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We are all connected

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Apr
18

I love how we are all connected, whether someone is still living on this earth or has transitioned to the other side.  I had two experiences this week that prove this truth.

My grandmother died 42 years ago this week. I loved my grandmother and she supported me all through my life. I wouldn’t be who I am today without her love and affection. She nicknamed me “Angel” and I called her gram. In her eyes, I could do no wrong.  I spent a lot of time at her house and loved sitting and having a cup of tea with her. She always had “time” for me and listened to whatever I was going through.

I woke up in the middle of the night and couldn’t get back to sleep. I pray when I can’t sleep. I’m not sure if I had a dream about gram or not, but I remembered that the anniversary of her death was this week.

I will be 75 years young in October.  As I was thinking about gram, I wasn’t sure if she was 75 years old when she died. I thought, “Oh my goodness, gram was old!” I didn’t see myself old like she was. It kind of felt like a little wake-up call.

Something about almost being her age when she died was getting my attention. Was it an invitation to enjoy my life even more than I am, to let go of what no longer serves me because we are not promised tomorrow? All I have is this NOW moment. I have an affirmation that I say every day. “I am worthy and deserving to enjoy “my amazing life” that I have co-created with God. It is flowing with love, peace, joy, happiness, abundance, and radiant health.

I decided to text my cousin, Doreen, in the morning to confirm gram’s age. I immediately received a telephone call from Doreen saying, “OMG, I don’t believe it. You have been on my mind and I just finished writing you a card. I was recently cleaning out some things and found 2 of gram’s prayer cards when she died. I haven’t seen those cards in 42 years. I am sending one to you.”

I received the prayer card a few days later. Here is what it said:

Deep waters cannot quench LOVE, nor floods sweep it away. I allowed myself to feel the love in my heart and to know gram was still there loving and supporting me. 

Here is another example of knowing we are all connected:

A few nights later, I was awake again and thought about a friend who I have shared about in past blogs. After a 30 year friendship, she didn’t want to be friends anymore. I felt hurt, rejected, and abandoned. I had to grieve the loss of my friend and accept and forgive if I were to have peace in my life.

I was very pleased when Spirit bought her to mind in the middle of the night and I had no triggers or ill feelings toward her. In the past, I had hoped that she would see the “light” and want to be friends again. I felt only love and peace for her.

The next morning when I opened my phone I received a text message from her saying, “I have been thinking about you and wanted to see how you and Larry were doing.”  We are connected in the mind of God.

I sent a message back and thanked her for her love and for the memories and special times we had together. I had done my grief work and had forgiven her because I felt complete and healed.   

A Divine Set-up

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Feb
27

Within days apart I was led to share my “faith story” twice of how I followed my heart and moved to Maui. One was with a married couple and the other was with a single mom with 3 children. Both were divinely set-up by the Universe to inspire and encourage them to step out in faith and follow their dreams.

I met Bob and Kim while walking the path as they were leaving the Marriott to go for their walk. They asked, “Do you live here, and is it expensive?” I answered, “Yes, it is expensive but you learn where to buy food and shop for what you need.”  They were vacationing from Colorado and their dream was to buy a condo while they were here.

The conversation flowed and went “deep” fast. We shared the “same language” of faith and trust in God. We had a lot in common and Bob shared he was writing an inspirational book. I shared my book, Simply a Woman of Faith, and how I followed my heart and moved to Maui 10 years ago.

When we parted it felt like we had known each other for a long time and exchanged numbers and emails. I told them I would pray for them and knew if it was God’s will, they would find the perfect condo to buy. I received a text from them 2 days after we met that they had found a condo and made an offer. God moves fast when you are willing to face your fears, step out in faith and trust your heart.

I met Kristie a few days after meeting the couple. I was again walking on the path and had stopped to watch the whales breaching in the ocean.  I turned to the young woman next to me and said, “Some people stop to smell the roses, we stop to watch the whales.”  She smiled and said, “I stop to do both.” I said, “Me too.”

That was the beginning of another divine set-up by the Universe. Kristie, a single mom, shared “It is my dream for my children and me to move to Maui. When I was a little girl playing with my Barbies, I dreamed about moving to Hawaii.  It feels like this is the right time for us to move here. I have faith in God and only want God’s will.”

