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Letting go of my addiction to control

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God certainly knows how to get my attention, especially when I am not aligned with Spirit and fear is present. For example, when I woke up this morning, I felt fear in the pit of my stomach. It really surprised me because as I had shared in last week’s blog, our cruise was magnificent as I EXPANDED my heart to receive more of God’s love. My relationship with Larry had deepened and EXPANDED and our love for one another was stronger than ever. I asked myself, “Why would I be feeling fear now and where is it coming from?” I said a prayer and asked for help. I was determined to not let fear rob me of my joy like I did for so many years and the love that was being offered to me through Larry.

A couple of minutes later when I was about to check my emails, the thought popped into my head that I would love to receive a response from Karen about last week’s blog post “Walls come crashing down.” Karen lives on the East Coast and Karen has never responded to one of our blogs, nor have I had any communication with her in a few years. I had no idea why she popped into my head (other than Spirit answering my prayer and wanting me to pay attention).

I was shocked when I saw Karen’s name in my email box a couple of minutes later. I opened her email and it read “Pat this is beautiful and I am so happy to read about your journey of love. I especially love this part: “I heard the still, small voice of God say to me, “You just have to BE and let go of wanting to control the process and knowing what will happen next. You have surrendered your life to me so now you can sit back, relax and enjoy the ride. Smile because Love is all there is and you are safe.”

Since this was in my face, I clearly needed to be reminded of the message Spirit gave me last week. “You need to let go of wanting to control the process and what will happen next.” The fear that I experienced when I woke up was about wanting to be in control. One of the big hurdles in life is when we are stepping into the unknown and not knowing what’s next. We are invited to take a leap of faith and trust.

Author Kute Blackson writes, “The root of misery is control. Control is the master addiction, the hardest one to give up. Control is an illusion, as there is so much in life that we cannot control. When you try to control what you cannot, then suffering is your guaranteed result.”

EXPANSION is about being in the flow and surrendering. Control is about constriction and contraction. I wrote in the blog last week that I was sure that my EXPANSION would be fun and maybe scary. Last week was fun, now the scary part was here and I needed to embrace and love the fearful part of me too. I also knew that FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real.

I was willing to do whatever I needed to do and use all the tools I had to move through this and not put up my walls again. I didn’t eat over it or stay busy over the fear, but instead allowed myself to go into the pain and feel it all. I breathed through it and allowed what needed to come to come up.


I  spent the day in prayer and reflection uncovering and releasing beliefs that no longer served me. I recently read that 95% of our beliefs are in our subconscious and we are only conscious of 5% of our beliefs. Because of my history of sexual abuse starting at 10 years old with several abusers, I really needed to be still and listen to what my body needed next. As a young girl, I was robbed of my innocence and was now reclaiming it. Through the grace of God, I knew I was EXPANDING into the woman I was created to be and that I wanted to be.

It has been my experience that when we are close to a break-through or about to manifest something big in our lives, our fears will come up and sometimes with a vengeance. It means we are getting closer to what we really want. We cannot give up before the miracle and I wasn’t willing to give up before the miracle.

I asked Spirit what I needed to do and here is what I heard, “Keep doing what you are doing by acknowledging your fear, sharing it with Larry and letting it go. By sharing it with Larry you are bringing it to the light to be healed and transformed. You are being held and healed. Just like a mother holds her baby tenderly and lovingly and assures it that it is safe, you are doing that for your wounded child inside of you. Larry is my gift to you for your expansion and healing and you are a gift for his healing.”

Right before I was to send this out, I received this in my email box from Abraham:

“The hypocrisy around the subject of sexuality is huge. Early on, there were others who were a lot more interested in you satisfying what made them feel good than in satisfying what made you feel good. There were so many things that you felt inclined to go this way, that you were forced to go that way, that at an early age, you made a conscious decision that if it felt good, it was wrong. And if it felt wrong, it was probably right.”

Today, I am surrendering and letting go of my addiction to control. I am sitting back, relaxing and enjoying the ride. I am smiling because Love is all there is and I am safe.

“Be willing to follow wherever I lead. Follow me wholeheartedly, with glad anticipation quickening your pace. Though you don’t know what lies ahead, I know; and that is enough. Some of my richest blessings are just around the bend: out of sight, but nonetheless very real. To receive these gifts, you must walk by faith-not by sight.” Jesus Calling

How about you? Are you willing to surrender and walk by faith to receive the gifts that are waiting for you? Don’t let fear rob you and don’t give up before the miracle.


