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I fell off the wagon

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Feb
27

My reason for writing a blog every week is to share my journey to inspire you so you know you are not alone with whatever you are going through. Thank you for your love and support and for reading the blogs every week.

As an alcohol and drug therapist for 20 years, one of my jobs was to do interventions and help patients come out of DENIAL about how alcohol or drugs had robbed them of everything. It was my job to get them to say yes to treatment.

DENIAL is a symptom of addiction and a very powerful defense mechanism.  We stay in denial because we are afraid and don’t want to admit there is a problem. Once you admit there is a problem, you have to do something about it.

The reality is we are all addicted to something whether it be a substance or a process. Substances include alcohol, drugs, food, sugar, nicotine, or caffeine. Process addictions include gambling, cleaning, hoarding, workaholism, religiosity, perfectionism, control, shopping, codependency.

Your “drug of choice” keeps you from feeling your feelings. Years ago, at a very low point in my life, I sat in a dark room eating chocolate and drinking a glass of wine.  It took away the pain for a moment. What is your drug of choice to avoid your feelings?

I read a quote this week from Steven Pressfield, Resistance for Evolution that states “The more important an activity is to your soul’s evolution, the more resistance you will feel it.”

This spoke to me as I was feeling a lot of RESISTANCE to changing my diet. I wondered, “Is denial the same as resistance?” I think it’s different but similar. When I’m in denial, I don’t think there is a problem. When I’m in resistance, I know there is a problem and I’m angry that I have to change. I’m kicking and screaming and feel like a victim and wondering why I can’t eat like normal people?

Like many others who live on this planet due to chemicals, GMO and processed foods, I suffer from inflammation and gut issues. I was in denial over the holidays and thought I could eat desserts and be fine. I thought my gut issues were gone.

My symptoms came back and worse than ever.  I was angry and felt like my body had betrayed me.  Just like the addict, I want what I want when I want it! I love sugar, chocolate, muffins, and bagels and didn’t want to deny myself.

I knew I was in trouble and had to pay attention. I went back to the anti-inflammatory diet that I had done in the past which is no grains, fruit, caffeine, dairy, or sugar. I kept saying, “This is so hard.” The truth is that it is hard, but if I kept saying this is hard, it would continue to be hard. I needed to change my perspective and I did.

I’m grateful that I didn’t beat up on myself, but instead forgave myself for “falling off the wagon” and putting food into my body that I wasn’t able to tolerate. With the grace of God, I thanked my body (even though I didn’t like it) for letting me know what wasn’t good for me.

Most importantly, I became willing to change and ask God for help. I knew I couldn’t do it alone. I used the 1st step of AA. I admit I am powerless over sugar and 2nd step I admit a power greater than myself could restore me to sanity. It works as I have been “clean” since January 1. I will continue to ask for help every day.

Are you in denial or resisting anything in your life that is not healthy for you? Remember, “The more important an activity is to your soul’s evolution, the more resistance you will feel it.”

It takes courage to step out in faith

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Feb
27

I listened to an interview with Oprah Winfrey this week that was interesting and enlightening. She states, “I am the master of my fate and the captain of my soul.” It is from a poem written by William Ernest Henley.

This means that I solely have control over determining my feelings and my destiny despite the circumstance. Put yourself in the driver’s seat of your own life and give yourself the control to choose your final destination

This is a reminder to believe in yourself, your dreams, and your life’s purpose. It is an invitation to be strong, have the courage to stand up when you fall, take action, and keep moving forward. We all have a purpose on this earth to fulfill. Do you know what your purpose is?

Have you put yourself in the driver’s seat of your life or do you suffer from a “victim mentality” believing that things happen TO you rather than FOR you?  When I believe that everything is happening FOR me and my highest good, I am surrendered and am peaceful because I know Spirit is guiding and protecting me.

When I believe things are happening TO me, I worry, obsess, try to control the outcome, live in fear, blame others, hold resentments, feel sorry for myself, and complain about my life. What are you choosing today?