I was happy to share my story of faith and to encourage her to follow her heart and step out in faith. She was also a woman of faith and had many stories of how God provided for her. I shared how I lived my life with the concept of open and closed doors and it has never failed me. When I don’t know if I’m making the right decision, I ask God to open or close the door. I said, “I will pray for you and I would like to gift you with my book, Simply a Woman of Faith. I think it will help you right now move forward.” I gave her my number and we planned on meeting the next day for me to give her my book.   

Kristie contacted me the next day and said, “I found the perfect condo for my children and me. I’m making an offer and hope it will be accepted. There are many obstacles to overcome if it is going to happen. We have 2 small non-shedding dogs and the condo doesn’t allow dogs (unless there was a medical reason and there was). I need a down payment of 20% and I only have 3%.

Here is the text I received from her a couple of days later. “They accepted my offer and we have a closing date of May 1. I continue to trust the money will come in for the down payment. My heart is flooding with gratitude and excitement. I am surrendering and putting it in God’s hands with great anticipation of the greatness He is bringing to me and my kids.”

Pat, you have strengthened my faith and brought about my awareness of worthiness. I think you are my guardian angel as you help me radiate light and love. Thank you for demonstrating your strong faith. I am loving your book! It is helpful to write my thoughts at the end of the chapters. It is bringing clarity and awareness and providing me with a deepened faith.

It is truly my joy to share my faith and inspire others to follow their dreams. I know that with God all things are possible. Thank you, Spirit for aligning the stars and bringing us together at the perfect and right time. 

Ask and you shall receive

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Feb
27

Despite all that’s happened this past year with the pandemic and political arena, I have never felt happier, contented, and more alive. Being retired and living in a beautiful place with my beloved husband certainly helps. My friend, Donna, says I go from pleasure to pleasure and she is right!

It’s not just that I live in a beautiful place, it’s truly because of my faith and trust in God that I have peace and joy in my heart. I know what’s going on around me and I feel compassion for those who are suffering and living in fear. I know people who are very prosperous and are miserable inside. So truly it is an inside job of how happy I choose to be. “Things may happen around you, and things may happen to you, but the only things that count are the things that happen in you.” Eric Butterworth

When the new year began, I chose a word for the year, or shall I say Spirit chose it for me. The word was EXPANSIVE. I played with the essence and energy of the word and what it would look and feel like in all areas of my life; my relationships, emotions, health, exercise, fun, diet, prosperity, time, spirit, etc. The area where I need to expand and will be the most challenging is my diet.

I have the word EXPANSIVE written in several areas in our home to help me remember the energy I am calling in.  I have an affirmation that I repeat often during the day. I AM EXPANSIVE AND FREE TO DO AND BE WHATEVER I WANT. I listen to inspirational and prosperity songs every day while I sit at my favorite hotel and sip iced tea. I feel expansive, open, and deserving of all that is mine. 

Living in the energy and essence of EXPANSIVENESS means I am open to RECEIVE from Source all that I need and what I want to do and be. It is knowing I am good enough and deserving of abundance in all areas of my life.

Here is an example of what happened on Saturday about asking and receiving. As I left the house all to go for my walk on the ocean, I noticed some flowers on my wreath outside the house had fallen to the ground and I needed a glue gun to fix it. My glue gun broke the last time I used it.

I prayed and asked God to provide a glue gun at a yard sale that day. I was specific and said, “I would like to pay $2.00 and it is in great condition. There were only 2-yard sales that I stopped at. The first one didn’t have a glue gun, but the second one did.

I didn’t see a glue gun on the table and decided to ask if they had one. The woman said, “No sorry we don’t have one.” Out of the corner of my eye, I noticed her husband whisper something to her. A few minutes later, he walks out of the garage with a brand-new glue gun still in the package.  When she told me the price was $2.00, I was floored.

Of course, had to tell her the story of praying and asking God to provide a glue gun for $2.00.  I thanked her husband and asked, “When did you find the glue gun?” He said, “Yesterday when I was cleaning the garage.”  Most people probably wouldn’t think about asking God to provide a glue gun when they can just go and buy one. What fun is that?

