive.

For many years, I unconsciously “blocked” love (even though I wanted it) because I didn’t feel deserving, worthy, or good enough. I didn’t think I could live up to what others said about me and I didn’t want others to think I was conceited. I worked hard at letting go of these erroneous beliefs that were running my life and not allowing me to receive love from others.

My intention for the birthday party was that it FLOW with peace, ease and grace. And that it did as I felt peaceful and relaxed. In the past, I always felt stressed before a party or company because I wanted everything to be perfect. I drove myself crazy and everyone around me.

One of the reasons I felt so peaceful was that I’ve learned to ask for HELP. I remember an incident years ago with my ex-husband. We were having company, and he was laying on the couch reading the paper, while I was racing around the house trying to get ready. I felt angry and resentful that he wasn’t helping and I was doing everything. I finally snapped and said something to him. I will never forget his remark, “Why didn’t you ask me for help?”

I never thought to ask him for help. The lesson for me was that I expected him to read my mind.  Of course, we could say he should have known and perhaps he could have been more aware, but he wasn’t. Expecting someone to read my mind and know what I need is setting myself up for trouble.

Why is it hard to ask for help?

  • We don’t want to be rejected
  • We don’t want to bother others
  • We may be afraid of what will be asked of us
  • We think we should know what to do

Because I’ve learned to say NO when I want to and YES when I want to, my friends also say no and yes and are honest with me when I ask for help

I asked a friend to come over a couple of days before the party and we discussed everything, as well as set up tables and figure out where the food was going to be placed. It was such a blessing to not have to do it all by myself. Our Friends delivered chairs and table and let us borrow their coolers. Another friend surprised us with 35 beautiful favors that everyone loved.  We felt so loved.

The day of the birthday party was truly amazing.  Everyone mingled and shared the love with one another. We were so grateful as our friends helped in so many ways without even being asked.

Larry was truly celebrated and honored as the LOVE flowed. It will be a day neither one of us will ever forget. All we can say is thank you for loving us the way you did and thank you for allowing us to love you and for being present in our lives.


I’m not responsible for others

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My daily prayer is to be peaceful. When I lose my peace, I go within to see what I’m feeling and what I need to change. I know I cannot change other people, I can only change myself. I’m grateful for the tools I have such as prayer, meditation, journaling and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to get me back on track when I lose my peace and slip into old codependent behaviors, like I did this week.

Until I learned to love and appreciate myself, I struggled with codependent behaviors all the time and for many years.  A simple definition of codependency is when I’m focused on someone else at the expense of myself.  It’s like someone else’s needs are more important than mine. I had a lot of “shoulds” in my life and felt guilty when I focused on what I wanted and needed.

Codependency comes from a place of insecurity, self-doubt and lack of self-love. I didn’t love myself and looked to others to fill the hole in my soul.  It didn’t work because it was never enough. Only Love, God, Spirit can fill the hole in the soul.

Whenever I want to “rescue” someone or give unsolicited advice, I know I’m into old codependent behaviors because I’m not allowing them to experience the consequences of their behaviors and actions.  Of course, I don’t want to see people I love suffer, but that doesn’t give me the right to give advice or try to rescue or fix them. What someone else is doing or not doing is none of my business.

I have learned to Say NO and change my mind when it doesn’t feel right and I don’t want to do something.  In fact, saying NO has become quite comfortable. With that said, I was really surprised what popped up for me this week. I said NO to a friend when she asked me to do something for her. I knew I didn’t want to do it, but felt guilty and like I SHOULD do it. The little voice inside said, “What kind of a friend are you?” I really struggled, but knew it wasn’t in my highest good to do what she asked me to do. I needed to focus on myself. I also knew “shoulding” on myself and feeling guilty were old codependent behaviors.

I’m learning the difference between feeling responsible FOR others and being responsible TO others. We are responsible TO our children, but not when they are adults and capable of handling their own lives.

When I’m feeling responsible FOR others, I may feel resentful, exhausted, judgmental, overwhelmed, anxious, guilty, self-righteous and fearful.  I want to manipulate, fix, rescue, give advice, care-take, demand and bully. I want things to go my way and control circumstances and outcomes. In other words, I want THEM to change.