You can choose to trust God and take responsibility for yourself in body, mind and, Spirit. You can choose to believe in yourself, your dreams, and your life’s purpose. Oprah says, “God has a bigger dream for me and you.” She encourages us to surrender to God’s dream for us by getting still, listening, going within, and taking action when we hear the still, small voice of God within.

For as long as I can remember my dream was to live on the water. I didn’t care if it was a pond, stream, or watering hole. When I moved to Maui 10 years ago, I said to my son, “How did I get here?” He said, “Mom, you have been talking about living on the water forever.” What you think about you bring about – both positive and negative. God’s dream for me was so much bigger than mine. My heart is full of gratitude as I gaze at the ocean from our lanai every day. I will never tire of watching the beautiful sunsets every night.  

It was always my dream to VISIT Hawaii someday. I would look at magazines with beautiful flowers and drool. Never in a million years did I think I would live here. God’s dream for me was so much bigger than my dream.

We all have dreams within us, something we want to DO or HAVE or BE.

  • What are your dreams?
  • Do you trust your dreams?
  • Are you willing to follow your dreams?

What keeps you from following your dreams?

  • Fear
  • Not believing in yourself
  • Not feeling deserving to receive

It takes courage to step out in faith and follow your God-given dreams. I battled with fear and felt like I didn’t deserve it for a long time. Our thoughts are powerful and I had to choose Love instead of fear. In the end, with the grace of God, I listened to my soul and said YES to my dreams. I have never been happier.

I believe that Spirit always wants to give us MORE! More love, peace, joy, abundance, prosperity. We must be WILLING to receive and accept God’s dream for us and it will be bigger and better than we could have ever imagined.

Spirit provided at the perfect time

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Jan
27

Despite all that’s happened this past year with the pandemic and political arena, I have never felt happier, contented, and more alive. Being retired and living in a beautiful place with my beloved husband certainly helps. My friend, Donna, says I go from pleasure to pleasure and she is right!

It’s not just that I live in a beautiful place, it’s truly because of my faith and trust in God that I have peace and joy in my heart. I know what’s going on around me and I feel compassion for those who are suffering and living in fear. I know people who are very prosperous and are miserable inside. So truly it is an inside job of how happy I choose to be. “Things may happen around you, and things may happen to you, but the only things that count are the things that happen in you.” Eric Butterworth

When the new year began, I chose a word for the year, or shall I say Spirit chose it for me. The word was EXPANSIVE. I played with the essence and energy of the word and what it would look and feel like in all areas of my life; my relationships, emotions, health, exercise, fun, diet, prosperity, time, spirit, etc. The area where I need to expand and will be the most challenging is my diet.

I have the word EXPANSIVE written in several areas in our home to help me remember the energy I am calling in.  I have an affirmation that I repeat often during the day. I AM EXPANSIVE AND FREE TO DO AND BE WHATEVER I WANT. I listen to inspirational and prosperity songs every day while I sit at my favorite hotel and sip iced tea. I feel expansive, open, and deserving of all that is mine.  

Living in the energy and essence of EXPANSIVENESS means I am open to RECEIVE from Source all that I need and what I want to do and be. It is knowing I am good enough and deserving of abundance in all areas of my life.

Here is an example of what happened on Saturday about asking and receiving. As I left the house all to go for my walk on the ocean, I noticed some flowers on my wreath outside the house had fallen to the ground and I needed a glue gun to fix it. My glue gun broke the last time I used it.

I prayed and asked God to provide a glue gun at a yard sale that day. I was specific and said, “I would like to pay $2.00 and it is in great condition. There were only 2-yard sales that I stopped at. The first one didn’t have a glue gun, but the second one did.

I didn’t see a glue gun on the table and decided to ask if they had one. The woman said, “No sorry we don’t have one.” Out of the corner of my eye, I noticed her husband whisper something to her. A few minutes later, he walks out of the garage with a brand-new glue gun still in the package.  When she told me the price was $2.00, I was floored.

Of course, had to tell her the story of praying and asking God to provide a glue gun for $2.00.  I thanked her husband and asked, “When did you find the glue gun?” He said, “Yesterday when I was cleaning the garage.”  Most people probably wouldn’t think about asking God to provide a glue gun when they can just go and buy one. What fun is that?