I can ask for what I want, but I don’t always get it

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As my birthday approached this week, I promised myself that I would not let anything or anyone rob me of my joy and peace, like I have done in the past in regards to my birthday.  Being forgotten on my birthday by a family member year after year left a lasting memory.  I reminded myself that was the past and this was the present.

I wanted to celebrate my birth and have a great birthday, and I did.  My mantra was “I am open to receive (without judgment) whatever and whoever wants to give to me on my birthday.”

It was overwhelming and humbling when I received so many happy birthday wishes from Facebook friends, especially friends that I graduated high school with 50 years ago.  My beloved, Larry, who calls me his QUEEN made me feel very special.  We had a glorious day celebrating my birthday with dinner and a show. He bought me a beautiful topaz ring that I love and sent me 2 cards with poems that he wrote for me.  How much better does it get than this? It is true, good things come to those who wait.

My friends and family called to wish me a happy birthday and sent cards and gifts and I truly felt loved.  My women’s’ WOW group (Women of Wisdom) had a birthday cake for me and my friend, Kati, took me out to lunch and brought me lovely gifts and 2 roses.

What I have learned is that I can ask for what I want, but that doesn’t mean the other party will deliver, especially family members.  I know that if I ask, there is at least a chance that I will be heard and get what I want as I have shared in past blogs.

When I am not heard and don’t get what I want, I have several choices:  I can speak up & share my disappointment, I can shut up & detach, I can be grateful for “what is”, I can let go & accept, I can focus on what I do have, I can hold a resentment and feel like a victim, or I can live in my joy no matter what anyone does or doesn’t do.  You see, I am not responsible for the actions of others- what they do or don’t do, what they say or don’t say.  I am only responsible for my own actions and reactions and that is plenty enough to take care of.

In the past, when I didn’t know any better, I tried to guilt family members to do what I wanted them to do. They may have done what I wanted them to do once to get me off their back, but it was only temporary.  People will do what they want to do and that is really what I want, because it will come from their heart.  Today I know that if someone does something or gives me something, it is because they want to and not because they should or out of guilt.

I have learned to do what I want to do because it feels good and it is the loving thing to do. I don’t do what I don’t want to do (if it is not hurting another).  I resist if I sense that someone is trying to guilt me into doing something that I don’t want to do. That once worked, but it doesn’t anymore.

I have had a history of taking things personally and thinking it was all about me when a loved one didn’t do what I wanted them to do. I know today that it usually has nothing to do with me.  What a relief and blessing it is to know this for myself and for the people who love me and I love.  I caused myself undue stress and pain for many years because I thought I wasn’t loved or deserving because someone didn’t do what I asked and wanted them to do. I needed to change my thinking and realize not everyone has the same love language as me.

Of course, it is wonderful to be loved and to love another person.  That is what makes the world go around and I am very grateful for the love in my life.  I have learned that when I look to another to fill up my tank because it is empty, I give my power away and feel like a victim when I don’t get what I want.

Nobody can give to me what I can give to myself. The love that I want and deserve is my own love and God’s love. When I don’t get what I want from another, I don’t have to wait around because I can give it to myself.  For example, I buy myself flowers, cards or something special just for me. I take myself out for dinner or lunch when I want to.

The spiritual journey is about knowing what is mine and what is not mine. It is about knowing what I can and cannot control.  I cannot control what another person does or doesn’t do no matter how hard I try. Trying to control another person is futile and disrespectful and it just doesn’t work.

The good news is that I know what I can control and change and that is me:  my actions, my thoughts, my reactions and my attitudes.  Today, I take responsibility for all of my choices, actions and trust the process of life, knowing that I attract everything and every situation into my life for my highest good.


I received a surprise phone call from my 2 sons

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I had a very exciting week last week.  I moved into my new home and it is like “Heaven on earth.”  I am still walking around in a daze and in complete awe of what God has brought into my life.  I have a poster on my wall that says BELIEVE & RECEIVE.  I asked for what I wanted, I saw it in my mind’s eye, felt what it would be like to be living here and let go and trusted that if it was meant to be, it would be.  IT WAS MEANT TO BE.

