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Gratitude is a gift I give myself

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I want to wish you all a very Happy Thanksgiving. It is a time to focus on gratitude and all the blessings we have in our lives; family, friends, wealth, health, happiness, love and joy. We are so blessed to live in this time of Spiritual Awakening in the world. When we are connected to all the blessings in our lives, we are able to find the lessons and positive side to every situation or outcome.

Gratitude is a gift I give myself not only at Thanksgiving, but all year long.  Gratitude adds joy to my life and when I’m grateful, it actually changes my brain chemistry. That is good news!

If I’m struggling with a problem and my ego and monkey mind are running the show, I PAUSE, STOP and get GRATEFUL. I focus on the blessings in my life and all that’s working and all that is good in my life. I journal and write a gratitude list and say affirmations. When I’m disconnected from a state of gratitude, my inner light is dimmed.

It’s amazing the inner shift that takes place when I’m grateful.  Although the problem may not be solved yet, my mind is clearer. I’m peaceful and in a much better place to figure out what I need to do next.

I’m grateful BEFORE something happens. Perhaps it’s called expectant faith. For example, I say thank you God for the parking spot I’m going to find at Costco. It almost always works.  I say thank you God for how I’m going to feel after a difficult confrontation or conversation. I express gratitude for open and closed doors, especially if I’m uncertain about a decision I am making.

For me it’s about TRUST and surrender.  Trust that a Higher Power, Infinite Intelligence, Source and Love are at work behind the scenes working things out for my highest good.  It’s continually putting my life in the hands of God, letting go and getting out of the driver’s seat.

As the holidays approach with all the hustle and bustle of commercialism, I am choosing to not get caught up in it all. I love the holidays; the Christmas songs and lights and I will enjoy that. I am choosing to focus on the real meaning of Christmas and that is LOVE. Instead of focusing on things outside of myself, I’m choosing to love and focus on what’s inside of me and CELEBRATE my growth and how far I’ve come.

That feels really good to celebrate my growth, rather than beat up on myself for all the things I still need to change or where I need to grow and heal. I’m not sure how it’s going to look yet, as celebrating my growth just came to me in prayer this morning.

I will start on December 1 and ask Spirit to show me an area of my life that I want to celebrate.  For example, today I will celebrate my courage. I will journal and write about all the ways I’ve been courageous over the years. The next day I may celebrate ways I’ve been generous with my love, time or money. It will be fun seeing what Spirit brings to mind each day.

My plan is to get a special journal for the month and call it “December Celebrating Myself.”

What we focus on grows. What we think about, we bring about. I’m thinking about my soul’s growth and how far I’ve come. How about you? Will you join me and celebrate your growth and life?   

I am the queen of ANGER

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My friends call me the “Yard sale Queen.”  They often ask me to look for something they need, and it inevitably shows up that day!  It’s so much fun to pray for what I need and then have it show up. I’m so grateful to Spirit for how I am always provided for. 

 I also call myself the Queen of Anger. That’s right, Anger. I’m really passionate at encouraging and helping my clients and friends to release their anger that may have been buried in the their subconscious for years. I give them permission to feel and release. To feel is to heal. When I allowed myself to feel and release my anger many years ago, it was one of the best things I did for myself. It brought me to a new place of freedom, peace and ease. 

It was not EASY because I had repressed and pushed my anger down for so many years. I was taught that little girls don’t get angry. I even prided myself that I didn’t feel anger much and felt sorry for others who got angry often. I was in denial and out of touch with myself for years until it just got too painful and things weren’t working for me.

I remember feeling like I had to prime the pump, so to speak. I was in therapy and memories of sexual abuse were coming up and I didn’t feel any anger. I knew it had to be there, but I couldn’t feel it.

It was easy for me to feel sad when something happened that hurt or disappointed me, but anger was another story. Underneath my sadness was anger-and a lot of it! I was filled with anger as a people pleaser. I was always trying to please others so they would love me. I looked outside to feel validated and approved of, rather than going within for what I needed.

I wouldn’t be who I am and where I am today if I hadn’t dealt with repressed anger, that was like a hidden cancer inside of me. I was angry at myself, at God and the abusers in my life and didn’t even know it.  