I visited my friend, Margie, last week and during our conversation, she said, “I prayed last night to Spirit for a beach ball that I need for exercise. I thought of you and how Spirit always provides.”

Ask and you shall receive! I said, “I have a beach ball that I don’t know what to do with and was planning on throwing it away when I got home.” She was thrilled and followed me to my house to retrieve the beach ball. It was exactly what she needed.

God wants to provide for us and His/Her timing is always perfect. We must ask for what we need, and be willing to receive. Are you willing to ask Spirit for what you want and need?

Letting go of unhealthy relationships

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Jan
19

“Despite how open, peaceful, and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.”  Matt Kahn

Several friends have shared with me this week about important relationships that ended that were very painful.  Their first response was to blame themselves and think they had done something wrong. It’s very painful to go through the process of letting go of a relationship if it was your close/best friend that you thought would be a forever friend. It took me over a year to work through the pain of losing my best friend, forgiving her, and accepting the relationship was over.

I’m sure we’ve all experienced relationships that have ended, some a slow death and others a sudden death. I’ve experienced both.  For me, the sudden death of a relationship, especially when I didn’t see it coming and didn’t choose it was more painful.

I had to allow myself to go through the grief process: denial, bargaining, anger, depression, and acceptance. Even though I knew intellectually that people change, interests change, marital status’ change, and this all plays a part in going separate ways, I had to allow myself to feel my feelings.  

I came across an article by Anthony Hopkins that I thought said it all.

“Let go of people who aren’t ready to love you yet! This is the hardest thing you’ll have to do in your life, and it will also be the most important thing:

            Stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready to love you yet.

Stop hard conversations with people who don’t want to change.

Stop showing up for people who are indifferent to your presence.

           Stop loving people who aren’t ready to love you.

I know your instincts do everything to win the good mercy of everyone around you, but it’s also the impulse that will steal your time, energy, and mental, physical, and spiritual health.

When you start manifesting yourself in your life, completely, with joy, interest, and commitment, not everyone will be ready to find you in this place of pure sincerity.

That doesn’t mean that you have to change who you are. That means you have to stop loving people who don’t want to love you yet.” ~ Anthony Hopkins

Today, as I have learned to love and appreciate myself, I have attracted relationships that are healthy, honest, loving, and open. I am living my life with presence and intention. I savor every moment as I am not promised tomorrow.  I no longer change anything about myself simply because someone else cannot see, understand, or accept it. I am mindful of the traits and things that I need to work on to improve myself.

I am grateful and focus on what’s good in my life and celebrate the woman I am becoming by keeping my vibration high with love and gratitude. Today, I understand that I am not responsible for others’ feelings or actions. All I can change is myself and am responsible for my physical, mental, and spiritual health.

Are you ready to let go of people who aren’t ready to love you yet?  Remember Matt Kahn’s quote: “Despite how open, peaceful, and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.”

Importance of self-love

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Jan
19

This week is the 10th anniversary of moving to Maui.  It’s hard to believe I have been living here for 10 years and so much has changed; I’m a married woman, live in a beautiful home overlooking the ocean, and we just published our book together. I could never have imagined what my life looks like today. 

I came across a magazine advertisement this week that was written 10 years ago, the week before I moved to Maui. It said, “Join Pat Hastings on Norwegian Spirit Holistic Cruise –  Pat was selected to be one of the speakers on the Holistic Cruise to Mayan Country. During the cruise, Hastings will present “How to Say No to Others and Yes to Yourself.” I met so many wonderful people and have many fond memories of the fun we had.

There was a time when I didn’t say no to others because I thought it was selfish. I put others first and me last. I looked to others for my answers, rather than go within. If I hadn’t learned this skill of saying no and how to love myself, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I have no problem saying no today and speaking up if something doesn’t feel right.