I visited my friend, Margie, last week and during our conversation, she said, “I prayed last night to Spirit for a beach ball that I need for exercise. I thought of you and how Spirit always provides.”

Ask and you shall receive! I said, “I have a beach ball that I don’t know what to do with and was planning on throwing it away when I got home.” She was thrilled and followed me to my house to retrieve the beach ball. It was exactly what she needed.

God wants to provide for us and His/Her timing is always perfect. We must ask for what we need, and be willing to receive. Are you willing to ask Spirit for what you want and need?

I fell off the wagon

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Feb
27

My reason for writing a blog every week is to share my journey to inspire you so you know you are not alone with whatever you are going through. Thank you for your love and support and for reading the blogs every week.

As an alcohol and drug therapist for 20 years, one of my jobs was to do interventions and help patients come out of DENIAL about how alcohol or drugs had robbed them of everything. It was my job to get them to say yes to treatment.

DENIAL is a symptom of addiction and a very powerful defense mechanism.  We stay in denial because we are afraid and don’t want to admit there is a problem. Once you admit there is a problem, you have to do something about it.

The reality is we are all addicted to something whether it be a substance or a process. Substances include alcohol, drugs, food, sugar, nicotine, or caffeine. Process addictions include gambling, cleaning, hoarding, workaholism, religiosity, perfectionism, control, shopping, codependency.

Your “drug of choice” keeps you from feeling your feelings. Years ago, at a very low point in my life, I sat in a dark room eating chocolate and drinking a glass of wine.  It took away the pain for a moment. What is your drug of choice to avoid your feelings?

I read a quote this week from Steven Pressfield, Resistance for Evolution that states “The more important an activity is to your soul’s evolution, the more resistance you will feel it.”

This spoke to me as I was feeling a lot of RESISTANCE to changing my diet. I wondered, “Is denial the same as resistance?” I think it’s different but similar. When I’m in denial, I don’t think there is a problem. When I’m in resistance, I know there is a problem and I’m angry that I have to change. I’m kicking and screaming and feel like a victim and wondering why I can’t eat like normal people?

Like many others who live on this planet due to chemicals, GMO and processed foods, I suffer from inflammation and gut issues. I was in denial over the holidays and thought I could eat desserts and be fine. I thought my gut issues were gone.

My symptoms came back and worse than ever.  I was angry and felt like my body had betrayed me.  Just like the addict, I want what I want when I want it! I love sugar, chocolate, muffins, and bagels and didn’t want to deny myself.

I knew I was in trouble and had to pay attention. I went back to the anti-inflammatory diet that I had done in the past which is no grains, fruit, caffeine, dairy, or sugar. I kept saying, “This is so hard.” The truth is that it is hard, but if I kept saying this is hard, it would continue to be hard. I needed to change my perspective and I did.

I’m grateful that I didn’t beat up on myself, but instead forgave myself for “falling off the wagon” and putting food into my body that I wasn’t able to tolerate. With the grace of God, I thanked my body (even though I didn’t like it) for letting me know what wasn’t good for me.

Most importantly, I became willing to change and ask God for help. I knew I couldn’t do it alone. I used the 1st step of AA. I admit I am powerless over sugar and 2nd step I admit a power greater than myself could restore me to sanity. It works as I have been “clean” since January 1. I will continue to ask for help every day.

Are you in denial or resisting anything in your life that is not healthy for you? Remember, “The more important an activity is to your soul’s evolution, the more resistance you will feel it.”

Letting go of unhealthy relationships

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Jan
19

“Despite how open, peaceful, and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.”  Matt Kahn

Several friends have shared with me this week about important relationships that ended that were very painful.  Their first response was to blame themselves and think they had done something wrong. It’s very painful to go through the process of letting go of a relationship if it was your close/best friend that you thought would be a forever friend. It took me over a year to work through the pain of losing my best friend, forgiving her, and accepting the relationship was over.

I’m sure we’ve all experienced relationships that have ended, some a slow death and others a sudden death. I’ve experienced both.  For me, the sudden death of a relationship, especially when I didn’t see it coming and didn’t choose it was more painful.