Many years ago, I traveled to Bermuda by myself to heal from the memories of being sexually abused. I expected sunshine, peace and time alone with God. Instead, after 5 days of rain and no sunshine, I finally ventured out to do some sightseeing on the moped I had rented. On my way home to the hotel, the skies opened up and there was not only rain, but hail and ice balls hitting my face. I was terrified, to say the least. When I finally reached a covered shelter for buses up ahead, I pulled over. I turned off my moped, threw it on the ground and screamed at God at the top of my lungs. I felt the anger rise up from a deep place within me.

I didn’t get angry with God. I had never gotten angry with God until then. I sobbed uncontrollably and it seemed like time stopped. I realized that all of my life I had held in my anger and couldn’t hold it in any longer. It had to come out and it wasn’t pretty.

The next day, after my anger release, I felt very different inside. The sun came out for the first time and I felt lighter, peaceful and more alive than I had ever felt. I believe that God threw thunderbolts and created the perfect circumstances (a hailstorm in Bermuda) to free, transform and heal me.

Today, it is fairly easy for me to feel my anger when something happens that disturbs me.  I feel it and can release it because it’s not years of repressed anger in my body. I do what I need to do for myself; journal, speak up if I need to, scream, forgive, and then let it go.

If you need help identifying and releasing your anger, I am here to help you. You are worth it.

I set myself FREE

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I have never written about this or talked about it here. It is time to bring light to an area of my life that was painful, abusive and dysfunctional. I share it with you for my own healing and to help others who may have had the same experience or may even be in it now.

I didn’t know it at the time but my family and I belonged to a Christian Charismatic prayer community – that I would label today as a cult. We belonged to the community for 10 years. That was 25 years ago and I still have triggers when I think about the emotional abuse I experienced, especially as a woman. I unknowingly gave my power away.

You may not belong to a religious cult, but you may be in a marriage, relationship or job that is controlling and abusive and you have given your power away.

The first thing that happened to me when we joined the community was that I was asked to not use my gifts at the prayer meetings (the gift of prophecy), so my husband could be raised up.  It makes no sense to me today, but I bought it back then and didn’t use my gifts ever again.

It’s all about control and there were many RULES to follow; how to dress, how to pray, how to raise your family, how to tithe, where to live, how to wear makeup, how to be submissive to your husband. I was reprimanded by my leader if I didn’t follow the rules. My leader informed me that I was wearing too much eye makeup and if I wanted to be a leader, it had to be removed.

I gave my power away because I wanted to be loved and accepted. I was empty inside. I thought the leaders knew better than I did for my life. At that time, I didn’t know my answers and everything I needed was inside of me.  I’m embarrassed to share this and shiver to think where I was and what my family experienced.

The leaders were good people who thought they were doing the right things. We joined the community so our children would grow up with other children who had the same Christian values. That was the good part of it as we did many fun things together with other families and formed deep friendships with some of the members.

When my family left the community after being a part of it for 10 years, I had to go into therapy for debriefing because I was so messed up! 

  • I didn’t think for myself
  • I followed the “rules” without questioning
  • I played small
  • I didn’t have a voice
  • My self-esteem was damaged
  • I allowed myself to be controlled and abused
  • My light was dim
  • I felt guilt that I couldn’t measure up to their standards

I’m so grateful that I had a great therapist who helped me move through it and see the truth of what was going on.

I not only had to forgive myself for giving my power away as I did, I had to forgive the leaders for the emotional and spiritual abuse I experienced. It was a long process and I am happy to say I SET MYSELF FREE.

Today, after many years of recovering from this experience, I truly value, appreciate and celebrate who I am as a woman. I have learned to love myself from the inside out and go within for my answers.

I am using my gifts and standing in the light of my magnificence and it feels really good. I remember the truth of who I am as a child of God. I am LOVE. You are LOVE. Do you remember the truth of who you are?

My affirmation: “I am a star that shines brightly to lead others to the God within.’

