As I was pulling out of the restaurant parking lot last Sunday, I could hardly believe my eyes when I saw a sign on the back bumper of the car parked next to me. It read, Relax – God is in control. I beeped for my friend Glenn to get out of his car so he could also see the sign. I said, Holy S…… He said, “Are you kidding me? It is the exact words we just talked about as we walked out of the restaurant.” He was speechless other than a softly uttered “thank you” because we knew this was GOD speaking to us both. He took a picture of the car and put it as a screen saver on his phone to help him remember the message! He said, “This is a message I can’t afford to ignore, a message clearly given out of Love and felt in my Soul.” We left the restaurant in awe of the power of God and the love we both felt. It truly was a “Divine Connection.”
I almost missed this “Divine Connection” of God speaking to us through the bumper sticker because I was coming from a place of lack and scarcity. Let me explain. I met Glenn at the church we both attended, and after the service he asked me, “Would you like to go to lunch?” I hesitated at first because I didn’t want to spend the money. I had been out to lunch with friends several times that week and I didn’t feel comfortable spending any more money. I said, “Thank you for the invitation, but I will have to pass for today.”
After he left the church, I quickly realized I was coming from lack and scarcity because I did have the money. I ran out after him and called his name. “Glenn, I changed my mind and I would be happy to go to lunch with you.” I was honest and said, “I was coming from a place of lack and scarcity and I no longer choose to live in a state of lack.” He told me a few days later what he heard after he left the church to go to his car.. “Glenn, walk slow, she might change her mind” and then “listen, in case she calls your name” right before I called his name. I am so grateful that we were both listening to our “inner voice” and God (which I believe are the same.)
While driving to the restaurant, I heard God say, “I want you to pay for his lunch too.” When I hear God, I listen. When the bill came, I grabbed for it and told him, “I am buying.” He looked uncomfortable and said, “This is killing me.” I asked why and he said, “I have to learn to receive and not always be giving.” He was learning to receive and I was practicing not to live in lack and scarcity.
We sat in the restaurant for two hours and the conversation about life and spirituality just flowed. We talked about the importance of not “reacting” and making decisions out of fear and lack . His parting words to me were, “I think I need to put the brakes on in my life.” I then told him about my sign RELAX that I purchased several years ago when I was rushing and trying to make things happen and it wasn’t working. I desperately needed to learn to RELAX. He described himself as an ACTION person and that he had tried everything in his life to be happy. He admitted that he was hitting walls and didn’t know what to do next. I shared how I have learned to trust and accept that I am right where I need to be and that “Not Knowing what was next” was okay.
Glenn sent me an email after our “Divine Connection” and said, “Pat, before I attended church that morning, I asked myself, What are you going to do about your life? A numb feeling of distress filled me as I held back the true fear that was rushing through me. I was struggling and in need of help, help to learn how to care for myself as I did for others. I was trapped in my own mind-set surrounded by my personal weaknesses and feeling overwhelmed.”
He shared with me, “As I soaked in every word you said at lunch, I finally felt the connection to my Creator push forward from where I had buried it. My hope began to come back, my sense of calm re-appeared and the confidence in my spiritual path and a better tomorrow over-took me. Thank You God for the message I needed. Thank you Pat for pointing it out. Thank you for the lunch that led me back to the path that I cherish and has brought me so much peace and happiness since its inception that I have to pinch myself to know it’s not a wonderful dream.”
I am grateful that I listened to my intuition and acted “quickly” and that I was able to be honest with Glenn. I am grateful that Glenn was open and asked for what he needed. I am grateful to God for His love, for speaking to us both so powerfully and allowing me to serve him that day.
I thought about the bumper sticker all week and how it applied to my life. My house was on the market for one week and I was feeling some impatience (can you imagine that) that no one had looked at my house yet. When I went to bed that night, I prayed for a dream and asked God if I should lower the price of my house. All I remembered about the dream in the morning was that I was rushing. It felt like God was reassuring me not to rush that everything was under control.
As I took my walk the next day, God impressed on my heart exactly what I needed to do: rather than worrying, being fearful, living in the “what ifs” and the HOW and WHEN my house will sell, I needed to up the ante with my affirmation of gratitude “Thank you God for the right and perfect person to buy my house for the right price and right timing.” So it became my mantra whenever I thought about the house and it brought me peace and serenity.