I believe keeping our vibration high (in gratitude, peace, and love) at this time of such “unrest” is crucial for ourselves and the world. We are given the opportunity to choose love or fear in all areas of our lives. It’s not that we don’t feel our feelings and do a spiritual bypass. We allow ourselves to feel sad, angry, disappointed, or fearful.  We feel our feelings and then let them go and trust in the divine plan for our lives. There is nothing we can do about what is happening on the “OUTSIDE” of us. All we can control is what is happening “INSIDE” of us.

We keep our vibration high through self-care and self-love. If we don’t love ourselves, we will not be able to love others. Below are ways to practice self-care. I invite you to look it over and pick 1 or 2 to practice. Ask Spirit for help and to show you which area is most important for your growth and highest good.

I see my growth and where I’ve grown with saying no, asking for what I want, setting boundaries, and spending time alone. Spirit is inviting me to practice “stepping back.”

What do I mean by practicing “stepping back?”

  • I give my opinion ONLY when asked.
  • I don’t judge others, especially when they have a different perspective or behavior (mask-no mask, vaccine-no vaccine, etc.) I may not like or approve of another’s choices and behaviors, but it is their journey, not mine.
  • I don’t gossip, especially in the name of love.
  • I don’t complain, but “accept what is” and focus on what I do have.

For example, I was taking my walk on the path today.  I started to judge and tell myself a “story” about someone who didn’t stop to talk to me (especially when I see them talking to others.) When I became aware I was judging the person and telling myself a “story” I stopped myself and chose love instead.

It’s impossible to “step back” and not judge or complain on my own power. I know I will slip many times. The key is to become aware when I’m judging or complaining and forgive myself and ask Spirit for help. It motivates me to realize that when I judge another person, I am judging MYSELF because we are ONE and connected.

I made an important decision this week without consulting Larry first. When I shared it with him, he asked, “Do you want my opinion?” I looked at him and said, “Thank you, but I’m not asking for your opinion.” It felt so empowering to speak my truth and to trust my own counsel and God’s guidance within. I’m grateful he wasn’t defensive and has learned he doesn’t have to fix me.

Let us remember the truth of who we are and who God is in our lives. This is the “Great Awakening” and it will be ugly at times as darkness comes into the light. You and I are the light in the darkness and are invited to shine our lights to show the way for others. We are safe and protected and our faith will carry us through the storms.

We are waking up

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Jan
19

Happy New Year. I think we would all agree that 2020 has been a year like no other. We had no idea what was coming next and we still don’t. We are living in the unknown, which can be very uncomfortable for many. We were invited to live in the moment, choose love over fear, take one day at a time, change our perspectives, and trust and surrender to a Power greater than ourselves.

Although there has been much grief and suffering for many physically, financially, emotionally, and spiritually, much good has come from it, but we often don’t hear about that. We may not see the love that is spreading in the world. Many people are “waking up” to the truth that we are all connected and ONE.

As the year comes to an end, you are invited to release the energy of 2020 through prayer, journaling, and meditation, and whatever rituals you have done in the past. What are the lessons you learned, challenges, opportunities, and “blessings” you received inside the lessons?

I participated in a powerful Solstice meditation and we were asked to reflect on the following 3 questions.

1. What am I grateful for receiving in 2020?

2. What do I want to let go of?

3. What does my soul want to say to me today?

As I reflected on the past year, Spirit showed me the “outside” world is in chaos, drama, confusion, fear, and hatred, but my “inner” world is peaceful, grateful, loving, joyful, contented, and surrendered. Here is what I’ve practiced to experience peace and love.

  • Every morning when I wake up for the past 2 decades, I affirm my intention for the day. My intention is to be peaceful, to love, to serve, and to be healthy and happy.
  • I take responsibility for what I can control: my reactions, beliefs, and perspectives. I let go of what I can’t control (people, places & things).
  • I detach from the outcome of what I put out into the world.
  • I strive to not take things personally.
  • I take back projections and am willing to see my shadow.
  • I allow myself to feel all of my feelings rather than medicate them or do a spiritual bypass.
  • I forgive myself and others and let go of judgments and resentments.

It’s not that everything was perfect because it wasn’t. I grieved the loss of a close friend, I broke my shoulder, I wasn’t able to see my children and grandchildren this year, we didn’t go to restaurants and didn’t dance.  Other than walks on the beach, we stayed home and wore masks when we went out to be safe.