I said NO to my friend

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I had the opportunity this week to say no to a friend and colleague who asked me to write an endorsement for his new book. It’s not that I didn’t want to give him an endorsement, because I did, but my plate was full and I knew I wouldn’t be able to give it the time it needed. His response to my no was loving and accepting. We both know the importance of self-care and honesty. I have to admit that there was a time in my life that I didn’t say NO to others because I wanted others to love me and I was afraid of the consequences of saying no. I often anticipated others needs and offered to help before they even asked. I never thought about if it would be good for me. I lived from the SHOULDS and it was exhausting. I pushed myself to do things that I didn’t want to do because I thought that was the loving thing to do. What I didn’t understand was that I had it backwards. I wasn’t loving myself and my needs first. I was not taught how to go within and ask Spirit for guidance nor was I taught how to love myself first. Do you have a hard time saying NO to others when they ask you to do something or they want you to go someplace with them?   Are you able to say no just because you don’t feel like doing something without a legitimate excuse?   Do you think it’s selfish to say no to another’s request?    Do you feel guilty and beat up on yourself when you say no?   Have you ever felt resentful when you did something you didn’t want to do and did it because you thought you SHOULD do it?   Are you unable to say no to another’s request because you want to take care of them and rescue and fix them?   Whenever we focus on others, at the expense of ourselves, we are in trouble and not in alignment with God’s will. It is like we are saying, “Your needs are more important than mine.” It is not only dishonoring, but it is disrespectful to the other person when we think we have the answers for them and want to rescue or fix them. I want to be helpful and loving and be there for others when I can and choose to. WHEN I SAY NO TO OTHERS, I AM SAYING YES TO MYSELF. Believe me, coming to this place of knowing and truth has been a process because I understand how important self-love and self-care is to my overall well-being. I am responsible to take care of myself; body, mind and spirit FIRST before I can truly be there for another. Today, when I need to make a decision whether to say yes or no to another person’s request, I go within, trust my intuition and ask Spirit for guidance. I ask questions like: * Do I really want to do this (whatever the request is)?   * Is this in my highest good (and that of the other person) to say yes to this request?   * Am I feeling responsible for the other person and their needs?
Remember, it is not selfish to say no, but self-loving to say no when you want to. If I am not sure I want to do something, I give myself time to go within and ask for guidance. I do nothing out of the SHOULDS anymore. It takes practice to say no in a way that doesn’t offend someone. Being true to myself is self-loving and honoring.  

I followed my heart

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When people ask me, “Why did you move to Maui?” I place my hand on my heart and say, “I followed my heart and knew I would meet my soul mate here.” My HEART knew what I needed to grow and expand and to experience more love and joy in my life.

While my heart said yes, my head said, “How can you leave your children and grandchildren? You don’t have enough money. You can’t leave your beautiful home and move 5,000 miles away. Who would take care of you if you get sick?”

It was a battle for quite a while who and what I was going to listen to; my heart or my head. One day my heart said “yes” to moving to Maui and the next day, I was riddled with fear and apprehension.

After praying, meditating, discerning and journaling about it, I finally got the courage to say “yes” to my soul’s calling and I have never regretted it. It was one step at a time and God opened the doors as I stepped out in faith and moved forward. It was quite an adventure of letting go, surrendering, trusting and miracles.

I’m so grateful I listened to my heart, because the heart knows what’s best and is always right! The heart knows its true desires and what it wants and needs to be fulfilled. Following your heart is not for the faint of heart. It can be scary. Do you agree?

Can you remember a time when you followed your heart, rather than your head? What happened? Your head may have said things like: “You are crazy. You can’t do that. What are you thinking?”

I worked with a new coaching client this week who didn’t understand how important it was to listen to her heart. She was divorced, but had moved back in with her ex-husband for the past 4 years. She said, “I’m not happy and don’t want to be there, but I’m afraid of hurting him if I leave.” I encouraged her to journal about how she would be hurting herself if she stayed in a situation where she was miserable.

My client said, “I was speaking to my girlfriend about my situation that my head was saying one thing and my heart was saying another thing. I don’t know who I should listen to.”

She was surprised when I encouraged her to listen to her heart. It was clear what her heart wanted, but her mind was telling her the opposite. She didn’t understand that her heart was telling her the truth and that her intuition was guiding her what to do next for her highest good.

* When you follow your heart, you learn to trust your intuition.
* When you trust your intuition, you are more open to following your heart.
* When you follow your heart, you begin to love yourself.
* You start to believe that you are good enough and that everything that has happened to you, positive or negative, has made you the person you are today.
* When you are honest with yourself and willing to ask yourself, what is truly in your heart, you open yourself up to all kinds of possibilities and miracles.

Are you following your heart or are you stuck in fear and listening to your head? I invite you to go within and ask Spirit to help you follow your heart so you can live your purpose, be fulfilled and happy. It’s your birthright to be happy!

I was accountable to my friend

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I met with my friend, Kerry, this week for tea at Java Coffee Shop. We both arrived on Maui at the same time almost 8 years ago. We have been supporting and encouraging one another ever since, both professionally and personally. She is also from New York, so we had that in common.

