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I said NO to my friend

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I had the opportunity this week to say no to a friend and colleague who asked me to write an endorsement for his new book. It’s not that I didn’t want to give him an endorsement, because I did, but my plate was full and I knew I wouldn’t be able to give it the time it needed. His response to my no was loving and accepting. We both know the importance of self-care and honesty. I have to admit that there was a time in my life that I didn’t say NO to others because I wanted others to love me and I was afraid of the consequences of saying no. I often anticipated others needs and offered to help before they even asked. I never thought about if it would be good for me. I lived from the SHOULDS and it was exhausting. I pushed myself to do things that I didn’t want to do because I thought that was the loving thing to do. What I didn’t understand was that I had it backwards. I wasn’t loving myself and my needs first. I was not taught how to go within and ask Spirit for guidance nor was I taught how to love myself first. Do you have a hard time saying NO to others when they ask you to do something or they want you to go someplace with them?   Are you able to say no just because you don’t feel like doing something without a legitimate excuse?   Do you think it’s selfish to say no to another’s request?    Do you feel guilty and beat up on yourself when you say no?   Have you ever felt resentful when you did something you didn’t want to do and did it because you thought you SHOULD do it?   Are you unable to say no to another’s request because you want to take care of them and rescue and fix them?   Whenever we focus on others, at the expense of ourselves, we are in trouble and not in alignment with God’s will. It is like we are saying, “Your needs are more important than mine.” It is not only dishonoring, but it is disrespectful to the other person when we think we have the answers for them and want to rescue or fix them. I want to be helpful and loving and be there for others when I can and choose to. WHEN I SAY NO TO OTHERS, I AM SAYING YES TO MYSELF. Believe me, coming to this place of knowing and truth has been a process because I understand how important self-love and self-care is to my overall well-being. I am responsible to take care of myself; body, mind and spirit FIRST before I can truly be there for another. Today, when I need to make a decision whether to say yes or no to another person’s request, I go within, trust my intuition and ask Spirit for guidance. I ask questions like: * Do I really want to do this (whatever the request is)?   * Is this in my highest good (and that of the other person) to say yes to this request?   * Am I feeling responsible for the other person and their needs?
Remember, it is not selfish to say no, but self-loving to say no when you want to. If I am not sure I want to do something, I give myself time to go within and ask for guidance. I do nothing out of the SHOULDS anymore. It takes practice to say no in a way that doesn’t offend someone. Being true to myself is self-loving and honoring.  

I followed my heart

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When people ask me, “Why did you move to Maui?” I place my hand on my heart and say, “I followed my heart and knew I would meet my soul mate here.” My HEART knew what I needed to grow and expand and to experience more love and joy in my life.

While my heart said yes, my head said, “How can you leave your children and grandchildren? You don’t have enough money. You can’t leave your beautiful home and move 5,000 miles away. Who would take care of you if you get sick?”

It was a battle for quite a while who and what I was going to listen to; my heart or my head. One day my heart said “yes” to moving to Maui and the next day, I was riddled with fear and apprehension.

After praying, meditating, discerning and journaling about it, I finally got the courage to say “yes” to my soul’s calling and I have never regretted it. It was one step at a time and God opened the doors as I stepped out in faith and moved forward. It was quite an adventure of letting go, surrendering, trusting and miracles.

I’m so grateful I listened to my heart, because the heart knows what’s best and is always right! The heart knows its true desires and what it wants and needs to be fulfilled. Following your heart is not for the faint of heart. It can be scary. Do you agree?

Can you remember a time when you followed your heart, rather than your head? What happened? Your head may have said things like: “You are crazy. You can’t do that. What are you thinking?”

I worked with a new coaching client this week who didn’t understand how important it was to listen to her heart. She was divorced, but had moved back in with her ex-husband for the past 4 years. She said, “I’m not happy and don’t want to be there, but I’m afraid of hurting him if I leave.” I encouraged her to journal about how she would be hurting herself if she stayed in a situation where she was miserable.

