When I said YES to God calling me back to Maui 6 weeks ago, I had no idea of what the process of letting go of the old, releasing fear, trusting and “jumping in” would look or feel like.
While cleaning out my closets and drawers to prepare for my new perfect and right tenant (not easy because I love my “practically new yard sales treasures), I was led down memory lane. First, I found beautiful cards and letters that my grandmother sent me 40 years ago expressing her love for me and how I was her angel. I cried as I felt her love coming through the pages. I saved cards from my 4 children that they sent to me over the years that brought tears to my eyes too. How I treasure each and every card, some hand drawn and others with the perfect words to express their love for me. I wondered, does anyone else save their children’s cards? I cannot part with them because they are so special and mean so much to me. They will get boxed up and put in the closet.
Then, during my morning prayer, I picked a Goddess card called Abundantia (Prosperity.) It said “The universe is pouring its abundance out to you – be open to receiving. Expect unforeseen windmills and gifts. Your new venture will be financially successful.” I said, “Yes, I am open to receiving more good, thank you God.”
Later that afternoon, I received an unexpected escrow check from my mortgage company in the amount of $270 and I smiled and said, “Yea, thank you God.” That same evening, while I was cleaning out my underwear drawer, I found a small brown envelope that was tucked away in the back. I didn’t remember putting it there and I literally gulped when I counted 15 crisp $100 bills. I racked my brains out trying to remember where it came from. And then the light bulb went off. Last summer, I sold my mothers sterling silverware set and tucked the money in the drawer because I was getting ready for my trip to Maui. That sure was a windfall and I love it when God surprises me like this! I also love that all of that money was there waiting for me to discover it. That is part of the journey of faith, trusting that you already have everything you need, and being willing to discover it inside of you, so that you can then receive it in the world outside of you.
I found the money at the “perfect time” because I needed to book a reservation with the airline, but was procrastinating about buying a ticket. I struggled with the “what if’s” like, what if I can’t rent my condo or what if I can’t find a free place to live in Maui? I got on my knees and prayed for courage, wisdom and guidance. Then I picked the dates for my departure and return, and called the travel agency to book the flight. That was definitely stepping into the unknown and trusting that God was in control. When I had called the first time, I was quoted a price of $1009.00, but when I called the very next day, it had gone up to $1450.00. Then, my heart skipped a beat when the travel agent told me that there was one seat left on the plane at the price I had been originally quoted of $1009.00. I said a prayer of thanks because God is good. Then I called my daughter Mary and said,”I did it, I booked my flight and I am going to Maui!” She said “good for you, mom.”
Some people may think I’m rich or have a lot of money since I’m able to go to Maui for 6 months. Truthfully, I don’t have a lot of money, but what I do have is faith, vision, passion and trust, and I know that God is my source, and that God provides when I follow my heart and step out in faith.
The more I practice stepping out in faith and am open to receiving more of God’s goodness, the more miracles seem to occur in my life. My job is to stay peaceful & positive while letting go of the outcome, and it’s God’s job to work out the details.
Affirmation: Today and everyday, I expect the best. Everything I do turns into good for myself and others. I affirm oneness with the source of abundance within me that has no conception of lack. It is God’s good pleasure to give me the kingdom and it is my good pleasure to receive it. When you become ready to receive, you are prepared for the next step and open door. All you have to do is to turn the key and say YES and thank you.
Do you have any memories of your parents saying “hurry up” while you were growing up? I sure do. We were always hurrying to go someplace. I heard “hurry up or you’ll miss the bus or hurry up and get in the car so we won’t be late for the appointment.” There was a panicky feeling inside that if you didn’t hurry, you would miss something or something bad would happen. Consequently, I developed what I call an “inner rusher.”
I never heard, “take your time” honey. Recently, I was behind an elderly gentleman with a walker getting into an elevator. Instead of feeling impatient and trying to get past him to go where I wanted to go, I said “take your time.” He smiled and I felt good. Later on in the day, I had the opportunity to say to another person – take your time. This is a gift I give myself and to another who may be stressed and rushing. This is the peaceful presence that I am inviting into my life. And I invite you to do the same.