I had a surprise phone call from my oldest son, Brian, on Sunday. Half-way through the conversation he said, “Mom, you are going to be a grandmother.”  I couldn’t believe what I was hearing and screamed, “Are you kidding me?” I was driving and could hardly contain my excitement and shock.  My new grandchild is due in September.  If that shock wasn’t enough, the next night I received a call from my youngest son, Jimmy, and his wife, Lara. Early in the conversation he said, “Mom, you are going to be a grandmother.”  At first, I didn’t know if he was talking about Brian or himself. But I quickly realized he was telling me that he was going to be a father and they were due in November. I will be home for Christmas and can’t wait to hold two new grand-babies in my arms.

Last week, I said to my friend, Larry, “It is my goal to be the happiest and most peaceful person I know.”  I do admit that is a pretty lofty goal, but if I practice everything I’ve learned over the years, it is attainable. I know that I am responsible for the “pace and peace” I bring to each moment and I can be as happy as I want and choose to be.  Isn’t that awesome to know that it is our choice and it is within our power on a daily basis to choose peace and happiness.

In order to achieve this goal, I need to be constantly vigilant about what I am thinking and feeling. I may have to change my thinking if I get off track and lose my peace. I have little reminders all around my house to RELAX and to remind myself that everything is in perfect and divine order and that all of my needs are being taken care of.

I have a sticker on my computer that says, “PEACEAHOLIC.”  It is a daily reminder of what I want to create in my life. Our deepest and constant need is for peace.  We all are searching for peace because our minds are often like blenders going round and round with worry, doubts and fears.  We often want to control, especially if we have come from dysfunctional families where there was chaos all around us growing up. For me, “Letting go and letting God” is often about letting go of control.

I am a “Recovering RUSHAHOLIC.” Can you relate?  I didn’t know any other way but to push and rush and stay busy. The alcoholic medicates their feelings by drinking or drugging. One of the ways I medicated my feelings was by rushing, pushing and trying to make things happen. Not only was it insane, but it was exhausting and it didn’t work.

This addictive behavior kept me away from myself and the pain that was within for many years.  All addictions (work, gambling, internet, sugar, shopping, sex, religion, overachieving, perfectionism, alcohol, drugs, codependency) keep us away from ourselves and consequently, from the God within.

I have learned that God meets me in the stillness of my soul where I hear that small, still voice within.  Stillness of soul is rare in this world addicted to speed and noise. For me, it is showing up every day and having a spiritual practice. There are many paths and finding the right one is important for spiritual growth.  For any relationship to grow and be nurtured, spending quality time is essential and it is the same with Spirit. If I want to be peaceful and happy, going within to pray and meditate is where it is at for me.

Today, I practice an attitude of ALLOWING things (and what I am to do next) to come to me for I know what is mine will come in the perfect and right time and with peace, ease and grace.  It could be a new client, a new relationship, money, friends, etc.  I allow myself to receive love and abundance; however that shows up on a daily basis. I notice and appreciate all the good that comes into my life. I “show up” daily and trust my intuition to do the next right thing.

I live in an attitude of GRATITUDE, TRUST and expectant FAITH for God’s perfect divine plan to unfold in God’s timing.  This is how I experience peace in my daily life.

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“I woke up and had a half-hour of INSANITY”

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I am sitting at the LA airport with 3 hours to kill before I board the plane back to Maui and decided to write about my 1 month trip back to Rhode Island. My friend Larry asked me before I left, “What is your intention for your trip?” I immediately said, “That it flow with peace, ease and grace.” That seems to be a daily mantra for me in everything I do.

I truly believe that “We get what we expect.” I expected my trip to flow with peace, ease and grace and indeed that is exactly what happened. This is what I wrote in my journal the morning I left for Rhode Island. “I feel excited with expectant faith that my family reunion will be the best one ever. My intention is to love my family and friends and to let them know how much I love them. I only see perfection and all is well.”

I had an amazingly fun, relaxing trip filled with the love of family and friends. I was treated like a queen; taken to lunch, dinner, picnic, boat ride, bed & breakfast and a 4 day stay at Narragansett beach in the hottest week of the month. You know who you are so I say thank you from the bottom of my heart to all of you who loved me and spoiled me.