My client said, “I was speaking to my girlfriend about my situation that my head was saying one thing and my heart was saying another thing. I don’t know who I should listen to.”

She was surprised when I encouraged her to listen to her heart. It was clear what her heart wanted, but her mind was telling her the opposite. She didn’t understand that her heart was telling her the truth and that her intuition was guiding her what to do next for her highest good.

* When you follow your heart, you learn to trust your intuition.
* When you trust your intuition, you are more open to following your heart.
* When you follow your heart, you begin to love yourself.
* You start to believe that you are good enough and that everything that has happened to you, positive or negative, has made you the person you are today.
* When you are honest with yourself and willing to ask yourself, what is truly in your heart, you open yourself up to all kinds of possibilities and miracles.

Are you following your heart or are you stuck in fear and listening to your head? I invite you to go within and ask Spirit to help you follow your heart so you can live your purpose, be fulfilled and happy. It’s your birthright to be happy!

I was accountable to my friend

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I met with my friend, Kerry, this week for tea at Java Coffee Shop. We both arrived on Maui at the same time almost 8 years ago. We have been supporting and encouraging one another ever since, both professionally and personally. She is also from New York, so we had that in common.

One of the ways we support one another is by being accountable to what we say we are going to do. Our check-in every week really has worked and kept us on track and motivated. I know being accountable really works for me.

When I was struggling with writing Simply a Woman of faith, I knew I needed to be accountable. I asked my friend, Joanne, if she would help me and she said, “Yes.” I committed to writing one hour every week and called her on Sunday night to check-in. It was often the day before check- in that I did my writing and it was usually more than one hour once I got started. I don’t think I would have finished my book if I hadn’t made that commitment.

Kerry is working on a new website for her Harmonium business and was feeling stuck. She knew she needed to write every day but was having a hard time following through. I asked, “Would you like to make a commitment to write every day and check-in with me at end of week?” She said, “Yes, that would be very helpful. I will work on my website for 20 minutes every day.”

At the time, I didn’t have anything that I was struggling with that I needed to be accountable for until TODAY.

As I have shared in past blogs, I have been invited to be on staff at the The Sacred Feminine Mystery School. I will be teaching a class on Codependency and leading monthly coaching calls for the women participating in the new 6- month Certification Program starting in November.

I am very excited and honored for this opportunity to share my gifts and work with the women. With that said, the ego VOICES started and they were loud. You know the voices I am talking about? The voice that says, “You are not good enough.  What if they don’t like the talk and they are bored. What if they know more than I do?”

I wrote out everything I was saying to myself in my journal and believe me it wasn’t pretty, and more importantly, I realized it was a big LIE.

I then wrote out affirmations to tell myself the truth. I will write affirmations every day and check-in with Kerry every week to be accountable.

I understand that whenever we start something new or are invited to stop playing small and expand, our ego will act out, and sometimes viciously. Can you relate? The important thing is to be aware of whose voice we are listening to. The voice of ego or the voice of Spirit.

As I meditated and prayed, I heard Spirit say:

“Stop listening to the voice of ego and listen to me. Don’t let ego rob you of your peace and what I have called you to do. Stop playing small and rise up into the truth of who you are. Everything you need is inside of you and when I call you to do something, I will equip you with everything you need.” 

Is there an area of your life that you feel stuck and want to move forward? Do you beat up on yourself and don’t feel good enough? I encourage you to find someone you trust and can be honest with to be accountable so you can move forward and live the life you are intended to live.

I attract everything into my life for my highest good

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I believe I attract everything and every experience into my life for my highest good. It may be to help me remember the truth of who I am (there is no separation and we are all ONE and connected) or to release an old belief that no longer serves me, but hurts me and keeps me “stuck in the muck.”

Whenever I follow my heart, whether that be moving 6000 miles away from my friends and family or getting a divorce after 30 years of marriage, there is a good possibility I may be judged and will disappoint a loved one. It may not be something big like moving, it may be saying no or setting a boundary. Our loved ones may experience feelings of hurt, anger, resentment or even abandonment.

