I ask Spirit to guide me to share what is most important as I sit before this blank page to prepare to write about “Our wedding” and my daughter, Mary; and grandson, Herbie, celebrating with us.
I wrote in my last blog that if I were to stay PEACEFUL & PRESENT for our wedding, there were some things that I would need to practice: accepting “what is”, going with the flow, trusting that everything that happened would be for my highest good, and being grateful and surrendering to whatever “showed up.” I was determined to not let anything rob me of my peace. I am happy to say that I remained peaceful and present the whole time, despite the many opportunities Spirit provided for us.
But before I share these opportunities, I would like to say that everything was in DIVINE PERFECTION. The night before our wedding, our friends, Kat and Robert, did a photo shoot of us on the ocean at Secret Beach. Secret Beach is the most popular place for weddings in Maui.
The next morning we were married in our home by Rev. Kimo, a Hawaiian minister. Our home was transformed into a beautiful sanctuary with colorful red and yellow Hawaiian flowers and pink rose petals strewn across the floor. My daughter, Mary, walked me up the aisle to greet my beloved, Larry waiting for me on our lanai with the rest of our friends. It was a gorgeous setting as our lanai overlooks the ocean and the pink and white Plumeria trees are all in bloom. I truly felt like I was royalty with my beautiful lei and haku (headpiece) and the most grateful and happiest woman alive.
Larry wore a white Hawaiian shirt and white pants and looked like a knight in shining armor. He looked so handsome that he took my breath away. I waited for this sacred moment for so long and it was now here. When the service began, I looked out into the faces of our friends smiling and tears rolling down their cheeks and I knew Spirit was present and with us. Mary surprised me by taking a video and all my children and grandchildren were were able to be present and watched the whole service. What a special gift that was knowing they were celebrating with us.
The reception was truly a “Love Fest.” After thanking all of our friends for all of their help, Larry said grace before the meal and said “Our purpose is to love, laugh and let our lights shine.” We had a delicious meal, drank wine, danced and had a great time.
When I walked into the reception and saw the decorations and flowers on the tables, I was in awe of how beautiful they looked. I really wanted the flower arrangements to be spectacular and was willing to pay the best price for the 50 pink and white roses I ordered. I picked up the flowers two days before the wedding and planned on making 8 table arrangements, my bridal bouquet, maid of honor’s bouquet and the centerpiece for the head table in the next 2 days.
I was shocked when I opened the boxes of roses when I got home. Many of the roses were damaged and turning brown and squished together. This could have been a nightmare and I surely could have lost my peace. Instead, I accepted “what is” and worked with what I had. I immediately called the florist to report the condition of the roses. Of course, they apologized and offered me a refund for the roses, which I gladly accepted. So, in the end, it all worked out and the flowers were beautiful. I had ordered exactly what I needed.
I went to my maid of honor’s house, Kati, to dress before the wedding. It was 5 minutes to 10 and the ceremony started at 10:00 am. We were about to leave her house to come to the ceremony when my phone rang. It was Larry and he said, “The minister needs the marriage license, do you have it?” I said, “No, I don’t have it.” I stayed calm and said, “look in your files, it must be there.” Within a few minutes he came back on the phone and reported, “I found it.” OMG can you imagine what a disaster that could have been because the minister would not have been able to marry us without it. There were 45 guests all sitting and waiting for me to arrive and the ceremony to start. Sorry folks wedding is canceled because we lost the paper.
There were other small things that happened during the day that I was able to dismiss and not lose my peace over. It was like nothing mattered and I focused on what was important. It was truly a sacred, magical wedding day for us that we will never forget.
It was like a double header. The next day was Mother’s Day and Mary and Herbie made me breakfast. We spent the day together at the beach and had a blast in the pool. Larry and I (and all my girlfriends) fell in love with that little guy. He is an amazing soul full of light and love. We are so blessed to have him in our family.
Today is our 1 week anniversary of our marriage and we are still integrating the powerful energy of love that was present. Many people have shared that our marriage is like a fairy tale come true. I am in awe of God’s grace and faithfulness. I am grateful for all the love, support and help we received to make our wedding the best day of my life. .
When you receive this blog, I will be in the “sky” on my way to visit my family in Rhode Island. I am excited to see my children and friends and very excited to meet my new grandson, Jared, who will be 4 months old at the end of this month. Of course, pictures are wonderful, but I can’t wait to get him in my arms and love him up.
