When Larry and I started dating almost 3 years ago, he made it very clear to me that he didn’t want to get married again. Although marriage was the desire of my heart, I accepted it and trusted God. This past year, we discussed the pros and cons of getting married and Larry was still very strong in not wanting to get married. He said, “We have such a great relationship now and I am totally committed to you. I don’t know why we need to get married.”
When I prayed about it, Spirit assured me that the desire of my heart to be married would be fulfilled. Holy Spirit said, “Trust in my timing and relax. I am working in Larry’s heart. This is my plan for you and nothing can stop it. You don’t have to do anything but continue to love and BE. Everything is unfolding according to my divine plan.” All I needed to do was be patient, let go, wait, keep my mouth shut and trust Spirit. With the grace of God, I kept my mouth shut (which was not an easy task) and Spirit changed Larry’s heart about getting married.
Most people who know me will tell you that it is not easy to surprise me. I am very intuitive and like to know everything. It’s almost like I can smell something happening and I want to know what it is.
A few days ago I journaled the message from the Holy Spirit and He said, “Prepare yourself for new things coming into your life and you will be surprised.” I had no idea what that meant or if it even was the voice of the Holy Spirit. My attitude was we’ll see.
I wasn’t PREPARED but two days after receiving the message, my life was about to change in a big way. Here is what happened:
I invited my girlfriends over for our annual Christmas get-together dinner. My friend, Kati, gifted me with a beautiful gold queen’s crown. My favorite cup that I drink from every morning says, “I AM THE QUEEN.” A queen leads and loves from her heart. She is able to receive love and knows what she wants. She is not afraid to share her feelings or set her boundaries. She trusts all is in divine order.
Larry was in the den watching TV and the girls wanted to say hello and show him my new crown, so we all pranced in and I put the crown on my head and then put it on Larry’s head and said, “You are my king.” It was quite funny and we all had a good laugh.
We left the den to continue our festivities. Five minutes later, Larry came into the living room and stood in front of me and said, “Please come over here and sit down.” I jokingly remarked, “He’s going to ask me to marry him – yeah right!
He stood before me and said, “You are my queen and I am your king, would you like to make it permanent and legal?” He then got on his one knee and presented me with a beautiful diamond ring that he pulled out of his pocket. I was in total shock and could hardly talk as my jaw dropped to the ground for a long time. I was in such a daze that I had to ask him, “Are you really asking me to marry you?” Of course, my girlfriends were going crazy as they witnessed this beautiful gift of our love in action.
Larry shared with me after the women left that Spirit had put it on his heart that he was to marry me while we were on the cruise in October. It still didn’t make sense to him, but he knew it was Spirit and he was following his heart and not his head. He had been planning to ask me to marry him since then and I had no idea of it. He wasn’t sure when he was going to propose to me and give me the ring. He asked Spirit to lead him and when Kati gave me the crown, he knew it was his sign to propose with my girlfriends present.
Oh what a night. My heart is full of joy and gratitude. God is faithful and had placed the desires of my heart in my heart many years ago. I had to wait and be patient for the greatest love story to unfold. It was worth the wait. The best Christmas present ever. And I know the best is yet to come!!!!!
Spirit spoke to me while writing my book, “Simply a Woman of Faith” in 2007: “I want you to stop wishing, planning and allow me to give you the most thrilling plan existing, one that you cannot imagine. I want you to have the best. I will surprise you with a love that is far more wonderful than you could ever dream of.”
Pat shared with you that I was happy to begin a committed relationship with her three years ago, but I was not interested in getting married. I didn’t need to marry to show her that I was committed to our relationship and couldn’t see why it was necessary. I’ve been fine with that for almost three years.
After our amazing experience on the Hawaiian Island cruise in October, I started to consider the idea of getting married again. I knew that it was the desire of Pat’s heart, although she has never done anything to try to get me to change my mind or push the matter.
I think marriage can instill a false sense of security in a relationship. I’ve seen so many examples of couples who have had great relationships for years and then get married and the relationship goes south and they split up.
Although I still really couldn’t see the need or how it would change what we have or make it better, I am following my heart. After much consideration and prayer, I came to the conclusion that our marriage is in God’s plan and for our highest good. I guess that’s a pretty good reason to getting married. Plus, the fact that our relationship is over the top and so beneficial the to both of us. I look forward to spending the rest of my life with her.
I think our friend Kat expresses this very well, she offers:
“Marriage is the most hopeful expression of love that two people engage in. People come to marriage believing that forever open hearted and committed love is possible. For most of us at this life juncture, we have professed that hope once or twice or even more times! Rather than looking at those other professions as failures, I look at them with amazement and wonder. All of our marriages have helped navigate us to the place that we are. The amazement and wonder come with the “knowing” that love and commitment for another are a possibility that we recognize and choose to enter into, even if other relationships did run their course. One of the most incredible things about this life experience is that we hold onto the belief that love is for real and we have an unlimited supply of it!
When we enter into marriage, to me, it is a different and deeper level of expression of love for one another. We make a public declaration to our loved one and to others that we are truly committed to giving this our very best. We declare we do not have an exit strategy. We commit to giving of ourselves and to receiving fully from our partner. I respect that for some, partnering without marriage makes sense and that that love is real and can be enduring. I just feel from my heart, that saying to someone, friends, Spirit, family that this is a commitment of my heart and soul the greatest gift of love, faith, trust and optimism we can bequeath to another.” Thanks Kat!
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