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Chapter 18 “It’s Never Too Late for Love” Ego

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This truly is the season of gift-giving and sharing with others. Larry and I would like to gift you with one of the chapters from our book, “It’s Never Too Late for Love.”  This is Larry’s perspective of ego. You will have to buy the book to get my perspective.  Enjoy.

                                            CHAPTER 19     EGO  

“There is only one of the two that can reside in our hearts GOD or ego. If God is in ego is out.” ~ A.R. Rahman

Larry: The ego is our “false self” and the current state of humanity. Ego shows up in our lives through our thoughts and its negative energy causes us a great deal of stress, pain, and suffering. Once we allow ourselves to be directed into the egoic state of mind, we find ourselves in a downward spiral towards a life of negativity and fear.  

We believe we are not good enough, handsome or pretty enough, too thin or heavy, too tall or short, or not smart enough. Any negative thoughts you have are brought about by the ego. The ego will encourage you to be unkind and disrespectful, to judge others so you can feel better about yourself, and to see everyone else wrong and you right.

 For example, we have a sliding screen door that leads to our lanai. It doesn’t slide well, and I have tried to fix it, without much success. If it isn’t closed just right, it stays open and leaves a space. I asked Pat to be careful and make sure the door was closed all the way when she uses it. I am concerned that centipedes, cockroaches, mice, or rats will gain entry if the door is not closed all the way. It is not as much of a priority for Pat as it is for me. Although she has tried to close it tight when she goes outside, sometimes she doesn’t think about it and there is a space open.

I was bitten by a centipede a few years ago and it wasn’t much fun. From my perspective, closing the door is particularly important and I would like to have it closed all the time. I know if critters get in, Pat is not going to dispatch them and will call me to do it. For Pat, it’s not that important. Wow, my ego had a ball with that; it tells me, “What the heck is wrong with her, why can’t she close the door all the way? What is she five years old? Why is it a big deal to just close the door all the way?”  My ego says, “She’s wrong and I’m right.” I can see how ego is trying to cause drama and negativity in our relationship if I allow it.

After several months of feeling frustrated every time I looked at the opened door, it became obvious that the situation wasn’t going to change. I could continue to feel frustrated or I could do something about it.  I finally asked myself, “How would a vessel of Love handle the situation?” This is what I learned. My options were: 

 * Talk to Pat about it. I did.

 * I could move; I don’t like that option.  

* I could feel resentful every time I see the door opened.   

* I could put on my big boy pants and take responsibility for the door.   

Yea! I like the option of taking responsibility for the door, no one is right or wrong.  

When I see the door open now, I just close it. Love showed me my ego had been running the show. To be a vessel of Love requires me to look at myself and discover what needs to be changed. I changed my perspective and took the power away from ego. Taking responsibility for the situation certainly brought more peace and harmony in our lives.  

Of course, this is just a small example of how ego will try to disrupt a relationship and cause separateness. If we are open and conscious of the power and energy of Love, it will become our default and will help us in all kinds of situations.                        


Where has my ego robbed me of my peace? 

 Am I a helicopter wife or husband?  

How does ego disrupt my relationships?  

I feel grateful, peaceful and light

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Isn’t it wonderful when we see our growth and how far we have come? It has taken me a long time to get there. There was a time when I was filled with fear and it was easier to see where I needed to grow and change. Can you relate?

For many years, I criticized, competed, and compared myself to others and felt less than and unworthy. Through the grace of God and deep inner healing, I don’t do that anymore and it feels really good. I will always be evolving to become my highest and best self and I will be triggered at times. The good news is that I’m aware of when my ego is trying to run the show and I shift the energy and get back into alignment with my truth.

Today, I feel grateful, peaceful, happy, and light. I feel this lightness because I’m trusting Spirit is in control of my life and that everything I need is provided for when I need it. In other words, I know God has my back and is working on my behalf behind the scene.

I know what I can control and what I can’t control. I know my happiness comes from within and is not dependent on other people or outside events. I don’t watch the news as it depresses and confuses me. If there is something important that I need to know, I will know it.

I shared with a friend this week that my light is shining brighter than it ever has been. It gives me such joy to smile (under my mask) and say good morning to everyone on my morning walk on the ocean. I overheard someone say, “You can tell if someone’s eyes are smiling.”

I often introduce myself and ask their names. They remember me as “Pat with the hat.” Some people are surprised when I greet them and look away or look down. Some respond and seem genuinely pleased to be greeted and seen.