Here are some of the blessings from 2020 that I am grateful for.

  • One of my children Facetimes me daily to have dinner with me.
  • My faith in God has deepened as I have let go and surrendered to “what is.”
  • Our book “It’s Never Too Late” was published.
  • My relationship with Larry has flourished and grown.
  • Gratitude is my attitude. I focus on what I have rather than what’s missing.
  • Freedom from external validation, approval, and acknowledgment.
  • My light is shining brighter than ever.
  • I am experiencing deep peace, serenity, and calm inside.

As the year ends, Spirit is inviting you to reflect on these questions.

  • What are you grateful for receiving in 2020?
  • What do you want to let go of?
  • What does your soul want to say to you today?

Let’s bring in 2021 with the energy of love, faith, and hope. This is what you have been waiting for. It will be a better world as you learn to love yourself and others. Love is all there is. Let your light shine for the world to see.  As you change yourself, you change the world.  

Stepping out in Faith

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Jan
19

What does it mean to “step out in faith? I stepped out in faith and wrote my first book called, “Simply a Woman of Faith” 12 years ago. It took me 7 years to write it because I was paralyzed with fear and didn’t trust or believe in myself.

Stepping out in faith and writing a book meant taking a risk, getting out of my comfort zone, facing my fears, and following my heart when my head said, “IT DOESN’T MAKE SENSE; Your crazy; play it safe; who do you think you are? Nobody will read it; you are wasting your time; I’m not a writer or smart enough. What will people think and what if it fails?”

I’m so grateful I listened to my heart and not my head and the ego voice of not being good enough or smart enough. I wouldn’t be where I am today if I hadn’t stepped out in faith and trusted God was guiding me.

I have learned to trust myself and to trust the “still, small voice of God within.” It takes lots of practice to discern the ego voice from God’s voice.  As I look back over the years when I have stepped out in faith after hearing God’s voice I am amazed at the miracles and how my life was altered, sometimes dramatically. Here are a few examples.

IT DIDN’T MAKE SENSE for me to buy the blouse forty years ago when my ex-husband was out of work and we were on welfare. The blouse was $10 and I only had $10 in my pocketbook for milk and bread for our 4 children. But I heard the “still, small voice of God” say, “Buy it and I will provide.” I listened to that voice and bought the blouse, although it DIDN’T MAKE SENSE to buy myself a blouse when milk and bread were needed for my family.

One hour later when I returned home from buying the blouse, I found an envelope in the mail with a note that read, “From the son of a carpenter” and a crisp $10 bill.  I’m grateful for the person who heard Spirit tell them to write the note and give me the $10 bill. I’m sure IT DIDN’T MAKE SENSE to them either, but they followed Spirit and changed my life forever.

IT DIDN’T MAKE SENSE to move to Maui 10 years ago to follow my heart to meet my soulmate and to leave family, friends, community, and my business. I didn’t have a lot of money and sold everything of value to make the move.

IT DIDN’T MAKE SENSE that I didn’t have a place to live until 2 weeks before I arrived in Maui. I trusted I was being led and the place would “show up” and it did. I shared a condo with friends overlooking the ocean and paid $300 a month for 6 months.

When I moved to the other side of Maui a year later, IT DIDN’T MAKE SENSE that when I found my “dream house” overlooking the ocean, I stepped out in faith and followed my heart. I trusted that I would be provided for every month and I would be able to pay the rent which went from $1200 to $2500. 

It truly was the grace of God and my willingness to TRUST & SURRENDER to God’s plan and will. For one year, every month I rented one part of the house to different people before Larry and I became a couple and he moved in with me. I prayed EVERY STEP OF THE WAY and knew I was being guided. I waited for the answers and then stepped out in faith.

It is my practice to ask Spirit for guidance in all my decisions every day. I trust I am always guided and protected. I continue to take risks, face my fears, and step out in faith. When have you stepped out in faith and your life changed dramatically?

Is there an area of your life where you are being called to step out in faith or move in a new direction, but IT DOESN’T MAKE SENSE?