If I want to be happy, peaceful, live the life of my dreams and most importantly do God’s will, I must be willing to deal with others’ disappointments and possible disapproval. It takes a great deal of courage and strength to follow your heart, knowing it may disappoint and anger loved ones, consciously or unconsciously.

I have personally experienced withdrawal, avoidance and being ignored by others. This is painful when a loved one withdraws, and I don’t know why they are withdrawing or ignoring me (and they won’t tell me why). They may have buried their feelings of hurt, anger or abandonment and it may come out sideways. Until they are ready to share their pain and release it, there is not much I can do, but to send love.

Many years ago, when my son and family moved to Florida and I wouldn’t see them often, especially holidays, I had to give myself permission to feel the disappointment, sadness and anger.  I remember standing at the edge of the ocean, screaming and getting my anger out.

 At first, I judged my feelings and felt guilty that I was angry.  After all, they were doing what was right for them, even though I wasn’t happy with it. Once I was able to identify my feelings and give myself permission to feel, my peace returned and I was able to send them love and even be happy for them.

For many years, when I was ignored, forgotten or a loved one withdrew from me and didn’t give me the attention I craved, I automatically thought I DID SOMETHING WRONG and it was my fault.  There was always a story I made up in my mind as I tried to figure out what I did to hurt them. I often found out that it had nothing to do with me and I was taking it personally. Can you relate?

I lost my peace and power this week when an old belief that no longer served me reared its head. I spent a lot of time by myself in prayer and meditation, as well as writing and exploring where the belief came from. The old belief originated as a child when I felt responsible for my mother and her alcoholism. I unconsciously felt guilty and wrong that I couldn’t fix her or make her better. The search for love from outside of ourselves is a sign of arrested emotional development. We strive to be the best in order to be noticed and found worthy of attention and love.

Intellectually, I know that I’m not responsible for others’ feelings or behaviors. What they do or don’t do is their business, not mine. It is another story emotionally when I’ve been hurt or ignored, like I was this week. I had the opportunity to work through it and release the old belief of feeling responsible for others’ feelings and behaviors.

The first step of healing is to become aware of what’s going on within. Guilt is usually an indicator for me that I’m taking responsibility for another’s behaviors and feelings. The belief is REVEALED to be HEALED and RELEASED because it no longer serves me.

The truth is I am responsible for myself; my behaviors, feelings, attitudes and actions. I cannot control or change another person, no matter how much I love them.

What is important is that I keep my side of the street clean. If I’ve hurt someone unintentionally, I make amends, as well as let go of judgement, blame, resentment and anger. I choose love, I send love and surrender to a Power greater than myself.  I will continue to follow my heart and do God’s will.

How did I get here?

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Have you ever asked yourself, “How did I get here?” I know I have, all the time! I said this to my son, Tim, a few years ago and he said, “Mom, you have been talking about living on the water for as long as I can remember.” It was my dream to live on the water and I didn’t care if it was a pond, a lake, a puddle or the ocean!

I am blissful, peaceful and grateful when I sit outside every morning looking at the ocean, smelling the flowers, listening to the birds or watching the beautiful sunset every night. Dreams do come true and often much bigger than you expected. Dream BIG. I not only attracted living in a home overlooking the ocean, but I attracted a loving husband who respects, loves and cherishes me. How blessed I am.

My “spiritual practice” and awakening journey with Spirit for the past 45 years is extremely important to me.  It has brought me to where and who I am today. I don’t do everything perfectly (I practice), and not in any special order, but I SHOW UP daily and allow Spirit to guide me, as I trust the day to unfold with peace, ease and grace. It has not always been easy as I have had to work through and heal many layers of sexual, emotional abuse and parental addiction. It has taken years to transform and heal and I am grateful I didn’t give up.

I would like to share these spiritual practices with you. If you are struggling in any area of your life, I invite you to incorporate any or all of what works for me.

