“I am with you and for you. When you decide on a course of action that is in line with My will, nothing in heaven or on earth can stop you. You may encounter many obstacles as you move toward your goal, but don’t get discouraged-never give up. With my help, you can overcome any obstacle. Do not expect an easy path as you journey hand in hand with Me, but do remember that I, your very-present Helper, am omnipotent. Much stress results from your wanting to make things happen before their time has come. One of the main ways I assert my sovereignty is in the timing of events. Instead of dashing headlong toward your journey, let Me set the pace. Slow down, and enjoy the journey in My Presence.” Jesus Calling, Sarah Young, p. 10
These words speak deeply to my heart as I look back on my journey over the last 3 years. It is hard to believe that it’s been 3 years this January that I said YES to God to follow my dream and move to Hawaii. I truly know it was God’s grace and my willingness to step out in faith and take a risk to leave my comfortable home, family and community. I could have listened to my fears (false evidence appearing real) and all the “what ifs” and why I can’t do it, why I don’t deserve it and missed out on the greatest love relationship of my life. Are you missing out on anything in your life because you are stuck in fear?
I knew in my heart that I was going to meet my soul mate in Maui, but of course, I didn’t know WHEN or HOW. I also didn’t know that I would make Maui my home and live here permanently. I knew I was going to live here for 6 months, but I didn’t know the rest.
I don’t have to see or know the whole picture before I step out in faith. What works for me is one step at a time, doing the next right thing and trusting the process. It’s my control, fear of change and my ego that wants to have it all figured out before I make a move and do something different in my life.
I had a plaque on my desk many years ago that read, “When you learn how to trust yourself, you will know how to live.” I am so grateful that I trusted my heart and the “small, still voice of God” within to move 5,000 miles away from all that was familiar. I didn’t know where I was going to live, what I would be doing, or how I could afford it. A few weeks before my arrival in Maui, my friend, Pat, invited me to share a condo with her and her husband which, incidentally, overlooked the ocean. My share of the rent was $300 a month and I lived there for 6 months.
As Larry and I danced the night away last night at Kaunoa Senior Center, I couldn’t help but smile and remember the first night I asked him to dance. It was my first dance in Maui and I didn’t know a soul, except for Pat and Ellen, who I came with. Of course, there were many more women at the dance and if I wanted to dance, I had to take the first step and ask a man to dance. I noticed Larry and liked how he danced, but it took me a while before I finally got the nerve to ask him for a dance. We had something in common in that we were both from the East Coast. I only danced with him once that night, but would see him at the weekly dances that I attended. He was so much fun to dance with and I loved dancing with him (and so did all the other women).
When I moved to Kihei, 8 months later (in Larry’s neighborhood) and I saw him at a dance, he asked me, “Would you like to go for a walk sometime?” I said, “Sure, I would like to do that.” I remember almost instantly talking about love and spirituality. I had no idea that he was interested in spirituality and we quickly developed a friendship and then became best friends. We called each other daily and ended our conversations with, “I love you.” Although we were best friends, I had no interest in a romantic relationship because I was waiting for my soul mate to arrive. Here he was right in front of me for 2 years and it wasn’t until God’s perfect timing and plan that we became partners. Others could see our love for one another and often asked, “How come you two are not partners?” It’s because it wasn’t God’s timing or we would have been together. I believe there were some things we both needed to do on the inside before we were ready for one another.
When I truly know and believe that “God’s timing is perfect” I am peaceful and relaxed. I stop DOING, trying to control outcomes and the timing of events in my life. I surrender to “what is” and choose to live in love because I AM LOVE. I live in the present moment because that is all there is and it is where God is. There may not be another moment as we are not promised tomorrow. This present moment is the best and I want to BE there. The peace that I am seeking and want can only be experienced in the present moment.
Unfortunately, sometimes our ego gets in the way when things aren’t going the way we want them to go and we want what we want when we want it. We get impatient, and think we know what’s best for ourselves. We complain and get angry because we don’t want to wait on God’s timing. I speak from personal experience because I did all of the above when I was waiting for Larry to show up.
It wasn’t until I let go and trusted divine timing that the perfect love came into my life. I focused on loving myself, doing what I loved, being happy and having fun. I think the challenge for all of us is to learn to wait with grace and peace, knowing that everything is in order and in perfect and divine timing.
I invite you to look back over your journey to recognize God’s perfect timing in your life and to trust the divine plan for your life. Instead of dashing headlong toward your journey, let God set the pace. Slow down, relax and enjoy the journey in God’s Presence.