When we are responsible TO others, we take care of our own business. We trust them to take care of their business. We show empathy, kindness and understanding. We encourage and empower them to follow their heart. We share our experience and we listen.

When we are responsible TO others, we feel peaceful, trusting, connected and we accept what is.  We let go and let God, send love and respect the other person and their ability to take care of themselves.

I am grateful that I continue to learn and grow. I know I’m not perfect and that is ok. I’m doing the best I can and I am a work in progress. I know that old behaviors will pop up from time to time and I deal with them and move on.


Are you able to forgive yourself?

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I have some questions that I invite you to think about.

  • Is it easy for you to forgive someone who has hurt or wronged you?
  • Is it easy to forgive yourself?
  • Do you beat up on yourself and feel shame when you make a mistake?
  • Is it easy for you to ask for forgiveness when you have offended or hurt someone you love?

Often, the hardest person to forgive is yourself. I believe that forgiving yourself is the greatest act of self- love. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself and the sooner you forgive yourself, the better you will feel. We all make mistakes, it is a part of being human. We need to be compassionate with ourselves and treat ourselves like we would our best friend. Would you say to your best friend what you say to yourself?

I had a situation this week where I needed to forgive myself and ask for forgiveness from another. The details aren’t important. What is important is that when I was confronted about a particular behavior of mine, I immediately took responsibility for my actions and apologized. I didn’t get defensive, which is a behavior that I struggled with for many years.

Although I felt shame and regret at first, I quickly moved to self-forgiveness and didn’t beat up on myself.  It wouldn’t do me any good to obsess or torture myself and make myself feel even worse for making a mistake. I did that for too many years and it doesn’t serve me or the other person involved. It was clear that I had made a mistake and blew it. There was nothing I could do about it, but ask for forgiveness, send love and trust the other person would forgive me.

I knew it would take some time and I had to be patient and wait. I had to let go of my control and give the person time and space to work through their process.  Of course, I would have liked to have been forgiven immediately, but I also didn’t want them to do a spiritual bypass and forgive prematurely.

When I started to have memories of my father sexually abusing me, I wanted to forgive him right away. I didn’t want to go through the grief process because it was to uncomfortable and painful. Thank God I had a good therapist who said, “You are not ready to forgive your father yet, you need to feel your feelings of anger, sadness, and depression before you reach acceptance. She was right and I’m so grateful I listened and didn’t do a spiritual bypass. It was not easy, but I knew I had to go through the process and trust Spirit. I prayed daily and asked for guidance. It took me 3 years to forgive my father and work through the process.

While in prayer one day, I heard Spirit say, “It is time for you to forgive your father, you are ready now.” It was very scary picking up the phone after not communicating with him for 3 years, but by the grace of God, I was ready and did it. I had done my inner work and released the anger and sadness and was ready to move on.

What I know about forgiveness is that it is for me, not the other person. If I’ve been hurt by another person’s words, actions or inactions and I hold a grudge, I keep myself in a prison and I suffer needlessly. If I obsess about what someone has said or done and play the blame game, it will lead to resentment. Resentments and unforgiveness keep me stuck in a lower vibration. Certainly not in the vibration of love where I choose to live my life.

  • Are you ready to set yourself free by forgiving yourself and being compassionate and kind to yourself?
  • Are you ready to treat yourself like you would your best friend?
  • Are you ready to forgive others who have hurt you?

It’s o.k. if you are not ready to forgive yet. Trust the process, ask Spirit for help  and be willing to do the inner work.

I waited 10 years for prayer to be answered

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I had completely forgotten about what I had prayed for 10 years ago until Spirit, while in meditation, brought it to mind this week.

Ten years ago, I was invited to accompany a woman to Florida for a week for a personal guided retreat. It was a powerful experience for both of us and I remember even writing a blog about it. It was the desire of my heart to do more personal guided retreats for women.  I had been leading women’s retreats for many years, but not one on one like this.

Life had other plans and I went with the flow and forgot about what I had prayed for. This morning I opened my computer and received an email from Abraham. Here it is:

When people ask us how long does it take for something to manifest, we say, “It takes as long as it takes for you to release the resistance. Could be 30 years, could be 40 years, could be 50 years, could be a week. Could be tomorrow afternoon.”