I stayed with my daughter, Mary, on her beautiful Herb Farm for part of the time and she cooked delicious, nutritious meals for me. I felt like a gypsy because I stayed at 7 different homes in 4 weeks. Have bag, will travel was my motto. The day before I left, my daughter and her new boyfriend and I went to Newport, RI for a picnic. When we were driving home, Mary handed me a little package wrapped in newspaper and said, “This is a going away present from Glen and I.” As I opened the stain glass red shaped heart, she said, “This is because we love you so much.”  What a special moment that I will never forget and will treasure in my heart.

As we all know, being with family (for a month) can sometimes bring up old issues and dysfunctional patterns. I can truly say that this has been the best time with my family EVER.  Even though my children were young adults when my ex-husband and I got a divorce after 30 years of marriage, it took several years for the family to heal and deal. I sometimes felt like I didn’t belong in my own family and that was very painful.

Had my family changed, or had I changed? My daily prayer and intention when I get out of bed in the morning is to be peaceful, to love and to serve. Living in Maui and learning how TO BE had changed me from the inside out. I could feel the changes in me because I felt relaxed and peaceful and no longer needed to control people and situations around me. I had learned to “go with the flow.”  In prayer one morning, Spirit showed me that I needed to make an amends to one of my children that I had judged for many years. After I made the amends and it was accepted, I felt like I was floating when I attended church that morning.  God is good.

I know that “happiness is an inside job” and doesn’t depend on outer circumstances or how much money I make or who I’m with.  I decide how happy I want to be. Believe me, it’s not MAGIC and it doesn’t just happen. It’s about a committed relationship with the Divine within me where there is total trust and a KNOWING that all is well, no matter what.  It’s about an internal stream of gratitude or an “Attitude of Gratitude.” Here are the keys to my happiness: Trusting, Relaxing, Allowing, Gratitude, Forgiving and Accepting what is.

My son, Jimmy, bought my car when I moved to Maui. Since he also had a truck, I asked if I could use it while I was in Rhode Island. He said, “Yes” but a few weeks before my visit, he contacted me and said, “Mom, I need to sell the car because my friend is going to buy it now.” I knew something would show up and didn’t worry about it. I didn’t know until I arrived in Rhode Island that I would be driving my old red Honda again. His friend had a knee operation and the doctor told him he couldn’t drive a shift and my car was a shift.  I hoped that I could use the car for the whole time, but didn’t know when his friend wanted to pick it up. My son called me the day before I was to leave for Maui and said, “My friend wants to pick up the car today.”    Thank you God for taking care of the details and for your perfect timing

My flight was scheduled to return to Maui on Tuesday, July 30th.  My friend Gail called a few days before that and said, “There is a tropical storm headed toward Hawaii on Tuesday or Wednesday, isn’t that when you are leaving?” I felt some anxiety at first and thought about calling the airline to change my flight. I didn’t want to be stuck in the airport over- night if the flight was cancelled last minute. I decided, instead, to thank God and to trust and do nothing. Of course, I would keep an eye on the storm, but I wasn’t going to worry about it because it was out of my control. The storm hit Maui on Monday, the day before my scheduled flight. All flights were canceled that were going into Maui on Monday. I arrived at the airport on Tuesday and had clear sailing, except for a minor detail about a valve that needed to be fixed before we took off. The 86-year-old woman sitting next to me told me that her flight was on Monday and she spent the night at the airport until this flight. Some people were stuck in the airport until Thursday and Friday. Again, God’s perfect timing.

I arrived home safe and sound and spent the first day quiet and adjusting to being back in my home. I swam in the pool and took a walk along the beach to connect with the land again. I was surprised when I woke up the next morning and felt anxious and afraid in the pit of my stomach.

I had a half-hour of INSANITY as I woke up that morning from a dream.  Was it jet lag and being up almost 24 hours or was it my ego playing games with me?  I felt alone (even though friends had already reached out to me through email and calls). What was going on because nothing had changed – except my THINKING! I was in charge (or I thought I was) again because old patterns of impatience and wanting to know HOW, WHAT, WHEN and WHERE my life was going to change were emerging.  Instead of allowing things to flow with peace, ease and grace and the way I have been living my life for the last year and a half, I thought I could help a little and move things along a little faster.  Can you relate?  YIKES, I knew I was in trouble and needed to get back on the TRUTH track fast.