One of the ways we support one another is by being accountable to what we say we are going to do. Our check-in every week really has worked and kept us on track and motivated. I know being accountable really works for me.

When I was struggling with writing Simply a Woman of faith, I knew I needed to be accountable. I asked my friend, Joanne, if she would help me and she said, “Yes.” I committed to writing one hour every week and called her on Sunday night to check-in. It was often the day before check- in that I did my writing and it was usually more than one hour once I got started. I don’t think I would have finished my book if I hadn’t made that commitment.

Kerry is working on a new website for her Harmonium business and was feeling stuck. She knew she needed to write every day but was having a hard time following through. I asked, “Would you like to make a commitment to write every day and check-in with me at end of week?” She said, “Yes, that would be very helpful. I will work on my website for 20 minutes every day.”

At the time, I didn’t have anything that I was struggling with that I needed to be accountable for until TODAY.

As I have shared in past blogs, I have been invited to be on staff at the The Sacred Feminine Mystery School. I will be teaching a class on Codependency and leading monthly coaching calls for the women participating in the new 6- month Certification Program starting in November.

I am very excited and honored for this opportunity to share my gifts and work with the women. With that said, the ego VOICES started and they were loud. You know the voices I am talking about? The voice that says, “You are not good enough.  What if they don’t like the talk and they are bored. What if they know more than I do?”

I wrote out everything I was saying to myself in my journal and believe me it wasn’t pretty, and more importantly, I realized it was a big LIE.

I then wrote out affirmations to tell myself the truth. I will write affirmations every day and check-in with Kerry every week to be accountable.

I understand that whenever we start something new or are invited to stop playing small and expand, our ego will act out, and sometimes viciously. Can you relate? The important thing is to be aware of whose voice we are listening to. The voice of ego or the voice of Spirit.

As I meditated and prayed, I heard Spirit say:

“Stop listening to the voice of ego and listen to me. Don’t let ego rob you of your peace and what I have called you to do. Stop playing small and rise up into the truth of who you are. Everything you need is inside of you and when I call you to do something, I will equip you with everything you need.” 

Is there an area of your life that you feel stuck and want to move forward? Do you beat up on yourself and don’t feel good enough? I encourage you to find someone you trust and can be honest with to be accountable so you can move forward and live the life you are intended to live.

My core mother wound

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I started the day with a prayer: “As I prepare my heart to celebrate my birthday this week, help me to live in the moment with no expectations from others and the grace to receive all that is mine.”

God danced the day I was born and God danced the day you were born! Today is my birthday and I’m celebrating me and how far I’ve come and what God has done in my life.  It’s been a long journey of remembering the truth of who I am and that I am ONE with God and with everyone and everything.

Are you able to celebrate yourself or do you think you are not enough? I am learning to give myself what I need, instead of looking outside for love, praise, validation, approval and value.

It wasn’t always like that though. For many years of my marriage, I felt stressed when my birthday came around. My ex-husband didn’t celebrate birthdays, or at least not mine! He would forget my birthday and I would cry and feel like a victim year after year. He would apologize and promise it wouldn’t happen again – until it happened again the next year.

My core “mother wound” shows up when I perceive I’m being ignored or forgotten, especially with family.  As I’ve done my inner work and healed, it has diminished a great deal, but not completely gone. I’m learning to not take things personally and to know what others do or don’t do isn’t about me. They are doing the best they can.

I’m practicing self-responsibility, which means instead of blaming others and feeling resentful when I don’t get what I want, I take responsibility for what I need and want. I buy myself flowers, take myself out to lunch or get a massage. 

I have no control over others and how they act, respond or say or do.  But I do have control over how I respond and if I allow myself to take things personally and make it about me. That is ego’s playground.

 “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman has been very helpful to me in understanding my love language and what I need. They are: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. Each one is important and expresses love in its own way. Learning your partner’s and your own primary love language will help create a stronger bond in your relationship.

Receiving gifts and cards is my #1 love language so you can understand how painful it was each year to be forgotten by my husband for my birthday. Quality time and affirmations are a close second.

When I was single, I bought myself flowers and a special gift for my birthday. Larry understands and honors my love language and buys me red roses whenever I return home from a trip.  I’m so appreciative because he always buys me something special and finds the perfect birthday cards.