I pray, meditate and journal daily

I let go and let God

I am assertive and ask for what I want

I set my intentions for the day

I choose love

I practice an attitude of gratitude

I allow myself to feel my feelings and express them when I want to

I let go of negativity and focus on the positive

I set boundaries and say no when needed

I listen to my intuition and follow its guidance

I detach when necessary

I ask for help when I need it

I speak my truth, even when it’s difficult

I see everything as opportunities- rather than problems

I eliminate “shoulds” from my life

I embrace and welcome change-rather than fear it

I trust and surrender to “what is”

I forgive myself and others

I love and appreciate myself

I ALLOW things to come to me, rather than make things happen

I live in the NOW moment, as tomorrow is not promised and the future is not here yet

I let go of victim, poor me mentality

I choose love, happiness and joy

I open to infinite possibilities

I take responsibility for my actions-rather than blaming someone else

I look for opportunities to serve

I believe everything happens for a reason and there is a purpose for everything

That is quite a list and I encourage you to choose what works for you. We are all connected and are ONE. I don’t do it perfectly and I forget the truth of who I am sometimes. When I get out of alignment (and I do), Spirit always brings me back home, to where I am meant to be.

It is my desire to live my life to the fullest and BE the woman God created me to be, using my gifts for the good of all. I choose to be a vessel of love, have fun, play and enjoy my life. We are not promised tomorrow, all we have is NOW and it’s never too late to begin. You are worth it and you deserve peace and love in your life.

I would be happy to help and assist you go deeper so you can live the life you deserve.

What would you like the POWER to do?

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I arrived home safely from my 2- week vacation with family. I love going away and I love coming home because there is no place like home. There were 18 red roses waiting for me when I walked into the house from my beloved. I think he missed me, as I missed his loving presence and love.

As I walked through the airport on my way home, I thought about the thousands of travelers who travel daily and get on planes. They ultimately feel safe and put their trust in the pilot to get them to their prospective destinations.

I then thought, “Do we trust a HIGHER POWER to take care of us and protect us as much as we trust a pilot to get us to where we want to go in life or do we obsess or worry and live in fear?

As I was sitting and waiting for the plane to board, right in front of me was a flashing ad with several sayings on the TV for Bank of America. The first ad said, “What would you like the POWER to do?”  Of course, they weren’t referring to a HIGHER POWER or God or Source.

I asked myself, “What would I like the POWER to do?” I encourage you to ask, “What would you like the POWER to do?”  If we don’t know what we want the POWER to do, we won’t ask and we won’t receive. We may be feeling frustrated with where we are in life, confused, stuck or unfulfilled in a relationship or job. The truth is we are not living our dream.

It is important to know what we want so we can ask the POWER greater than ourselves for assistance. I kept saying to my friend, Donna, while on vacation, “I don’t know what I want to do and I’m waiting for my next orders.” I wasn’t stressed about it, but felt peaceful that I would figure out what I wanted in time and that I didn’t have to push or make anything happen.

As I spent quiet time going within and meditating. I asked myself, “What do I want to do and what does Spirit want?”  It became clear that Spirit was calling me to share my gifts as a Spiritual Life Coach again.  I felt excited because I am living the life of my dreams (as many of you desire to do too) and want to help YOU to do the same.

I could hardly believe how things started to shift almost miraculously and organically as I became clear as to what I wanted to do.  Within an hour, my prayer was answered as my first coaching client appeared and asked me to be her Spiritual Life Coach.

The next few ads that flashed on the TV screen about the POWER were:

The POWER to know everything is OK”

“The POWER to live in the moment”

Here are a few of my own:

“The POWER to know everything is perfect and in divine timing”

“The POWER to experience self-care & self-love as a spiritual practice”

The POWER to awaken, expand and be inspired”

“The POWER to know we are all connected and ONE”

“The POWER to trust, surrender and let go”

“The POWER to know I AM ENOUGH and deserve my highest good”

“The POWER to know there is only LOVE”

We all have the same POWER within us to guide and protect us. We just need to consciously connect with our HIGHER POWER or Source on a daily basis.

If you need help connecting to the spiritual POWER within and you want to align with your soul’s purpose and make an impact in the world and you want to receive the abundance you deserve, I am here to serve you.  If you’ve been on the spiritual and personal growth path for years and you want to move forward in your life, please contact me and we can discuss your needs.


