We all want to be seen, heard, appreciated and loved. Would you agree? It feels good when someone really listens and hears me, without trying to fix, control, give advice or change me. They listen with their heart, rather than with their head and it feels very different. It feels good when someone takes the time to see who I truly am and what I’m experiencing. If you have someone in your life who sees, hears, appreciates and loves you, be grateful for you are blessed.
Whenever Larry goes to the market, a restaurant or to the bank and the person is wearing a name tag, he always greets them using their name. It’s a way of seeing someone and appreciating them, even or especially when doing a service job. It’s such a small act of love and kindness, but it goes a long way and sometimes makes the person’s day to feel valued and recognized. I practice this now too and it feels good.
When Larry and I go to a restaurant, we often converse with the wait staff and somehow the conversation leads to the importance of gratitude and the power of love in our lives. We often leave hugging one another.
Gladys was our waitress at Café Ole when we went for breakfast on Sunday. I complimented her on her beautiful smile. I often compliment others when I see something I like; something they are wearing or their beautiful eyes or their smile. This is my way of showing kindness and appreciating what I see in others.
I keep small inspirational cards with me in my purse. When Spirit leads me, I give a card to someone or leave one at the table when I leave for the next person to find. I was led to randomly pick one for Gladys. It was, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, AND YOU WILL BE UNSTOPPABLE.
When I handed it to her, her whole face lit up and she said, “Thank you, I really needed this today. I’m going to put this where I can see it every day. This will really help me and you made my day. I’m just getting into real estate and I’m struggling with not feeling good enough.” Of course, we were all smiling and hugged one another when we left the restaurant.
A few days later, I was reading over my journal for the past month and came across a dream that I had. I was screaming “I AM ENOUGH.” I am not good enough is a core belief that we all struggle with to some degree. This belief was coming to the light to be released and healed.
The spiritual journey is about remembering who I am and that I am ONE with GOD. I am LOVE and I am connected to my source. Everything is perfect NOW and has already been planned in the mind of God. I don’t have to push, strive, worry, be better or smarter than or try to earn it. I can enjoy the journey, relax and live in peace.
If only it were that easy!!! We forget constantly who we are and that we are not alone. Our ego wants to rob us of our peace and the truth of our magnificence and that we are ONE with GOD.
“Know that whenever you feel good about yourself and your magnificence, ego will try to rob you. You must SPOT IT and then let it go. Stay in the truth of who you are and the loving being that you are. I am in charge of your life. Switch your focus from problems to my presence and keep choosing love.”
I encourage and support you to remember who you are and that you are good enough. You are LOVE and you are loved.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, & YOU WILL BE UNSTOPPABLE
Over the years several people have commented to me that I need to do a sequel to “Simply a Woman of Faith.” My friend, Joseph, (who has known me since I moved to Maui and knew that the desire of my heart was to meet my soul mate), recently said to Larry and I, “You have to write a book together, your story is like a modern day fairy tale.”
Since our marriage, I have heard this from several others and am beginning to believe it is God’s will for us. Friends are sharing with me that our relationship is a model for them in what they want and they know is attainable because of what they witness in our love relationship.
Writing a blog every week is different from writing a book together. Of course, some of the material we have written about this past year and our relationship would go into the book. Writing a book takes commitment, time, money and energy. The easier part, if you will, is writing it. The hard part is getting it out there for people to read and that includes marketing and book tours and giving talks.
I had to ask myself, “Do I have the energy for it and do I really want to do this?” I like my life the way it is and doing what I want when I want to. I was definitely in resistance and didn’t want to do it. I met with my friend, Margie, author of “One With God” a few days before we were married and she said she had a message from the Holy Spirit and that we were to write a book together.
If Spirit was speaking to me and I thought He was, Larry had to be on board with writing a book together. I did not want to write alone and I would not nag Larry to do it. He had to also know that it was God’s will for his life and this was a joint effort.