My heart and home are in Maui so it is bitter-sweet leaving here this Christmas. I waited many years to meet my soulmate and celebrate Christmas together. This is my first Christmas with Larry and we will be apart. Of course, it is my choice to leave Maui and his choice not to join me, but that doesn’t make it any easier.
I make choices every day and trust that they are for my highest good and for the good of all. Perhaps you have heard the quote and even experienced it for yourself, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” We shall see, because I can’t imagine our hearts & love growing any stronger for one another. I have never experienced the kind of love that we have for one another. He writes me poems, sings me songs, sends me cards and brings me flowers. Although this is awesome and I love it, most of all, he SEES who I am and loves me just the way I am. We laugh all the time and have learned to live in the moment. As Larry says, “We never know when our train is going to come into the station.”
For many years Larry said to himself, “I know I can have it all and I now have it all with you.” My heart skips a beat when he tells me that. God has brought us together (just as He promised) and my heart is so grateful. If I were to die tomorrow, I know I have been loved unconditionally and deeply.
Many of my girlfriends and perhaps some of you who are reading this today have the same heart’s desire, and that is to have a loving partner to spend the rest of your life with. For 12 years, the desire of my heart was to have a relationship that was authentic, spiritual, loving, honest and playful. Believe me, it wasn’t always easy waiting and I tried to control and make things happen. I got angry and pouted and felt jealous when I saw others find a boyfriend. I sometimes thought, “What’s wrong with me, why haven’t I met a man yet?” I remember driving home from dances with tears rolling down my cheeks because I felt so lonely.
I have a chapter in my book, “Simply a Woman of Faith” about my struggle while waiting for my soul mate to show up and what I received in an email shortly after I asked this question.
God what’s wrong with me? Why haven’t I met my soul mate yet?
“But God said: not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and content with being loved by me alone. I love you my child and until you discover that only in me is your satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable
of the perfect relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be united with another until you are united with me, exclusive of any other longings or desires. I want you to stop wishing, planning and allow me to give you the most thrilling plan existing, one that you cannot imagine. I want you to have the best. Please allow me to bring it to you. You just keep watching, learning and listening to the things I tell you. You must wait. Do not be anxious or worried. You must keep looking off and away, up to me, or you will miss what I want to show you. And then you will be ready. I will surprise you with a love that
is far more wonderful than you could every dream of.
While on a spiritual retreat a few months later, I received this in prayer and meditation. It is a love letter from God.
Be at peace; be at peace, trust, trust. Beyond your wildest dreams will your soul mate come into your life. He will come to you. You don’t have to do anything, but just BE. Learn to love yourself
Compassionately. You are beautiful, cherished and loved. All is well and on time. Practice being in the moment. Let Joy exude from you. It is your Joy that will draw your mate. I give you the gift of Joy this day.
As I read these words from my book, I am amazed and in awe how I am living my dream today. I waited, surrendered, believed, expected and trusted that this was God’s promise to me. I am grateful that I put God first in my life and had the courage to stop wishing, planning and allowed God to give me the most thrilling plan existing, one that I couldn’t imagine. I do have the best.
I became my own best friend and fell in love with myself. I stepped out in faith and followed my heart to live on Maui, leaving my family, friends and community. It was truly God’s grace and my willingness to trust that God was leading me and that I was worthy and deserving to live in paradise.
I humbly share my story with you to encourage you and give you HOPE. God is faithful and God wants only your highest good. He has given you the desires of your heart. Believe and have faith they will come to pass.
Mele Kalikimaka and Hau’oli Makahiki Hou
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. May it be the best one yet.
I am really excited and looking forward to traveling back to RI to visit my family and friends next week. We are having our 3rd annual family reunion at my daughter, Mary’s, farm. She is an amazing hostess and cook and goes all out for our reunion. She certainly didn’t learn her cooking skills from her mamma. I am learning from her and now I make what she calls a “Farm Breakfast” in Maui.
Larry will be joining me for two weeks and we will visit his sons who also live on the east coast. I am looking forward to my children meeting him and he meeting my children. After all, for the last 2 years when I talked about my friendship with Larry to Mary, she would always say, “Mom, what is up with you and Larry, you are always together?” I would simply say, “Mary, we are just friends and we are happy with that,” end of story!!! Well, it wasn’t the end of the story, but just the beginning because Spirit had other plans and I had to be hit over the head to see that my soul mate was right in front of me all of the time. I now know that the TIMING wasn’t right and we both had to do some “inner work” to be ready to receive the glorious gift of spiritual love that we are now experiencing.