Over the years, and especially since I returned from my vacation/retreat in Hawaii a few weeks ago something has shifted and changed inside of me with my relationship with TIME. I lived most of my life with the belief “there is never enough time.” If that is what I believed, then, of course there was never enough time. I always rushed and pushed myself to do more because I didn’t think there was enough time. I now see how much stress I put on myself and how I lost my peace. I changed my thinking to “There is more than enough time to do everything I want to and live my life purpose.”
I have some affirmations that I say daily that help me stay peaceful “My day unfolds in peace, ease and grace and everything I need is streaming toward me, I open my hands and receive.”
My intention in the morning is to be peaceful. I want this with all my heart and soul. Aren’t we all looking for peace? What wouldn’t we do to have that peace that passes understanding and to trust that everything is happening in perfect and divine timing.
Developing a peaceful spirit and presence to all I meet has taken many years to cultivate and practice. When I became aware of what I call my “inner rusher” I knew I needed to change and slow down. I practiced slowing down at work as I walked down the corridor to greet the next patient. I said to myself, “My intention is to be peaceful.” What is interesting is that my co-workers would often say, “I know it’s Pat walking down the hall because she walks so peacefully. It’s nice when others affirm you and it feels really good to be peaceful inside.
Peace is a gift I give myself and give to the world. Here are some other tips that help me stay peaceful.
PAT’S SEVEN TIPS TO LIVE IN PEACE
1. SHOW UP – Develop a daily spiritual practice of prayer and meditation.
2. SLOW DOWN – stop rushing and take your time.
3. ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT – And expect an answer. Be clear about what you want. Visualize and believe.
4. BE GRATEFUL – An attitude of Gratitude is the key to make things manifest quickly. Focus on what you have, rather than what’s missing.
5. FORGIVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS – Holding onto resentment and anger blocks the energy flow and prevents or slows down your ability to manifest your dreams.
6. HAVE FAITH – Your prayers are being answered. Faith is believing what you cannot see. Change your thinking.
7. LET GO OF CONTROL –Trust the process and surrender to “what is.” You are exactly where you need to be.
I needed to hear my mom’s advice so desperately I could taste my own confusion.
Should I quit? Will it ever really matter? What do I do?
I took a break from my writing, wondering if perhaps if I walked away from the project, it would just run away from me. Before she passed away, Mom made me promise her I would finish writing my book. Keeping the promise, however, seemed to suddenly have more obstacles than an Olympic hurdling course. Wasn’t this the meaning of the message?
Cleaning out the remains of my parent’s things in the house is always a readily available task constantly needing to be completed. The cellar has become my cathartic center for distraction, as I dig through the endless supply of items to be sorted. Keep, give away, throw away, or just hold for a future decision.
I wanted an immediate answer. It was so easy when I could just pick up the phone and ask her what to do. She always knew exactly what to say, in precisely the most loving way. I felt lost, alone, and I’d say a bit depressed without her. Mom was my very best friend.
As I continued my archeological dig through the boxes, I noticed a single card slipping through my grasp. “What is this?” I picked up the card, not remembering the moment or circumstance of its original intent, but my eyes were wide when I read the message.
“Deborah, finish your book. It’s going to help a lot of people. They’re waiting for you.” Love, Mom
Wow! It was as if she was right there speaking to me! I could hear her voice in my mind’s eye. Her handwriting so beautiful, so unique, so mom, it lit my spirit into flames of joy.
I needed an answer, a message of encouragement, a comfort to continue my quest for a purposeful future. Who could have anticipated my answer for today would appear in a card of yesterday. Mom’s love is alive and well, and her Hallmark card from heaven remains a fresh reminder that faith, hope, and love, never ever die.
Thank you God for the gift of my mom.
Deb Scott, The Sky is Green and the Grass is Blue: Turning your upside world right side up
My name is Pat and I am a “Recovering Rushaholic.” My addiction was to rushing, staying busy, producing, and achieving. Is there anyone out there who can relate to this? Raise your hands! You know who you are.
