It is my belief that living in the present moment is key to my peace of mind and spiritual health. Sometimes my mind is like a blender, jumping into the past or into the future. We are in trouble when we are in the “What ifs.”
For example: WHAT IF: I run out of money; I don’t have enough energy to do what I want to do; I don’t meet my soulmate; I don’t get clients; my health declines; I don’t have a place to live; I make a mistake; I lose my job; my business fails or my marriage fails. The list goes on and on. What are the “What ifs” in your life?
The key for me is to become AWARE when I’m NOT living in the present moment. I may notice tension in my body, irritability or fear in my gut. I lose my peace when I’m trying to figure things out, want to be right or trying to control an outcome or a person, place or thing.
It’s easy and common to lose our peace when we are in the “hallway” and don’t know the future and how things are going to work out, whether that be in business, health, financial or relationships. It’s in these “hallway” experiences (and I have had a lot of them) that my faith muscles grow stronger.
I am given the opportunity to trust and surrender to “what is.” I can CHOOSE to *complain, *bang on the door, *cry, * plead or I can CHOOSE to wait patiently for the next door to open or for guidance on what I am to do or know next. I can CHOOSE to trust God’s perfect timing. It is always my CHOICE!
I’ve had some health challenges (opportunities) for the past couple of months that have been scary, confusing and frustrating. Sometimes, it feels like I’m going down a rabbit’s hole trying to figure out what’s wrong and what to do next. I read one book and it says to do this to heal my body and another book says to do the direct opposite. I will continue to pursue my healing, knowing Spirit is guiding me. Who do I listen to?
• I’m listening to my body and what it needs and doesn’t need.
• I’m allowing myself to feel all of my feelings including frustration, anger, fear, disappointment, sadness.
• I’m CHOOSING LOVE.
• I’m staying positive and grateful for what I have and not what’s missing.
• I’m trusting Spirit to show me the next right step.
• I know that EVERYTHING has a purpose and is for my highest good.
• I’m practicing living in the moment because that is all there is and that is where God is.
• I’m trusting my intuition.
• I’m praying, meditating, being patient, letting go and surrendering.
Instead of all the “What ifs” which is often motivated by fear about the past or future, I am living in the present moment and “ACTING AS IF.” Acting as if means that if I want something, I must act as if I already have it in order to get it.
If I want to be healthy, I must act as if I am already healthy. If I want new friends, I must act as if I already have friends. If I want more money, I must act as if I have money, rather than come from a place of lack. The key is a willingness to look BEYOND my current reality, knowing that it can and will change.
I am healthy and whole, I am guided, I am protected, I am loved. My affirmation is: “Everything is flowing with peace, ease and grace and I have all the energy I need to do what I want to do.”
People say. “If I’m always setting goals and reaching for the future, then am I not squandering my now?” And we say if in your now you’re using a future event to make you feel good, you are still feeling good in your now. And that’s the best use of now that you could ever find. Abraham
I really like this quote because it reminds me of something I have been doing for a very long time and that is “acting as if.” It reminds me of faith-which is believing in something you cannot see.
When I went to Bermuda for the first time by myself 22 years ago, I frequented one of the nicest hotels and “acted as if” I was Mrs. Astor. I swam in the pool and sat on the deck overlooking the ocean. It was so much fun imagining I was wealthy and prosperous. I have to laugh because I still frequent the finest hotels while living in Maui.
We are given the opportunity to “act as if” in many areas of our lives. Even when I don’t feel it, I “act as if” I am healed, abundant, whole, perfect, happy and joyful. I “act as if” I have the perfect and right relationship, job, home and finances. When I feel afraid, I “act as if” I am courageous. And it works. We “act as if” something is already done, like making a vision board with all your dreams on it.
I am still “acting as if” and enjoying the life I have created in Maui. For example, last night when I took my sunset walk along the beach, and sat on the lounge chair at the Marriott Hotel, I spotted the table (overlooking the ocean) set for 2 with fine linens and silverware. I wondered who the lucky couple was who were going to be dining there. I heard someone say that is cost $600 to have this special table with their own private waitress.