I encourage you to ask yourself, “What is holding me back from having the intimate relationship I desire and the life I deserve?


Is it not TIME to know the truth of who you are and the POWER within?  If not now, WHEN?




Our relationship didn’t feel like enough

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Larry and I celebrated our two- year anniversary this week. I remember so clearly when he proposed to me 3 years ago at Christmas. He got on his knees (in front of my girlfriends) and said, “You are my queen and I am your king; would you like to make it legal?” Of course, I said, “YES” and the rest is history.

We celebrated by going to one of our favorite restaurants for lunch and driving up country to see the beautiful Jacaranda trees blooming. It was a delightful day of just being together and enjoying one another’s company. Larry surprised me with 18 red roses and a beautiful anniversary card and gift. He has certainly made up for all the years of being forgotten on my birthday and anniversaries. I am grateful and blessed and the wait was worth it.

I am noticing that whenever I know the truth of who I am as a magnificent, beautiful, loving, light being, my ego acts up (and sometimes viciously) because it doesn’t want me to know the truth of who I am. It wants me to believe that I am separate from Source and alone. The Course in Miracles states “Rise above the battleground and learn to laugh at the ego thought system because it is not real and it is an illusion.” Truly the battle is in the mind.

This week Spirit revealed to me how the “not good enough” belief still infiltrates my thoughts sometimes and brings me into fear. I believe it is a universal core belief that needs to come to the light to be released and healed because it is not TRUE.  It is insidious and shows up where I’m vulnerable and when I’m least expecting it. I was surprised when it “showed up” in my relationship with my husband, especially after feeling so loved for our anniversary. Here is what happened:

Larry and I had a busy day and didn’t spend much time sharing with one another, as we usually do. I woke up the next morning with a “fearful” uneasy feeling in my gut. I didn’t know what it was until I sat and meditated, prayed and journaled.

I felt fear that our relationship “wasn’t good enough” because we hadn’t spent much time together the day before.  As I sat with it, I realized how absurd and crazy the “story” I was making up was. Was this a way of sabotaging myself and making me lose my peace?

Spirit guided me to write down the truth and what I love about our relationship and I humbly share it with you.

*Free of drama and stress

*Attitude of gratitude

*Spacious, as we give each other freedom to be and do what we want

*Flexibility and spontaneity

*Playful, fun and lots of laughter

*Open and honest communication

*Peaceful, pleasurable and loving

To sum it up; I feel heard, seen, trusted, protected, supported, cared for, nurtured, accepted, understood, respected and loved.


This “story” about our relationship not being enough is kind of embarrassing to share with you because it is so crazy and false. I share it with you to help you recognize where your ego may be robbing you of your peace by telling you that you are not enough, you don’t have enough or you don’t do enough. It’s a LIE!

Thank you Spirit for showing me the truth that I am enough right where I am. Everything is unfolding in the right and perfect way. I can relax, laugh at the ego and live in the moment. God has my back and the story is unfolding the way it is supposed to, and for this I am grateful. The truth shall set us free.




I graduate and will be a Licensed Certified Sacred Sexual Educator

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I had no idea 9 months ago how I would be healed and transformed when I said YES to my soul and inner knowing to attend a Sacred Sexual Healing retreat with Amrita Grace and Caroline Muir on Maui.

After the retreat, I listened to my soul again and signed up for the 6-month certification program to become a teacher of this work.  I am so grateful and will try to put in words my experience of giving and receiving sacred sessions.

I can’t believe how fast the time has gone as I will graduate next week and will become a Licensed Certified Sacred Sexual Educator. This gives me the ability to teach this powerful sacred sexual healing all over the world as it is profound, transformational, holy and cutting edge. Every woman would benefit from it, whether sexually abused or not, as we all carry trauma that can get stuck in our bodies.

I am living in the mystery and have followed inner guidance and my heart, not knowing where it would take me, but trusting the process. I stepped out in faith and faced my deepest fears. As I look back on my journey the last 7 years of living on Maui and meeting my soulmate, I would not be where I am if I hadn’t taken the leap and followed my heart.