The first step in recovering from any addiction is to admit there is a problem. Rushing and staying busy had become a way of life for me. I was the queen of multi-tasking. Picture this scene many years ago in my kitchen-talking on the phone, stirring the scrambled eggs in the frying pan and nursing my infant son. Now, that’s insanity. But that is what I did and I’m not proud of it.
I now know why I rushed and stayed busy. Rushing and staying busy medicated my feelings. I didn’t want to go within and feel the pain inside. I didn’t want to feel my feelings of inadequacy, self-hatred, fear, guilt and not being good enough that plagued me all of my life.
When I stayed busy, produced and achieved, I felt good about myself. I looked outside for validation; therefore my self esteem depended on others. If you liked me, I felt good about myself, but if you didn’t like me, I didn’t feel good about myself. My insides didn’t match my outside. I looked successful on the outside, but inside was a different story. In high school, it wasn’t enough to be a cheerleader, I had to be the captain of the cheerleader s and the president of the sorority I joined. I often beat up on myself and compared myself to others and felt less than – that I wasn’t doing enough. Sound familiar?
What an exhausting and stressful existence to always have to rush, achieve and produce. There is no peace of mind and living in the moment. I needed to change and do something different if I wanted peace in my life. I had to slow down, ask for help and take action. I now have a morning ritual. When I get out of bed, I immediately get on my knees and pray the serenity prayer and repeat my intention for the day. My intention is to be peaceful, love and serve. It works.
I became acutely aware of my addiction while working in the hospital where it is very fast paced. You were expected to rush from one patient to the next and often without even taking a bathroom break. I started consciously walking slower rather than racing down the hall. I repeated my affirmation “my intention is to be peaceful” in my head. An amazing thing happened. I felt more peaceful and heard comments from patients and co-workers such as “ I know Pat is coming down the hall before I even see her because of her meditative and peaceful walk.”
Do I still get tempted to rush, stay busy and achieve? I sure do. Old habits don’t die easily, but when I become aware of these behaviors, I stop, go within and see what’s going on. Here are my 6 Tips to Live in Peace.
6 TIPS TO LIVE IN PEACE
SHOW UP – Develop a daily spiritual practice of prayer and meditation. Set an intention for the day.
ASK FOR WHATYOU WANT and expect an answer. Be clear about what you want. Visualize and believe.
BE GRATEFUL – An attitude of Gratitude is the key to make things manifest quickly. Focus on what you have, rather than what’s missing.
FORGIVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS – Holding onto resentment and anger blocks the energy flow and prevents or slows down your ability to manifest your dreams.
HAVE FAITH – Your prayers are being answered. Faith is believing what you cannot see. Change your thinking.
LET GO OF CONTROL –Trust the process and surrender to “what is.” You are exactly where you need to be and in perfect and divine order.
That voice may be referred to as God, Intuition, Spirit, Higher Self, Soul, Higher Power or Universe. People often ask me, “How do you know it’s God giving you messages and not just your own voice?” The answer is: “I don’t always know. It’s only afterwards when people tell me it was exactly what they needed to hear.”
Sometimes it’s scary, my heart pounds and I want to walk the other way when I receive a message for someone. I could be totally off base. I need to let go of my ego and not worry about what others will think of me. I’ve learned to let go of the outcome.
It’s about trusting God has a Divine Assignment if I’m willing to listen and follow through when I receive a message for someone. It often seems like it comes out of nowhere and just pops into my head. I feel a quickening in my spirit and then I listen and am still.
Listening and following through are key elements. Usually, when I don’t want to do it, it’s a signal that it’s from Spirit. Sometimes I know what I’m going to say and other times, I have no idea and the message comes when I open my mouth. I trust it will come and it always does.
I usually don’t question anymore when I hear the small still voice of God within. It may not make sense to me, but I do it anyway and then watch the miracles unfold. The following story is one of them.
Mary lived a few blocks away, but I had never just walked to her house to say hello. While taking my walk this one day, I felt a strong pull from Spirit to go to her house. I had no idea why I was being led there, but found myself taking a right turn into her neighborhood. I felt disappointed when I arrived because her car wasn’t there. Did I not hear you right God? I thought you were leading me.