I didn’t think I had any resistance to the idea of leading personal guided retreats for women. Perhaps I did have resistance or maybe it just wasn’t God’s perfect timing.

God is never late or early, but always on TIME.  We often have to WAIT, SURRENDER, TRUST and LET GO. If something is meant to be, it will be.

Here it is 10 years later, and I am leading my first guided personal retreat in our home, in April. I am so excited that what was conceived 10 years ago is now being born.

I met Christine last April on an Awakening and Healing retreat that we both participated in on Maui. I completed my 6- month training to become a Licensed teacher of Sacred and Awakening this past January in North Carolina.  Christine lives in North Carolina and stopped by to say hello to us.

When she was leaving, I was led to give her my book, “Simply a Woman of Faith.” She thanked me for the book and said, “I would love to come back to Maui someday.” I responded, “Would you like to come to our home for a guided retreat?” She said, “Let me think about it.” When I returned home, I sent her a short video of our lanai overlooking the ocean. That did it as she contacted me the next day and said, “I want to come.”

Christine and I are communicating as to what she would like as part of her retreat. She wants to heal her inner child through play and has invited me to come play with her and pay for me.  We will go to a Luau, ferry to Lanai, submarine ride, aquarium and art class.  Of course, I said, “YES.”

A few weeks later, I sent Christine a text asking her if she had finished reading my book yet? She texted me back and said, “Right before I received your text, I had just picked up your book to bring it to my bedroom so I wouldn’t forget to bring it with me to Maui.”

She said, “I really feel that you have something to share with me that will impact and transform my life. I know you are the right person that I am to be working with.”

We are all connected and we are all ONE. Christine shared that her grandmother called her ANGEL and that is what my grandmother called me.

Don’t ever give up on your dreams and desires of your heart.  They may take some time to MANIFEST as you WAIT, SURRENDER, TRUST and LET GO.  What I do know is that God’s plan is perfect and right on TIME.






I have all the TIME in the world

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As I sat with my friend, Barbara, leisurely sipping my Earl Grey Lavender tea in the coffee shop, I turned to her and said, “It feels so good to not have to PUSH.”  It felt like we had all the time in the world and we were enjoying every minute of it. I felt relaxed, in the moment, present, trusting and peaceful. I smiled and said to her, “I am a RECOVERING PUSHER.” Not a pusher of drugs, thank God. This is not the only area I am recovering from as I am a recovering Catholic, rushaholic, controlaholic, perfectionist and people pleaser. Can you relate?

Many years ago, one of my friends commented, “You push yourself a lot.”  It was so natural to push and I couldn’t stop myself, nor did I want to. It almost felt like a badge of honor and I felt proud of how I pushed. I realize today that I had to push myself to DO better, BE better, Be the BEST, perform and achieve.

Just thinking about this behavior now makes me feel exhausted. I didn’t know any better and I was afraid not to push. I wondered what would happen if I didn’t? Would everything fall apart and I wouldn’t get what I wanted and deserved? There was a hole inside of me that I was trying to fill from the outside.

Spirit is revealing to me that at the core of my pushing for so many years and all my addictions was FEAR-fear that I wasn’t good enough! No matter what I did, it was never good enough. This was a learned behavior to escape the pain, low self-esteem, no self-love and shame inside of me.

The opposite of pushing is relaxation. It’s no surprise that I have several signs around my home with RELAX on them. I need the reminder to relax, be present, enjoy and have fun. Since I have been a “pusher” for so many years, I will probably be tempted or inclined to push myself from time to time in an unhealthy way.

The good news is that it doesn’t feel good to push anymore because it creates stress in my life.  When I become aware that I am pushing or rushing, I bring myself back to the present moment and breathe. It always works.

I was out of balance and lived much of my life from the masculine within which is about doing, pushing, goal oriented, comparing, perfection, and achieving. The divine feminine within is about receiving. nurturing, surrendering, going with the flow and trusting.