I had to allow myself to go through the grief process: denial, bargaining, anger, depression, and acceptance. Even though I knew intellectually that people change, interests change, marital status’ change, and this all plays a part in going separate ways, I had to allow myself to feel my feelings.  

I came across an article by Anthony Hopkins that I thought said it all.

“Let go of people who aren’t ready to love you yet! This is the hardest thing you’ll have to do in your life, and it will also be the most important thing:

            Stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready to love you yet.

Stop hard conversations with people who don’t want to change.

Stop showing up for people who are indifferent to your presence.

           Stop loving people who aren’t ready to love you.

I know your instincts do everything to win the good mercy of everyone around you, but it’s also the impulse that will steal your time, energy, and mental, physical, and spiritual health.

When you start manifesting yourself in your life, completely, with joy, interest, and commitment, not everyone will be ready to find you in this place of pure sincerity.

That doesn’t mean that you have to change who you are. That means you have to stop loving people who don’t want to love you yet.” ~ Anthony Hopkins

Today, as I have learned to love and appreciate myself, I have attracted relationships that are healthy, honest, loving, and open. I am living my life with presence and intention. I savor every moment as I am not promised tomorrow.  I no longer change anything about myself simply because someone else cannot see, understand, or accept it. I am mindful of the traits and things that I need to work on to improve myself.

I am grateful and focus on what’s good in my life and celebrate the woman I am becoming by keeping my vibration high with love and gratitude. Today, I understand that I am not responsible for others’ feelings or actions. All I can change is myself and am responsible for my physical, mental, and spiritual health.

Are you ready to let go of people who aren’t ready to love you yet?  Remember Matt Kahn’s quote: “Despite how open, peaceful, and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.”

Importance of self-love

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Jan
19

This week is the 10th anniversary of moving to Maui.  It’s hard to believe I have been living here for 10 years and so much has changed; I’m a married woman, live in a beautiful home overlooking the ocean, and we just published our book together. I could never have imagined what my life looks like today. 

I came across a magazine advertisement this week that was written 10 years ago, the week before I moved to Maui. It said, “Join Pat Hastings on Norwegian Spirit Holistic Cruise –  Pat was selected to be one of the speakers on the Holistic Cruise to Mayan Country. During the cruise, Hastings will present “How to Say No to Others and Yes to Yourself.” I met so many wonderful people and have many fond memories of the fun we had.

There was a time when I didn’t say no to others because I thought it was selfish. I put others first and me last. I looked to others for my answers, rather than go within. If I hadn’t learned this skill of saying no and how to love myself, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I have no problem saying no today and speaking up if something doesn’t feel right.

I believe keeping our vibration high (in gratitude, peace, and love) at this time of such “unrest” is crucial for ourselves and the world. We are given the opportunity to choose love or fear in all areas of our lives. It’s not that we don’t feel our feelings and do a spiritual bypass. We allow ourselves to feel sad, angry, disappointed, or fearful.  We feel our feelings and then let them go and trust in the divine plan for our lives. There is nothing we can do about what is happening on the “OUTSIDE” of us. All we can control is what is happening “INSIDE” of us.

We keep our vibration high through self-care and self-love. If we don’t love ourselves, we will not be able to love others. Below are ways to practice self-care. I invite you to look it over and pick 1 or 2 to practice. Ask Spirit for help and to show you which area is most important for your growth and highest good.

I see my growth and where I’ve grown with saying no, asking for what I want, setting boundaries, and spending time alone. Spirit is inviting me to practice “stepping back.”

What do I mean by practicing “stepping back?”

  • I give my opinion ONLY when asked.
  • I don’t judge others, especially when they have a different perspective or behavior (mask-no mask, vaccine-no vaccine, etc.) I may not like or approve of another’s choices and behaviors, but it is their journey, not mine.
  • I don’t gossip, especially in the name of love.
  • I don’t complain, but “accept what is” and focus on what I do have.

For example, I was taking my walk on the path today.  I started to judge and tell myself a “story” about someone who didn’t stop to talk to me (especially when I see them talking to others.) When I became aware I was judging the person and telling myself a “story” I stopped myself and chose love instead.

