When I got my divorce 15 years ago, I found a plaque that spoke to my heart and it said RELAX. I still have it hanging in my living room in Maui to remind me to RELAX.
I have been seeing the word RELAX all over the place lately. Today, I noticed it written on a man’s shirt, I see it in store fronts, on license plates, on a beach umbrella and I hear it in songs on the radio. I asked myself, “What does it mean to relax and why was this word “showing up” in my life now?’
The dictionary says: to make looser, or less firm or tense: to relax one’s grip, to make less strict or severe; soften: to relax discipline, to abate; reduce; slacken: to relax one’s efforts, to release from intense concentration, hard work, worry, etc.; give rest to: to relax the mind.
My mind isn’t RELAXED when I obsess, worry, want to control or try to figure things out. Sometimes I am invited just to ACCEPT “what is” and trust. Here is where my faith grows when I don’t know what’s going on and I just have to let go of the outcome or what I think it should be like. Like the definition says – to relax one’s efforts.
To RELAX is to know and believe that God is in control of EVERYTHING because I have turned my life and my will over to the God within. To RELAX means to be at peace knowing all is well and that God has my back covered. It is to know and trust that God’s timing is perfect and I have nothing to worry about. Worry is an illusion and it is also a choice. I can choose to worry and live in fear or I can choose to love and be at peace. I am choosing love, instead of fear.
I’ve shared that I put my condo up for sale in Rhode Island a few months ago. It has been an “emotional roller coaster ride” and I have had to let go of my control and trust God’s plan and timing. It has not been easy knowing that I will now have to pay two rents since my tenant moved out on September 1 and I don’t know how long it will take to sell. Yikes, money issues or coming from a lack consciousness could make me crazy – if I let it.
I thought there was a buyer and was informed that an offer was going to be made the next day. When it fell through and I didn’t hear anything, I decided to try to rent it again since there were no buyers showing up. Three weeks later, the first person who I thought was going to make an offer came back with his contractor and I was told that he was going to make an offer the next day Talk about having your hopes up. I have no idea what happened, but I never heard a thing from him. Clearly the door was shut in my face! Not the first time.
So right now, I am in the wings or the hallway waiting, trusting, surrendering and letting go. I am not sure what is best for me at this point – whether to rent or sell, so I have asked for guidance. I have done everything I know possible; prayer, visualization, gratitude and hiring a rental agent. I am so blessed that I have so many opportunities to practice what I preach; to choose love instead of fear, to let go, to relax and allow my faith muscles to get stronger.
The temptation for me and for most of us is to doubt our decision in the first place and think we made a mistake. It would be so easy to judge myself because it hasn’t turned out the way I thought it would. Instead of judging or doubting myself that I made a mistake by trying to sell it, I am choosing to TRUST the God within that I am being divinely guided and all is well. I cannot see the results in the middle of this, but I know I will and there will be a story.
I would like to share how God has guided me through the concept of open and closed doors for the past 40 years on my spiritual path.
When I don’t know if something is God’s will or my will, I pray, “God open or close the door.” It hurts when the door is slammed in my face and I’m left wandering in the hallway until the next door opens.
“Closed doors are a valid part of guidance. When God closes a door, it’s because there is another plan, a better plan. If He closes one door, He’ll open another – according to His timing, not mine. I keep moving in faith, even in the face of closed doors.” (Basham, 1975)
I may be guided to do one thing and then when I get there, God has something else in mind. He doesn’t tell me His full plan ahead of time, which is probably good. That’s His way. Mine is to love, trust and follow.
Guidance comes when I move in faith, not when I sit in doubt. I step out in faith, trusting that if I make a mistake, God will correct it and get me back on the right path for my life. I’ve made plenty of mistakes along the way, but have always been protected and led back to where I need to be.
There seems like there will always be something in our lives to cause us to expand and grow and to trust. I love my journey and I love to share the miracles of how things work out. So, stay tuned because I know God is trustworthy and has my back covered.
“For I know well the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you. Plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11. As I trust God’s plans to prosper me and give me hope and a future, I will RELAX and enjoy the present moment.
As I sat down to write this blog, I had no idea what I was going to write about. Before I start to write something, I always pray that it will flow with peace, ease and grace and that I will write only what God wants me to write about. Usually, I have a lesson that I have learned during the week or a miracle story that I want to share with you, but as I sat there staring at an empty page, I didn’t have a clue what I was going to write about.
Then, last Sunday, I bought a really pretty turquoise sundress for fifty cents at a yard sale. I didn’t notice what was printed on the bottom of the dress until I got home. As I looked at it closer, I saw it said “NEW AND GOOD AND NOT THE SAME.” I asked myself, “What does that mean to me and why would I want to write about it in a blog? Who cares about what is on my dress?” Since nothing was coming to me to write about, I decided to explore the meaning of this saying.