I wanted to be that woman who was going to be wined and dined sitting at the table overlooking the ocean. “Why not me,” I said to myself. Since the couple hadn’t arrived yet and the waitress was waiting patiently, I walked over and asked the waitress to take MY picture at the table. She smiled and said, “Sure, I would be happy to do that.”
As I walked back to my lounge chair to watch when the lucky couple would arrive, a woman stopped me and said, “Oh, you must be the woman who will be wined and dined tonight.” I smiled and said, “No, not this time, but I just had my picture taken, so I will remember how it feels to be wined and dined with a special table on the ocean.” I “acted as if” I was that woman who would be dining on the ocean. I will keep you posted!
I would like to share a story from my book, Simply a Woman of Faith as an example of “acting as if” and stepping out in faith.
“We both sensed we were being guided to look for another house to buy. We found an affordable house we liked and felt strongly God was leading us and would provide the money somehow.
A friend of ours suggested that my husband apply for a VA loan since he was a
veteran and would be eligible. We scheduled an appointment to meet with the manager in two weeks. “I’m sorry Mr. Hastings. It’s unlikely you’d be eligible for a mortgage with all your money tied up in your new business.” “I know, but I can still apply, right?” my husband answered. “Yes, you can. I just want to be up front with you about the unlikelihood of it going through.” My husband thanked him and said, “I’ll give it a chance.”
Our real estate agent knew about our faith and that we were trusting God to get us the house. She tried to be positive, but it was obvious she had her doubts. She called one day and said, “Pat, I don’t think it’s a good idea to put all your eggs in one basket. What if this house falls through? What will you do?” Are you sure it’s a good idea to give your notice at the townhouse before you know for sure you can get a mortgage?”
“Thank you Darlene for your concern. I know it doesn’t look good on paper, but my husband and I are certain it’s God’s will and it will go through.” Sometimes, it’s just God’s grace that gives you that kind of certainty – a knowing deep within. We stepped out in faith and gave our notice at the townhouse. We started packing boxes, “acting as if” all was well. We didn’t hear anything for a while and hoped that was a good sign.
With only two weeks left before the closing of the house, we became nervous. The boxes were stacked high in the living room and dining room – we were moving, no matter what. When I answered the phone, I could hear the hesitation in Darlene’s voice that she didn’t have good news. I took a deep breath and listened carefully.
“Pat, this is Darlene, I’m sorry but I just got a phone call from the manager of Sovereign bank. Your mortgage wasn’t approved. I’m sorry, I know how you were trusting God.”
“Is there anything we can do?” I blurted out. “Would you give me the manager’s name at the bank? Maybe my husband can call him and explain our situation.” “I’m really not supposed to do this. I could get fired……but, I’ll give it to you, if you don’t tell anyone where you got it from.” “Thank you, I promise we won’t tell.” I immediately called my friend Charlene to pray together on the phone. We asked God for a miracle.
I called my husband and gave him the bad news. “Joe, Darlene just called and told me we weren’t approved for the mortgage.” “What? That can’t be. Can I call someone?” “Yes, Darlene gave me the manager’s name at the bank. It’s Mr. Simeone, but don’t tell him where you got his name.” Joe called the bank and got directly through to the manager.
“Mr. Simeone, this is Joe Hastings. I recently applied for a VA mortgage at your bank. We just got the news that we weren’t approved.” “Why are you calling me? What do you want me to do about it?” he answered abruptly. “I’m just asking to see if there’s anything you can do for us. Maybe there’s been a mistake.”
“I’ll check it out and call you back.” A half hour later he called my husband back and said, “Mr. Hastings, I completely agree with this disposition. You weren’t approved because your money is tied up in the new business.” Silence. For some unknown reason the manager then asked my husband, “What makes you think that this business is going to be successful?” My husband doesn’t even remember what he said, but made up some story of why he thought it would succeed. “It’s the only Christian bookstore in the area and I know it’s going to be successful.”