If I hadn’t trusted myself and the God within, I would not be living my dream life. If I can do it, so can YOU. If not now, when?

Chapter 18 “It’s Never Too Late for Love” Ego

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Dec
14

This truly is the season of gift-giving and sharing with others. Larry and I would like to gift you with one of the chapters from our book, “It’s Never Too Late for Love.”  This is Larry’s perspective of ego. You will have to buy the book to get my perspective.  Enjoy.

                                            CHAPTER 19     EGO  

“There is only one of the two that can reside in our hearts GOD or ego. If God is in ego is out.” ~ A.R. Rahman

Larry: The ego is our “false self” and the current state of humanity. Ego shows up in our lives through our thoughts and its negative energy causes us a great deal of stress, pain, and suffering. Once we allow ourselves to be directed into the egoic state of mind, we find ourselves in a downward spiral towards a life of negativity and fear.  

We believe we are not good enough, handsome or pretty enough, too thin or heavy, too tall or short, or not smart enough. Any negative thoughts you have are brought about by the ego. The ego will encourage you to be unkind and disrespectful, to judge others so you can feel better about yourself, and to see everyone else wrong and you right.

 For example, we have a sliding screen door that leads to our lanai. It doesn’t slide well, and I have tried to fix it, without much success. If it isn’t closed just right, it stays open and leaves a space. I asked Pat to be careful and make sure the door was closed all the way when she uses it. I am concerned that centipedes, cockroaches, mice, or rats will gain entry if the door is not closed all the way. It is not as much of a priority for Pat as it is for me. Although she has tried to close it tight when she goes outside, sometimes she doesn’t think about it and there is a space open.

I was bitten by a centipede a few years ago and it wasn’t much fun. From my perspective, closing the door is particularly important and I would like to have it closed all the time. I know if critters get in, Pat is not going to dispatch them and will call me to do it. For Pat, it’s not that important. Wow, my ego had a ball with that; it tells me, “What the heck is wrong with her, why can’t she close the door all the way? What is she five years old? Why is it a big deal to just close the door all the way?”  My ego says, “She’s wrong and I’m right.” I can see how ego is trying to cause drama and negativity in our relationship if I allow it.

After several months of feeling frustrated every time I looked at the opened door, it became obvious that the situation wasn’t going to change. I could continue to feel frustrated or I could do something about it.  I finally asked myself, “How would a vessel of Love handle the situation?” This is what I learned. My options were: 

 * Talk to Pat about it. I did.

 * I could move; I don’t like that option.  

* I could feel resentful every time I see the door opened.   

* I could put on my big boy pants and take responsibility for the door.   

Yea! I like the option of taking responsibility for the door, no one is right or wrong.  

When I see the door open now, I just close it. Love showed me my ego had been running the show. To be a vessel of Love requires me to look at myself and discover what needs to be changed. I changed my perspective and took the power away from ego. Taking responsibility for the situation certainly brought more peace and harmony in our lives.  

Of course, this is just a small example of how ego will try to disrupt a relationship and cause separateness. If we are open and conscious of the power and energy of Love, it will become our default and will help us in all kinds of situations.                        

                               JOURNAL  

Where has my ego robbed me of my peace? 

 Am I a helicopter wife or husband?  

How does ego disrupt my relationships?  

I feel grateful, peaceful and light

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Dec
14

Isn’t it wonderful when we see our growth and how far we have come? It has taken me a long time to get there. There was a time when I was filled with fear and it was easier to see where I needed to grow and change. Can you relate?

For many years, I criticized, competed, and compared myself to others and felt less than and unworthy. Through the grace of God and deep inner healing, I don’t do that anymore and it feels really good. I will always be evolving to become my highest and best self and I will be triggered at times. The good news is that I’m aware of when my ego is trying to run the show and I shift the energy and get back into alignment with my truth.

Today, I feel grateful, peaceful, happy, and light. I feel this lightness because I’m trusting Spirit is in control of my life and that everything I need is provided for when I need it. In other words, I know God has my back and is working on my behalf behind the scene.