I jumped out of bed, got on my knees immediately and prayed the Serenity Prayer. I couldn’t wait to pray and meditate and find my peace again.


Here is a quote from Abraham that seemed appropriate. “What true patience is, is knowing that you want it and knowing that it’s coming and actually enjoying the unfolding along the way. Understand that you never get it done. So you might as well be patient. You never get it done, because every time you want and receive, you also receive a new perspective from which to want. Life is a constant unfolding of new desires and then a constant alignment to those desires.”


This is what I read in Creative Ideas by Ernest Holmes:

“I now establish in my thinking an attitude of expectancy of good things. I let go of the limitations of the past and live with the enthusiastic expectancy of the good that I will encounter today. I know that nothing is too good to be true and that nothing is too much for the power that can do anything. I expect the unexpected to happen and believe in a greater good than I have yet experienced. I keep my mind open to divine intuition which is the wisdom that guides me.

I believe that the Spirit within me, which is God, makes perfect the way before me. In this faith and knowledge, I discover a great peace of mind, a deep sense of belonging, a complete realization that God is right where I am. I put my whole trust in God and feel an intimate relationship with the presence and power which controls everything. The Spirit gently leads me, wisely counsels me. I know that the love that envelops everything flows through me to everyone, and with it goes a confidence, a sense of joy and of peace, as well as a buoyant enthusiasm and zest for life.”

The peace has returned, I am grateful and trusting that all is well and flowing with peace, ease and grace. I have discovered a great peace of mind, a deep sense of belonging, a complete realization that God is right where I am. I put my whole trust in God and feel an intimate relationship with the presence and power which controls everything.




I am a Woman Giving Birth to Myself

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   I am a woman giving birth to myself

                                               I am giving birth
I am a woman giving birth to myself. Stepping into the unknown and following my heart has been the best thing I have ever done in my life (other than having children.) I didn’t push or make it happen, but I allowed it to unfold according to a divine plan or the Master Plan. We know that “giving birth” is not easy, whether it be giving birth to your own child or a dream such as a new business/career or a new relationship. I think we are always giving birth to something new in our lives and we can either welcome change and go with the flow or fight it because of fear, doubt and not believing in yourself. It took me 7 years to write my book because I didn’t believe in myself. There were many nights I went to bed and cried myself to sleep because I had so much fear inside of me.

Through the grace of God and the willingness to do whatever I needed to do to heal my soul, I am no longer that woman. Today, I am Simply a Woman of Faith and living my dream in paradise. If anyone would have told me 5 years ago that I would be living in Maui, I would have told them they were crazy. I always dreamed of visiting Hawaii, but living here was beyond my wildest dreams.

For the last several weeks, I kept saying to my friends “I feel like I am giving birth.” The week before I moved into my new beautiful home, I felt vulnerable and weary. I sat in the car and allowed the tears to come. For the 4th time in 6 weeks I was packing up my car to move again. I knew I was in the last leg of the race and needed God’s strength to pull me through. I said to God, “One more contraction and the baby will be born.” What I didn’t realize until a friend pointed it out to me is that my journey started 9 months ago when I moved to Maui. I have not had a place to call my own for 9 months. It seemed very significant. We cannot rush the baby along and it takes what it takes to be born.

Moving into my new home was like giving birth. It took me 2 days to unpack my boxes and get nestled in. I put up curtains, put pictures on the walls and lit candles. Everything that I have been buying at yard sales since I have been here has fit in perfectly. There are no words to describe the joy, happiness and gratitude that I feel today. A friend who helped me move in said, “Pat, this is like a sanctuary, it is so peaceful here. I absolutely love my new Ohana and feel so “at home.” I walk around in awe of what I have created. It took transforming my fears with faith and changing limiting beliefs that were not true, especially feelings of not being worthy or deserving. What do you want to give birth to? You may have a vague feeling or a desire to do something different or new. If you don’t know what it is, I encourage you to spend time in prayer and meditation and ask Spirit for clarity and courage. We all have gifts that God wants us to use to serve humanity.