To my husband’s surprise and delight, the manager replied, “Okay, I’ll approve it.”Divine intervention. It was our faith, “acting as if”, trust and prayer that moved mountains. We did our part and God did His. I couldn’t wait to call Darlene and tell her the good news.
“Darlene, Joe just finished talking to Mr. Simone at the bank and he approved our mortgage.” “Wow. You must know someone upstairs. I have a stack of mortgages here in front of me that didn’t qualify and they were much better than yours. Can I send them over to you?”
Where do you need to “act as if” and believe God is acting on your behalf? Faith is trusting that God will provide and everything will work out for my highest good and for the good of all involved. Faith is believing in myself and that I have everything I need inside of me. Sometimes I must “act as if” and see it on the inside until I can believe it in my heart and it becomes a reality.
“In my heart I accept my perfect being. I accept that the joy I have intended is already in my life. I accept that the love I have prayed for is already in me. I accept that the peace I have asked for is already my reality. I accept that the abundance I have sought already fills my life.”
Last week I wrote in my blog that the JOURNEY of faith is about letting go of anything that is no longer useful in our lives so the new can come. I received an email from a woman thanking me for those words because it confirmed what she had just done, in letting go of negative people in her life.
My friends, Mary and Dave, invited me to come on their boat with them this weekend. Mary is a special friend and healer who often “finds” things that have symbolic meaning to me. She said, “Pat, they just come to me, and I know God wants me to buy this for you.”
So it wasn’t surprising when she handed me the small package on the boat and explained the story. She said, “Pat, I went shopping for a birthday present for my friend. While looking for a gift for her, I spotted this card that read JOURNEY – Enjoy the adventure. On the card was a beautiful stone bracelet. I immediately thought of you and your JOURNEY of faith and knew I had to buy it for you. When I picked it up to look closer at it, I was shocked when I the saw the turtle on it.”
Turtles are very significant to me because they know when to go within and when it is time to stick their heads out, take a risk and move forward. Several years ago, I made a dream book for myself, and put a picture of a turtle swimming in the ocean in Maui, in it. Little did I know that my dream would come true and I would one day swim with the turtles and live on the ocean in Maui. It is beyond my wildest dreams to think that I am now moving there to live full time.
I thanked my friend, Mary, for giving me the bracelet and the special message of “Enjoy the Adventure” on it. I thanked God for inviting me on this adventure of faith and all the good that is unfolding in my life. I love spending time with Mary and when we are together the signs keep “showing up.” She said to me, “Pat, God will never lead you where He/She will not keep you.” Just as she said the words, we hear the song over the radio playing “Spirit in the sky – you have a friend in Jesus.” Of course, we sang along and almost jumped out of our seats. When the song finished, for some reason, I turned my head around in the boat, and my eyes spotted a huge white boat behind us that’s name was MASTER PLAN! Was God speaking or what?
God does have a MASTER PLAN for me and for you. Will you trust that plan? Are you ready to step out in faith and follow your heart’s desire and dreams? Yes, it takes great courage to follow the will of God, but for me there is no other way. It just takes a little faith and God will multiply what you have. I love the adventure of life and the surprises God has in store for me. A friend called today and read me today’s reading from the Daily Bread about letting go and letting God. After she finished the reading, she said, “You can’t even imagine what God has planned for you.”
About an hour before my friend called to read that to me this morning, I had watched Joel Olsteen on TV. His message confirmed what Mary and I talked about on the boat. He said, “God will never ask you to do something that He will not give you the way.” I knew God was speaking to my heart and that there was no need for fear or doubt about the MASTER PLAN that I am choosing to follow. At the closing of his show, Joel said, “Put your dreams in God’s hands, give God what you have, and He will multiply it. God will take you to places you’ve never dreamed about.” I am banking on that!