When I arrived home, I called Mary and left a message that I had visited her. Is there a message you want me to give her God? And the words came. “Believe in yourself, your gifts and trust your journey.” I hung up not knowing if the words meant anything to her. I didn’t hear from Mary for several days and quickly placed it out of my mind.
Mary called when she returned home, all excited. “Pat, you are not going to believe it. I really needed to hear your message the day you called. The timing was divine. You had no idea that I was away for a few days at a “Journey” workshop.
During the workshop, the leader suggested I take a break and go outside for a walk because of my feelings of frustration with the process. Others in the group seemed to be getting it, but nothing seemed to be happening with me.
I listened to my telephone messages when I returned to the group. And there you were with your anointed words from God. I screamed and immediately gave the phone to my friend to listen too. After that, everything shifted for me. I felt God’s love and presence and knew I was exactly where I needed to be.”
The more you step out in faith, trust and listen to that small still voice within, the more you make yourself available for Divine Assignments.
Ask Spirit to lead you; trust you will be led; and then step out in faith. Start out small and test the waters. Your words could transform and change another’s life dramatically. Like the time I was led to give a message of God’s love to a woman who was about to commit suicide. God’s words saved her life.
It’s a joy to know I’m making a difference in someone’s life and helping them on their journey to healing and wholeness. It really is fun. Try it you might like it! You can do the same because you have the same Power within you.
Are you a Rushaholic? Do you race around, multi-task and feel exhausted at the end of the day-and maybe even a little resentful?
Rushing was my addiction and a way of life for many years. On the outside, I looked peaceful, but there was an “inner rushing” that was pervasive and intense. I never rested or went within for my answers. I believed others had the answers for my life. I constantly raced around, going from one thing to another. If I rushed and stayed busy, I didn’t have time to feel my feelings and go within. I felt energized and powerful when I rushed. It gave me the illusion that I was in control.
Just like the alcoholic who uses alcohol to medicate painful feelings, I used rushing to medicate painful feelings from my childhood. I always pushed myself to do more and be more. I never felt good enough and didn’t know how to relax and just BE. Doing is what made me feel strong and bolstered my self esteem-what little I had. It almost killed me because I was disconnected from myself, God and the people I loved.
I read that rushing was abusive and a death wish. It’s a death wish because when you rush all the time, you disconnect from yourself and from the divine energy of God within. When you rush, you’re not respecting yourself or the God within. “Coping with speed has become the heroic journey that consumes the lifetime of the common man and woman. It is our greatest killer. Rushing puts you into adrenaline overload and drenches the body in epinephrine, a hormone stimulated by stress, anger or fear.” (Seven Whispers, Baldwin 2002.)
With any addiction, you need to stay vigilant. The old behaviors of rushing and staying busy often show up when you’re stressed, feel afraid or are triggered by something outside of yourself. It may be unfinished business from your childhood that needs to be healed and dealt with. The first step is to recognize the old behaviors and admit to yourself and God what’s going on. It is important not to beat up on yourself. What you need to do is to love and be compassionate with yourself. The second step is to ask for God’s help.
God often speaks to me through symbols; one of them being the turtle. I have them all over my house as a reminder of what is important in my life and what I need to do to maintain peace and Godliness. Turtles teach me about patience – which I wanted yesterday!
Slow and steady, the turtle knows when to move and when to stay still and rest. Turtles go within for their answers because they know the truth is within. As the turtle knows when to go in, I’m learning to go inside and trust myself, my intuition and my gut.
When you go inside, ask yourelf “What am I feeling and thinking?” You may need to change your stinking thinking. It’s so easy to take things personally or jump to conclusions and be negative. When you stick your head out, like the turtle, ask yourelf, “What action do I need to take?” It may be that you need to speak up, set a boundary, say “no,” forgive someone or let go of a resentment.
If you want peace and Godliness in your life, you must be willing to change. It only takes one person to change your life – you. You must be awake and practice slowing down, relaxing and living in the moment. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not here yet. Make a commitment to yourself and God to connect/plug into the Power on a daily basis and ask for help and healing. I guarantee it will change your life and you are worth it. It’s your choice. Each morning, I get on my knees and ask for help. My intention is to love, be peaceful and to serve.
What makes your heart sing?