On another note, I opened my email a few days ago and there was an email from my son Tim. He commented on my last blog and said, “When I looked at the picture that read KEEP ON PATH, what I saw was KEEP ON PAT H – KEEP ON! I loved it. So I will leave you with KEEP ON, KEEP ON!
I returned safely to Rhode Island last Wednesday and on Thursday I felt like I was on a mission to get my house ready to put on the market as soon as I could. I called the real estate agent and made an appointment to sign the contract, I contacted my friend Steve to do some painting and got quotes for a new air conditioner unit that had been broken for several years. It all happened with peace, ease and grace and within 4 days everything was accomplished. Steve painted my ceilings on Monday and a new air conditioning unit was installed on Saturday. There is no messing around with this gal! My daily affirmation is “Everything is flowing with peace, ease and grace.” Remember, we get what we EXPECT and I am expecting peace, ease and grace in all my affairs.
My tenant,Carrie Ann, who was renting my house while I was in Maui, found a lovely condo and moved out on Saturday with peace, ease and grace as well. After she moved out, I spent the weekend putting things back in order the way I liked them, and although I love my home, I know in my heart that I no longer belonged here. I felt like I had already let go and was ready to move on.
When I went to bed on Friday night, I felt excited and happy to be back long enough to see my family and friends, but also felt a little sad & out of sorts because I missed the ocean and the Maui aloha spirit. It almost felt like I had lost my mojo. So before I went to bed, I said to God, “I have to do my weekly blog, but I don’t have anything to write about. Please give me a story.” God heard my prayer.
As many of you know from reading my book, Simply a Woman of Faith, I am the “Yard Sale Queen” and always pray for what I need, when I get in the car to go yard sailing. So this first Saturday home was no different. I knew exactly what I needed and what I wanted to pay for the queen size sheets that were in perfect condition, which I knew I would find at the yard sale. When I walked into the first yard sale which was only a couple of blocks away, I quickly perused the area, but didn’t see any sheets. So I asked the woman, “Do you have any queen size sheets for sale?” She thought for a moment and then said, “Yes, I do. I didn’t put them out, but they are in the house and I know exactly where they are. We just bought a king size bed and I can no longer use the queen size sheets.” I had visualized paying $5 dollars for the sheets and guess what she wanted for the sheets? Yes, 5 dollars! Not only were they in perfect condition, but they were right price and the right color.
I left the yard sale thanking God for answering my prayer so quickly. As I drove down the street, I spotted a “lady bug” flag hanging from one of the houses. Tears came to my eyes because lady bugs are one of my symbols that God often speaks to me through. It felt like a “God Wink” and God was saying, “Keep going Pat, you are on the right track and you haven’t lost your mojo.” At the next yard sale, I saw a red cardinal on a shirt that was for sale. Cardinals are another one of my signs. God was certainly “showing up” for me, or my eyes just opened to see the signs all around me. So often we miss the signs because we rush around and miss how God wants to give us a “God Wink.”
My next yard sale find was a practically brand new HUGE brown suitcase with wheels on it that fit the whole trunk of my car. I wasn’t looking for a suitcase, but once I saw it I knew that it was exactly what I needed when I return to Maui with all my “stuff.” And the price was right at 5 dollars. God knows I love bargains and provided for me even when I hadn’t asked specifically for a suitcase.
This story gets even better! As I drove away from that yard sale, I spotted a sign that read “FREE STUFF” by the curb. I love bargains, but I love FREE STUFF even more. I quickly pulled over and saw a large white bookcase that was in excellent condition. I knocked on the door to make sure it really was FREE. A man answered the door and said, “Yes, it is free and I have another one upstairs, would you like that one too?” I quickly answered, “Yes, that would be great.” I knew it would be perfect for my daughter Mary to display her herbs and teas at her shop, Farmacy Herbs. He proceeded to tell me they were in the process of moving and had to have everything out by the next day. I called Mary to see when she could pick the bookcases up and she couldn’t get there until Monday. To my surprise, John (we were now friends as we realized that our kids played together when they were in grammar school) said to me, “Where do you live?” When I told him where I lived, he said, “I have a truck and will deliver them to your house if you would like.” Now that is God in action!