What I have found is that God always gives me signs along the way that help me feel confident and trust that I can put my dreams in God’s hands. A few months ago while I was in Maui, I was taking my daily walk and heard the small still voice of God say, “Your cake is baked.” I said, “Thank you God, for whatever that means.” I wanted to believe that it meant that my cake was baked and I was ready to meet my soul mate, which I believe God has planned for me. I didn’t think much about it until I was having a conversation with a friend a few weeks later. She shared that her therapist told her that life is like a cake and we must put in all the ingredients before it goes in the oven to bake and then is ready to be eaten. I hadn’t said anything to her up to this point about “my cake being baked” but I felt like this was a confirmation. Wow, my cake is baked!
A few weeks later, I received an email about how to attract your soul mate. The writer wrote that we must love ourselves and love what we were doing, before we will attract our soul mate. I had heard this all before and felt that is exactly what I am doing in my life. What really resonated with me was when she wrote, “When your soul mate comes, it will be like icing on the cake.” I smiled knowing that my cake is baked, cooled off and ready to be eaten. I am waiting for the icing and I know it will be delicious!
Just recently, my friend from Maui sent me an email and shared what was happening with her “Life Cake.” Here is what she wrote: “My “Life Cake” is still in process. The ingredients have been gathered and I am in the mixing stage, working with the batter. Some family and friends are asking for a slice of the cake, and want to know what kind it is, and how does the frosting taste…and I haven’t even gotten it into the oven yet! The oven is preheating and my sleeves are rolled up and I’m measuring, cracking eggs and wiping any worry away on my apron. It’s a “leap of faith cake” and only God has the secret recipe; I am merely a channel. I know that Maui is a magical place, and Spirit is alive and well and swirling around me with messages and symbolism if we are willing to “sit still” and listen.”
What about you? Has your cake been baked? Or, are you like my friend who is still in the mixing stage? It is not a bad thing to be in the mixing stage because you are being prepared for the next chapter in your life and you will know deep within when it is time for your cake to be baked. Do not rush it, but be patient and trust that all is well and you are in God’s hands.
I am so grateful for those who write me and help me see things that I’ve missed. My friend, Jane, wrote, “Isn’t it a JOY when others clean off our spiritual and actual glasses and give us the vision. A PHD in faith means that the P represents Peace, the letter H represents Hope and the letter D represents Deliverance. Of course, your initials are placed in PHD for good reason as well.” Every day I do my best to maintain a consciousness of peace and hope, knowing that my life is unfolding with ease and grace and there is nothing to be afraid of. For me, deliverance means being delivered from fear, separation, lack, feeling not good enough and needing to control. It means knowing that I am never separated from the Power of God. I am within God and God is within me. God and I are ONE.
Today I cleaned out the bookshelf next to my bed and found an old journal. As I started to read the entry of January 18, the day I left for Maui for 6 months, I was amazed at what I wrote and what God’s message was to me. Here it is: “Pat, have fun and see your life as an adventure story and enjoy the process. You have said YES to follow your heart into the unknown. I am blessing you beyond your wildest dreams. This is just the beginning of what is to come.”
Even though my house hasn’t sold and I haven’t had one person look at it yet, and even though there is no “apparent evidence” that my house is going to sell, I KNOW that God is working behind the scenes and He/She has me covered. I have let go of the timing and how it will happen and just stay peaceful. I continue to believe and “act as if” all is well, because it is. Isn’t that what faith is about, believing when we cannot see? I am stepping into the unknown, spreading my wings to fly and leaving for Maui September 5 whether my house is sold or not. It’s all in God’s Hands.
I AM FAITH-FILLED, STRONG AND COURAGEOUS – Daily Word
Sometimes I resist change and other times I feel an inner stirring to initiate change and start a new adventure. I may have satisfactory employment of or a comfortable lifestyle, yet feel called to something more. Spirit calls me to expansion, inviting me to step out in faith and act courageously. I pray, listen to my inner guidance, and then put feed under my prayers. The positive action I take sends a clear message to Spirit. I am saying “Yes” to my increase and expansion right now. I am not discouraged if I hit a roadblock. I fully trust that God goes with me wherever I go, showing me the way through any challenge. I am faith-filled, strong and courageous, living a life of adventure.
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