One day last week I wrote in my journal, “I am willing to write a book together because I think it is your will, but I need a sign. I don’t know how or what will happen. All I know is that I am willing and open. I need you to work in Larry’s heart and let him know it is your will.”
After I wrote this, I asked Holy Spirit for a message: “Watch and wait and be patient. I will speak to Larry’s heart.” The very next day, while we were having coffee, I shared an email with Larry that I had received that morning. It was from a friend from Unity Church. She sent a video of a TV show she had interviewed me on 6 years ago when I visited Maui for 1 month. I had no idea why she would send it to me now.
Larry had not seen the interview, so we decided to watch it together. In the TV interview I share why it took me 6 years to write my book. I had all kinds of excuses like: I don’t believe in myself, nobody would read it, I don’t have the time or money, I don’t know how to market and on and on.
As we sat and watched it together, I realized I had the same excuses today about writing a book that I had when I wrote “Simply a Woman of Faith” 8 years ago. Larry had the same excuses as I had and we
looked at one another and wondered if this was a sign from Spirit.
After we finished watching the TV show, I said, “Why did she send it to me now?” I emailed my friend and asked her why she sent it to me today? She wrote back and said, “Jason and I were looking at past TV shows and your name came up so we started to talk about you. I felt STRONGLY and so did Jason that we were to send it to you today.”
I am grateful that they listened to their inner voice and sent it to us when they did. Of course, they had no idea that we were considering writing a book together and that I had asked for a sign the day before. God does answer prayer and gives us what we need when we ask.
What worked for me in the past to finish my book was to make a commitment and be accountable to someone each week that I would work on the book. I prayed and asked Spirit who I was to be accountable to. That night I met with my friend, Kerri, and I shared what was going on with the book. She shared she had a project that she was working on and also felt drawn to be accountable to someone. We did a hand shake and agreed to be accountable to one another. Every Sunday, we will email or text that we did what we said we would do.
It truly is one day at a time and I am trusting that we are being guided every step of the way. We will be provided for and people will show up to help us. God has a plan and all we have to do is be willing and say “yes” to that plan. More than anything, I want to be aligned with God’s will in my life. If that means writing another book together, I say SO IT IS and I trust it will flow with peace, ease and grace.
Is there an area in your life where you are being called to be accountable so you can be in alignment with God’s will for your life?
My heart rejoiced when I looked outside my kitchen window and heard the red cardinal singing to me. I went up to the Star deck in my ohana which overlooks the ocean and the mountains of Maui. I just sat there still and mesmerized by the power of the ocean in front of me. I became ONE with the ocean, the mountains, the sky, the birds and with God.
It was an amazing feeling of freedom, light and love. I experienced the peace that passes all understanding deep in my heart because I realized that I was living my dream. It was as if I had come out of the darkness and into the light. I had pushed through the tunnel to get to the light. As I reflected on the past months (leaving home, family and friends) and what I had experienced through the trials and times of letting go, I realized through the grace of God that I had moved through the tunnel by allowing whatever needed to come up into the light to come up, without judgment or condemnation. I allowed myself to feel everything and loved and accepted that part of me that was scared to death. I also stayed in an “attitude of gratitude”, trusting that everything was happening for a reason. This is how the healing and transformation came about.
It is so easy to think, “I should be further along after all the years of therapy and spiritual work that I have done.” We may be tempted to beat up on ourselves for where we are on our journey, rather than accept we are exactly where we need to be. I have read that the deeper we go with God, the more we will see our darkness and what needs to be transformed and healed.
I also know through my own personal experience and my professional experience of being an alcohol and drug therapist how easy it is to numb/medicate our feelings through addictions. In my book, Simply a Woman of Faith, I write, “Rushing was my addiction. I constantly raced around, going from one thing to another. If I rushed and stayed busy, I didn’t have time to feel my feelings and go within. I felt powerful when I multi-tasked and felt in control. I always pushed myself to do and be more. I didn’t feel good enough and didn’t know how to relax. I disconnect from myself and from the divine energy of God within. When I rush, I’m not respecting myself or the God within.”