Before moving out, Carrie Ann mentioned to me that she needed a desk for her new condo, so that kind of just came out of my mouth and I said, “You don’t have a desk that you want to get rid of, do you?” They looked at one another and said, “Let’s give it to her.” So not only did I get 2 bookcases, but I also got a desk for Carrie Ann. A few hours later, John delivered THREE bookcases and a desk to my house. Can you imagine that he thanked me for taking his stuff? I was so grateful and wanted to give him something in return. I knew he would be insulted if I offered him money, so I gave him a copy of my book Simply a Woman of Faith for him and his wife Kathleen to read. He was thrilled.
Do you ask for what you need? Do you not want to bother God for the small things in life that you need? Do you feel worthy to ask for what you want? My God wants to supply all of my needs and yours too. God answers specific small prayers like my request for sheets and also anticipates what we need without us even asking for it; like the suitcase, bookcases and desk. I have come to trust that God knows what I need before I even ask.
We need to be open to receive and not be afraid to ask for our needs to be met. Every need is always met, and while your prayers may not be answered immediately, and may even take years to be answered, the important thing is to be patient and continue to believe in God’s perfect timing. Never give up on your dreams because God placed them in your heart and God is faithful.
P.S. God has a sense of humor! I went to a swing dance on Saturday night and counted 8 guys that were wearing Hawaiian shirts – and they didn’t know I was coming! It made me feel right “at home” and reminded me that I got my mojo back!
Science of Mind-A Guide for Spiritual Living, January 2012
God’s only desire for your life is to give you all the good that you can imagine. Your desire for a better life is God-in-you waking up to what’s possible for you. Your unwillingness to settle for less than what you really want is God-in-you knowing Its worth. Your dissatisfaction with old, limited ways of thinking that one group to have power and resources over another is God-in-you knowing that we are all one. I am a conscious co-creator. I am awake and ready to take on my destiny.
I am practicing letting go of the “need to know” what will happen tomorrow, the next month or next year. Believe me, it is a daily practice to let go of the “need to know” and trust that all is well in the present moment. This is not easy because I feel safe when I think I know what’s coming next, although this is an illusion because no one is guaranteed tomorrow. All I have is this precious present moment to live as I choose – in love or in fear. I have learned from experience that life is short and I don’t get to know when a loved one will leave this earth. I believe that the “need to know” is about wanting to be in control – which stems from fear of the unknown.
For example, I am letting go of the “need to know” where I will live when I return to Maui in September, and when my house will sell in Rhode Island, and when I will meet my soul mate, and if my money will run out or if I get sick, who will take care of me in Maui! In other words, I am doing my part through prayer, meditation, listening to the small still voice within and following my intuition. I am leaving the HOWS up to God and letting go of the outcomes. That doesn’t mean that I don’t have a plan, because I do, but I am surrendering my plan to the divine plan and this is where I find my peace.
The “need to know” kept me paralyzed for 7 years while writing my book. I was afraid to risk and take the next step to move toward my dream of writing my book. But for the grace of God, I faced my fears, published my book and my life has never been the same. I left my job of 20 years as a therapist to start my own spiritual business and now I am moving to Maui to live.
Many people stay stuck in jobs or relationships that are unfulfilling or unhappy because of fear and the “need to know” how it will turn out. The spiritual path is about taking one step at a time and walking in faith while being open to receive more good, and then being available for the gifts that God wants to give. I have learned to just do the next right thing, trusting God will open or close the door for my highest good, as I move in faith. I trust that doing the next right thing is going back to Rhode Island June 27, selling my condo, and letting go of my “stuff” that I have accumulated over the last 33 years.
For me, the spiritual path is about surrendering my will and trusting in a Power greater than myself. That is living in faith. Faith is always the path for me whether it is having faith in God, faith in myself, faith in the universe and that everything is unfolding according to a divine plan. I am using the same “proactive thanksgiving prayer” that I did when I moved to Maui in January, which worked out better than I could have imagined. This is how I pray: “Thank you God for the perfect and right place to live in Maui and thank you God for the perfect and right person to buy my house.” Norman Vincent Peale writes “Do not always ask when you pray, but instead affirm that God’s blessings are being given.” An affirmation that I use is “I am in love with the adventure of life.” I am very excited about my “new life and adventure” and can’t wait to see how it all unfolds. I know I will be sharing many miracle stories.
