I asked for what I wanted and was heard

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Sep
15

YOUR LIFE IS A SACRED JOURNEY

It is about change, growth, discovery, movement, transformation, continuously expanding your vision of what is possible, stretching your soul, learning to see clearly and deeply, listening to your intuition, taking courageous risks, embracing challenges at every step along the way.

YOU ARE ON THE PATH

exactly where you are meant to be right now. And from here, you can go forward, shaping your life story into a magnificent tale of triumph, of healing, of courage, beauty, wisdom, power, dignity and love.”  Caroline Joy Adams

As Larry twirled me around the room dancing, my eyes fell upon the plaque that hung on my living room wall and I knew I was meant to start my blog with these beautiful words.

Yes, it is a sacred journey and we are all on the path, exactly where we need to be to grow and expand. Sometimes where we are is very scary because change is on the way and we don’t know what lies ahead.

Last week I shared that I was in the wings or the hallway – waiting, trusting and surrendering the sale of my condo to the God within. I am excited to share that it worked out perfectly because God is faithful and the timing was perfect. When it felt right to put my condo on the market a few months ago, I didn’t know if it would sell, but I knew that it was my next right step. Since my journey of faith has been to trust God to open or close the door, I knew I was safe and that whatever happened would be for my good.

I received a text message from my son, Brian, to contact him ASAP. I am so grateful to Brian because he has handled all of the transactions with my condo in Rhode Island. I knew something was up and called him immediately. He said, “Mom, there is someone who wants to rent your condo.” When he told me what they were willing to rent it for, I almost screamed. It was $425 more a month than what I was getting from my last tenant. I added it up in my head and it was over $5000 a year more. The extra money each month will help me breathe easier as it will go toward my rent in that doubled when I moved into my new home on the ocean. I was concerned that I wouldn’t get rent for the month of September (since my former tenants moved out on September 1) to pay my monthly mortgage. I am happy to say my new tenants will move in on September 22.

I am seldom “absolutely” sure of the next right step to take on my journey. Here is where I have learned to trust myself and the God within to step out in faith.  It is always about stepping out BEFORE I know the outcome. It would be easy if I knew HOW it would work out or what would happen. I stepped out in faith before I knew where the money was going to come from when I moved into my home on the ocean here in Maui. I prayed, turned over my will and trusted my heart. God has been faithful and continues to surprise me each month with how the money comes in. Of course, it is always perfect timing.

On another note, I would like to share an experience I had this week. Being in a loving relationship with Larry gives me the opportunity to ask for what I want which means to stretch, be courageous, listen to my intuition and to take a risk.

I have learned to focus on “what is good” and not what’s missing in my relationship. My relationship with Larry is very good so I wasn’t sure if I even wanted to bring this subject up. I didn’t want to make a big deal out of it, but it was something I wanted him to do for me. I gently and lovingly broached the subject, which we had talked about before. It didn’t seem like he was that receptive at first as he explained his thinking and behaviors to me. But as we talked and he listened from his heart, something appeared to shift inside of him and he heard me.

The next day when I asked him about our conversation about asking for what I wanted he said, “I love you. The way you asked me was loving and I would be crazy not to listen to what you needed from me in our relationship.”  My heart melted because I felt acknowledged and heard. This is not what I experienced in my marriage of 30 years – I guess that’s why we are not together any more.

There are many reasons why we fear asking for what we want; we may not want to appear weak, selfish, self centered, needy or incompetent. We may not want to inconvenience or bother someone with our needs. We may not think our needs are important and we don’t want to rock the boat, especially if things are going well in a relationship.

There is also the fear of what someone is going to ask us in return or the fear of being rejected or judged for what is important to us. We may have felt humiliated or rejected for asking for what we wanted in the past so we fear doing it in the future.

I wasn’t taught how to be assertive, direct and ask for what I want. The silent treatment was very familiar to me and I expected others to read my mind and then was angry and resentful when my needs weren’t met. I sometimes used guilt, sarcasm, coercion and dropped hints.

Some of us believe that our needs or desires are inferior to, or less important than, the needs of others.  Believing that asking for what you want is “selfish” is a distortion often born out of a lack of respect for yourself and others. A lack of self respect can make you feel unworthy or less important than others and cause you to subordinate your own needs and “not ask.”

If you don’t know what you want, you’ll have trouble getting it and experience a life-long feeling of deprivation, disappointment, scarcity, and resentment. When you don’t know what you want, you won’t realize if you achieve it.

I am so grateful that I have learned (and am still learning) to ask for what I want in a loving and non-threatening way. THIS DOES NOT MEAN THAT I GET EVERYTHING THAT I WANT. It does mean that I get some things I want and that I deserve to ask and be heard.

Do you know what you want and do you have the courage to ask for it?

Your Life is a Sacred Journey & YOU are on the Path

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Oct
4

I wrote in my journal this week, “I AM LIVING IN HAWAII.” I immediately thought, “That’s crazy”, and asked myself,

“How did I get here? I followed my heart, trusted my desires were from God and lived one day at a time. I listened to the inner stirrings of my heart and just did the next right thing, not knowing where it would lead me to. I couldn’t see what was ahead of me, but I trusted that wherever I was was where I was supposed to be. I learned to live and accept the “not knowing” of what was next in my life.