I so looked forward to sleeping in my bed the first night I was here. I woke up several times and my back hurt. The mattress felt like I was sleeping on a board and it was very uncomfortable. I thought to myself, “I will have to find some kind of foam to put over the mattress.” The next morning, my land lady called to ask if I would like some fresh avocados and lemons that she just picked from the tree. Of course, I was delighted and said, “Yes.” During the conversation (and I had not said a word about the mattress to her) she said, “Can you use a foam mattress? It was given to Lloyd and he is not using it.” I was stunned how quickly this manifested for me and I didn’t do a thing but “show up.” Within 5 minutes, Lloyd carried the mattress down to my bedroom and put it on for me. It was like a new bed and last night I slept like a baby. It is true that God knows our needs before we even do.

I am practicing living in the present moment and going with the flow, which means I need to be flexible and be willing to change directions when needed. I shudder to think of all the years I tried to control my life and everyone around me. I caused myself and others so much stress and wasted so much energy. Today, I know I am responsible for my own life. I cannot control others and what they say or do. It is there business and not mine. If I am asked for advice, I give it, but then I need to let it go. Have you ever tried to convince someone they are doing thing wrong and it falls on deaf ears? If they would only do it your way, life would be so much easier. Been there, done that and it doesn’t work! Every morning I get on my knees and say the serenity prayer along with my intention for the day which is to be peaceful, love and to serve.

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can (ME) and the wisdom to know the difference.” If you are struggling with control issues, pray this prayer, it works miracles.

You are a woman or a man giving birth to yourself. Let yourself feel the excitement for what is being born in you. Say YES to your heart. Say YES to God and to your gifts. You are ONE with God and created in His/Her image. You have everything you need inside of you to step into the world and be the STAR of your life. Go for it because you got it going on!













The MASTER PLAN is Unfolding

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Last week I wrote in my blog that the JOURNEY of faith is about letting go of anything that is no longer useful in our lives so the new can come.  I received an email from a woman thanking me for those words because it confirmed what she had just done, in letting go of negative people in her life.

My friends, Mary and Dave, invited me to come on their boat with them this weekend. Mary is a special friend and healer who often “finds” things that have symbolic meaning to me. She said, “Pat, they just come to me, and I know God wants me to buy this for you.”

So it wasn’t surprising when she handed me the small package on the boat and explained the story.  She said, “Pat, I went shopping for a birthday present for my friend. While looking for a gift for her, I spotted this card that read JOURNEY  – Enjoy the adventure. On the card was a beautiful stone bracelet. I immediately thought of you and your JOURNEY of faith and knew I had to buy it for you. When I picked it up to look closer at it, I was shocked when I the saw the turtle on it.”



Turtles are very significant to me because they know when to go within and when it is time to stick their heads out, take a risk and move forward.  Several years ago, I made a dream book for myself, and put a picture of a turtle swimming in the ocean in Maui, in it. Little did I know that my dream would come true and I would one day swim with the turtles and live on the ocean in Maui. It is beyond my wildest dreams to think that I am now moving there to live full time.

I thanked my friend, Mary, for giving me the bracelet and the special message of “Enjoy the Adventure” on it.  I thanked God for inviting me on this adventure of faith and all the good that is unfolding in my life.  I love spending time with Mary and when we are together the signs keep “showing up.”  She said to me, “Pat, God will never lead you where He/She will not keep you.”  Just as she said the words, we hear the song over the radio playing “Spirit in the sky – you have a friend in Jesus.”  Of course, we sang along and almost jumped out of our seats. When the song finished, for some reason, I turned my head around in the boat, and my eyes spotted a huge white boat behind us that’s name was MASTER PLAN!  Was God speaking or what?

master plan
God does have a MASTER PLAN for me and for you. Will you trust that plan? Are you ready to step out in faith and follow your heart’s desire and dreams? Yes, it takes great courage to follow the will of God, but for me there is no other way.  It just takes a little faith and God will multiply what you have. I love the adventure of life and the surprises God has in store for me. A friend called today and read me today’s reading from the Daily Bread about letting go and letting God. After she finished the reading, she said, “You can’t even imagine what God has planned for you.”

About an hour before my friend called to read that to me this morning, I had watched Joel Olsteen on TV. His message confirmed what Mary and I talked about on the boat. He said, “God will never ask you to do something that He will not give you the way.” I knew God was speaking to my heart and that there was no need for fear or doubt about the MASTER PLAN that I am choosing to follow. At the closing of his show, Joel said, “Put your dreams in God’s hands, give God what you have, and He will multiply it. God will take you to places you’ve never dreamed about.” I am banking on that!