I would like to share a recent example of “being present” and doing the next right thing. I went to the ocean early in the morning to pray, mediate and go for a swim. As I walked down the beach after my swim, I said a quick prayer, “God, please lead me to someone to talk to.” I went back to my chair and sat down. Within a short time, this young man with a big tattoo on his arm literally plopped down “right next to me on the sand” and started talking to me. I thought it was a little odd (and scary) especially since he had a brown bag with a bottle of beer in it that he was drinking for lunch. I thought to myself, “Okay, God is this you and what do want me to say to him?” He talked about himself for quite a while and told me he was a musician, an artist, a writer and had lived in Maui for 5 years. I silently prayed while we continued the conversation. I asked him what he liked most about Maui and he said, “The temperature and the ocean.” He then asked me, “What do you like the best about Maui?” I said, “The energy and spirituality of the island.” That opened the conversation to a whole new level. I asked him, “Are you connected to a power greater than yourself?” His face lit up and he said, “Yes, I am and I am on a spiritual path.”
Scott and I talked for 1 ½ hours about God, Source, finding your purpose, love, values and the importance of meditation and a daily spiritual practice. I shared with him some of my stories in my book and he got “real quiet” and choked up when I told him my “blouse story” and how God provided for me. I told him I had prayed to be led to talk to someone that morning. He smiled and said, “That’s heavy and rad!” I guess that’s a good thing!
It was so refreshing talking to a young man who wants to make a difference in the world and is on the spiritual path. By the time we left, we were old buddies and we hugged each other and thanked each other for being there and sharing. As he walked away, he kept turning back and saying “thank you and God bless you.” I never know who or what will “show up” and when my prayers will be answered, and I also learned I can’t judge a book by its cover.
Then I decided I needed to be more specific in my prayer! “God, lead me to a man who is spiritual, tall, dark and handsome and my age, not my kids age! I trust that when I meet my soul mate and tell him I prayed and visualized us getting married; he will also think that’s “Rad.” Tonight, while taking my walk on the beach, I saw 5 weddings. I know it will be my turn soon because God is faithful and knows the desires of my heart – because God has placed them there. All I have is this present moment to live my life to the fullest and enjoy what God has given me. I am living my dream. How about you?
MY SOUL HAS PATIENCE AND CONTAINMENT – Heart Steps, Julia Cameron
I am patient. I am able to live with ambiguity. I am able to allow situations to evolve and alter. I am able to await outcomes. I tolerate quiet periods of non-knowing while solutions emerge and present themselves. I do not force solutions. I expect the successful working-out of difficulties and differences. My heart is wise. It knows when to act and when non-action is the action to take. I trust my patient heart. I trust the power of my containment.
Have you ever been in a place where you did something that just didn’t make sense, but you knew you were following your heart rather than your head? Family and friends may have looked at you like you were out of your mind. They may have even tried to control or guilt you by telling you “their truth.” But there was a knowing and a rightness inside of you that you knew you had to do what your heart was calling you to do. It was like you were being “compelled or propelled” to follow your dream no matter what the outside world was saying. I have experienced this in my own life and it took determination, strength, faith and courage to step out and follow my dream. I had to let go of wanting others approval and trust myself that I was following God’s plan for my life. I have come to understand that others mean well and are not out to hurt me, but they may have not been given the grace that I have been given, and they don’t know what is best for me. I am practicing standing tall in my own truth and it feels good. What are you being called to do that doesn’t make sense but you know in your heart that it is right for you? I am not suggesting that you don’t use your head in this process because you must, but you don’t have to allow your head to come up with all sorts of reasons as to why you shouldn’t follow your heart. I encourage you to trust yourself and step out in faith, trusting that God is guiding you and will open and close doors as you move forward.