A few weeks ago, while walking on the beach I spotted a man sitting in his chair. I sensed there was something very special about him as he exuded peace and serenity. He reminded me of the “laughing Buddha.” I was compelled to walk over and introduce myself to him. There was an instant recognition and soul connection. We shared what bought us to Maui and how much we loved it. He said, “I’m staying with friends and looking for a place to rent.” We exchanged telephone numbers and I said, “I will call you if I hear of anything.” We began texting each other inspirational messages.

Whenever we see one another on the beach, we share the energy of love. I will never forget what he said to me this week as we parted.  With his hands folded in prayer, he said, “I see you; I hear you; I feel you and I love you.” Wow, to be seen by someone is what we all want and crave.  

He also shared another gem that I love. He said, “Whenever I see someone with “good fortune,” I say to myself, “good fortune” and then place it in my basket and in no time my basket is filled. It can be anything: a beautiful home, a car, a successful business, wealth, etc.

Instead of feeling jealous if someone has something I want, I reach out my hand and say, “good fortune” and then literally place it in my (imaginary) basket in front of me. It works as my basket is filled immediately.

I encourage you to see your growth and how far you have come. Instead of criticizing, competing and comparing, how about you celebrate and love yourself. Remember, “I see you; I hear you; I feel you and I love you.”

Ho’oponopono Healing

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About 10 years ago, I read a powerful book called “Zero Limits” by Ihaleakala Hew Len and Joe Vitale. It is about Ho’oponopono. The word “ho’o” means “cause” in Hawaiian, while “ponopono” means “perfection”. The term “ho’oponopono” can be translated as “correcting a mistake” or “making it right”.

Ho’oponopono consists of four main phrases: There are four steps: repentance, forgiveness, love, and gratitude. Simply repeating these words can trigger the release of blockages, negative memories, and traumas so that you can take more control over your own body and life.

The purpose of ho’oponopono is to seek a cure for these problems through forgiveness. Not necessarily the forgiveness of others, but especially that of oneself. Here are the words:

1. I’m sorry
2. Please forgive me
3. I love you
4. I am grateful

Ho’oponopono is a way to purify one’s body and get rid of bad memories or feelings that negatively are held in the mind. This has been my mantra every night as I fall asleep for many years.

Ho’oponopono acts as a cleansing, neutralizing memories of suffering, and uncomfortable sensations. I truly believe by repeating this mantra, I am experiencing deep healing.

Every day last week I was led to listen to a Ho’oponopono Song on Utube. I was surprised by the depth of my feelings. I cried as I listened to the words and allowed my healing to go even deeper through self-forgiveness.

Spirit showed me how much I have pushed myself over the years because I didn’t feel good enough and had to prove myself to feel deserving and worthy. I looked outside of myself for answers, rather than going within. I looked to others to validate and approve of  me, rather than validating myself.

While listening to the words of Ho’oponopono and allowing them to penetrate by being, I felt a deeper compassion and appreciation for myself. I was transported to a place of love, peace and gratitude.     

As I reflected on my past life experiences, I realized that I had to make a choice to become either bitter or better. Through the grace of God, and my willingness to forgive, I chose to become better.

Rather than blaming my parents, bad luck or life, I was able to take responsibility for myself and create a beautiful life. Gratitude is the answer if I want to be happy. There is always something to be grateful for, no matter what circumstances I find myself in.

Today I am celebrating the woman I have become. I am a woman giving birth to myself. I will continue to evolve, grow, heal, forgive, love and accept whatever comes my way.

Choose an attitude of gratitude

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Happy Thanksgiving friends and family. Gratitude provides us with opportunities to express our appreciation for all the gifts we receive daily. By CHOOSING an attitude of gratitude, we experience a life filled with love, peace, joy, and happiness.

Spirit is always giving us opportunities to grow and evolve, whether it be in personal relationships with family and friends, work relationships, or global and political issues we have no control over. It’s a conscious decision to live in gratitude when we want to complain about situations that we have no control over.

We can also CHOOSE to live in fear or love abundance, or lack.  Do we focus on what’s missing in our lives or are we grateful for all that we have? This is not the year to get everything we want. This is the year to appreciate everything we have.

If there was ever a time in history to live in the present moment, it is NOW. We have no idea what tomorrow is going to bring. We are invited to let go of control and the need to know what’s ahead and to trust Spirit that we and our families are safe, guided, and protected. 