As part of the certification process, we had to do a practicum and facilitate an Awakening and Healing weekend, which took place this past weekend. What an amazing and powerful experience each woman had. The tears rolled down my cheeks as I witnessed women healing themselves, setting themselves free and releasing deep trauma from their childhood.  I felt humbled, honored and privileged to be a priestess in this capacity.

One of the women shared with me after the weekend, “I feel like I’ve stepped into a new energy vortex and it feels like divine feminine energy. I am realizing that I don’t have to make decisions and figure things out by myself. All I have to do is listen and get my assignment what to do next.”

If I ever had any doubts about being a teacher of this sacred work, they are gone after this weekend and seeing what the women experienced in the sacred, safe container we created.

About thirty years ago, I had a poster that read, I AM A WOMAN GIVING BIRTH TO MYSELF. I didn’t really understand what it meant until now. I have given birth to myself. Giving birth to anything (a child, a new project, a dream, an idea) can be painful and difficult because we have to face our fears and what’s inside of us that no longer serves us.  I am grateful that I had the courage and willingness to release my “stuff” before the weekend.

I am pleasantly surprised as I reflect on the last 9 months and what I’ve learned about myself and how I’ve changed. We really do teach what we need to learn. I knew that facilitating the weekend would be powerful, but I had no idea how much growth and deep healing I would experience by attending the Sacred Feminine Mystery School and completing this practicum.

I have stepped into my power and it feels so good. I feel solid, strong, grounded, balanced, loving, assertive, and know the truth of who I am, maybe for the first time in my life. I will continue to say yes to my sacred soul’s calling as it is my destiny and purpose. I will continue to trust that I am being guided every step of the way.

If I can assist you on your faith walk and help you find your sacred calling and purpose or help you release blocks or trauma, please let me know. I will be coming to Rhode Island to visit my family in the beginning of July and would like to offer a Sacred Sexual Awaking and Healing workshop. If this is calling you, please let me know.







My greatest growth is to TRUST

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The season of Christmas is about love, light, sharing, giving and being with loved ones. When I listen to Christmas songs on the radio, they say it’s the happiest time of the year. Well, it may be for some, but not for everyone. You may be grieving the loss of a loved one, have a serious illness, be far away from family, recently divorced or lost your job. What a set-up to think something is wrong with us if we’re not feeling happy in the season. I often hear people say after Christmas, “I’m so glad it’s over.”

Spiritually, I believe the season invites us to go within and be still so that we can open our hearts to more love and light. Unfortunately, that is not what happens for many of us. Instead of being still and going within, we get busier with shopping, parties, cooking, eating and drinking. We are exhausted by the time Christmas gets here and we just want it to be over. Has this been your experience or were you able to give yourself some quiet time and go within?

Like many folks, I enjoy the lights and parties and being with loved ones. This Christmas I was “forced” to be still and go within due to a nagging cold that had a life of its own. I didn’t want to give my germs to anyone nor did I want to pick up any germs so we cancelled parties and dinners.

To be honest, I really enjoyed the quiet with the lights and candles and listening to Christmas music. Instead of feeling like I was missing something, I felt grateful for the time with Larry, myself and Spirit.  I participated in an on-line program called, “13 days to Activate Your Inner Light Through Radical Self-care which I really enjoyed because it gave me the opportunity to practice loving myself even deeper.

I had the opportunity and time to reflect on this past year and all its ups and downs and the lessons learned. During the solstice, I was able to release what no longer served me and through the powerful energies present ask for what I wanted to attract into my life.

I asked Larry, “What do you think your greatest growth was for this past year?”  When he asked me the same question, I knew right away what the answer was. It was TRUST. My trust in God is deeper than it has ever been. I know and trust that everything is in perfect and divine order. I know and trust that whatever I am experiencing is for my highest good and it is perfect.

It seems like as my trust in God has deepened, so has my trust in myself in many ways.  I know when to say yes and when to say no, without feeling guilty. I know when to step out in faith and when to be quiet. I know how to love myself and give myself what I need.