I received an email from a woman who had just read my blog that morning that touched my heart. I would like to share it with you. She writes, “This morning as I was reading your blog and looking out my window, I saw your words in action. I noticed the blind woman walking towards the clubhouse with her companion in front of her. The blind woman had her arm outstretched, her hand resting on her companion’s shoulder for guidance. I could not help but see the lesson in front of me. The blind woman, with each step, stepped out in complete faith and trust knowing that she was being safely guided and directed. I hope to keep this memory and call it up as often as needed. God is always in front of me ready to safely guide me, I need only put out my hand for assistance and He will guide and help me.”
Dictionary meaning of “guide” – One who shows the way by leading, directing, or advising, usually by reason of his greater experience with the course to be pursued.”
How blessed and grateful I am to have a God who is there to guide, direct and provide for me on my path. Guidance means GOD U & I dance. When I allow God to lead and I follow we dance beautifully together. It is when I try to lead and want my will instead of God’s will that I get in trouble and stumble and fall. Daily, I am learning to dance with God through prayer and meditation and by following my intuition.
I’ve shared in other blogs that God is my source and I trust in divine abundance and order. With my mouth wide open, I gasped when I opened the card I just received and saw a $100 dollar bill. There was a beautiful note that read, “Hi Pat, I chose to tithe to you, as my definition of tithing is to give to sources that spiritually feed me. I too am learning to put all my faith in God and ‘let go’ of the need to control things. Your blog continues to inspire me and strengthens my core beliefs that God will always provide. When things seem hard, just remember I am praying for you and you are not alone.” In the card was not only one $100 bill, but 5 one hundred dollar bills. Ironically, or better yet it was synchronicity that I just paid the day before $500 for the new “used” engine for my car that I picked up. God is good!
A couple of hours before this blog was scheduled to go out, I received another gift of $45 in the mail from a man who was also led to tithe to me. Thank you dear souls from the bottom of my heart – whether it be $500 or $45, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that God is faithful and I know when we trust with our whole heart and soul, we will always be provided for.
Writing my blog every week and being authentic is my way of serving and bringing glory to God. Taking the time to “hang out with God” reminded me of how loved and cherished I am.
Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness, right? I didn’t always believe that, but I do now. I am learning to ask and trust I will be heard and loved. I am also learning to go to people that I know will be there for me (and not judge or shame me.) We all know those types. Many people have a difficult time asking for help and find it much easier to give help than to receive it. Do you have a difficult time asking for help? Have you ever thought about why that is? Perhaps you thought others would think less of you or you wouldn’t make a good impression if you really shared your struggle or pain. You may have told yourself that you didn’t want to bother someone with your problems and that you should be able to figure things out by yourself. And the list goes on and on.
The truth of the matter is that when you allow yourself to be vulnerable and ask for help, you change and you allow another the opportunity to serve and love you. Learning to ask for help is just as important as giving help to others. Maybe more important.
I recently experienced the power of asking for help. I took a big risk by being vulnerable and shared what was coming up for me. After years of working on myself and deep healing, I felt shame that I was still experiencing some lower energy of not feeling deserving. I am currently involved in an online bootcamp for Spiritual Entreprenurers. We are encouraged to use the discussion board each week and share what’s going on. I decided to be authentic and ask the group for help. Instead of feeling judged and wrong, I received love and understanding and comfort.
After I sent the email to the group, I called my friend Linda in tears and asked for help. She said, “come over to my house right now and I will do energy healing on you and make you dinner.” I was already in my pajamas and had no make-up on. I said, “Ok, I will be right there.” I grabbed a coat and put it over my pajamas and jumped in the car. This was big for me, going out in my pajamas and no make-up on! I never go out without make-up on (and pajamas on.)
As I drove to her house, I already started to feel better. I felt like I had taken off my mask and was allowing her to be with me and love me just as I am. How liberating it felt. Her love and care touched me deeply. I felt peaceful and re-energized when I left. I was back on track knowing the truth of who I am – that I am ONE with God and God is all there is. All is well.
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