I had a few experiences this week that brought up feelings that I needed to feel; disappointment, sadness, and anger. Being far away from my children and grandchildren on holidays brings up sadness, especially since it will be 2 years before I see them again because of COVID.  In another situation, I felt disappointed and angry when a friend said something hurtful and inappropriate.

For many years, I took things personally. Even though I knew better, I did it anyway. I blamed myself for another’s inappropriate behavior and disrespect. I thought I did something wrong when someone ignored me or didn’t listen to what I needed.

I journaled and allowed myself to feel all my feelings until I was on the “other side.” Once I felt all my feelings and let them go, I wrote a 2-page gratitude list for everything I was grateful for to move the energy.

What I know today is that it’s not about me. When another person behaves inappropriately, it’s about them. Their behavior shows their character flaws, not mine. Whatever they do and say gets filtered through their lens or whatever they are going through at the moment, which is not about me. They may be going through something difficult and may not be themselves.

Again, I had a CHOICE to judge my friend for her remark, which ego would love me to do or send her love and compassion.  Whenever I judge another person,  I’m cooperating with ego whose intention is to make me feel separate and superior to others. When in truth, we are all connected through the energy and power of Love.

 Rather than blaming, shaming, being resentful, making her wrong and me right, I will pray for her and CHOOSE love and compassion. This feels so much better.

What are you CHOOSING today? CHOOSE Love and gratitude if you want to experience peace, joy, and happiness.

Relax, let go, release & surrender

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I listened to Songs of the Spirit 11 CD by Karen Drucker this week. The words spoke to my heart as they did when I first listened to the songs 13 years ago. I relax, I let go, I release and surrender, all is well.”

Is it easy to relax, let go and surrender? No, I don’t believe it is easy, but if I want peace in my life, I must learn to let go, trust, release, and surrender to what is happening in my life. My daily prayer and intention is to be peaceful, to love, and to serve.

I have several RELAX plaques around our house to help me to remember to RELAX and live in the present moment. The past is gone and the future is not here yet.  All we have is NOW.

For many years, I wasn’t peaceful and relaxed because I felt responsible and tried to control and fix the people I loved and cared about. I thought I knew what was best for them. How disrespectful it is to think I know the answers for someone else’s life.  I know today, that behavior was born out of unresolved childhood trauma and not wanting to feel what was inside of me (not good enough, unworthiness, fear, and perfectionism.)

Doing my best was never good enough – I had to be the BEST. I had to be the president of the sorority, the captain of the cheerleaders, and queen of the prom to feel worthy and deserving of love. I worked hard, stayed busy, and pushed myself to do more and be more. Can you relate?

I looked outside to others for the answers for my life.  I thought others knew what was best for me. I would ask friends, “What would you do and how would you feel if this happened to you?” I didn’t trust my feelings or myself and that the answers were within.

I’m grateful to say that has CHANGED! Today, my life is about ALLOWING, BEING, TRUSTING, and not pushing and planning everything. It’s living in the moment and trusting my intuition. It’s trusting Spirit to guide, protect, and provide everything that I need. My “job” is to keep my vibration high with gratitude and love. I send love and light out to the world rather than fear and worry. Can you imagine what the world would look like if we all sent out love and light instead of blaming, judging, and thinking we are separate?

What a breath of fresh air and relief to know I don’t have to control people, places, and things and that everyone is on their life’s journey and learning the lessons they need to learn. I believe it’s all perfect and in divine order.

What I can control and am responsible for is myself, my attitudes, choices, and reactions. I can choose love or fear and release beliefs that no longer serve me.  I’m responsible for my happiness because happiness is an inside job. My friend, Donna, describes me as living from pleasure to pleasure. I know what gives me pleasure and I do more and more of it. How about you? What gives you pleasure and what makes you happy?

I love the synchronicities and miracles that unfold as I let go, relax, release, and surrender. I walk on the path every morning overlooking the ocean and spread the love. I pray and ask Spirit to lead me to the people I am to talk to. It is my “joy” to smile and greet people by simply saying, “Good morning.” I introduce myself and they remember me as “Pat with the hat.”

A few months ago, I met Henry through Norma, the cat. I was impressed by Henry’s love and apparent soul connection to Norma. Henry and I became friends and often discussed our spirituality and our upcoming book, “It’s Never Too Late for Love.”

When our book came on Amazon a few weeks ago, Henry and his wife, Marcy, sent out 10 books to their friends all over the world. I cried and was overwhelmed with gratitude when Henry shared what they did. Of course, they hadn’t read the book yet but felt the love energy from what I had shared about the book.  