I woke up early on Saturday morning and felt like Spirit “hit me between the eyes.” Have you ever felt like this? Spirit was inviting me to examine my motives in regards to sending out my latest blog that I had just finished a few days ago. I had to ask myself the real reason I wrote it and what I hoped to receive. I realized that my motive was because I wanted to receive your approval. I knew I needed to delete the blog and start all over again, which I am now doing.
Have you ever experienced getting 99% positive feedback about something you did, perhaps a project at work or remarks from a teacher or something new that you just tried and the 1% negative remark is what you focused on? It seems absurd, but I bet that many of us have had that experience at one time or another in our lives. Perhaps as a youngster on your report card you got all A’s and one B. Instead of acknowledging the hard work it took to get all A’s your parents wanted to know why you got the one B? I’m wondering if we were being set up to get hooked into behaviors of perfectionism and not being good enough?
I know in my heart of hearts that I am doing my life’s work by living my life to the fullest, being open to receiving more good, trusting God in all my affairs and then sharing how God miraculously and ordinarily shows up in my life. It is my delight and joy to share these blogs every week to inspire you so you can experience God in a deeper way and to know that you are not alone. I am as honest and authentic as I can be, even when or especially when my stuff comes up. I know what I need to write about when I say to God, “You really don’t want me to share this, do you?” The answer is always, “Yes, I do.”
Even though I know in my heart that I am doing God’s will by writing the weekly blogs, I asked myself, “Why was I about to give my power away by wanting and asking for your approval? Because I am human, because I still need healing and transformation? Probably both.
I am grateful to Spirit for “hitting me between the eyes” and revealing to me my real motives for what I was about to send out to you and showing me the truth. Let me explain. I received a comment from a reader of my blogs that was disturbing and I felt angry and hurt by the comment. I started to question myself and what I was doing and, consequently, felt blocked in my writing. I KNOW that it is impossible and unreasonable to think I will please everyone. So, why was I having a hard time with this and allowing this comment to disturb me? Was it like the 99% positive and 1% negative feedback that I was buying into? Instead of being resentful and angry, I am grateful for the negative comment for it brought to light what still needs healing in me. I received a comment from someone else just a few days later that was so loving and uplifting that it brought tears to my eyes. She said, “I love your blogs, your honesty and authenticity and you seem to be so happy.”
Wanting other people’s approval is something that I have been healing from for years, but I guess it is like the onion and you just keep peeling and going deeper until you get to the core – which is God’s love and light. When I know that I am loved unconditionally by God, no matter what I do or don’t do, other people’s opinion or approval of me will not matter. I wish I could say I was there, but I’m not. I am on my way and that is good enough for me today. Because all I have is today, and in this moment, I know I am loved and am happy to be whom and where I am.
Spiritual progress is like a detoxification. Things have to come up in order to be released. Once we have asked to be healed, then our unhealed places are forced to the surface. Our blocks to love are not suppressed or denied, but rather brought into our conscious awareness. Our fearful places have to be revealed before they can be healed.
I reminded myself that I am on an amazing spiritual journey of self-love, self-discovery and self-knowing, which brings me to a question that was asked of me by my friend, Marise, this week that was very profound. The question was: WHEN DID YOU KNOW THAT YOU KNOW WHAT YOU KNOW?
I had to really think about the question for a few minutes before my answers came up. For example: I KNEW years ago that I was going to write a book, but I didn’t know WHEN – it was someday. How did I KNOW – because everyone kept telling me, “You have so many faith stories, you have to write a book.” Even though I KNEW it, it took me 30 years to begin it and then 7 years to finish it. It was a process of just taking a step at a time, going backward, moving forward, in spite of the deep fears within.
The other area of my life that came up for me is WHEN I KNEW THAT I KNEW that I would live my life to the fullest, with or without my husband. I remember the exact moment and where I was when I made that commitment to myself. It took me 10 years to leave a marriage that was unhealthy and not life-giving.
As I learn to trust myself, God and my inner-knowing, I don’t think it will take me as long to do or be what I KNOW.
I invite you to think about “WHEN DID YOU KNOW THAT YOU KNOW WHAT YOU KNOW?” Ask Spirit to bring to light what you need to know that will help you move forward on your spiritual journey.