Are you living your passion?
Do you know what it is?
* Passion is the fire that burns within your soul.
* It may start as a spark or a flame and eventually turns into a blazing fire that can consume you.
* Passion is an energy that infuses your life with meaning, joy, purpose and love.
* Living your passion takes commitment, determination, patience, fearlessness and courage.
* Passion is doing what you love and using your God-given gifts and talents for the good of all.
* Passion is an emotion that helps you go places others are afraid to go, to try things others are afraid to do.
* Passion creates the energy required to do what others think is impossible.
* Passion helps you work through your fear.
*Living your passion wakes you up in the middle of the night and creativity is flowing.
How do you find your true passion? Bill Strickland, author of Make the Impossible Possible offers some clues, writing: “Passions are irresistible.… If you’re paying attention to your life at all, the things you are passionate about won’t leave you alone. They’re the ideas, hopes, and possibilities your mind naturally gravitates to, the things you would focus your time and attention on for no other reason than that doing them feels right.” Strickland believes that only by following your passion will you unlock your deepest potential. “I never saw a meaningful life that wasn’t based on passion. And I never saw a life full of passion that wasn’t, in some important way, extraordinary.”
He goes on to say “When people can answer these three questions clearly and the answers intersect, they become passionate about what they do. Few things are professionally more fulfilling than doing work that you are extremely good at and turned-on about. It’s an incredible feeling when what you’re good at and excited about enables you to make a contribution that truly adds value to the business and its customers! Work ceases to be a vocation and becomes an avocation or a passion. The questions to ask yourself are:
1. What are my gifts and talents?
2. What am I passionate about?
3. What needs to be done?
Many people experience frustration and feel trapped because they are engaged in work that they may be good at but are not passionate about. They may be excited about something, but lack the skills for the job. Or they may need a degree or certification and they don’t have the time or the means to go back to school to obtain one.
Since work is so much a part of our lives, it is important for our well being that it is meaningful and fulfilling. One of the deepest needs of human existence is to know that our lives count for something and we are living our purpose.
We need to know that our God-given gifts and talents are being used to make a difference in the world. We need to know we are helping others and being of service to humankind. We are all searching for what gives our life meaning. Doing what we love often doesn’t feel like work because it is so fulfilling and rewarding. Being our authentic selves at work and being passionate about who we are and what we do can be a spiritual experience. It is a gift we give ourselves and the people we serve. We cannot be truly happy unless we are doing something we love. Following your passion is about doing something that you love and making it happen.
I feel blessed that I’m able to do what I love and had the guts to make it happen. It took courage to follow my heart and leave a secure job of 20 years. Having a daily spiritual practice enabled me to face my fears and believe in myself. I showed up daily and asked for help.
As a spiritual coach, it is my passion is to empower women to connect with the Spirit within and love themselves. When someone asked me what made my heart sing, I had to think about it for a minute. What makes my heart sing is public speaking. I love to speak and share my stories of God’s love and synchronicities that happen so often. I know my stories encourage people and give them inspiration and hope.
Living passionately has its challenges. My challenge has been to keep myself centered and peaceful because it is so easy to get out of balance. A balanced life is important and essential to my well being and spiritual life. When I am so focused on doing what I love and neglect important areas of my life, like exercise, eating right, having fun, spending time with family and friends, I am out of balance and lose focus.
I know I am out of balance when I feel stressed, tired, can’t sleep at night, my mind is like a blender and won’t shut off. Slowing down, breathing, taking a walk, a hot bath, meditating helps me get centered again. So it is possible to be passionate and peaceful at the same time. It takes awareness and a decision to stay connected to my spirit and to what is truly important.
6 TIPS TO LIVE IN PEACE AND LIVE YOUR PASSION
1. Show up: Develop a daily spiritual practice of prayer and meditation.
2. Ask for what you want – expect an answer. Visualize and believe.
3. Be grateful – An attitude of gratitude is the key to make things manifest and to live passionately.
4. Forgive yourself and others –Holding onto anger blocks the energy flow.
5. Have faith – that your life has meaning and you can live your passion.
6. Let go of control – trust the process and surrender to what is.
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