I know what I can control and what I can’t control. I know my happiness comes from within and is not dependent on other people or outside events. I don’t watch the news as it depresses and confuses me. If there is something important that I need to know, I will know it.

I shared with a friend this week that my light is shining brighter than it ever has been. It gives me such joy to smile (under my mask) and say good morning to everyone on my morning walk on the ocean. I overheard someone say, “You can tell if someone’s eyes are smiling.”

I often introduce myself and ask their names. They remember me as “Pat with the hat.” Some people are surprised when I greet them and look away or look down. Some respond and seem genuinely pleased to be greeted and seen.

A few weeks ago, while walking on the beach I spotted a man sitting in his chair. I sensed there was something very special about him as he exuded peace and serenity. He reminded me of the “laughing Buddha.” I was compelled to walk over and introduce myself to him. There was an instant recognition and soul connection. We shared what bought us to Maui and how much we loved it. He said, “I’m staying with friends and looking for a place to rent.” We exchanged telephone numbers and I said, “I will call you if I hear of anything.” We began texting each other inspirational messages.

Whenever we see one another on the beach, we share the energy of love. I will never forget what he said to me this week as we parted.  With his hands folded in prayer, he said, “I see you; I hear you; I feel you and I love you.” Wow, to be seen by someone is what we all want and crave.  

He also shared another gem that I love. He said, “Whenever I see someone with “good fortune,” I say to myself, “good fortune” and then place it in my basket and in no time my basket is filled. It can be anything: a beautiful home, a car, a successful business, wealth, etc.

Instead of feeling jealous if someone has something I want, I reach out my hand and say, “good fortune” and then literally place it in my (imaginary) basket in front of me. It works as my basket is filled immediately.

I encourage you to see your growth and how far you have come. Instead of criticizing, competing and comparing, how about you celebrate and love yourself. Remember, “I see you; I hear you; I feel you and I love you.”

Ho’oponopono Healing

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Dec
14

About 10 years ago, I read a powerful book called “Zero Limits” by Ihaleakala Hew Len and Joe Vitale. It is about Ho’oponopono. The word “ho’o” means “cause” in Hawaiian, while “ponopono” means “perfection”. The term “ho’oponopono” can be translated as “correcting a mistake” or “making it right”.

Ho’oponopono consists of four main phrases: There are four steps: repentance, forgiveness, love, and gratitude. Simply repeating these words can trigger the release of blockages, negative memories, and traumas so that you can take more control over your own body and life.

The purpose of ho’oponopono is to seek a cure for these problems through forgiveness. Not necessarily the forgiveness of others, but especially that of oneself. Here are the words:

1. I’m sorry
2. Please forgive me
3. I love you
4. I am grateful

Ho’oponopono is a way to purify one’s body and get rid of bad memories or feelings that negatively are held in the mind. This has been my mantra every night as I fall asleep for many years.

Ho’oponopono acts as a cleansing, neutralizing memories of suffering, and uncomfortable sensations. I truly believe by repeating this mantra, I am experiencing deep healing.

Every day last week I was led to listen to a Ho’oponopono Song on Utube. I was surprised by the depth of my feelings. I cried as I listened to the words and allowed my healing to go even deeper through self-forgiveness.

Spirit showed me how much I have pushed myself over the years because I didn’t feel good enough and had to prove myself to feel deserving and worthy. I looked outside of myself for answers, rather than going within. I looked to others to validate and approve of  me, rather than validating myself.

While listening to the words of Ho’oponopono and allowing them to penetrate by being, I felt a deeper compassion and appreciation for myself. I was transported to a place of love, peace and gratitude.     

As I reflected on my past life experiences, I realized that I had to make a choice to become either bitter or better. Through the grace of God, and my willingness to forgive, I chose to become better.

Rather than blaming my parents, bad luck or life, I was able to take responsibility for myself and create a beautiful life. Gratitude is the answer if I want to be happy. There is always something to be grateful for, no matter what circumstances I find myself in.

Today I am celebrating the woman I have become. I am a woman giving birth to myself. I will continue to evolve, grow, heal, forgive, love and accept whatever comes my way.

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