This is just one of many miracles that are happening as I remember the song, “I relax, I let go, I release and surrender, all is well.”

God’s timing is perfect

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Thank you for buying our book. We so appreciate your love and support. If you were inspired by the book, would you please put a review on Amazon? It’s important to get reviews so people can find our book.

It’s not easy to TRUST when you don’t know how things are going to turn out and you have no control over it. I am sure we all experienced that with the elections this past week.  All we have control over is ourselves and whether we choose fear or love.

I got to practice this week trusting Spirit would come through and show me the way. I was in and out of fear and had to keep “recalibrating” when I became aware, I was in fear.

I needed help putting the link to our new book, “It’s Never Too Late for Love” on the “Simply a Woman of Faith” website. I contacted the computer company that helps us with our computer and asked if they could help me. Although this request was beyond the scope of what we hired them for, the technician said, “Yes, I can help you.” I was instructed to contact him when we got our Amazon link. 

When our book came on Amazon last week, I contacted the technician immediately. He said, “I will call you tomorrow night to do the work.” He didn’t call the next night or the night after that. I emailed him asking him to please contact me. He disappeared and I couldn’t reach him.

I felt disappointed, discouraged, frustrated, and angry. I allowed myself to feel it all and then let it go. I prayed for the technician and sent him love. I didn’t want to hold onto resentment.

I didn’t know where to turn for help. Our book was chosen as 1 of the 10 best books for Aspire magazine for December and the deadline to getting my information in was in a few days. I prayed and asked Spirit for a message.


“Everything is happening for a reason. Trust me, let go. Do not worry and lose your peace. I am working behind the scenes. Everything will work out. You will see why after what is happening. Now you must trust.

I contacted our publisher and asked if she had any recommendations to help me with the website. She gave me the name of a man who helped her and said, “He was expensive.”

I called him immediately and explained what I needed. He said, “I’m sorry I can’t help you. My company is really busy.” I guess he could hear the desperation in my voice and said, “Let me think about it and I will call you later this afternoon.”

Sure enough, he called and said, “This may be unethical, but I just got off the phone from interviewing a woman who does freelance work. She seems pretty good and I think she can help you. Here is her number.”

I thanked him and called Megan immediately. She was happy to get the business and was half the price. She worked on my website the next day to get all the links in place.

The deadline to get everything into Aspire magazine was November 6. To no surprise, Megan finished the project on November 6.  She was not only less expensive but is local and gives lessons on WordPress.

 A week later the technician called and said, “I couldn’t call you back as I was on leave last week.” I am so grateful that I had sent him love and wasn’t holding a grudge or had written a nasty email to him.

God is never late or never early, but right on time. When one door is closed, another opens. Just as promised, God was working behind the scenes on my behalf. All I had to do was trust that it would all work out for the good.

My heart is overflowing with joy

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I am very emotional these days. My heart is overflowing with gratitude and joy with how family and friends have supported our book launch, bought our book, and shared it on social media and with friends. It has been amazing how people want to help us and spread the love.

As I walked the path this morning, I heard Spirit say, “Your YES is blessed.” The truth is I didn’t want to write this book, even though in the last chapter of Simply a Woman of Faith I wrote, “I will have to write another book to share about how I meet my soulmate.” Here we are thirteen years later, and “It’s Never Too Late for Love” has been birthed. 

Larry and I started writing together 3 years ago and then life happened – like marriage- and we put it aside. During the pandemic, I took an online program called Courage with the author, Kute Blackson. We did a meditation on death and   asked the question, “If I was to die tomorrow, what would I regret?” Immediately, I heard, “I would regret that I didn’t finish the book with Larry.”

As I said, I didn’t want to write another book because it’s a lot of work and I like my retired care-free life. I said to God, “If this is your will, put it on Larry’s heart to finish the book.” We hadn’t discussed it in years, and I thought it was a good way to get out of writing a book.  A week went by and Larry didn’t bring it up and I was very relieved.

I decided to share with Larry how I had asked God to put it on his heart if it was God’s will to finish the book. He looked surprised and said, “That’s interesting because a week ago I started to think about the possibility of finishing the book, but I didn’t say anything to you!”

You know when you KNOW God is speaking to you and you better listen! It truly was a moment of SURRENDER and TRUST. We had no idea what we were doing but we kept “showing up” and asking for guidance. We worked diligently on the book every day and the rest is history.