Over the years, my children have sent me beautiful, loving and meaningful birthday cards that I’ve saved in a special box. Sending cards is not their love language. They are busy with their lives and don’t always send cards the way they use to.

This is how I’m taking care of myself and being responsible. I found birthday cards from my kids that I’ve saved. I will display them and take the words into my heart. I know this was Spirit’s idea because it feels so good and comforting. 

I know this will be a great birthday as I celebrate myself and the love that is within and without.  Love is all there is.

I looked outside for love

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Can you imagine the surprise of receiving a message on Facebook from my friend, Sharon, whom I graduated high school with 55 years ago?  I haven’t seen or heard from her in all these years. OMG where does the time go?

Of course, memories of high school days danced through my head. I graduated from a class of 800 students and I was the captain of the cheerleaders, queen of the prom, president of my sorority and voted MOST POPULAR. I worked “very hard” at being POPULAR and it was exhausting!

I know today that I looked OUTSIDE to be validated, noticed, praised and loved. I had no idea how to love myself or that I “should” love myself. I beat up on myself and never felt good enough, no matter how many degrees I received. There was a HUGE hole inside of me that only God could fill. I tried to fill that hole by staying busy, rushing, working and being a people pleaser.  On the outside, I looked great, but my outside didn’t match my inside. Can you relate?

Here is what my friend from high school wrote:

“I wanted to share how connected I feel to you. I too am a woman of faith and God has taken us on a similar journey. Although I didn’t grow up in an alcoholic home, I married an alcoholic, who is now recovering and my daughter is an Addiction Therapist.

My faith was nonexistent until I found Alanon and learned to surrender. Once having taken that leap of faith, I too received many blessings. What I wanted to share with you is that I had become very complacent in my faith. I read your inspiring book and it put the fire under me again, so thank you. I will be going to our 55th high school reunion in October. I will be bringing 3 copies of your book to share with some of my closest friends. I know from your postings that you have found your soul mate and are living your dream. I am living my dream too and I thank you for reminding me of how awesome God is.”

As you can imagine, I was thrilled and grateful to receive her message and that she is bringing 3 of my books to the reunion.  Holy Moly!  I’m also grateful that I had the courage to say YES to God, face my fears and have my book published 10 years ago.

 When I was in the middle of writing my book (that took 7 years to write), I had a dream. I went to bed hysterical crying and said to God, “I can’t write this book, no one will read it, I’m wasting my time, you have chosen the wrong person.”  I was riddled with FEAR.  Thank you, God, for not giving up on me, like I had given up on myself.  

Here is my dream:

I was climbing up a staircase. When I got to the top of the stairs, there was a STAR. As I reached out to touch the STAR, I became the STAR. I received an affirmation, “I am a STAR that shines brightly to lead others to the God within.”

It truly is my passion and purpose to shine brightly to inspire others to know their Source as the divine presence of God within. I share my story every week, not for validation or to be admired or praised. I share my journey to encourage you so that you know you are not alone and that you can live your dream, as I am doing today.

My friends, I encourage you to face your fears, listen to the small, still voice of God and remember Spirit will never lead to something without equipping you for the task.” I am here to help you and show you how to live your dream.

How did I get here?

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Have you ever asked yourself, “How did I get here?” I know I have, all the time! I said this to my son, Tim, a few years ago and he said, “Mom, you have been talking about living on the water for as long as I can remember.” It was my dream to live on the water and I didn’t care if it was a pond, a lake, a puddle or the ocean!

I am blissful, peaceful and grateful when I sit outside every morning looking at the ocean, smelling the flowers, listening to the birds or watching the beautiful sunset every night. Dreams do come true and often much bigger than you expected. Dream BIG. I not only attracted living in a home overlooking the ocean, but I attracted a loving husband who respects, loves and cherishes me. How blessed I am.

My “spiritual practice” and awakening journey with Spirit for the past 45 years is extremely important to me.  It has brought me to where and who I am today. I don’t do everything perfectly (I practice), and not in any special order, but I SHOW UP daily and allow Spirit to guide me, as I trust the day to unfold with peace, ease and grace. It has not always been easy as I have had to work through and heal many layers of sexual, emotional abuse and parental addiction. It has taken years to transform and heal and I am grateful I didn’t give up.

I would like to share these spiritual practices with you. If you are struggling in any area of your life, I invite you to incorporate any or all of what works for me.