NEW AND GOOD AND NOT THE SAME. I am not the same woman I was 1 year ago or last week for that matter. In fact, sometimes, I don’t even recognize how I have changed and who I have become. “How am I new and what does it mean to be new?” I asked myself. What came to mind was the scripture that said, “Be transformed by the renewal of your mind.” I also remember reading a book many years ago called “The battle is in the mind.” I am not a scholar by any means, but what that means to me is that I will be made new and transformed by changing my thinking.
Over the year I have been like a detective with my thoughts and when I become aware of any negative thoughts or limiting beliefs that that are not true, I immediately work on changing them. For example, as I thought about my journey to Maui and the steps I took to live here (emotionally, spiritually and physically), I remembered a time when I was really struggling. I had been counting the days for months for my trip to Maui in 2011 and couldn’t wait until it arrived. I was going to Maui for a month and would be living on the ocean. I didn’t understand what was going on because a couple of weeks prior to me going, I wasn’t feeling excited about going.
I couldn’t figure it out and was distressed and crying. I called my friend Linda and said, “I am really struggling and I don’t know what’s going on, could I please come over and we pray together.” Of course she said, “Come right over.” I was in my pajamas and had no makeup on. I have never gone out with my pajamas and no makeup on, but I jumped in the car and went to her house. When I arrived, she gave me a big reassuring hug. I knew I was safe as she listened to me and loved me right where I was. We prayed together and she did some energy work on me. I was really surprised what came up.
What came up for me as we prayed was guilt and the thought, “How dare you leave your business for a month, you don’t deserve to go away for that long.” I laughed when I realized I wasn’t making much money in my business anyway. If I had not uncovered the belief of not feeling deserving and changed it, I may still be in Rhode Island and not living my dream.
I feel like I have given birth to something new in my life as I live and breathe the energy of LOVE. When I pass people on the street or the beach, I send them love. I have a CD that I sing along with daily that says “I love my heart and soul, I love all humanity. Join hearts and souls together, love, peace and harmony.” I smile at people and they smile back at me. You don’t have to live in Maui to experience the energy of love. It is inside of you and all around you. You are the presence of God in this world. Go within and feel the love deep inside of you. It is there. You are love. You also deserve good things, to be provided for in every way.
This idea that I am loved and deserve to be provided for in every way is a lesson that I have been steadily learning for many years. Right now I am reading a book called “Absolutely Effortless Prosperity” by Bijan and have been practicing daily the lessons that will transform your life in 30 days. It is not “new” stuff and much of it I had already been living, so it is confirming what I know deep within my heart. I particularly enjoyed today’s lesson called “How Prosperity Works. ” He writes, “To be prosperous without effort, we must first decide to make peace our ultimate goal. To be in peace, we must know that our only function in life is to heal ourselves and others through our expressions of love and forgiveness.”
Prosperity does not necessarily mean that we have hundreds of thousands of dollars in the bank. Prosperity is not about greed or excess; it is not about doing anything. Prosperity brings the knowledge and firm belief that everything we need will be provided for us. It was like a light bulb went off inside of me and something shifted deep within my consciousness. It has been my experience that I HAVE BEEN PROVIDED FOR ALL MY LIFE. It now felt easy and effortless to say “I AM PROSPEROUS.” It doesn’t have anything to do with how much money I have or don’t have.
In the first chapter in my book, “Simply a Woman of Faith” I write all about how God provided for me and my family (and friends), at yard sales over the years. Friends would ask me to look for something for them and I would always find it. I am happy to say, I am still the Yard Sale Queen in Maui and my friends here ask me to find things for them too. For instance, my friends Joseph and Marlowe (you are really getting to know them) asked me to look for a bike pump. Sure enough, that Saturday I spotted a “super duper” bike pump and was so happy to deliver it to their home that afternoon.
As I look around my lovely Ohana, all I see is how God has provided for me and with prices that are dirt cheap. I have purchased curtains, lamps, rugs, baskets, trays, pillows, clothes, dressers and so much more. I always pray when I get in the car and ask God to provide and help me not buy anything that I don’t need. That prayer is heard and it delights my heart when I find exactly what I am looking for.
Prior to leaving for my trip to Kauai last week, I wanted to buy a new bathing suit. I went to the local consignment store called “Rainbow Attic” and found a beautiful brand new bathing suit that fit perfectly. I also found a matching beach cover up that I loved. It was a 2 piece bathing suit (haven’t worn one since I was a teenager) and the top was strapless (never worn strapless). It looked great but I was a little concerned that it might fall down when I swam in the ocean. I thought about buying some kind of a strap at the fabric store that I could use to hold it up when I went into the ocean. The next day was Saturday and I planned on going “Yard Sailing.” I found another brand new bathing suit for $3.00 that I loved. It was the same colors as the one I bought the day before, except this bathing suit was one piece and had straps that could come on or off. I could hardly believe when I returned home that this “STRAP” fit both of my bathing suits. What is the likelihood of that happening? I knew I was being provided for.
It is my belief that life is about change, trust, surrender, letting go, taking risks and following your heart . We are on this sacred journey together. Let us join our hearts together because we are the light of the world. You are being made new every day. Let your light shine and be the presence of God to all you meet and love.
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