Importance of Detaching

Posted by admin in Blog (Weekly), Blogs

Dec
31

It is my belief that I attract everything into my life for my highest good. I love it when I attract miracles and it all flows with peace, ease and grace. It is not easy when I attract challenges or opportunities that I don’t like and would rather not have in my life. It may be difficult to understand the “lessons” I need to learn or to discover some truths about myself.

It is “lessons” that I’ve attracted into my life so my soul can grow. My soul knows what it needs for me to reach my highest potential and what it needs to release behaviors and beliefs that no longer serve me.

This has been a challenging week of “lessons” and practicing healthy behaviors. Here is what I practiced:

I spoke up and asked for what I wanted
I set boundaries
I forgave
I detached from the outcome
I let go of control
I felt all of my feelings including anger and sadness
I was honest and spoke my truth
I didn’t fix or try to rescue another

I would like to share what detachment means to me and my experience of detaching with love from the outcome.

Detaching with love means that I stop depending upon what others do, say or feel to determine my own well-being or to make my decisions. What other people do or don’t do is none of my business.

Detachment is not caring less; it’s caring more for my own serenity. Detachment brings freedom and attachment brings suffering.

How do I know when I need to detach and let go?

When my mind is like a blender and I can’t shut it off.
When I’m frustrated and angry at the behavior of a loved one.
When I can’t control another’s behavior
When I don’t feel heard and it appears my words fall on deaf ears.
When I think I’m right about a situation and the other person is wrong.

I need to practice detachment for my own peace of mind. It is a loving gift I give to myself and others. It is the freedom to own what is mine and to allow others to own what is theirs. I can detach and still be compassionate. I need to detach so I don’t take everything personally because I can’t control others reactions or behaviors. Detachment is not isolation or a wall. It’s about letting go of obsessing about another’s behavior and trusting what is happening is for our highest good.

Do you need to detach from someone you love or a situation that you are obsessing about? Give yourself the gift of detachment for your own sanity and the sanity of your loved one.