I’ve experienced so much growth and transformation in myself since I completed the Divine Feminine Mystery School in July. I can honestly say that for the first time in my life, I know what it feels like to be balanced within and to acknowledge my gifts that I bring to the world.  It has taken me so many years to believe in myself and heal and release the trauma that I carried deep within my body. I am so grateful for the journey I have taken and my willingness to dive deep and not let fear rob me, as it did for so many years.

I have been given the opportunity to dive deep into the Divine Feminine and my power as a woman. I have embraced my feminine essence and will continue to embark on the path of self-healing, sexual awakening and transformation.

I am here to embody and serve the Divine Feminine in the world and to continue to balance the relationship between the male and female within myself. We need both our masculine and feminine to bring to the world.

Angels show up at the airport

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I graduated from The Sacred Feminine Mystery School this week and am so proud of myself for following my heart and soul’s calling to facilitate workshops for women’s healing sexual wounding and releasing trauma from their bodies. I am a Certified Spiritual Sexual Educator and Licensed teacher of Sacred Awakening and Healing. This body of work has transformed my life and I am grateful and honored to bring this sacred healing to women. I have come into a new freedom, strength, balance and confidence in myself and am letting my light shine.

I love how angels show up in “airports” when I need them the most. Here is what happened as I traveled home from North Carolina this week.  It was quite an adventure of surrendering and trust. Here is what happened.

I arrived at the airport at 4:00 am for a 5:30 flight out of Ashville, NC to Charlotte, NC. The flight was cancelled for 1 hour due to problems with the airplane. This meant that I wouldn’t make it to my next scheduled flight to Phoenix. Arizona.

My flight was rerouted and instead of going to Arizona, I was now going to Texas and my flight would be 8 hours long. When I arrived in Charlotte, I didn’t have much time to get to the boarding gate so I ran through the airport (baggage behind me) and arrived at the gate when all of the passengers were already on the plane.  I felt like I was going to pass out and almost collapsed when I finally found my seat.

I checked with the stewardess about my next flight and how much time I had. She looked at me and said, “You don’t have much time because you have to go to another terminal, it will be very close and you might not make it. When we are ready to land, I will bring you up to an empty seat in the front so you can get off the plane quickly.” I felt so grateful because I knew she was my ANGEL in disguise.

I kept praying, surrendering, trusting. accepting and “remembering” what happened on my flight home from Costa Rica a few months ago when doors were opened and I felt like I had wings flying through the airport. I sure hoped Spirit would do that again.

The stewardess kept her word and guided me to the front of the plane right before we were about to land. I texted my daughter, Mary, and asked for prayers that I would make it to the next gate on time. She wrote back, “WINGS” and I responded, “ANGELS.”

I got off the plane quickly and ready to do another run for my money through the airport. As I walked out the door right in front of me was a man sitting with an airport shuttle. I must have looked confused and a bit dazed because he looked at me and said, “Would you like a ride?” OMG would I like a ride as I jumped on the shuttle with my baggage.

He then said, “May I look at your ticket to make sure the gate hasn’t changed.” I rummaged through my purse and handed it to him.  He said, “They are boarding NOW and off we went beeping his horn, asking people to get out of the way as we raced through the airport. I sat there with tears running down my cheeks because I knew God had sent me an ANGEL with WINGS to get me to where I needed to go.

He took me as far as the shuttle would go, carried my suitcase up the escalator and then directed me to my next gate. I looked at him and said, “How did you know I needed a ride?” He just smiled as I thanked him for being my ANGEL.  As he pulled away, I noticed the shuttle was for handicapped persons. I guess this is one of the perks of being older and having some grey hair and looking dazed.

Again, when I arrived at the gate, all of the passengers were already boarded and I was one of the last persons to board the plane. I would never have made it to the gate on time if it wasn’t for my ANGEL.

What I know is that  God’s timing is PERFECT and God answers prayers.




I graduate and will be a Licensed Certified Sacred Sexual Educator

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I had no idea 9 months ago how I would be healed and transformed when I said YES to my soul and inner knowing to attend a Sacred Sexual Healing retreat with Amrita Grace and Caroline Muir on Maui.

After the retreat, I listened to my soul again and signed up for the 6-month certification program to become a teacher of this work.  I am so grateful and will try to put in words my experience of giving and receiving sacred sessions.