It’s impossible to “step back” and not judge or complain on my own power. I know I will slip many times. The key is to become aware when I’m judging or complaining and forgive myself and ask Spirit for help. It motivates me to realize that when I judge another person, I am judging MYSELF because we are ONE and connected.

I made an important decision this week without consulting Larry first. When I shared it with him, he asked, “Do you want my opinion?” I looked at him and said, “Thank you, but I’m not asking for your opinion.” It felt so empowering to speak my truth and to trust my own counsel and God’s guidance within. I’m grateful he wasn’t defensive and has learned he doesn’t have to fix me.

Let us remember the truth of who we are and who God is in our lives. This is the “Great Awakening” and it will be ugly at times as darkness comes into the light. You and I are the light in the darkness and are invited to shine our lights to show the way for others. We are safe and protected and our faith will carry us through the storms.

We are waking up

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Jan
19

Happy New Year. I think we would all agree that 2020 has been a year like no other. We had no idea what was coming next and we still don’t. We are living in the unknown, which can be very uncomfortable for many. We were invited to live in the moment, choose love over fear, take one day at a time, change our perspectives, and trust and surrender to a Power greater than ourselves.

Although there has been much grief and suffering for many physically, financially, emotionally, and spiritually, much good has come from it, but we often don’t hear about that. We may not see the love that is spreading in the world. Many people are “waking up” to the truth that we are all connected and ONE.

As the year comes to an end, you are invited to release the energy of 2020 through prayer, journaling, and meditation, and whatever rituals you have done in the past. What are the lessons you learned, challenges, opportunities, and “blessings” you received inside the lessons?

I participated in a powerful Solstice meditation and we were asked to reflect on the following 3 questions.

1. What am I grateful for receiving in 2020?

2. What do I want to let go of?

3. What does my soul want to say to me today?

As I reflected on the past year, Spirit showed me the “outside” world is in chaos, drama, confusion, fear, and hatred, but my “inner” world is peaceful, grateful, loving, joyful, contented, and surrendered. Here is what I’ve practiced to experience peace and love.

  • Every morning when I wake up for the past 2 decades, I affirm my intention for the day. My intention is to be peaceful, to love, to serve, and to be healthy and happy.
  • I take responsibility for what I can control: my reactions, beliefs, and perspectives. I let go of what I can’t control (people, places & things).
  • I detach from the outcome of what I put out into the world.
  • I strive to not take things personally.
  • I take back projections and am willing to see my shadow.
  • I allow myself to feel all of my feelings rather than medicate them or do a spiritual bypass.
  • I forgive myself and others and let go of judgments and resentments.

It’s not that everything was perfect because it wasn’t. I grieved the loss of a close friend, I broke my shoulder, I wasn’t able to see my children and grandchildren this year, we didn’t go to restaurants and didn’t dance.  Other than walks on the beach, we stayed home and wore masks when we went out to be safe.

Here are some of the blessings from 2020 that I am grateful for.

  • One of my children Facetimes me daily to have dinner with me.
  • My faith in God has deepened as I have let go and surrendered to “what is.”
  • Our book “It’s Never Too Late” was published.
  • My relationship with Larry has flourished and grown.
  • Gratitude is my attitude. I focus on what I have rather than what’s missing.
  • Freedom from external validation, approval, and acknowledgment.
  • My light is shining brighter than ever.
  • I am experiencing deep peace, serenity, and calm inside.

As the year ends, Spirit is inviting you to reflect on these questions.

  • What are you grateful for receiving in 2020?
  • What do you want to let go of?
  • What does your soul want to say to you today?

Let’s bring in 2021 with the energy of love, faith, and hope. This is what you have been waiting for. It will be a better world as you learn to love yourself and others. Love is all there is. Let your light shine for the world to see.  As you change yourself, you change the world.  

Relax, let go, release & surrender

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Nov
23

I listened to Songs of the Spirit 11 CD by Karen Drucker this week. The words spoke to my heart as they did when I first listened to the songs 13 years ago. I relax, I let go, I release and surrender, all is well.”