What I have found is that God always gives me signs along the way that help me feel confident and trust that I can put my dreams in God’s hands.  A few months ago while I was in Maui, I was taking my daily walk and heard the small still voice of God say, “Your cake is baked.” I said, “Thank you God, for whatever that means.” I wanted to believe that it meant that my cake was baked and I was ready to meet my soul mate, which I believe God has planned for me. I didn’t think much about it until I was having a conversation with a friend a few weeks later. She shared that her therapist told her that life is like a cake and we must put in all the ingredients before it goes in the oven to bake and then is ready to be eaten. I hadn’t said anything to her up to this point about “my cake being baked” but I felt like this was a confirmation.  Wow, my cake is baked!

A few weeks later, I received an email about how to attract your soul mate. The writer wrote that we must love ourselves and love what we were doing, before we will attract our soul mate. I had heard this all before and felt that is exactly what I am doing in my life. What really resonated with me was when she wrote, “When your soul mate comes, it will be like icing on the cake.” I smiled knowing that my cake is baked, cooled off and ready to be eaten. I am waiting for the icing and I know it will be delicious!

Just recently, my friend from Maui sent me an email and shared what was happening with her “Life Cake.” Here is what she wrote: “My “Life Cake” is still in process. The ingredients have been gathered and I am in the mixing stage, working with the batter. Some family and friends are asking for a slice of the cake, and want to know what kind it is, and how does the frosting taste…and I haven’t even gotten it into the oven yet! The oven is preheating and my sleeves are rolled up and I’m measuring, cracking eggs and wiping any worry away on my apron. It’s a “leap of faith cake” and only God has the secret recipe; I am merely a channel. I know that Maui is a magical place, and Spirit is alive and well and swirling around me with messages and symbolism if we are willing to “sit still” and listen.”

What about you? Has your cake been baked? Or, are you like my friend who is still in the mixing stage? It is not a bad thing to be in the mixing stage because you are being prepared for the next chapter in your life and you will know deep within when it is time for your cake to be baked. Do not rush it, but be patient and trust that all is well and you are in God’s hands.

I am so grateful for those who write me and help me see things that I’ve missed. My friend, Jane, wrote,  “Isn’t it a JOY when others clean off our spiritual and actual glasses and give us the vision. A PHD in faith means that the P represents Peace, the letter H represents Hope and the letter D represents Deliverance. Of course, your initials are placed in PHD for good reason as well.” Every day I do my best to maintain a consciousness of peace and hope, knowing that my life is unfolding with ease and grace and there is nothing to be afraid of.  For me, deliverance means being delivered from fear, separation, lack, feeling not good enough and needing to control. It means knowing that I am never separated from the Power of God. I am within God and God is within me. God and I are ONE.
Today I cleaned out the bookshelf next to my bed and found an old journal. As I started to read the entry of January 18, the day I left for Maui for 6 months, I was amazed at what I wrote and what God’s message was to me. Here it is: “Pat, have fun and see your life as an adventure story and enjoy the process. You have said YES to follow your heart into the unknown. I am blessing you beyond your wildest dreams. This is just the beginning of what is to come.”

Even though my house hasn’t sold and I haven’t had one person look at it yet, and even though there is no “apparent evidence” that my house is going to sell, I KNOW that God is working behind the scenes and He/She has me covered.  I have let go of the timing and how it will happen and just stay peaceful. I continue to believe and “act as if” all is well, because it is. Isn’t that what faith is about, believing when we cannot see?   I am stepping into the unknown, spreading my wings to fly and leaving for Maui September 5 whether my house is sold or not. It’s all in God’s Hands.


Sometimes I resist change and other times I feel an inner stirring to initiate change and start a new adventure. I may have satisfactory employment of or a comfortable lifestyle, yet feel called to something more. Spirit calls me to expansion, inviting me to step out in faith and act courageously. I pray, listen to my inner guidance, and then put feed under my prayers. The positive action I take sends a clear message to Spirit. I am saying “Yes” to my increase and expansion right now. I am not discouraged if I hit a roadblock. I fully trust that God goes with me wherever I go, showing me the way through any challenge. I am faith-filled, strong  and courageous, living a life of adventure.

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