I am so grateful that I didn’t give up or get discouraged. I kept believing and trusting that I followed my heart when I moved to Maui to meet my soul mate. I trusted that God had placed the desire of my heart in my heart and it would be fulfilled in God’s perfect timing. Of course, there were times when I felt down and even angry that we hadn’t met yet, especially when I saw friends getting into relationships.
I allowed myself to feel my feelings and then moved through them and practiced being grateful for exactly where I was. I have a card that my friend, Mary, sent me that I just love to read. It says: “Good things happen to those who wait.” I am very happy that I waited because I have never experienced this kind of love before.
Many of you who have been reading my blogs for the last few years know my journey and how I manifested living in Maui. For those of you who are new to my blog, I would like to share some of the path that I took to be living my dream.
It started in August 2010, when a woman by the name of Ruth called and asked me if I would be interested in speaking at the Westminster Unitarian Church in Rhode Island. Ruth said, “I saw your name on a flier for another event that you were speaking at.” I said, “Yes, I would be happy to do that and I will send you a copy of my book, Simply a Woman of Faith.”
A few days before I was scheduled to speak at the church, Ruth and I met to discuss the songs and format of the service. When we were done, Ruth said, “Pat, being a woman of faith, what do you want to do next in your life?” I said, “I want to MOVE to Hawaii.” Ruth then said, “Well, I will introduce you to Ellen after the service because she lives in Hawaii.” I smiled and said. “Thank you, I would appreciate that.”
And the rest is history and little did I know that my life was about to change dramatically. When Ruth introduced me to Ellen after the service, Ellen said, “I am stepping out in faith and moving back to Maui.” I said, “It has always been my dream to VISIT Maui.” Ellen looked me in the eyes and said, “You can stay with me for as long as you want and you can use my car while you are there.” She then pulled out a post card from her pocketbook with her condo overlooking the ocean on it.
Of course, I was shocked but my spirit soared because I sensed this was a gift from God. I asked myself, “Would I be able to RECEIVE this gift graciously and say yes?” After all, I didn’t even know this woman and she didn’t know me. After I went home and prayed about it, I called Ellen and asked if I could visit her for Thanksgiving for two weeks. She was thrilled and said “YES.”
This was a big step for me as I had never been away from my children for Thanksgiving and I had never traveled 5,000 miles for a vacation. And on of top of that, I didn’t even know Ellen and I was going to be living with her in her home. I guess you could call that “stepping out in faith” or just a “gutsy lady.” I kind of like “gutsy lady.” What do you think?
“Mother Maui” was magical, mystical and beautiful. Not only was she beautiful with her flowers, mountains and oceans, but there was a presence of Spirit that pulsates your very being. I find it hard to put into words the feelings it evokes in me, other than love, peace and joy. People smile and say hello and there is a feeling of oneness with all.
Needless to say, I fell in love with “Mother Maui” and I think “Mother Maui” fell in love with me. I knew in my Spirit that something very deep inside of me had shifted, but at the time, I didn’t know what it was. When I left to go home, Ellen said to me, “Keep the vision of coming back.” I did keep the vision and returned for 1 month the next year. It was then that I heard Spirit inviting me back to live for 6 months.
Again, I stepped out in faith, bought my plane ticket back to Maui and rented my condo in RI. I learned many valuable lessons the 6 months I lived there. But most of all, I learned how TO BE in the mystery of not knowing and to live in the moment.
In September 2012, I moved back to Maui to live permanently and I have never been happier. The legend is that “Mother Maui” will spit you out if you are not meant to be there. Thank you “Mother Maui” for embracing me to be your vessel of love.
I was delighted when Ruth called me a few months ago and told me she was coming to Maui for a month. She invited me to speak at her church again when I return next week. I will be speaking at the Westminster Unitarian Church in East Greenwich, Rhode Island on August 17 . The service starts at 9:30 a.m. and you are all invited. I am thrilled to be sharing my faith and all that has manifested in my life – all because I said YES to the invitation from God and YES to Ellen’s generosity. The title of my talk is “Living in the Mystery of Faith and Trusting in the Divine Plan.”
While Ruth was visiting here, we talked about our first meeting together before I spoke at the service. What is interesting is that Ruth reminded of me of what I said about wanting to LIVE in Hawaii. I don’t remember saying that I wanted to LIVE in Hawaii. I thought I just said, I wanted to VISIT Hawaii. Be careful what you say because you just might get it! I love how the Universe works and what you think about you bring about.
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