Is it easy to relax, let go and surrender? No, I don’t believe it is easy, but if I want peace in my life, I must learn to let go, trust, release, and surrender to what is happening in my life. My daily prayer and intention is to be peaceful, to love, and to serve.

I have several RELAX plaques around our house to help me to remember to RELAX and live in the present moment. The past is gone and the future is not here yet.  All we have is NOW.

For many years, I wasn’t peaceful and relaxed because I felt responsible and tried to control and fix the people I loved and cared about. I thought I knew what was best for them. How disrespectful it is to think I know the answers for someone else’s life.  I know today, that behavior was born out of unresolved childhood trauma and not wanting to feel what was inside of me (not good enough, unworthiness, fear, and perfectionism.)

Doing my best was never good enough – I had to be the BEST. I had to be the president of the sorority, the captain of the cheerleaders, and queen of the prom to feel worthy and deserving of love. I worked hard, stayed busy, and pushed myself to do more and be more. Can you relate?

I looked outside to others for the answers for my life.  I thought others knew what was best for me. I would ask friends, “What would you do and how would you feel if this happened to you?” I didn’t trust my feelings or myself and that the answers were within.

I’m grateful to say that has CHANGED! Today, my life is about ALLOWING, BEING, TRUSTING, and not pushing and planning everything. It’s living in the moment and trusting my intuition. It’s trusting Spirit to guide, protect, and provide everything that I need. My “job” is to keep my vibration high with gratitude and love. I send love and light out to the world rather than fear and worry. Can you imagine what the world would look like if we all sent out love and light instead of blaming, judging, and thinking we are separate?

What a breath of fresh air and relief to know I don’t have to control people, places, and things and that everyone is on their life’s journey and learning the lessons they need to learn. I believe it’s all perfect and in divine order.

What I can control and am responsible for is myself, my attitudes, choices, and reactions. I can choose love or fear and release beliefs that no longer serve me.  I’m responsible for my happiness because happiness is an inside job. My friend, Donna, describes me as living from pleasure to pleasure. I know what gives me pleasure and I do more and more of it. How about you? What gives you pleasure and what makes you happy?

I love the synchronicities and miracles that unfold as I let go, relax, release, and surrender. I walk on the path every morning overlooking the ocean and spread the love. I pray and ask Spirit to lead me to the people I am to talk to. It is my “joy” to smile and greet people by simply saying, “Good morning.” I introduce myself and they remember me as “Pat with the hat.”

A few months ago, I met Henry through Norma, the cat. I was impressed by Henry’s love and apparent soul connection to Norma. Henry and I became friends and often discussed our spirituality and our upcoming book, “It’s Never Too Late for Love.”

When our book came on Amazon a few weeks ago, Henry and his wife, Marcy, sent out 10 books to their friends all over the world. I cried and was overwhelmed with gratitude when Henry shared what they did. Of course, they hadn’t read the book yet but felt the love energy from what I had shared about the book.  

This is just one of many miracles that are happening as I remember the song, “I relax, I let go, I release and surrender, all is well.”

Are you able to ACCEPT what is

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Nov
10

Is there a situation or person in your life that you have difficulty accepting? It may be witnessing a loved one suffer physically, mentally, spiritually, or emotionally. You may have health challenges, financial problems, lost your job, or just got divorced.

You may feel depressed, blocked, confused, or angry, and have lost hope. I have a dear friend who has been suffering physically for a few years and I have a difficult time accepting it. It helps to remind myself that it is not my journey and I don’t know the lessons she is learning.

The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous statesAcceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation—some fact of my life —unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes.”

Eckhart Tolle states, “Accept what is AS IF I have chosen it.” I had the opportunity to practice acceptance this week. Because of Covid, our family reunion was cancelled in Rhode Island last July.  It was rescheduled for October and we planned on celebrating October birthdays (including mine).

My children and grandchildren gathered at my daughter’s farm and son’s home this week. I struggled and felt sad that I was 5,000 miles away and wouldn’t be there to celebrate with them. I miss them terribly and didn’t know when it would be safe to travel to Rhode Island again.