I have always heard that “less was better.” That never worked for me until NOW, especially in regards to my house that I put on the market today. YIKES & YEA, I did it. Up until this point, I always thought I needed more and had to do more and that more was better! I am sure that comes from the old belief that I wasn’t good enough, I didn’t have enough and I wasn’t smart enough. Maybe they could be called the not-enoughisms.
Last week, a few of my close girlfriends came by to help me patch holes in the walls, paint, clean windows and wash walls before I put the house up for sale. I asked for their opinions and they were honest and told me the truth. “Pat, this picture needs to be taken down, you need to remove that from the top of the bureau and removing that chair would open up the room.” I was open to their suggestions and followed them all. A few times, I had to literally stand still and say out loud, ” I let go, I let go.” I know and trust as I let go of the old, I know I am opening myself to the new that God has planned for me (and that excites me!) My house is now open and airy without the clutter and “less is better.”
When I met with my real estate agent, Joe, I told him my intention was to sell my house quickly because I wanted to return to Maui on September 5th. He looked surprised and a little dubious. I smiled and said, “Joe, I have to tell you something about me, and who you are dealing with. I am a woman of faith!” Then I gave him my book as a gift and asked him to read Chapter 6 “The Sky God Speaks – Do We Have to Sell Our house, God?” He smiled and said, “I will read the chapter and am looking forward to reading your book.” The next time I saw him he told he that he had read that chapter and now his mother was reading the book because she saw it on his coffee table. I know that he will experience the power of faith first hand when my house sells quickly.
Over the years, many people have asked me, “How do you know for sure when it’s God’s will for you to do something and not just your own will?” The only way to know that is to first develop a relationship with your Source, God, Spirit, Buddha or whatever name you choose to call your Higher Power. For me, that includes a daily spiritual practice of prayer and meditation, which is crucial to being able to know God’s will for me. It is through these practices that I remember the truth of who I am; that I am ONE with the power and presence of God, and that we are all ONE.
Prayer and meditation are like “Magic Erasers.” They erase “old beliefs and behaviors” that no longer serve me and are not for my highest good. Prayer and meditation help me to let go of the past and “what was” and enables me to be in the present moment, NOW where all of my needs are supplied. When I am in this place of surrender, I feel the love and peace of God and I am open and trust the guidance I receive. I affirm and know that when I am one with God, I am love, I am peace and I am abundance. Then I can radiate love and peace to all I meet and see the divine in all people.
Another way that I know I am in God’s will is through the deep peace I feel in my heart. Since I’ve come back to Rhode Island, I have experienced a peace that passes all understanding. My heart is smiling on the inside and I sometimes feel like I am floating because I feel so blessed and grateful. I am sure this is a result of my 6 months in Maui where I listened to Spirit to BE and not to DO. I learned to go with the flow and follow my heart and intuition. This Sunday, a woman at the spiritual center I attend looked me in the eyes and said, “You look beautiful.” I smiled and immediately said, “Thank you, I feel beautiful.” Now that is the power of God in action because I didn’t always feel beautiful and didn’t always receive compliments gracefully.
Yet another way I know I am in God’s will is through the “signs” and the people God brings into my life to help me along the path. I saw a sign in Maui right before I left that said, “Keep on Path.” I have shared in other emails that God “shows up” through the symbols of the ladybug, turtle and the cardinal. When I went to bed last night, I noticed something small on the inside of the shade next to my bed. I couldn’t believe that a baby ladybug with all its black spots graced me with its presence. As I was driving my car, I spotted an Hawaiian turtle decal with flowers on the back of a car window. When I walked into Shaw’s market the other day, there were Hawaiian flowers in the entrance and when I visited my daughter this weekend, she had an apron on with a red cardinal on it and the cardinals have been singing to me all morning.
Truly, everything is flowing with peace, ease and grace because that is what I expect and that is what I affirm on a daily basis. Remember, we get what we expect. I know that it’s all good and it’s all God. When I open my eyes and heart, God “shows up” in the most unexpected places.
Creative Ideas – Ernest Homes
I Have Great Expectations – With God all things are possible Matt. 19:26
We have every right to expect the unexpected. We should daily affirm that new ideas are coming to us, new ways of doing things, that we are meeting new and wonderful friends, new situations; that joyous things are going to happen to us. I now establish in my thinking an attitude of expectancy of good things. I let go of the limitations of the past and live with an enthusiastic expectancy of the good that I will encounter today. I know that nothing is too good to be true and that nothing is too much for the power that can do anything. I believe in a greater good that I have yet experienced. I keep my mind open to divine intuition which is the wisdom that guides me.
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