I can’t believe how fast the time has gone as I will graduate next week and will become a Licensed Certified Sacred Sexual Educator. This gives me the ability to teach this powerful sacred sexual healing all over the world as it is profound, transformational, holy and cutting edge. Every woman would benefit from it, whether sexually abused or not, as we all carry trauma that can get stuck in our bodies.

I am living in the mystery and have followed inner guidance and my heart, not knowing where it would take me, but trusting the process. I stepped out in faith and faced my deepest fears. As I look back on my journey the last 7 years of living on Maui and meeting my soulmate, I would not be where I am if I hadn’t taken the leap and followed my heart.

As part of the certification process, we had to do a practicum and facilitate an Awakening and Healing weekend, which took place this past weekend. What an amazing and powerful experience each woman had. The tears rolled down my cheeks as I witnessed women healing themselves, setting themselves free and releasing deep trauma from their childhood.  I felt humbled, honored and privileged to be a priestess in this capacity.

One of the women shared with me after the weekend, “I feel like I’ve stepped into a new energy vortex and it feels like divine feminine energy. I am realizing that I don’t have to make decisions and figure things out by myself. All I have to do is listen and get my assignment what to do next.”

If I ever had any doubts about being a teacher of this sacred work, they are gone after this weekend and seeing what the women experienced in the sacred, safe container we created.

About thirty years ago, I had a poster that read, I AM A WOMAN GIVING BIRTH TO MYSELF. I didn’t really understand what it meant until now. I have given birth to myself. Giving birth to anything (a child, a new project, a dream, an idea) can be painful and difficult because we have to face our fears and what’s inside of us that no longer serves us.  I am grateful that I had the courage and willingness to release my “stuff” before the weekend.

I am pleasantly surprised as I reflect on the last 9 months and what I’ve learned about myself and how I’ve changed. We really do teach what we need to learn. I knew that facilitating the weekend would be powerful, but I had no idea how much growth and deep healing I would experience by attending the Sacred Feminine Mystery School and completing this practicum.

I have stepped into my power and it feels so good. I feel solid, strong, grounded, balanced, loving, assertive, and know the truth of who I am, maybe for the first time in my life. I will continue to say yes to my sacred soul’s calling as it is my destiny and purpose. I will continue to trust that I am being guided every step of the way.

If I can assist you on your faith walk and help you find your sacred calling and purpose or help you release blocks or trauma, please let me know. I will be coming to Rhode Island to visit my family in the beginning of July and would like to offer a Sacred Sexual Awaking and Healing workshop. If this is calling you, please let me know.







I was being shaken up to waken up

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Happy New Year. My prayer for you is that 2019 be the best year ever and that you experience miracles and abundance in all areas of your life. May you go from pleasure to pleasure and enjoy your life to the fullest. We are not promised tomorrow so let’s make the best out of each day by appreciating what we have and being grateful.

What I know about the spiritual life is that there is always more and we will never have arrived. We are invited to go deeper to heal and release baggage and beliefs that no longer serve us, but in fact, hurt us.  It’s like peeling the onion and peeling an onion can make us cry.

We can either go kicking and screaming and resist “what is” happening in our lives or we can go with the flow in peace, ease and grace. Sometimes it’s easy to go with the flow and accept “what is” and other times it’s really difficult.

We may resist until we can’t stand the pain anymore and have to let go and surrender. I wish it was easier and not so painful. I’m grateful that I did some letting go and surrendering this past week. I want to be the best me I can be so I am willing to do the inner work of releasing and healing.

In order to release our subconscious beliefs, we must know what they are. They may be running our lives and we don’t even know it because they are so deep. We must allow them to come to the surface to be healed and released.

Do you remember the Christmas snowball that we used to shake up as kids? While in meditation this week, the Christmas snow ball came to mind and it felt like I was being shaken up. I was being shaken up to awaken. The snow on the bottom was coming to the top and it wasn’t pretty. When I’m triggered with something in the present, it is often about something in my past (a false belief) that is calling for attention, love and healing. It is not the time to beat up on myself for being triggered, but a call for self-love and compassion.