When I thought about Tolle’s quote “Accept what is AS IF I had chosen it,” I felt angry at first. Why would I choose to not be with my family? I loved them and wanted to be with them. Then Spirit showed me that I had chosen it. I had chosen not to travel to protect myself and Larry from Covid. Before I recognized that I had chosen it, I felt like a victim and felt sorry for myself. Poor me, I’m not there to celebrate our birthdays.

I woke up in the middle of the night thinking about my children and sent them love. I had allowed the sadness to move through me. Something shifted inside of me and I felt empowered. The sadness was now replaced with JOY and peace as I thought about how bonded my 4 children are and how they love and support one another. I don’t think there could be a better gift for a mother to know her children love and support one another.

The next morning, we had a Facetime call to celebrate our birthdays. I talked to everyone and felt a part of the reunion. They were celebrating with champagne and I celebrated with water as it was 9:00 am in Maui.

After the call, as I sat and watched the waves rolling in, the tears flowed down my cheeks. I had opened my heart to give and receive love, even though we were 5,000 miles apart, it didn’t matter.

I know it would have been a very different conversation if I hadn’t accepted “What is” and that I had chosen to not attend the reunion. They would have felt my energy and that I was feeling sorry for myself.  Instead, they felt the love and gratitude that I experienced in the moment. It’s truly amazing when we change our attitude and ACCEPT WHAT IS AS IF I HAD CHOSEN IT.

“Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes.”

My birthday adventure

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Oct
5

It’s my birthday week and I love to celebrate with some kind of fun adventure. A few years ago, I parasailed with my friend, Margie, and it was awesome. Another year, I paraglided over the mountains on Maui, which was breathtaking.

This year I decided to take a four-hour snorkeling trip with SeaFire Snorkeling Adventures to Molokini. It was the best time to go as the tourists are not here and few boats are in the ocean.  Molokini is a crater in the middle of the ocean that was formed from a volcano eruption. I swam with the turtles and saw fish in every color of the rainbow. The water was crystal clear blue and the coral was beautiful. It felt like I was in an ocean of Love. 

Although I loved the snorkeling adventure, what was most memorable was the kindness and LOVE I received from one of the staff members named, Kelly. She truly was my angel and I knew I was in good hands with Captain Burns. Before we started to snorkel, they instructed us to stay with your buddy. There were several couples on board and I was all by myself, and probably the oldest one on the boat!

Years ago, I didn’t go to a restaurant alone because I was concerned people would think I didn’t have any friends. I certainly have grown and felt quite comfortable being by myself. I was happy to be alone to enjoy the ocean and nature around me.

I hadn’t been snorkeling in several years and rehabbing from a broken shoulder the last 3 ½ months made me nervous as it got closer to jumping into the ocean. What was I thinking? I informed Kelly about my situation and she said, “No problem, I will be your buddy and help you. You can use a  noodle.”

I was the last person off the boat.  Kelly stayed and helped me get my fins on and get down the ladder safely. The current was a bit strong and she could tell I was scared. She asked, “Would you like to hold onto my board with the rope and I can pull you?” I quickly said, “Yes.”

I stayed with her for quite a while holding tightly to the board and my noodle until I was relaxed and comfortable on my own. She then swam away and I kept her board with me. She kept checking on me making sure I was safe.

When I returned home, I laughed out loud when I thought about what I must have looked like. I was the only one snorkeling with an orange noodle and holding on to the staff’s board. The good news is that I didn’t care what I looked like or what anyone thought of me. That is growth!

This reminds me of how God gives us opportunities to step out in faith and invites us into deep waters and places where we have never been before. Of course, it’s scary at first until we relax and know we are safe and not alone. We are never alone. We are ONE with God.   

There were several things I learned from my adventure.

  • I asked for help.
  • I didn’t feel ashamed or weak that I needed help.
  • I knew what I needed to feel safe.
  • I allowed Kelly to share her love with me.
  • I didn’t care what I looked like or what others thought of me.
  • I received the support I needed by being vulnerable and open.
  • I am never alone and can trust God is always with me.

As I was leaving the boat, I thanked Kelly and told her she was my angel. She smiled and said, “Thank you, I love helping people. Can I hug you?” It was a great way to celebrate my birthday.

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