Sometimes it was baby steps to test the waters. Other times, it was gigantic steps, like flying 13 hours on a plane across the ocean. Along the way, I learned to ask for help when I needed it and surrendered my will on a daily basis.

It hasn’t always gone my way (thank God for that) like my house in Rhode Island hasn’t sold like I visualized it would. I thought my house would be sold before I moved to Maui, but it hasn’t sold yet. I could have easily canceled my one way ticket back here (which I paid $30 for) because of fear and the “what if’s.” I wouldn’t allow myself to obsess or worry about it. I know that worrying is just an illusion and doesn’t get me anywhere. It felt right in my gut to leave before my house sold, so I proceeded as planned. I packed up everything I owned, emptied my house and said goodbye.

This is my daily mantra,“ I open my heart to the right and perfect person to buy my condo and thank you God for the perfect and right person to buy my condo.” I visualize a SOLD sign on my house. I know it is God’s timing, not mine. Meanwhile, I just keep surrendering and trusting my Higher Power that I hired.

I move into my new ohana in Maui Meadows on October 17th. Meanwhile, I was living at my friend Ellen’s condo on the ocean when I received a call from a woman named, Summer. She said, “I am leaving for the mainland for 16 days in a few days and my house sitter just canceled because of an emergency in her life. Can you help me?” We made an appointment for us to meet one another. We met a couple of days later and she hired me on the spot.

She lived in Makawao, which is another part of the island that I wasn’t familiar with. I had heard that the spiritual energy in this area was very powerful so I was looking forward to the new adventure God was inviting me to say yes to. She also said, “I will introduce you to my woman friends who are very spiritual.”

I packed up all my stuff that was at Ellen’s and moved to Makawa to take care of Summer’s cat Mochi and water her plants.  It was a long drive over to the other side of the island so I was happy when I finally arrived and got settled. As I unpacked everything, I realized I forgot a box at Ellen’s that had all of my medications in it. I needed to spend another 2 hours in the car. In that moment, I made a decision that I would not complain or beat up on myself. I said to myself, “Put you money where your mouth is, Pat. You can either complain or praise, your choice.”

I chose to drive down the highway of GRATITUDE. I saw it as an opportunity to be in the presence of God and enjoy the beauty of the ocean and mountains all around me. The old me would have beaten up on myself for making a mistake and not checking to see if I had everything I needed. NO MORE! Only love and light, knowing God is in every experience and everything that happens to me. I stayed peaceful and calm and enjoyed the scenery.

The next morning in prayer and meditation, as I sat in the energy of love and peace and listened to the beautiful chimes playing, I lifted my arms up and opened my heart to more good coming into my life. I opened my heart to miracles, magic and surprises from God. I just love it when God surprises me, don’t you? The more I open to more good, believe and expect it to come, the more it will come. Good bubbles up from God within me when I allow it.

It will be 4 weeks today that I moved to Maui, but it feels like I have been here forever. So much has happened in this short time that my heart is singing. Meeting new friends and angels that have opened their hearts and homes to me has been amazing.

I was driving home last Saturday from a dance and I had to literally stop and say to myself, “Where am I sleeping tonight?” I stayed at my friend Ellen’s house when I arrived, slept on the couch at my friend Joni’s house one weekend, stayed with Joseph and Marlowe and I am now house sitting for 16 days for Summer. Not only am I a gutsy lady, but I sleep around!

Before I moved over to Makawao, a divine idea came into my head. I wanted to make it into a 16 day retreat for myself. Here is what I wrote in my journal. “My intention is to deepen my relationship with God, to be conscious of the divine presence at all times, to serve God and to share my faith-filled life with whomever God brings into my life.

I have the feeling I am on the brink of deeper transformation and enlightenment and will have many stories to write about.

As I browsed around the Secret Garden the first day I arrived in Makawao, this beautiful plaque spoke to my heart and I would like to share it with you. I know I will be reflecting on each of the words and how it applies to my life.

YOUR LIFE IS A SACRED JOURNEY

And it is about change, growth, discovery, movement, transformation, continuously expanding your vision of what is possible, stretching your soul, learning to see clearly and deeply, listening to your intuition, taking courageous risks, embracing challenges at every step along the way.

YOU ARE ON THE PATH

Exactly where you are meant to be right now……

And from here, you can only go forward, shaping your life story into a magnificent tale of triumph, of healing, of courage, beauty, wisdom, power, dignity and love. Caroline Joy Adams

I remembered the sign “Stay on the Path” that I wrote about in one of the weekly blogs. My son Tim saw it as Stay on Pat H. Yes, I am staying on the path and living a life I could not have imagined. When you step out in faith and follow your dreams, God will be there to provide everything you need. I am living proof of it. I love to share my journey with you to inspire you to do the same because your life is a sacred journey and you are on the path.

Creative Ideas Ernest Holmes pg. 62

I see only the good. Today I am resolved to see only the good – God. Whatever there is in my thought that is unlike this and has kept me in bondage is wiped away. A new spiritual enlightenment floods my mind as I become aware of the divine presence as peace, joy, and harmony at the center of my being.

Whatever there is in my thought or experience that has barred me from a fuller experience of the good life is now resolved and dissolved. I accept the constructive, affirmative, creative action of God, which is boundless and free, as not making me free of all limitation. I think only of good; my experience is filled only with good. My acceptance of the good of God as an actuality in my life now transcends all unlike it and makes my life new.