As I reflect back over the years on my spiritual journey, I realize how many times I’ve been called to do things that just didn’t make sense, but after prayer and meditation, I did it anyway. For example, at the age of 62, I left a secure good paying job to follow my heart and start a new business as a coach, author and speaker. I would not be where I am today and living my dream in Hawaii if I hadn’t taken that step in faith. It wasn’t easy to do because I didn’t have a husband to rely on financially, as I did previously. I can honestly say that all of my needs have been provided for and often in miraculous ways. So many wonderful doors have opened because I stepped out in faith and trusted in the divine plan. In regards to guidance, my prayer has always been “God, open or close the door for my highest good.” Doors have been closed in my face at the very last minute and at other times, doors have been opened at what seemed like the very last minute too!
Another example was when I wanted to hire Lisa Tener as my book coach because I thought she was the best. Because she was the best, she was also the most expensive. It didn’t make sense to hire her since I didn’t have the money, but after praying about it, it felt right. I called her and said, “Lisa, I am hiring you and I trust the money will come.” That same day while balancing my checking account, I miraculously found $1500 in my account, which is what she charged at the time. I had received a bonus check from my company that I had no idea I was receiving. The timing was perfect!
Certainly buying a plane ticket to Maui before I rented my condo or had to place to live in when I got here didn’t make sense, but I did it because it felt right and I trusted the “knowingness” within my heart. What I am talking about is called faith. We are often called to step out in faith before we have the answers or HOW it will happen. That’s the hard part for most of us, including me, not knowing HOW it will happen because we can’t see what’s ahead. It’s really about trusting God is in control and has our back covered. I have learned that the HOW is God’s work, not mine. I just need to know what I want and to dream big – and that is a process in itself. In my experience it is only after I make the commitment and say yes to what my heart is calling me to do, that the Universe sends me what I need – and at the perfect time. It is after I make the commitment and say yes that the peace comes. I am still amazed that the night before I left for Maui 3 months ago I received 2 unexpected gifts of $5,000. Now that’s God!
I am so grateful for the gift of faith that I can share with you and inspire you to follow your heart, because in following your heart, I believe you are following God. I would love to hear your story of how you followed your dream, even though it didn’t make sense.
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Angel Card that I picked today – Have Confidence
“Moving forward does not necessarily require you to have confidence in yourself. Confidence in God is enough, along with knowing that God works through you and with you in all ways. Lean upon the angels if your confidence wavers, and we will buoy your courage and faith.”
SEVEN MIRACULOUS TIPS WHEN FEAR GRIPS
1. SLOW DOWN AND BREATHE- PLUG INTO THE POWER WITHIN – MEDITATE, PRAY, JOURNAL
2. FEEL YOUR FEELINGS- NAME IT- TAME IT. DON’T JUDGE YOUR FEELINGS AS RIGHT OR WRONG
3. IDENTIFY LIMITING BELIEFS: USE AFFIRMATIONS TO CHANGE YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
4. REMEMBER WHAT GOD HAS DONE IN THE PAST & WHO YOU ARE AS A CHILD OF GOD. ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT
5. BE GRATEFUL-FOCUS ON THE GOOD RATHER THAN WHAT’S MISSING IN YOUR LIFE. WRITE A GRATITUDE LIST
6. FORGIVE & LOVE YOURSELF, DON’T SHAME YOURSELF FOR YOUR FEARS, BE COMPASSIONATE WITH YOURSELF
7. SURRENDER: LET GO OF CONTOL & LET GOD
I have been searching for inner peace for all of my life and for many years in all the wrong places! I looked outside of myself to people, places and things for peace, but it didn’t work, and I found that nothing would fill the hole in my soul, no matter how hard I tried. I suspect I am not alone in this and that the same may be true for you. Did you hope that the perfect relationship, career, house, financial security, car would bring you the peace you so desire? Of course, there is nothing wrong with any of the above and we all want love, abundance, good relationships and fulfilling careers. This is our spiritual birthright.
The peace I’m talking about is the “Peace That Passes All Understanding.” It’s the peace that comes from within. It is the peace that the world cannot take away. It is peace in your mind and in your heart that allows you to be at peace with yourself, and at peace with others. You are peaceful because you have a deep “inner knowing” that all will turn out for the good of all concerned and you feel safe. It is trusting in a Power greater than yourself that loves and cares about you.