When I’m resentful, judgmental or blaming someone for what they did or didn’t do to make me happy, I’m not taking responsibility for my stuff or my “shit.” I was triggered and my shit was coming up and it was time to look at me and change my false beliefs. Spirit was showing me that what I thought was important and that I had to have to make me happy was false.

I am responsible for my own happiness and it doesn’t serve me to look outside for others to give me what I already have inside of me. The truth is that I have all the love I need inside of me. Looking to others for validation is futile and doesn’t serve me. Of course, we all want to give and feel loved by our friends and family. The problem comes when we expect others to love us in a certain way and when they don’t, we don’t feel loved.

I am grateful for my courage and willingness to use the tools I have been given to release beliefs that no longer serve me; meditation, journaling, prayer, self-love, Emotional Freedom Technique.

I had a major breakthrough and have set myself free of behaviors that have robbed me for years of knowing the truth of who I am. I am a woman giving birth to myself. I am love and I am loved and so are YOU.




My greatest growth is to TRUST

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The season of Christmas is about love, light, sharing, giving and being with loved ones. When I listen to Christmas songs on the radio, they say it’s the happiest time of the year. Well, it may be for some, but not for everyone. You may be grieving the loss of a loved one, have a serious illness, be far away from family, recently divorced or lost your job. What a set-up to think something is wrong with us if we’re not feeling happy in the season. I often hear people say after Christmas, “I’m so glad it’s over.”

Spiritually, I believe the season invites us to go within and be still so that we can open our hearts to more love and light. Unfortunately, that is not what happens for many of us. Instead of being still and going within, we get busier with shopping, parties, cooking, eating and drinking. We are exhausted by the time Christmas gets here and we just want it to be over. Has this been your experience or were you able to give yourself some quiet time and go within?

Like many folks, I enjoy the lights and parties and being with loved ones. This Christmas I was “forced” to be still and go within due to a nagging cold that had a life of its own. I didn’t want to give my germs to anyone nor did I want to pick up any germs so we cancelled parties and dinners.

To be honest, I really enjoyed the quiet with the lights and candles and listening to Christmas music. Instead of feeling like I was missing something, I felt grateful for the time with Larry, myself and Spirit.  I participated in an on-line program called, “13 days to Activate Your Inner Light Through Radical Self-care which I really enjoyed because it gave me the opportunity to practice loving myself even deeper.

I had the opportunity and time to reflect on this past year and all its ups and downs and the lessons learned. During the solstice, I was able to release what no longer served me and through the powerful energies present ask for what I wanted to attract into my life.

I asked Larry, “What do you think your greatest growth was for this past year?”  When he asked me the same question, I knew right away what the answer was. It was TRUST. My trust in God is deeper than it has ever been. I know and trust that everything is in perfect and divine order. I know and trust that whatever I am experiencing is for my highest good and it is perfect.

It seems like as my trust in God has deepened, so has my trust in myself in many ways.  I know when to say yes and when to say no, without feeling guilty. I know when to step out in faith and when to be quiet. I know how to love myself and give myself what I need.

I am learning that love is all there is and to choose love instead of fear. I am learning to see everything as an opportunity, rather than a problem or challenge. I am grateful for this year and look forward to even more blessings in the coming year.


As Pat shared, many of us are looking back at the year, reviewing how we have grown or changed. I think I have made progress in some areas and none in others.  I’ve grown in patience and living in the moment.

I grew up believing that the man of the household had the responsibility to make sure everyone was happy or at least content when a problem arose. I thought it was my job to fix it or offer a solution. I realize that my perspectives about relationships came from this belief and my behaviors reflected this.

Pat has helped me understand that when she shares something that is troubling her, she is not expecting me to fix it.  She needs to share it and wants me to just listen. After I have listened, I will ask her if there is anything, she would like me to do to support her.

The area I’ve grown most in is allowing Pat to share her feelings without offering a solution. When I’m able to do this, it really feels good for me because I don’t have the pressure to make it right or solve the problem. It’s no longer my responsibility and it’s a great weight off my shoulder. I wish I had known this a long time ago.

I’m learning that I can still love her, be there for her without trying to fix what’s bothering her. She is an intelligent person who can engage in all of the opportunities presented to her.  She can accept these opportunities and handle them herself.

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