I am learning that love is all there is and to choose love instead of fear. I am learning to see everything as an opportunity, rather than a problem or challenge. I am grateful for this year and look forward to even more blessings in the coming year.


As Pat shared, many of us are looking back at the year, reviewing how we have grown or changed. I think I have made progress in some areas and none in others.  I’ve grown in patience and living in the moment.

I grew up believing that the man of the household had the responsibility to make sure everyone was happy or at least content when a problem arose. I thought it was my job to fix it or offer a solution. I realize that my perspectives about relationships came from this belief and my behaviors reflected this.

Pat has helped me understand that when she shares something that is troubling her, she is not expecting me to fix it.  She needs to share it and wants me to just listen. After I have listened, I will ask her if there is anything, she would like me to do to support her.

The area I’ve grown most in is allowing Pat to share her feelings without offering a solution. When I’m able to do this, it really feels good for me because I don’t have the pressure to make it right or solve the problem. It’s no longer my responsibility and it’s a great weight off my shoulder. I wish I had known this a long time ago.

I’m learning that I can still love her, be there for her without trying to fix what’s bothering her. She is an intelligent person who can engage in all of the opportunities presented to her.  She can accept these opportunities and handle them herself.

I let go and let go

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I looked at my friends, Kerry and Sharon, and said, “How long shall we wait until we close up shop?” Kerry and Sharon came to support me and set up when I presented my introductory talk “Awakening to your Sacred Sexuality” at the Wailea Healing Center. The presentation was scheduled to start at 7:00 p.m. and there wasn’t a woman in sight.

Clearly, we were disappointed, but trying to accept “what is.” My weekend workshop is scheduled for January 5th & 6th and I was hoping we would get some more women to sign up for it

We were happy and surprised when two women walked in at 7:05. I welcomed them and engaged them in conversation. They were from California and were on vacation. They wouldn’t be coming to our workshop, but while searching for a yoga class on the Wailea Healing Center’s website, the women spotted our workshop and knew they were meant to come to hear the talk, as they both worked with women and were very interested in the subject.

As I started to give my presentation (that I also gave a few weeks ago at the Unity Church) with my index cards and flip chart, I put the cards down and started to just share from my heart and never used the flip chart. I shared my experience with this powerful healing and how I was led into it. I had no idea where I was in my talk or if I would forget something important, but I didn’t. I had surrendered and trusted I was being led.  When I let go, Spirit took over.

I invited the women to share their experience with sexual healing and asked them what they knew about it. Both the aunt and her niece, were so willing and open to share their stories. They had many questions because both had been sexually abused and they were from alcoholic homes.

The aunt has been sober for 7 years and works with women in sobriety. She shared that many women have memories of being sexually abused when they get sober. The niece works with women veterans and we suspect there is a high incidence of abuse in women veterans

Wow, what an intimate and beautiful sharing we had for 90 minutes. We could not have gone as deep as we did if there were more women attending. Spirit knows best and I am learning to trust that everything is perfect and there is no right or wrong about anything. It’s all good.

I offered them a sacred healing session in my home before they returned home to California. I received an email from the niece the next day asking me if she could have a session with me.  We have a session scheduled this week. Here is her email.

Aloha beautiful Pat!

I am doing so wonderful and am still dancing in the bliss of the other evening and so grateful for spirit aligning our journeys with one another.

I would love to talk more about the possibility of offering a weekend gathering or workshop in California and will let spirit lead and see what comes into fruition!

I am completely surrendered and trusting that the women who are meant to attend our workshop will be there and they will find it as I did. I get out of the way and let Spirit lead. I don’t think it gets any better than that. Do you? I would love to hear your story of allowing Spirit to lead you and what happened.

Surrender means to:






* Not try to FIGURE IT ALL OUT

* Not question GOD’S TIMING OR PLAN

Surrender means to:











When I let go and get out of the way, Spirit guides me to the next right action. Are you surrendered and trusting or are you trying to control the outcome?






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