You will be at peace when you choose to be at peace, no matter what is going on in the world around you, so make your daily intention to be peaceful. Every morning my daily ritual is to get on my knees, say the serenity prayer and pray my intention to be peaceful, loving and to be of service.
Peace is an inside job and I believe that connecting with your Source, whether you call that God, Universe, Buddha, Love, Spirit, Intelligence, Higher Power is the answer and the way to inner peace. So, what does it mean to “go within?” It means spending time with yourself, meditating, discovering what you like and don’t like, what you are passionate about and what your dreams are. It’s discovering who you really are on the inside, which is a magnificent spiritual being that is loved and cherished just as you are.
What do you think keeps you from going inside? Is it fear? Are you afraid of what you will find on the inside that you may not like? You may encounter feelings of shame, guilt, self-hatred, abandonment, rejection, low self esteem or depression, and one of the ways women avoid and deny what’s inside, is through drinking, drugging or eating sugar. The other way is through addictive behaviors such as people pleasing, approval seeking, perfectionism, control, workaholism, gambling, internet, excessive TV, shopping, not good enoughism, rushing and staying busy. All of these addictive behaviors medicate and numb the awareness of your feelings.
If you want to have inner peace, you need to take time to listen to your feelings and not dismiss or avoid them. It takes courage to be yourself, to feel and express your feelings. Feelings are the gateway to who you are. They are there to help you know yourself and know what you need to do next. They give you clues if something is wrong, to help you protect yourself and keep yourself safe. They are part of the human condition and we all have them. Feelings are a gift from the Universe.
Over the years of practicing going within and having a daily spiritual discipline, I have learned to slow down, honor myself and rest when I need to. I allow things to happen organically and I trust my inner guidance, intuition and wisdom. I have learned to receive my answers through prayer and meditation and by connecting to the Divine guidance within. Creating a peaceful life is of great importance to me and I do whatever I need to do to maintain that peace. Learning to live peacefully has been a process that I practice every day. If I do get caught up in the drama of my own or someone else’s experiences and lose my sense of inner peace, I re-connect with Spirit through prayer and meditation.
“I am calling you, I am calling you, I am calling you” is what I heard almost 3 years ago while meditating and listening to an instrumental CD. I wasn’t expecting to hear the man’s voice and the only words on the CD. “I am calling you.”
I knew in my spirit that it was God calling me to step out in faith and leave my job of 20 years as an Alcohol and Drug therapist to start my own business as a Spiritual Coach, Inspirational Speaker and Retreat/Workshop leader. This calling came one month after Simply a Woman of Faith was published. I prayed for 1 year and meditated to make sure it was God’s will and then took the leap in faith.
A call is God’s invitation to use your gifts and talents for the good of all involved.
- What is God calling you to do?
- What is God inviting you to do?
- What are your gifts and talents?
I believe God is calling each one of us to be His/Her hands, feet and mouth. The world needs you and your special gifts and talents. God has a plan for your life and for my life, but we must say YES.
That calling may show up as a persistent nagging feeling that you need to do something and make a difference in the world. It may be fighting for a cause, helping someone, working with children, animals, the elderly or writing a book about your life experiences. And the list goes on.
What I didn’t expect was God to shine his flashlight into my life and bring to light false unconscious beliefs that were limiting me and keeping me a prisoner. There was much inner work of changing my thinking that needed to be done. It was sometimes painful looking at myself and the story I created (that was not true.) I didn’t always like what I saw and kicked and screamed at times. During this pruning process of old beliefs, I have learned to ask for help, be vulnerable and be authentic and real.
It has been almost 2 years since I left my job. It has been exciting, fulfilling, scary, challenging, growth provoking and a time to trust myself and God deeper. Doors have opened that I never expected to open and many people have helped me along the way.
We must be willing to allow the work of Spirit, no matter how painful or overwhelming. Saying YES to God’s calling means showing up daily and plugging into the power and trusting the process. It’s following God wherever you are led and using your gifts for the good of others. It’s the only way to live a joyful, fulfilling life. Face your fears and walk tall in your own truth.
Will you say YES to God and use your gifts for the world? The world needs you and your talents. It is time! Are you ready?
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