Now that the book has been birthed, we are asking Spirit for the next divine steps on how to market it. Any suggestions are welcome.  Reviews for the book are crucial so we would appreciate a review on Amazon after you read the book. We know in our hearts that our book will be a vehicle of hope and inspiration for a world in dire need of hope and Love consciousness.  

Right before I started to write this blog, I received an email from a friend with another blog that confirmed we are on the right path. I love how we are always guided and get what we need to move forward. Here is a part of what it said:
“Your surrendered life will awaken others. You are an awakener of others. As they witness what I am doing in your life, many will see and trust me. They will be drawn into a deeper place with me because of your surrender and your obedience to my call.  Do not be passive in this hour but passionate to pursue all that I hold in store for you. Never underestimate the power of your surrendered life.   Many will tell you to stay where you are, to stay in the safety of what you’ve known, to fear stepping out of the boat to walk on the water. Keep your eyes on me and step out in faith. I’ve got you. Your story will ignite passionate faith in the hearts of others.”     Brian Simmons and Gretchen Rodriquez
What is God asking you to do? I encourage you to say YES because your YES will be blessed, as mine has. You don’t need to know HOW you just need to take the next step and you will be guided every step of the way.  Don’t allow fear to stop you from moving forward with your gifts in the world. The world needs you more than ever now.  I’m grateful that I had the courage and grace to say YES to God. I pray that you do too!

Whose voice do you listen to?

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Whose voice do you listen to? The voice of Spirit or your ego voice? Do you know the difference? For many years, I didn’t know it was my ego that was running the show behind the scenes.

When I’m listening to my ego voice, I feel like a victim and am focused on what’s missing, rather than what I have in my life. I’m judgmental, fearful, guilty, stuck, discouraged, shameful, and don’t feel good enough.

When I’m listening to Spirit, I feel peaceful, love, expansion, and joyful. My ego voice was working hard to rob me of my peace with fear, doubt, and shame this week.

We received the galley of our book and it will be going to the printers this week. We both fell in love with the cover and I couldn’t stop looking at it. When I held the book in my hands for the first time, it was surreal. I could feel the energy of love emanating from the pages. Our baby is finally being birthed. I felt excited and on top of the world. I joked and said to Larry, “I better be aware because the ego will probably “act up” and try to rob me of my peace.”

I felt peaceful because I had surrendered the book to God and was detached from the outcome, or so I thought! Whenever we are bringing our authentic gifts into the world, the ego can become vicious.

Sure enough, a few days later (out of nowhere) I experienced a “fear attack” that felt very real. All of the “what if’s” screamed in my head: “What if people don’t like the book? What if it doesn’t sell? What if people are disappointed? Maybe we shouldn’t order 100 books.” And so on.

I allowed myself to feel the fear, shame and doubts.  I wrote a gratitude list, prayed, and asked God for help. This is what the voice of Spirit said:

  • Your light has never been brighter. The world needs to hear your story.
  • Your book will touch many hearts to awaken them to the power of Love.
  • Do not be afraid as you are divinely guided and protected.
  • Everything has already been planned in the mind of God.
  • No need to worry about anything. Relax and enjoy the process.
  • I chose you and Larry to write the book to inspire and give people hope.

Listening to the voice of Spirit feels so much better.  As I look back over the years, I see my growth. It only took a few hours for me to see the truth and the lies of the ego.  I didn’t know it was my ego that caused me to drop out of college for a year because of fear that I couldn’t write a 20-page paper or to stop writing Simply a Woman of Faith for a year because I was full of fear.

Spirit is giving me the opportunity to trust and surrender daily and to always choose Love. I’m back on the path as I was guided to course correct and recalibrate through gratitude and asking for help. 

We are excited that our book has been sent to the printers and the launch day on Amazon to purchase the book will be next week. Details to follow in next week’s blog.  Several of you have requested an autographed copy. Please respond to this email with your address.

Thank you in advance for helping us spread the word about our book. We so appreciate your love and support.

I suffered from the Disease to Please

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Larry and I are very grateful to belong to a “Love group.” We have been meeting every other week in our home for the last 2 ½ years and are now meeting on Zoom since Covid. We support and love one another, share authentically from our hearts, and have created a safe place to share our thoughts, perspectives, and feelings. There are no rules or “agendas” as we allow Spirit to lead the group. 

We often start the group with, “Who has a love story they would like to share?” It can be a story about how we overcame a challenge and chose love instead of fear. It can be something we are struggling with and need help to see where the love is in the story. What an opportunity it is during the month to be thinking about our love stories.