I pray, meditate and journal daily

I let go and let God

I am assertive and ask for what I want

I set my intentions for the day

I choose love

I practice an attitude of gratitude

I allow myself to feel my feelings and express them when I want to

I let go of negativity and focus on the positive

I set boundaries and say no when needed

I listen to my intuition and follow its guidance

I detach when necessary

I ask for help when I need it

I speak my truth, even when it’s difficult

I see everything as opportunities- rather than problems

I eliminate “shoulds” from my life

I embrace and welcome change-rather than fear it

I trust and surrender to “what is”

I forgive myself and others

I love and appreciate myself

I ALLOW things to come to me, rather than make things happen

I live in the NOW moment, as tomorrow is not promised and the future is not here yet

I let go of victim, poor me mentality

I choose love, happiness and joy

I open to infinite possibilities

I take responsibility for my actions-rather than blaming someone else

I look for opportunities to serve

I believe everything happens for a reason and there is a purpose for everything

That is quite a list and I encourage you to choose what works for you. We are all connected and are ONE. I don’t do it perfectly and I forget the truth of who I am sometimes. When I get out of alignment (and I do), Spirit always brings me back home, to where I am meant to be.

It is my desire to live my life to the fullest and BE the woman God created me to be, using my gifts for the good of all. I choose to be a vessel of love, have fun, play and enjoy my life. We are not promised tomorrow, all we have is NOW and it’s never too late to begin. You are worth it and you deserve peace and love in your life.

I would be happy to help and assist you go deeper so you can live the life you deserve.

Divine Intervention

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Every week my prayer is that Spirit give me something inspirational to write about for my blog. Sometimes, it’s at the last minute when I get a message, but I have learned to wait because something always comes. God’s timing is perfect!  God is faithful since I’ve been writing these weekly blogs for the last 10 years. I’m grateful and humbled that I’m the instrument He chooses to write through.

If it wasn’t for you reading the blogs and responding and sharing your experiences, I wouldn’t write. Thank you for encouraging me to keep sharing my love story and how God continues to “show up” to love, provide, guide and protect.  You are not alone; we are all on this journey together and it is my joy and delight to share my sacred, personal experiences of God with you.

While I was taking my walk at sunset on the beach last night, I spotted an open house sign, as I walked past the house overlooking the ocean. I was curious and decided to take a quick look. I was honest and direct with the real estate agent, Lori. I wasn’t interested in buying the 12-million-dollar home, I just wanted to see what it looked like inside.

Lori and I started talking, which is not uncommon to do living on Maui. After the initial questions, “How long have you been living here, how did you get here, do you like it?” I shared our “love story” and how Larry and I met and are now married. She listened intently and I sensed that what I was saying resonated with her on a deep level.  I shared about being single for 15 years after a 30-year marriage and how I learned to love myself during that time. 

She shared her story, which had some similarities on how she came to Maui with her soulmate. She asked about my children and grandchildren ranging from 2 years old to 28 years old. I told her about my daughter, Mary, adopting my grandson, Herbie, and that he was in foster care before she adopted him.

She opened up and said, “I was in foster care and it was very painful being taken out of the house.” She started to cry, and said, “I never cry here.” I hugged her and assured her it was o.k. to cry for the pain still inside.

She shared, “I’m writing a book about my experiences in foster care and it’s called ‘Breath of Love.” It’s about overcoming fear and living in abundance. Of course, that brought the conversation to an even deeper level.  I said, “I wrote a book called, “Simply a Woman of Faith” and it took me 7 years to write it because I was filled with fear and didn’t believe in myself. I shared a scripture with her: “Fear is useless, what is needed is TRUST.” I’m so grateful that I had the grace to face my fears and follow my heart to have my book published. I would not be living my dream and living on Maui in a beautiful home with my beloved.

I asked Lori, “What is keeping you from finishing your book?” She said, “I don’t know because most of it is already written.” I offered to help and support her because I know how important it is to be accountable to move through the levels of fear.

As we hugged and said goodbye to one another, she looked at me and said, “I have been here since 1:00 pm and there hasn’t been 1 person come to the open house. I was getting ready to close up when I heard God say, “Wait, don’t leave yet, someone is coming.” We both knew that someone was ME and it was a Divine Appointment.

I know the story isn’t over yet and Lori and I are meeting this week so I can give her a signed copy of “Simply a Woman of Faith.” I love how we are all connected.

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