My “love story” this week has to do with loving myself and setting a boundary with a friend. Like many of us, I’m uncomfortable and don’t like confrontation. For many years, I suffered from the “Disease to Please.” I so desperately wanted to be liked that I didn’t speak up and wasn’t honest if something was bothering me. I often stuffed my feelings and then became resentful when my needs weren’t met.

As a people pleaser, I often expected others to read my mind and what was important to me. This caused a lot of unnecessary suffering because I wasn’t honest with myself or others. For example, years ago my best friend forgot our wedding anniversary. Instead of being honest and sharing my disappointment, I said nothing. When it was her anniversary, I made a big deal out of it – hoping she would do the same for me when my anniversary came around.  That’s called manipulation!

I had the opportunity this week to speak my truth in love and kindness, instead of stuffing my feelings and expecting others to know what was important to me. Here is what happened:

My new friend and I planned on meeting at a coffee shop at 10 am. I received a text shortly before we were going to meet that she was going to be late. It wasn’t a big deal because I was relaxing at the ocean and enjoying myself. As I thought about it, I started to feel uncomfortable when I realized this was becoming a pattern for her to be late. It felt like she wasn’t valuing my time and that didn’t feel good.    

My mind was like a blender; how do I say it, should I bring it up or just let it go? Since this was a new relationship, I didn’t know how she would react. It was important that I was kind and loving and not shame her for being late. I prayed and asked God for help. I heard the small, still, voice of God say, “It is important you bring it up and I will give you the words.”

Spirit showed me that it was an act of “self-love” by setting a boundary and speaking my truth. I decided to address it as soon as we met. After accepting her apology for being late, I shared my perspective and feelings. The conversation was open and honest and we both heard one another.

As we said goodbye, she said, “Thank you for your authenticity, honesty, and trusting me with your truth.”

Do you have difficulty speaking up, setting a boundary, sharing your truth, or do you stuff your feelings because you don’t want to rock the boat?

Are you able to ACCEPT what is

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Is there a situation or person in your life that you have difficulty accepting? It may be witnessing a loved one suffer physically, mentally, spiritually, or emotionally. You may have health challenges, financial problems, lost your job, or just got divorced.

You may feel depressed, blocked, confused, or angry, and have lost hope. I have a dear friend who has been suffering physically for a few years and I have a difficult time accepting it. It helps to remind myself that it is not my journey and I don’t know the lessons she is learning.

The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous statesAcceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation—some fact of my life —unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes.”

Eckhart Tolle states, “Accept what is AS IF I have chosen it.” I had the opportunity to practice acceptance this week. Because of Covid, our family reunion was cancelled in Rhode Island last July.  It was rescheduled for October and we planned on celebrating October birthdays (including mine).

My children and grandchildren gathered at my daughter’s farm and son’s home this week. I struggled and felt sad that I was 5,000 miles away and wouldn’t be there to celebrate with them. I miss them terribly and didn’t know when it would be safe to travel to Rhode Island again.

When I thought about Tolle’s quote “Accept what is AS IF I had chosen it,” I felt angry at first. Why would I choose to not be with my family? I loved them and wanted to be with them. Then Spirit showed me that I had chosen it. I had chosen not to travel to protect myself and Larry from Covid. Before I recognized that I had chosen it, I felt like a victim and felt sorry for myself. Poor me, I’m not there to celebrate our birthdays.

I woke up in the middle of the night thinking about my children and sent them love. I had allowed the sadness to move through me. Something shifted inside of me and I felt empowered. The sadness was now replaced with JOY and peace as I thought about how bonded my 4 children are and how they love and support one another. I don’t think there could be a better gift for a mother to know her children love and support one another.

The next morning, we had a Facetime call to celebrate our birthdays. I talked to everyone and felt a part of the reunion. They were celebrating with champagne and I celebrated with water as it was 9:00 am in Maui.

After the call, as I sat and watched the waves rolling in, the tears flowed down my cheeks. I had opened my heart to give and receive love, even though we were 5,000 miles apart, it didn’t matter.

I know it would have been a very different conversation if I hadn’t accepted “What is” and that I had chosen to not attend the reunion. They would have felt my energy and that I was feeling sorry for myself.  Instead, they felt the love and gratitude that I experienced in the moment. It’s truly amazing when we change our attitude and ACCEPT WHAT IS AS IF I HAD CHOSEN IT.

“Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes.”

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